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A Nigerian lady has shared her husband's reaction after she gave him almost all her salary.
In a Twitter thread, the lady with the handle, @jagzangel, said she offered to reduce the financial burden on her husband after she received her salary and she could see how relieved he was when she took up some of the bills.
According to her, she is a helper to her hubby and not a responsibility. She said in appreciation, her husband went to the market without telling her, stocked up their home, and thereafter, cooked and served her .
Read her tweets below
''My salary came yesterday and immediately I received alert, I rushed to my husband and asked him how much he needs me to contribute after informing him that my salary has been paid. Oga thought I was joking and mentioned a figure thinking I was going to contest because it was
Almost all my salary, I just carried my phone and transferred it to him. It was doing him like film, I then went ahead to pay the salary of our children's lesson teacher so that he would stop thinking about it. That's when I realized that he was doing so much without complaining
He sees it like his duty and even when the financial burden is too much, he struggles to pay without asking me. He was so surprised and happy, I know that my money is just a fraction of what he brings but he felt like I gave him millions. I then told him that I am putting in the effort to make more money so that I can still reduce his stress. He didn't marry a responsibility, he married an helper and he should be feeling more relaxed than when he was single. I have never felt entitled to anybody's pocket and I won't do that with my husband.
Omo, oga went to the market without even telling me, stocked up the home. Cooked and served me o, this small support has gone a long way to settle silent quarrels that I didn't even know about.
I will keep working harder and doing my best, men also need support, they are not superman.''
I love this!!! When I settle bills, makes my husband super happy, love the man like kilode because he caters from his heart, And so I’ll take a bullet and spill my last drop of blood for him, treats me so good I wonder if he’s human, only God will continue to bless him for me.
This comment comes from the deepest part of your heart. It is like a prayer, not a comment. May God bless and prosper him and every other good man out there. God bless your home! Amen.
May the Almighty God that answers me when I pray, provide and keep both of you in love. No evil eye will meet your home. May both of you continue to treat each other well. May God bless him with wisdom to head your home. This is what marriage is all about and God is pleased with your home.
For you to say this about your husband without your name, shows you’re saying the truth. Only God will continue to bless him and you, in Jesus’ Mighty Name. Amen
He is cheating on you
Lol
Great. When your family succeeds both of you are happy and live longer and healthier. Problem is a lot of people come into marriage with entitlements and theories picked up from their parents, friends and society that make them not reap the full joy thag come from it. There is no formula if this works for you, by all means go for it and enjoy your marriage and dont let anyone tell you otherwise. We all need a little help sometime. All the best, and wish you more joy in your union.
It takes a good hearted person to identify and appreciate another. God bless your soul
@ 1st Anonymous, God will continue to bless your family. If 15% of Nigerian women can reason this way. Hmmmm, God bless you abundantly. I wish I can see you and give you a HUG.♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
There are only 5 of your type of woman, and just 2 are in Nigeria! Thank you!
Amen
God bless you for saying the truth about your Husband
Nne gi muru gi! When the Bible says he who finds a wife has found a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord, these are the kind of wives it was talking about. Mutual respect and cooperation goes a long way to make a marriage successful.
May God bless you my dear, you are indeed a supper woman. Many women earns money and hide it all alone and leave their husbands in serious distress and emotional down to meet up the household needs. May God bless your job in millions folds sister.
God bless you and family more in Jesus name Amen
Amen!! This is it! Yes, this is what marriage stands for. God please protect and surround this couple with love. Your home is blessed
I read this post and immediately had goose bumps. It takes a good woman to do this. True, men go through a lot but we stay quiet about it. I don't know why other men remain silent about their own battles but for me, I do it cos I will never, EVER, put my burden on anyone. Your man is a very good man. I'm sure u know that. As for that bastard who said the man is cheating, no be curse ó but you can never find a good man/woman.
This content is so beautiful....what a lesson to learn all ye ladies out there.
So men if you want something similar or even better for your home be a good husband and father also. You can't be irresponsible and expect this from your wife.
Wow! Excellent story!! However, please understand that no woman would willingly give almost all of her salary to a man that she knows has side chicks, is a drunk, gambles, beats her etc. Her action demonstrates her confidence in her husband so only good men should expect and DESERVE this. Marriage is action:reaction. If you are good to your spouse, most of the time, you won't have to demand support, even lions as vicious as they are, are friendly to the people who groom and feed them...
That woman is truly the daughter of God.you are blessed
Men dey try...forget
It works for you doesn't mean it'll work for others, my husband was out of business for a while, I used to give him money, ran the home, paid my Children's school fees for over 4 years, I even used to borrow sef, i genuinely thought he didn't have means, that really was mostly the truth, but it was so because my guy relaxed and stopped trying. The load became so heavy it almost killed, and the day I didn't have again or who to borrow from, he found a way to settle bills, I started noticing he was seeing small small money and hiding it, he will buy clothes and shoes for himself, meanwhile I had not bought any new clothes in 4 years, all my money went into the household, I didn't even have savings, I had to wise up oh and start hiding a part of my income so i can save, i still support very much in the house oh, but he too brings his own, No be me love pass.
God bless you
Radarada. Lori iro
Gold digger I know you will not want to hear this . Olobo town council.
Who can find a virtuous wife, for her worth is far above rubies. Proverbs 31 v 10
Unfortunately Toke and other slay queens of Naija considers her type foolish !! What other marriage seminar does women need after this? A lot of men are willing to trek 10miles if only their wives can drive quarter mile.
Just shut up and keep your private business private! Now, your oga will soon loose all his respect.
Mugu
People like are sad and lonely. What she just posted would save many marriages. You wanted to hear the husband slapped her and told her you disrespected me by doing that
May he not use the remaining money to rent a house for a side chick in Jesus name, amen. For me o, I tax my hubby.
You bitter psss goko herbal drink ooo. Bitter soul. I am sure you married the wrong spouse. Bitter bastard.
Hater! You shut up until you can find what she has. Of course you won't because you don't appreciate good things. With the entitlement of Nigerians girls now, this is much needed
I didn’t know you’ll eventually take over your dad, such an old fool he was, now that he’s dead you have decided to carry on the legacy, your children too will reap the fruits of your labor🤦🏽♂️
Like seriously? Please quietly creep back into the hole or wherever you came out from.
So only negative new about men is what you like? Only the news where men are called names like scum and domestic violators that gives you joy. For your information good men are still plenty out there and good testimonies from their wives will keep coming up here until it chokes you. Idiot Anonymous
E dey pain you ?hug transformer
Lazy feminist. Go and work idiot
Confirm woman!!!
You being supportive to your husband has a way of attracting more blessings and Favour from God. That's what we call "giving wholeheartedly", a quality lacking in about 90% of women. For those of you married ladies who rely 99.9% on their husband's salary, while saving theirs just to buy one "hermes," bag, it's not too late to start having a rethink and assist your hubby in the little way that u can.
It's so unfortunate that we don't have women like this anymore. Men have been thought and groomed to suffer in silence. We have been thought that men don't cry and men don't share their emotions publicly, but this is wrong, this is why we have a huge number of men committing suicide today, because we suffer in silence . When you chose to let out your emotions, they say you are weak. I hope women will learn from this. Men are not superhumans, we are flesh and blood, we have emotions, we have feelings, we suffer, and we cry. I think women needs to be educated and taught to be supporters and helpers and not responsibilities. We are all created to complement each other. You can't spell a "woman" without a "man". And you can't spell "female" without "male" God help us all.
Responsibility without too much noise... dee
Of course, there's no big deal in what you're doing, God made us Women help mates to our husbands. Thank God your own appreciates it cos some bc of inferiority complex or whatever it is will just look away but my own is that the good you know how to do continue to do it. God knows how to compensate us. you dont need to broadcast it though.
the way u want domestic voilence to be broadcasted thats thesame way she broadcasted this one. Enemies of good things. u beta go and join APC.
Why TF is this news? Only in Nigeria. This is what normal couples do for each other but oh. Not in Nigeria. This is front page news. You all should be ashamed and embarrassed that you carry on like this. It’s sad.
Stories like this makes me pray hard to get a good wife who can work on my character as well
Well done. That’s a good initiative. To say the fact, things are quite tough out there and if you have the capability and capacity to support your man, please do. If you are not married with children, and you don’t pay bills, you don’t have any idea about what am saying so don’t even comment on this issue.
The story is therapeutic...he didn't marry a liability part for me
So Nigeria still have such women, my dear you will prosper in everything you do and the sky is your beginning, you are indeed a definition of a wife, not those wayward jobless and prostitudes who men mistakenly married will be feeling entitled and their family will be feeling entitled too, may God almighty keeps promoting you Amen
I have been married 2years plus now, and I never really got anything like gifts for hubby, so.i surprised him on his birthday last Sunday and bought him something he laments somuch that he realy likes but coudnt get at the time. He was super happy. He kept showing to everyone he sees and telling them " my wife bought it for me" and seeing the real joy and appreciation on his face made me super happy. Don't listen to crazy arrogant FEMINISTs who tells you men are scum and that, . There are really great men out there that treat their women like queens even without the woman contributing anything to the marriage or relationships.
Marriage is similar to an organization; firstly, no company has two CEOs managing it. Secondly, some bosses are very friendly, while others are horrible, similar to how some people are married to good men while others have monsters. Also, some companies have excellent benefits similar to rich or poor homes. Frustration can happen both ways; some staff frustrates their bosses, similar to how wives can become unbearable at home. Resigning after trying to resolve issues is like divorce; sometimes, you may find a better job or be unemployed – for the man, it’s like hiring someone new to fill the woman’s place. Some homes have women breadwinners, but out-shinning, the CEO can lead to conflict – as a result, some employees are doing the work of bosses, while the boss takes the credit. Some companies are fun, like Google …. Similar to some homes. Lastly, you cannot assess a company until you have joined and started working – sometimes your boyfriend may change after marriage.. my thoughts!
not everything u should disclose on social media... u have stylishly embarrass your husband... how many time did your hubby on online to tell the whole world how he has been taking care of you but you lend him your support once and the world 🗺 got aware of it... eye 👁 service oshi...
I pray it works for you. I was married for over 35 years did all of this. In our late 50's and 60's he decides to start dating other younger women. He became a different person, messed up the whole family and moved out to live his life with his new found conquest. Left me and tge children to get on with whatever life we had left.
All men are not the same. That it didn't work for you back then doesn't mean it won't work for someone else. Maybe you did those things for him and yet you still lacked other good qualities or maybe your husband is just a bad man. Again all men are not the same
We wish you well. Bitter people pls you guys stay off this one because the world needs her type more for the next generation to still have sense regardless of what is out there. Bitterness kills faster than any disease.
God abeg na this kind woman I want as wife oh! Not all these entitled and Greedy ones that populate the country now. Women please let's try and do better like our peeps around the world that are supportive and positive. The small gestures go a long way without you knowing. It wont hurt at all. Give 100k even if you will ask for 150k tomorrow. Thank you... yes YOU!
Isshhh. stories that touch the heart. tales by moonlight. pls post again on how its going this time next year. Anu npama.
You are real God's daughter
God is your strength.
Good, however madam be ready for the subsequent months, you have given him an opportunity to be expecting you to do more. It's always good to support hubs, but do it wisely or else that's the beginning of more quarrels to come, if you decided not to support again.
Father's are hereos,they sacrifice a lot to provide for their families
God bless you for being a help mate indeed. May God bless your marriage with every good thing. May you never take each other for granted. 1 love!
Radio Nigeria! Why the broadcast pls? Fucking attention seeker.
Quick question, how long have you been married ?
Good one from the wife....let's be careful with social media shaa....God bless your home
That is how its suppose to be my dear. Two becoming one. Not these current e-rat daughters of instawolves that think rebellion is the way to go in marriage.
The entitled olosho will not agree with you. Thumb up may God bless your union.
God Blessings you
My wife is a great helper to me too. May God prosper all women that contribute to running the home. They will never lack and doors shall open for them all the days of their lives
Madam GOD bless
It's not easy keep it up... you have added value to your marriage..he will love you and adore you more... things like this makes a man happy.. your marriage will last long... some women will take the money straight to her fathers home..
Madam God bless you
So touching women are really helpers in many ways .
Coming to tell us on SM shows how unserious you are radarada
Women of great virtues are still available. They are the real deal. The ones shouting men down had bad upbringing, low self worth, I'll ambition, hurting, bad mother. They are like snake who's head is off, but looking for who will experience their bad life with them. God bless our virtues women/wives(helpmeet).
He will still cheat
Go hang yourself if he doesn't cheat as you wish
Good. Hope he doesn't take you for granted
God bless you and keep it up.
JESUS DIED FOR YOU. REPENT TODAY AND CONFESS ALL SINS TO GOD, HE'LL HAVE MERCY ON YOU.
This is soo goood. Women should help out on the finances if they can always.. Let our men not age fast because they are being overweighed by so much financial burden when they can be helped. God bless couples who are helping each other nd touch the ones not doing it so that they can. Its lighter when two people lift a load than when only one person does. Men help your wives, wives help your husbands...
You are a good woman
Cute
Thanks beautiful one. Its great to share responsibilities. My wife bought a land for me yesterday. You can imagine how elated I felt. I give her and our children my all. She reciprocated my giving me her best in all things!
Lovely! pls keep saying this to your fellow women. Women want men to take part in domestic duties but will hide their money and enjoy alone while the man continues to provide and take part in house chores
What I see here is love and a deep show of appreciation. Nice keep it up and God bless you both.
Nice one...... Your marriage will continue to grow stronger in love...
I salute you
God bless you more dear
My sister thank you very much for this.. Special happy Easter to you.
May God continue to bless ur huzzle
Tank u dear.God bless..mama Yasmeen did almost same last week when I used d money to repair our car. She noticed dat I was struggling with Oda tins at home .she is currently helping now with Oda bills..God will reward her for me.mamen
This is the true definition of love
My sister God will strengthen u and no bad influence shall come near u and ur home.. happy Easter
See super woman,God bless your hustle ma and your union its better than those useless, lazy oloriburuku olosho sleeping with different men .
God bless all women that support their husbands.
Wife material 💯yards
Stupidity.... Na women like ds wey dey give oda women bad name.
You said children!that means he's been doing it for ages.i can imagine how it felt to have a helper
Wish all these feminist will learn...
Good woman,God bless you and your efforts towards building a happy and peaceful home.in your quest for that,please respect and honour your husband.
#KIDNAPPERS FREE KACHI #
Very rare kinda woman. Thanks ma’am.
Your husband is a good man. Mine is super unappreciative,no matter how much you help out he never acknowledges and says thank you. But wants you dancing around and saying welldone when he does anything. I’m tired and want out,living with an ungrateful person takes life from you. It is well
U don, marry u don marry u die there nothing like divorce soldier it on talk to him and pray for him he will change this is marriage u don't graduate from it
My dear are u sure we are not married to the same man? They do nothing then when they manage to do small it’s like they have done the greatest thing. If I give mine my money na outside pussy go chop am.
A woman after the order of Proverbs 31
You're a good wife! Keep it up! I love this ! I will make sure my wife's read this and learn from it!
Omo see better wife this just made me happy am sure this lady was born in the eighties not this indomie, girls born 25 years ago that are liability instead of assets they will want the man to provide 100 percent which Is not bad but wen the man is not financially buoyant and they are, they will never ever support God bless this woman
SOS. PLEASE WIVES HELP US O. WE ARE DYING IN INSTALLMENT, TOO MUCH BURDEN. WHEN THE BURDEN KILLS US, YOU WILL CARRY DOUBLE GBEGE THEN. LEARN TO HELP RELIEVE US NOW THAT WE ARE ALIVE. THANKS
So many bitter people on this blog and in the country at large. @ God's Daughter, I bless the name of the Lord on ur behalf. You are a WONDER WOMAN
You see some men are not comfortable discussing with their wives to help with some bills, no matter how burdensome it is for them, they will carry on paying the bills and catering for the family. Some women will not act until to have the conversation with them, this is no fault of theirs, it's just how they are perhaps wired. Once you have the conversation with them, they will help, they only reason they perhaps never helped was maybe they did't know how the man will react if they offered to help. 3: Some women will argue when you ask them for help with bills in the house, they will fight with you but they will eventually see reasons and then they will help by contributing to the bills. 4: While some others, the day you talk about bill, start getting your lawyer ready, divorce process starts really soon.
Dear Madam, You will not know the level of help that you gave that your very appreciative husband now. Wait make the guy get money na that, time you go fear appreciation!!! Al the same, God bless you, bless your heart and continue to give you that heart of giving, assisting and respecting him after giving In Jesus name AMEN!!!!! To those that are helping their Husband God Bless you and those that has not be doing so please copy from this woman it keeps the marriage going i know what am talking about because, i am a husband Thank you
May God increase his blessings upon that family.
The real Queen, I pray your that your family will continue to prosper in all ramifications
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That’s ur own story. I was doing this cos things were hard for my husband. And he spent all my money on girls and I didn’t know until one got pregnant. When I ask of why things are not done he will play the I am putting it In biz move. No one told me to stop and waka. What works for u may not work for me. Everyone do ur own.
This one will not get much comments from nowadays ladies. Woman, you are an angel
Some women are well brought up. This one is one of them.
It sounds honorable, but please save up for rainy day. If he eventually abandon you and your children, which is very likely judging from the way he suddenly change after receiving your hard end salary without a thought about your personal needs. Every woman out there wants to support their husband financially and otherwise but fear of side chicks, alcohol and unknown baby mamas hinders it all. Giving your salary to your husband is noble, but I am very tired of reading sad stories. I don't want to read epistle the day you decide not be so generous again. Broke men don't sleep around, just saying.
Why are you so negative? Keep your advice and appreciate her. If you can’t then shut up.
U r a fool
See why I always say that women are very selfish. In this generation they want men to be more loving, caring and involved in family and domestic matters but they somehow want the women to pull away and focus on themselves. The man will work his ass off to feed the family, pay bills, still help the woman to cook, clean, take good care of the kids but the woman should save her earnings for rainy days incase the man leaves her.
Your type is not up to hundred in number in the zoo called Nigeria. Congratulations for more peace and love you have just introduced into ur home. Those area ladies with spirit of let him die after all who cares though eventually parading themselves as wives will never be happy with this joy in ur family. Keeping working harder even as peace and love keeps raining in ur home.
All those feminist idiots will not like this.
What a support and help you truly are. I'm a man and i pray for you, you will grow, God will enlarge you. God will show you favour. I pray for you from my heart you will not lack. Before one door closes another will open. I have made millions myself but you see, needs of money no dey finish for men. We just keep keeping on. thanks. Hope your guy will find grace to live up to it.
God will continue to bless your hustle as you are supporting your husband! You give him the go ahead not to be afraid of the future that you are surely behind him any time any day. That is what a woman should always do to support the man to take care of the home and I pray that God will surely bless you both in all you desire.
What is the hype in sharing the home bills. I didn't grow up in Nigeria, although i was born in Nigeria so this is strange to me . Pls can anyone give me honest answer without insult because I assume if you are married to someone y'all split the bills into half and pay it . Someone pay the mortgage/rent while the other pays the utility bills, is it normal for Nigerian ladies to just totally expect their husband to pay all bills ?
Yes, it's partriachy here men wield the scepter in the Family and they pay all the bills it's the unwritten rule. But there are many dynamics to it, with different families adapting to what works for them depending on the family income. So over here it's unusual for 50- 50 bills splitting, infact if there's bill splitting the man shoulders 70 while the woman does 30. Here the men are head of the family, so you can't be head of the family controlling everyone and some even prevent their wives from working and still expect her to pay bills
A mature woman. Letting her husband know that she's a helper. Not a responsibility. Also shows she understands the man she married. I wish many more happy years and marital bliss ahead.
Are people supposed to praise this woman for her weird gesture of giving money to herself? You really expect a medal for paying your own children's lesson fee? I had a colleague who asked me whether she could use her salary for whatever she liked after she got married including buy a very expensive phone and not "give" her husband. I told her: when your baby's pampers have finished, when school fees are due, when rent is due, when DSTV has expired, when there is no food in the house for your kids, when your child is moaning "Mommy help me" in the hospital and bills need to be paid-- when all these things are on ground and your husband is broke and you have the money to pay, you will not even think of phone or anything for yourself. No one will ask you to bring out the money for these things before you do. The truth is an ideal marriage should not have "his money" and "my money." Husband and wife should be ONE in every aspect. But we do not live in an ideal world so there is division and division leads to distrust and distrust leads to separation of assets and ultimately breakdown of marriage when trust is broken. You will notice that marriages where the husband is very rich and takes care of every money need seldom have this "his money/my money" issue. APART FROM PEOPLE WHO BEAT THEIR SPOUSES, notice that it is when the wife is equally rich/poor or more successful that problems of "it is my money" arise. It should not be so. But that is the way it is. In marriage, giving money to your wife or husband is like giving money to yourself. You are not doing him or her a favour, especially if you have kids who are the product and key beneficiaries of your union. A starved wife or husband cannot raise healthy children. If you see things differently, then you simply are not united with your spouse and that is why cracks exist in marriage. Nobody can hold a marriage together. Only Christ can. Colossians tells us "In Him all things are held together." So trust Him to hold your marriage together for you. Only then can you be truly one with your spouse and stop acting like somebody should praise you for giving them money or support or paying your children's lesson fee. You did it for yourself and not for your husband. You are not separate entities. You are one.
Uhmm, my brother. E get why o, see one of the problems we are encountering that is making it seem as if ladies are unambitious did not start today, in our culture women are expected to take a back seat, if a woman happens to earn on the same level or higher than the husband problem done start be that, the woman is considered to have emasculate the man, I saw a nurse who earns 500k and a man who earns 69k the man asked her to leave her job to manage on his salary. Women are groomed to be wives and not be great but allow your husband to be great, so all this psychological grooming from childhood is setting men up to work more and women to work less, people even refuse to educate women because they assume they will end up in the kitchen. If a woman is successful, she would likely encounter problems with her husband and his family, why? The husband assumes she's proud if she does some of the littlest things she would do if she didn't have money of her own and he wouldn't have a problem with, but once she has some money if she talks in a certain way she's proud, the family of the husband are angry and that she is more successful than their son and try to take her down or or clip her wings. All these start from primary school when boys are mocked when girls out perform them in class or academically the boys are groomed that a girl must not be more successful than you and that's why you see some men who are rude to their female bosses because they are angry at the fact that how can a lady be ahead of me,? So we have all this conditioning from childhood all these things are carried on into adulthood and that's why we have the society we have today. It's a man's 🌎, everyone would agree, women need all the advantage they can get, if as a woman you have access to some money, help out with bills in your home after all if you don't marry you will still pay those bills but you need to use your head and have a safe nest where you safe money. In our culture if the man is tired of the marriage he would just throw you out, it means you are on your own
Eeyiyah
Many women do more than this in their homes. I always tell myself that it is our home and not just his home and our collective responsibility to contribute both financially and otherwise in running our home. Leaving all the bills for the man when you have a source of income is not just wickedness but belittling, I will feel useless if I don't contribute financially in my home.
Please tell them o, some women can be so stingy and yet so demanding.
Awon ti Feminist FC will disagree with her oh... Like someone said, only 5 of your types exists in Nigeria. Lool. Many Nigerian women will tell you that "my money is my money, but my husband's money is our money".