Just because other people's marriages failed doesn't mean yours can't succeed - Publisher Betty Irabor

Publisher and media entrepreneur, Betty Irabor, has appealed to Nigerians to let go of their fears surrounding marriage, emphasizing that the failure of other people’s unions does not mean everyone who enters the institution will experience the same outcome.

In a message encouraging a more positive outlook on relationships, Irabor noted that individual marriages are unique and should not be judged or avoided solely based on the publicized struggles or breakups of others.

Posting via her Instagram page, Ms Irabor who has been married for 43 years, wrote;

‘’JUST BECAUSE OTHER PEOPLE’S MARRIAGES FAILED DOESN’T MEAN YOURS CAN’T SUCCEED!

 

Agreed; the statistics on failed marriages can be quite alarming. For women already struggling in their marriages, they can deepen existing fears. For those contemplating marriage, they can be downright discouraging.

 

But here is something we must not lose sight of: for every marriage that fails, there are many others quietly thriving. They may not be making headlines, trending on social media or giving interviews about their happiness, but they exist. And there are more of them than we sometimes acknowledge.

 

Let’s be honest. Successful marriages require work, sacrifice, patience, discipline, commitment, emotional maturity and, sometimes, an extraordinary amount of emotional bandwidth.

 

There will be disagreements, disappointments, adjustments and seasons when love alone doesn’t seem enough. But there will also be friendship, laughter, companionship, shared victories, growth and the beautiful satisfaction of building a life with someone.

 

We must be careful not to allow the unhappy experiences of others to become the blueprint for our own expectations. Learn from other people’s mistakes, by all means, but don’t inherit their fears.

 

Marriage may not be everyone’s cup of tea, and that’s perfectly fine. But let’s not write it off as a doomed institution.

 

The truth is, marriage isn’t going extinct. It is still on the wish list, the prayer list and the to-do list of many people. And perhaps what we need is not less belief in marriage, but a better understanding of what it takes to make one work.

 

Other people’s marriages are their stories. Yours is still being written. Don’t let their endings determine yours''