'There's no shame being a single lady or a single mom, walk away' - Georgina Onuoha speaks on Domestic Violence | Welcome to Linda Ikeji's Blog

LI_Leaderboard_4

LI_Leaderboard_1

LI_Leaderboard_2

LI_Leaderboard_3

Saturday, 6 May 2017

'There's no shame being a single lady or a single mom, walk away' - Georgina Onuoha speaks on Domestic Violence

Nollywood actress and divorced mother of two, Georgina Onuoha has weighed in on the alarming rate of domestic violence in Nigeria. Taking to her Instagram page, she accused the government of failing to act against domestic violence and advised women to walk away from abusive relationships as it's no crime being a single lady or a single mom. Read her post after the cut..

Love does not hurt. What you love, you protect.

The rate of domestic violence in Nigeria 🇳🇬 is alarming.  Yet, our elected officials are mute about it. No Legislation put in place to protect against domestic violence and to punish its perpetrators. Why have we become immune to it? Domestic violence is no respectal of class, status, fame, religion or creed. 

Is no one immune from it man or woman?

Why remain in an abusive relationship? To please society? To have the title of Mrs or Mr after your name? For fortune, fame or pleasure? It starts slowly and metamorphoses into a beast you can't control. 

Why not leave to Live?

So many have died and many more dying as I write this. You should love yourself enough not to let anyone scar you.Why do women protect their abusers?

There is no shame in walking away. Do not conform to what society sets for you as standards of marriage or relationship. Every faith should condemn violence. 

To my brothers; Why hit the one you claim to love? What happened to walking away? 

What will you do if your mother, sister, daughter or aunt calls you or come home with a battered face? will you defend them against their abusers or tell them 'such is life because you are guilty of same crime'? Would you protect them? If yes, why would you subject someone else's daughter to the same faith of abuse?

Only cowards hit women and people?Woman hear word!!

Walk away, if you fall out of love with your loved one, please explain it to the people your decision will affect the most directly and walk away. It becomes a burden when you want to eat your cake and have it. Emotions and feelings are strong. It's better to shed a few tears temporary than being scared for life or worst of all end 6 feet.
Kids learn from where they live and grow. Home is their first school, they exhibit what they see their parents do. Protect them so they don't grow up thinking it's normal to hit or abuse anyone. 

Please let's end this vicious cycle. My heart goes out to all going through this phase and any who has been through this phase. The scars might heal but the wounds linger forever. Walk away while you can. #No shame in being a single lady #No shame in being a single mom

37 comments:

TheRealAkon said...

True.

Joyous babe, Linda Ikeji FIrst Cousin said...

Issokey

Nnenne George said...

Hmmm.... everybody has suddenly become an adviser even those that can't manage themselves when faced with same circumstances are now talking!.. nawao!!!

Anonymous said...

She is a little bit crazy! Because she has divorced her husband, does that give her the mouth to encourage others to join her? Naija People sha... I tire for Una o

Anonymous said...

Talkative. IG actress

Anonymous said...

Loving ur write up girl, weldone

Mamush said...

Thumps up comment

Ogoo sunshine said...

Men should learn.tnx my wonderful actress

CEO Thoughts said...

Misery loves company. Only few cases are traceable to malevolent men. Most are self inflicted and for many, uncouth, ill-trained women who if you check started the violence but lost to superior masculine power;then they turn around to scream blue murder. No well behaved woman suffers untoward violence from a responsible man.

Eugenia Ekeji said...

Happy to hear this. Nice one.

dee boi said...

Same way there no shame in being a single dad or a single man so men learn to walk away from abusive marriage abeg before dem go start to call u names... dee

Tochukwu Uchendu said...

As long as am concerned, you wrote a very good argumentative essay. Another good essayist with a better argument will render yours obsolete. But let's call a spade a spade. We should go back to the drawing board. What was it in our grand fathers marriages that isn't in ours? Why do their marriages last for a lifetime and ours a few months? In my own opinion, I think most people these days enter marriage wrongly. A lady once told me in confidence a couple of months ago that before she will agree to marry a man, that she will first access his performance in bed. If he does well then she will begin to consider other factors. What a sick mentality! People forgot that too much experimentation leads to insatiability which to infidelity. 99% of all divorced cases are based on unfaithfulness. To be continued....... if you are interested DM @toscherry

CHERYL (aka FROM GLORY to GLORY) said...

Wonder what the women in the national assembly are doing to help other women facing DM. They r just chopping money


Long live LIB

Samuel Orisakwe said...

True what? If ur not a child or children of a Prostitute u will not be saying single n divorcee mothers is a good thing, what I expect to hear from u pple is preach de reasons for this beating Bcos every one beats but women beat more, some of u expect a daughter of a divorcee or single mother to stay in marriage. If happens 2 out of hundreds is miracle pls.

Anonymous said...

There's no smoke without fire...Any woman that cannot be controlled by d husband will always get a hard knock on d head No shame in that too

Vivian Emaduku said...

Thank You dear, one will never understand these things until they experience it first hand, I don't wish that to an enemy let alone a friend. May God help us make the right decisions when we are faced with life's struggles

Onah Caleb said...

When the world has turned upside down, this is what you hear, so they never count their cost before getting married.

Kiama Ibe said...

The same mistakes the actresses are showing us on movies are the same mistakes they're doing. They'll never learn

pioneer m said...

Singles looking for partners. another home breaker. Prayer is key of success. Till you turn your way to God..you will never know peace. Don't let devil take over your home, but pray.

Anonymous said...

Please domestic violence is been abuse by most women, honestly the true victims are not even on social media,that you accuse your husband of hitting you some times its not all the men fault I know a case where the woman beat the husband to death,fighting domestic violence start from the home both husband and wife know how to act to each other, not for your self but for the kids sake some women can be in the wrong and go ahead to claim he dear not lay his hand on me your daughter will grow like you and will do it to her man oya the guy go beat her kill,am a woman we should tell ourselves the truth, yes there are rare cases were the men are nut case but not every man is, so learn not to bring the beast in any man out Nigeria men are not as bad as most of you women are making them look the biggest problem in today's marriage is to love on the part of men, and to submit on the part of women,infact we have even help God turn it around now you see woman loving a man, and man submitting Don't help God if you want your marriage to work it is the only institution God created do it the way he asked us to do it . Man love ,woman submit .simple .

Nnenne George said...

If every man start walking away from their marriages for the fear their wives will tag them wife beater, we women will also start complaining and organising seminars as to why divorce is now on the increase.. then the topic will move from "stop domestic violence " to "Men stop divorcing your wives or why is divorce now on the increase!":.. Georgina is just talking nonsense because she's indirectly encouraging women to be singles. Now women will have excuse as how not to make their marriage work and just walk away. The moment we will start preaching more on how women will keep their homes, i believe domestic violence in homes will decrease. We're not yet handling the problem from the root. Women let stop listening to too many advisers who can't even manage themselves. We need to get up and think of ways to bring joy in our homes..

Unknown said...

It is not right to hit a woman whether the woman is strong headed or not.So please Nigerian men take note and stop doing other wise

Anonymous said...

True talk, it is better to walk away.

Mary George said...

Comment dat u dont publish. Mitcheewww

Anonymous said...

You are a backward thinking fool.

Anonymous said...

I pray your daughters wl not be beaten to death by someone you collected dowry from. Old moron

Anonymous said...

Baba Adura!!! Pray

chika said...

NNENNE, I HAVE DEFENDED YOU IN YOUR COMMENTS MANY TIMES WHEN PEOPLE COME AT YOU FOR WRITING BULLSHIT. THEY CALLED YOU NAMES, NOW I KNOW THEY ARE RIGHT. YOU ARE MENTALLY RETARDED AS THEY ALWAYS SAY. IT'S A PITY YOU ARE IGBO FROM MY OWN TRIBE. RECEIVE BRAIN OSISO.

chika said...

I'm disappointed with many responses here. When same people who oppose this write-up hear that someone has died from domestic violence, they start writing Oooh why didn't he or she just walk away.

Oluwanifemi Diamond said...

Mr man i known you are one of those woman beater if it ok for u wot women are passing through it shall be ur children portion

Oluwanifemi Diamond said...

Mr man i known you are one of those woman beater if it ok for u wot women are passing through it shall be ur children portion

Vivian Reginalds said...

shut up
-D great anonymous now as Vivian Reginalds

Ifesanmi Tim said...

When u chew before biting, you become a victim and advice from a mistake point of view...... a divorcee issues advice. ...hmmmmmm...... talk is cheap...

chinelo okafor said...

*TongueOuT*

Anonymous said...

Thank you! They reason one way only!

Anonymous said...

Very cheap with these mannerless fools!

Nnenne George said...

@chika... you're an idiot. Who asked u to defend me? Did i beg for your defense... so i shouldn't air my own view before idiots like u are on LIB.. oya na come and beat me nah... u are the retarded one. Nansense!!!

Recent Posts