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Tuesday, 16 May 2017

Should you pray with your boyfriend? Joy Isi Bewaji doesn't think so and she explains why

Writer Joy Bewaji, who is also the managing director of Happenings Radio, shared an article on her Facebook page which is centered on girlfriends praying with their boyfriends and according to Joy, it is hypocritical for a girl to pray with her boyfriend who she constantly has sex with. Read the article after the cut and tell us what you think...



The only time I prayed with a man was in a marriage.
I don't pray with boyfriends.

The few times boyfriends asked that we pray, I refused.

One time, I laughed so hard, I almost pee-d. How can you pressure me to pray with you in a relationship? I will cheer you on, motivate you, build with you... but I will not bring God into a fucking relationship (pun intended).

We are satisfying flesh - what the eyes can see, and ears can hear; meeting our needs. We are having delicious sin... where does God come in?

For some it is a way of accepting their amazing wretchedness in the sight of God. It helps them feel better about their actions. At this point they are immune to wrongdoing... and have attained "a higher level of grace".

I cannot stand being a hypocrite.

So you pray, not for forgiveness, but for some selfish need you want from God... OR to impress your partner, so they think of you as "godly" - the most important label we need to wear to be qualified as good people.

But you are fucking. And praying. And fucking some more. Some of you are cheating on your spouses.

How do you reconcile this with your faith?

You have sex and then you pray to a God, who insists fornication is out of line, to bless you.

We smash and then we thank God for his Love.

We think this is a humble surrender of our constant sins to whom we serve. That we are able to match our prayers with our sins make us better than others.

I think there's a place in hell reserved for those who mock God.

And the mockers of God are "Nigerian Christians" who feel the need to pray their way to a premeditated act of sin (e.g: a healthy dose of fornication and adultery, with lubes to boot).

The next hottest part of hell should be reserved for those who blame the devil for everything. For raping a 5 months old child. For killing their domestic employer just to steal N200k from her wardrobe. For beheading their cousins. These ones are the first born of depravity.

The devil is not omnipresent. You know that, right? All your sins are sautΓ©ed to perfection by your own will.
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I read a conversation between a married man and his girlfriend...

They have anal sex regularly it seems. She says she won't be around this weekend for (more) anal sex as she is bleeding presently from the anus. He promises to send her N600k. She is elated. All of a sudden she forgets she is bleeding. They are meeting for another anal rendezvous. He tells her not to have sex with her boyfriend because he needs her to be...err, firm. She agrees...

But first, she needs to go to church.

LMAO!

That sums up the life of the average Nigerian Christian.

Do you know in all the years I have watched Crime and Investigation, there's not one serial killer, rapist, paedophile, or con artist that blamed the devil for his actions? They accept they are sociopaths and they head to jail to serve time.

That's intergity.

Have some integrity.

When you go naked by midnight to curse a boyfriend for hurting you, which God are you praying to?

You are fucking. Getting hurt is one of the rewards of pleasing the flesh.

Deal with it.

92 comments:

Anonymous said...

well said.

Anonymous said...

FACT!

desmond chuddy said...

If it's a lady that wrote this, I stand and stake my life that all girls,ladies/women are not thesame. And this is the few massage I hv read from a lady and it's a divine massage. Which I will hav her contact to b my sister,mentor and a friend. She is real with integrity. Joy baweji u r d mouth piece da d world need. Thank that u r workin on radio station. Keep speaking. I will like to b ur frnd 08038598259 u r 1 in a million

Anonymous said...

Enter your comment...That's the deal to deal with.

Mimi David said...

This is word right here....So true.

Anonymous said...

Wawuuuuuuu!!!!!! Joy may your ink never run dryyyyyyyyy. May Almighty God give you additional blessing for writing this. Girl you wrote this with the Holy Spirit by your side. You nailed it. Thank you sooooooooo much.

Anonymous said...

perfect write up

AnnieManny bae said...

πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘Š For having the nerve and sincerity to put this down for the public eye...... weldone ma

Monemi said...

hmmmmmmm dis words hash but truth dey inside. Lord have mercy please

Anonymous said...

Just spoke my mind. Bravo. Don't worry, they'll still not understand. Why do you think the most churches are located in black populated areas? We sin. We pray. We go sin more. Then we pray more. It's a joke.

Anonymous said...

What a wawuuuuuuu

God bless you ma. Well said...best said. Direct and very blunt.

Agbomen said...

πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘Š

Anonymous said...

GBAM! GBAMER!! GBAMEST!!!

GoldenLily said...

God bless you for this article....for once in Nigeria someone is saying the truth. Tnk u......Sin if u chose to sin, but know you are sinning and God is not in support of it, so do not mock God. I'm happy some else feels same with me as regards praying in a relationship dt has Sin of fornication as it's bed rock. And sometimes you question this, they tell you don't judge, like hello!!!

Omogiafu Imade said...

True talk....

Bheem said...

100% in agreement

Neji Takon said...

WORDS##!!!
I won't have agreed any less. Thanks dear.

weyinmi ofenor said...

She is right, fornication and prayers don't go hand in hand. Of wat use is prayer when u would still go back n have sex. If u guys r not having premarital sex then u guys can go on ur knees and exalt God . if not so, u r practically mocking God. She has a valid point.

weyinmi ofenor said...

She is right, fornication and prayers don't go hand in hand. Of wat use is prayer when u would still go back n have sex. If u guys r not having premarital sex then u guys can go on ur knees and exalt God . if not so, u r practically mocking God. She has a valid point.

Anonymous said...

I agree with her!

WOBIA said...

Best write up of the year... God is holy and pure. So if you want to jolly and sin, leave God out of it. But then the twist of the story is that, God is just too merciful...

Tigi said...

No word has ever been more truthful....

Anonymous said...

OMG! Soo on point, she nailed it. Nigerians and hypocrisy. That's how one silly married man wanted to justify adultery by telling me that Jrsus came and died on the cross for our sins and if there is no sin, no forgiveness and of what essence is His death on the cross so therefore make we dey sin dey go as Christians because Jesus don die for the sins. Can you imagine? A married man and to make matters worse, it was right after mass that he approached me with his lustful proposal! Chai! Oh! I gave the man a piece of my hot tongue that day. Oshi! It's better you are an atheist and do as you wish than make mockery of God. Satan my foot! He told you to pray before fornication or after it to make you feel less sinful. Mtchewwwe! Satan will even shake his head at most of the accusations shifted his way. Peace my people!

Peninnah A said...

She is so on point. God doesn't delight in hypocrisy...

nony bright said...

Isn't it hypocritical to pray after any other sin too?

Lucia Abonye said...

Well said....havn't read an aticle as good as this in a long while

Anonymous said...

what rubbish......??? So becos someone falls into sin, they should not pray again....

O righteous Joy, I hope you have never sinned oo... even if its to tell a lie cos lying is a sin and by your warped logic you shouldnt pray to God then

Lucia Abonye said...

Well said....havn't read an aticle this good in a long while

Anonymous said...

Wow! Bitter pill...

Nkem4eva said...

This thinking is warped. It means no one should pray then because every one sins. Nigerians tend to forget that its not only adultery and fornication that are sins.

Hypocrisy is bad but shame should not take us away from God's presence.

Samuel Orisakwe said...

I agree with her to some extent but since she is a bizyness woman n making money she shouldn't pray at all Bcos in making there no way can't do that free of sin be cos those sins mentioned ar just few pls

Gerald Nwokoro said...

I do not entirely agree with this write up. I don't see anything wrong with praying with someone you are fucking. It doesn't make the person a hypocrite. It would be like saying because I'm in a relationship I shouldnt pray, whether you pray alone or with the person you are in a relationship with it still doesn't change the fact that we are all sinners.

SUPERVISOR said...

TRUE TALK!

Anonymous said...

Madly on point!!!

Anonymous said...

True to the marrow. Let me find this writer.

Anonymous said...

As casual and funny as the write-up appears, it is so true. Every bit of it is a 100% correct. Nigerian Christian, are just something else. God can not be mocked!

Kc said...

Nice yarn
Your head dey there.

Akpunonu dorcas said...

I so much love this... please tell them...

Clavia Fidelity said...

Aunty, when did U turn to the judge of the whole universe? Its OK tho coz what U wrote shows U not a good Christian yourself. Just make sure U invite us in ur next ordination coz we all we're absent when U we're ordained a judge.

Holawalay Walex said...

OMG!!!!! AS MUCH as I have been reading lib,I have to admit to myself this is the best article ever on this blog and I hope it won't be the best last,Hey joy! you re just an angel,what you just written out is 1000% right and true ...which sums up we Nigerians, I m not gonna say I'm descent, but I tried my best to do the right things,I know this post will have the lowest comment from lib readers because its the spiritual truth and they don't need it.. God bless u joy and I hope our youth that will be able to read this would have God knowledge to understand it and maybe embedded it they way they do to those styles in porn movies they watch to wanna practice "you can not be in a sin and expect over flow of Gods blessing"

Chizzy Liz said...

**********************Basic!! Basic!!! Basic ***** dis is so on point

Feefs said...

At the headline and 1st few lines, I was gonna disagree with her and cuss her out but after reading through, i couldn't agree more with her. Nigerians are hypocrites. You say you want to fast then you fuck your gf/random chic the night before the fast starts. This goes for both Muslims and Christians,y'all shouldn't be fucking and keep asking for grace to abound. I for one have had sex with my fiance (now husband) and felt really bad when he asked us to pray before setting out. Dude it doesn't go hand in hand don't bring God into your premeditated sin. Now the funny part is, when asking for forgiveness of sin most people don't say "God forgive us for the sex we just had" cos we know its definitely gonna happen again. Lol... We all are flipping hypocrites. Judges and Judgina's calling others out cos theirs is public but nasty behind close doors. Lord have mercy... *Sprinkles holy water & anointing oil around*

Feefs said...

At the headline and 1st few lines, I was gonna disagree with her and cuss her out but after reading through, i couldn't agree more with her. Nigerians are hypocrites. You say you want to fast then you fuck your gf/random chic the night before the fast starts. This goes for both Muslims and Christians,y'all shouldn't be fucking and keep asking for grace to abound. I for one have had sex with my fiance (now husband) and felt really bad when he asked us to pray before setting out. Dude it doesn't go hand in hand don't bring God into your premeditated sin. Now the funny part is, when asking for forgiveness of sin most people don't say "God forgive us for the sex we just had" cos we know its definitely gonna happen again. Lol... We all are flipping hypocrites. Judges and Judgina's calling others out cos theirs is public but yet they are nasty behind close doors. Lord have mercy... *Sprinkles holy water & anointing oil around*

chinyere Eze said...

Well said, too much immorality even in the church and we take Gods grace for granted. God is not mocked whoever that call upon the name of Thy Lord should depart from iniquity.

chinyere Eze said...

Well said, too much immorality even in the church and we take Gods grace for granted. God is not mocked whoever that call upon the name of Thy Lord should depart from iniquity.

wrightabidemi1 said...

If man na God,people for suffer! Ms Bewaji some boyfriends and girlfriends do actually pray for guidance,protection,blessings and praying for forgiveness isn't a crime,not judging you,are you saying you've never prayed to God for forgiveness and like you stated some married folks cheat and pray for forgiveness so what's difference between them and those not married but intends too? Madam God knows those who are truly serving him!

Anonymous said...

100% accurate!The hypocrisy in the Christian domain is annoying.

Desie said...

I so agree wt this lady on this one. Very True.

Sandra was here said...

So many people deceive themselves and that's the worst thing that can happen to anyone. God said He cannot be mocked whatever you sow is what you reap... I ll rather be a true confirmEd runs girl and attain the highest height in that profession... have something to show for it and know this is who I am and what am into than to come and be deceiving myself with one idiot in choir and live a life of pretense... what they don't know is that in the end they will be the fools. 100 To this write up

Anonymous said...

I agreeπŸ’―with her.
Very true talk/analysis.
God is such a merciful God cos our hypocrisy no be here...hmmm.

Anonymous said...

True truer truest!!!

Anonymous said...

That up there is not "fall into sin"
That is premeditated sin and these people go back for more fuck after the prayer.
It is wrong!!

Anonymous said...

A deliberate, willful sinner have no relationship with God. Don't get it twisted!

Anonymous said...

oh!mine mine. kisses to you for this write up. I mean I read on Joro's platform of a girl dating a married man and having anal sex with that "she's going to church". And the He-goat telling her "please pray for me" WTF!!!! the chat was snapped and sent to Joro. I laugh so hard like so God is now a blind being that can be mocked because He cannot see you both doing anal sex? if the man wants anal sex let him come out of the closet . I am so sure the motherfucker will be one of those naija hypocritical homophobia who will not just cast stones but will ask for the head of gays to be beheaded. lets stop mocking God. like I always say, I will rather be a friend with a man of many vices that own up to it and cry to God for help daily than a motherfucker Christian that believes he is more holy than God and he/she keeps secretly engagaing in vices and come out to pretend and still have the gut to be criticizing those who were caught in the act. the only difference between you both is that they were caught you are to be caught. And mind you the fact you sin differently does mean your hell has light fire. Same hell for a murderer, fornicator and liers.

We need to start accepting the fact that we are humans and that all we need to compete against flesh Is not hypocrisy but prayer for God's grace because no one is perfect. we just need His mercy.



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ThaOverlord said...

abeg.. since human beings decide to be God.. they shud be judged by their own ruler and measurements... We r not God, instead of being conscious of sin and alienating urself from Ur Creator.. Be conscious of forgiveness... and get closer to Him... if sin makes u guilty, remember, Jesus did die for u.. dont judge ppl.. Pray for them.. And prayer is talking to God..

Abosede said...

God bless you my dear sister for this write up. I pray for more auction to function in the presence of God upon your life and the infilling of the HolySpirit upon you in Jesus name. God bless you.

ThaOverlord said...

who doesnt... so bcos its sex someppl have become holier than thou.. some ppl keep hate and anger and contempt and still fast and pray... God loves u... im not saying anything about abusing that. Im just reminding those who wanna set standards of holiness... thats not the requirement.. accepting Him is d requirement

ThaOverlord said...

its someones opinion about life.. b careful before u accept it.. Know the truth.. Not LIBer truth..

ThaOverlord said...

gbam.. best reply

ThaOverlord said...

gbam..
πŸ‘Š

ThaOverlord said...

no its not beta ure an atheist..... stay a believer.. that Jesus died for u... and dt was a one time forever deal.. ur sinning wudnt change it

Bell said...

You can buy this phone and pay anytime

Anonymous said...

Romans 3:23-31

23 for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, 24 being justified freely by His grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus, 25 whom God set forth as a propitiation by His blood, through faith, to demonstrate His righteousness, because in His forbearance God had passed over the sins that were previously committed, 26 to demonstrate at the present time His righteousness, that He might be just and the justifier of the one who has faith in Jesus.

Anonymous said...

@ Clavia, Please try and be objective. The writer is not judging anyone, she is just airing her opinion. You have the right to agree or disagree but not saying that she is judmental.
I tend to agree with her 100% because I understand what she is saying. I have always believed that who ever that is in any relationship where SEX is involved, then pray to God for forgiveness and then goes back to have sex again and again is only fooling himself or herself period.
As a married couple, yes you can err and then pray together as a couple and ask God for whatever forgiviness you want but as UN MARRIED MAN OR WOMAN, with the full intention of going back to fuck again and again, WHO AND WHAT ARE YOU PRAYING ABOUT?
Yes God forgives but not when your intention is to go back and fuck again and again.
If you can't keep your groin, please remember that there is a word like " ABSTINENCE"
And it is easy to achieve, just focus your mind abstaining from sex and you will achieve it. If you think it's impossible, it is because you feel you are too weak to discipline yourself.

Saibu Yesufu said...

Omg this is so true.God bless this woman abundantly

Anonymous said...

Those of you who disagree with this lady should go back and check your life if you want to live with God external

Amaka Nwabufo said...

It clearly obvious that some of us needs increased knowledge of the gospel. God is our gracious & loving father,He seeks to fellowship with us and not even sin can stop him from that!! Pls..... Always pray to your heavenly father no matter.

Amaka Nwabufo said...

1 John 2:1 My little children, these things write I unto you, that ye sin not. And if any man sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous: 2:2 And he is the propitiation for our sins: and not for ours only, but also for the sins of the whole world.

Don't let the devil stop you from praying & fellowshipping with your heavenly father!

Agbomen said...

πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚@go back for more fuck after prayer. Exactly! It's like saying to hell with what God thinks.

charles godswill said...

if there is no immorality there is no room to be ashamed to pray together....if there is sinful practice, then there's no nerve to want to pray.
this writer is writing from the point of view of a person who have habitually indulged in the sinful transaction; hence this write up!!!

charles godswill said...

if there is no immorality there is no room to be ashamed to pray together....if there is sinful practice, then there's no nerve to want to pray.
this writer is writing from the point of view of a person who have habitually indulged in the sinful transaction; hence this write up!!!

Anonymous said...

@Gerald Nwokoro just because of d fact u think we're all sunners just not justify u to willfully sin and make it seems like you will pray to God afterwards to forgive u. Moreover you shouldnt be fucking wen u not married. We re all Sinners..Yes but try to minimize ur sins and obey God word. Discipline, self control and integrity makes a man.....

Anonymous said...

@ThaOverload is not just an opinion. its d honest truth.

Amos Mohammed said...

What about when you don't have sex.I don't have sex with my girl and I was even thinking about we having a prayer time together. I think It will help the relationship.

Anonymous said...

Tell them oooo

Anonymous said...

Word!

Anonymous said...

True to what she said but she has forgotten that not all boyfriends and girlfriends fornicate,so, praying with your boyfriend or girlfriend is no sin and very necessary in this case.
I agree, though shall not mock God, what He asked us to do,we should do it and not praying to cover up if we do the exact opposite of what God expects from us.
Well written Ma'am!


Oluwayemisi

Anonymous said...

Aunty Linda bring Ali Baba's write-up about a lazy man who dm'ed him after his girlfriend read an advice Ali Baba gave about guys being dependent on their girlfriends.

Emmanuel Owolabi said...

Thessalonians 5:17
...Pray without ceasing.

Luke 18:9-14
9To some who trusted in their own righteousness and viewed others with contempt, He also told this parable: 10“Two men went up to the temple to pray. One was a Pharisee and the other a tax collector. 11The Pharisee stood by himself and prayed, ‘God, I thank You that I am not like the other men—swindlers, evildoers, adulterers—or even like this tax collector. 12I fast twice a week and pay tithes of all that I receive.’
13But the tax collector stood at a distance, unwilling even to lift up his eyes to heaven. Instead, he beat his breast and said, ‘God, have mercy on me, a sinner!’ 14I tell you, this man, rather than the Pharisee, went home justified. For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, but the one who humbles himself will be exalted.”

Prayer is prescribed not only for the holy ones. Sinners need it even more.
pray in any circumstance, it could be your source of deliverance from that "Sin".

Anonymous said...

That's joy for u, she neva hides d truth, and her truth burns some like hell. Welcome Ma!

Anonymous said...

Thaoverlord u need to go and flog ur mother for having an imbecile like u

Anonymous said...

Nony it's like u pray after fucking ur gf, well fornication and adultery are the most common and frequently done sins, I got married a virgin and have never cheated on my husband, so before I became born again the only sin I committed was lying and name calling which by the grace of God I am glad to say I have let go, can u let go of fornication that easily? I think not

Anonymous said...

Sinner anon 10:45, u can lie and pray and tell urself u won't do it again, but when u are are praying with a gf or bf that u already understand u are going to fuck after that prayer is an insult and mockery of God

Anonymous said...

A lot of people have refused to swallow it, but it is a pill of truth

Anonymous said...

She used fornication cause it is one of the most common, premeditated sins, u can lie and decide not to again, but when u are praying with that bf or gf that u have both agreed to be having sex together even after the prayer then God will curse u, until u both decide to abstain from premarital sex.

Anonymous said...

We are not all sinners, speak for ur sinful self, I got married a virgin, never slept will anyone else, I don't tell lies, even white ones, I live a simple life, I am not vain, I don't take what is not mine( I don't steal) I don't back bite or insult people, I have been sin free for as long as I can remember, why do sinners think it's so hard to live a sin free life? Just ask God for the grace to help u, and u will see that it is easy peezy lemon squeezy.

Anonymous said...

Thaoverlord, stop commenting and agreeing with ur fellow sinners, cause the heat in hell affects individually, give ur life to Christ and abstain from sin, it's easier than u think with the Grace of God, if u want to take that step, I can help u

Anonymous said...

It is hard for unrepentant sinners to swallow this truth

Anonymous said...

Yes, I don't commit adultery, I give charitably, I love all, I don't steal, lie or discriminate, insult, gossip or backbite, so there u have it, there is nothing to judge, so @thaoverlord, change ur ways, and stop applauding sin

Anonymous said...

What about someone that keeps lying, backbiting, stealing or even the pre Marital Sex she's talking about all of this are sins and the proper thing is to ask for forgiveness. We lie thousand times everyday and we haven't even stopped.....

Anonymous said...

"My opinion."
We all know that in the last days loads of people will emerge to tell you what is right and wrong. Even the so called blogger do it now like mad! This is business and aybe she posted just to get traffic.

But who made you judge over others? From what you posted I don't see where you encourage people to stop pre marital sex rather to stop praying. I'm not gonna judge you blogger but I think you posted to get trafic because if you really posted for God's glory it would show.
Please next time if you think you know it all, promote more of what God wants and not some dumb shit advice on not praying. Tell them to stop fornicating and pray as friends than condeming what they tried to do. Tell them to read more of God's words because one day they might be touched to stop.
Your post seem hypocritical. (My opinion)

Zino Magbegor said...

Now this is the opinion I agree with.

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