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Sunday, 14 May 2017

People who have only sex to offer in relationships are the ones who get jealous & suspicious - Alibaba

As Comedian/Motivational speaker, Alibaba, shared via Instagram this morning.
"People who have only sex to offer are the ones who get jealous, suspicious and quarrelsome. You know why? Because they know that you might go out one day and find someone who has more than sex to offer. So what does that leave them? So they start to put their spouse in the defensive.
Go take a critical look at most of those relationships where the guy or babe has only one thing to offer, they will keep talking of security. They want reassurances always. Tell me you love. Promise you will not leave me. Are you sure you are not playing with me? Am I the only one in your life? Do you really love me? Are you tired of this relationship? Do you still love me? .... blah blah blah! When all you have is a hammer everything is a nail. That is what sums up these kind of people. That explains why they get so angry when you are away from them for so long. Their only stake in the relationships needs to be activated regularly to remain relevant in the scheme of things and in their spouses thoughts.

"That also explains why many who marry because the sex is good, find out later that good sex doesn't pay bills. Neither does it cook, run the home, guarantee respect, make your spouse a person you can rub minds with and not skin. You see you may not know it, but I will tell you, you may be extremely beautiful. That is good. But like sex, if that beauty is all there is to you, in the relationship, the day that beauty is discounted by someone else who has brain and beauty body and cooking skills, with a good dose of home management, last last na modeling agency go need you. So you are a guy, and all you have in your value proposition brief case is muscles. Hiaaaaam. No common sense. Nothing else. So Iet's look at the sex sef... after a while, its bargaining value in the relationships could diminish. When that happens what will be your new bargaining chip? Same goes for cash. I know a top society lady who married a big time Lagos big boy, when she knew he was in bad times, she vamoosed! And went to kids for another man. How could she? She could, and she did. Some people too, if the marry you because of your Dad's political office, when the term of office is running out, they run out too."

30 comments:

merryfrancee said...

So on point!!..

Eddy Ogbunambala said...

Eziokwu

Asoge Atelier said...

so true. its most times out of fear of loosing the person.

Chisom Ada said...

Extremely and vividly inspirational my big brother. God bless you.

Habib Kuti said...

On point but there are some people that pampered their partner with money and gift but when the demon in them surface its gbam. I think low self and insecurity is their main probs.

nSI CAn said...

"Rub minds and not just body:"..I hope a lota ladies will realize dudes need women who can think and manage and still remain humble..Those days, our girls were readers. these days, the beautiful ones want to snap boobs and ass and upload. The ones that have BRAINS want to be equal with their HUSBANDS. TOLERANCE has been LOST. What we have is - if your HUSSY does A, leave that marriage!..no wonder marriages no longer last!.. While Ladies need to really learn from their mum how to manage a HOME, dudes need to REALIZE that alcohol and concubines are not ur source of HAPPINESS...FAMILY IS EVERYTHING!..LET'S LEARN FROM OUR ROOTS "TOLERANCE, HUMILITY, RESPECT AND FORGIVENESS"

Anonymous said...

U make sense

Anonymous said...

NIGERIANS ARE VERY DAFT. PLS STICK TO YOUR DEAD COMEDY. YOUNGER COMEDIAN ARE EVEN FAR BETTER THAN YOU. HOW ABOUT CELEBRITY RELATIONSHIPS CRASHING WORLDWIDE. WHERE EVERY THING IS AVAILABLE IN THE MARRIAGE.

MY BROTHER, IT JUST TAKES MATURITY, MINUS EGO, PLUS, SELFLESS EFFORTS FROM BOTH PARTIES, UNDERSTANDING AND GOOD LUCK TO HAVE A HAPPY MARRIAGE.

WHO SAYS ANYONE IS DEPENDENT ON SEX TO KEEP A MARRIAGE. THATS THE DUMBEST THING IVE HEARD. PEOPLE NEVER GET MARRIED BECAUSE OF GREAT SEX. I DONT KNOW OF ANYONE. MAYBE YOU DO? MAYBE YOU DID. PEOPLE CHEAT AND HAVE SIDE RELATIONSHIPS BECAUSE OF SEX. DUDE. WAKE UP ALIBABA, GO AND FIND YOUR FORTY THIEVES AND A GOOD GENIE AND MAKE US GOOD JOKES. KEEP IT THAT WAY AND FORGET PHILOSOPHY OR PSYCHOLOGY.

EVERYBODY FOR NAIJA WANTS TO EMPHASIZE THEIR THOUGHT BECAUSE THEY ARE POPULAR. MSCHEEEEEWWW! EWU GAMBIA SAYS SO! P.S. PLS SPIT OUT WATS IN YOUR MOUTH AND STOP TAKING IRRITATING PHOTOS. NO BE BECAUSE OF MONEY YOU MARRY YOUR WIFE? MUGU!!

Anonymous said...

OGA ALI BABA!!! I LIKE AND RESPECT YOU WELL WELL BUT YOU MISSED THIS ONE!!!! YOU NOR MAKE SENSE FOR THIS THOUGHT WAY YOU SHARE TODAY WAHALAHI!!!!! YOU NOR MAKE SENSE AT ALL!!!!! COS THIS YOUR POINT OF VIEW IS TOTALLY SKEWED......... YOU YOURSELF WAS VERY SUSPIOSUS OF YOUR OTHER "JAMO" WIFEY AT A POINT IS THAT TO SAY ALL YOU HAD TO OFFER WAS ONLY SEX? ..........

Anonymous said...

NsiCan EVEN MADE SENSE. YOUR LAST SENTENCE IS GREAT...MUTUALLY! EWU GAMBIA SAID SO

Agbomen said...

Truth!! It never hurts, bitter yes! But it never hurts. Tnk you sir. There is sooo much more to a relationship than SEX. Yes!!! It must be there, esp in marriage

But it's not and should not be all there is to a relationship

It won't hold forever. And we all want forever in marriage, at least, I know i do. Bring more to the equation. Both parties.

Opara Chikodili Nwanne said...

U got it

Anonymous said...

nyx one bro.

Vivian Reginalds said...

shut up!
-D great anonymous now as Vivian Reginalds

Anonymous said...

odiegwu...if u like offer 1millon things to a man apart from sex,he can still go & cheat so leav that thing...am married with kids & a good job & i know my worth & what i contribute but i still get scared & jealous so leav matter...once u love sumone,u must be scared & jealous

Anonymous said...

Dearest Alibaba. You are absolutely correct. Fantastically true. This man is intelligent. I advise all to take it this to the bank.

Anonymous said...

Oga abeg stop saying rubbish, once u love a man n care for him, u r bound to get jealous, even christ himself is a jealous God!!!

Anonymous said...

I said it b4 and now again any man or woman who does not obey God in truth(sincerity) can cheat in a marriage relationship. So if you want a happy and peaceful marriage make God the foundation of your marriage.He is the one that instituted marriage.All these other suggestions can not work.90% of men and women that don't serve God in truth cheat.If you like be a pastor.

Joy Osemeke said...

I concur

Anonymous said...

Timely Oga Ali, Debb n Bass take note!

Kingsly Anyaegbu said...

Nice one bro...hw I wish I have a younger sis,i could've given u her number immediately

Anonymous said...

The reason why most marriages fail in Nigeria is very easy. 1)... Promiscuity. If a husband and wife can determine to remain faithful to each other and not soil their marital bed, i tell u most marriages will survive. 2)... Gone are the days women were slaves in marriages, our parents marriage lasted cos our mothers endured domestic violence and other abuses silently. And most men go into marriage expecting their wife to be as quiet as his mother and take all the crap he brings. Dear men, time has changed, women are empowered everyday and are more wiser, u hardly see a woman who will take wat ur mother took from your father. So i think if people change their perspective of wat marriage used to be be and focus more on becoming a man or a woman u want ur daughter or son to marry will help bring down the divorce rate by at least 20%.

Anonymous said...

I really don't understand the attack on his person.He shared his viewpoint,you either agree or disagree.Why the insults and screams(caps)...the way you address others really says a lot about you.

Crush said...

For the first time I think I concur with you Mr alibaba

uniquechic said...

dats so true both parties enter marriage with diff mindset and find it hard to adjust..I just dont concur dat cos of sex u r prone to jealousy..
jealous streak is in every human..even a smallangers boy dat has his toy snatched by anoda is bound to be jealous talkless of grown ups..
so wots d bigdeal in needing reassurance..its part of a relatio ship and commitment.

Anonymous said...

Well spoken

Chibuzor Agasu said...

You are such a bitter person. I believe you have a personal problem with him but don't come here to carry out your hatred. If you read what he wrote very well, you will know he made a lot of sense. Celebrities marriage crash because of fake life styles and infidelity and because they want what they cannot afford. So please if I you do not know anyone who may married because of sex, u keep ur opinion to urself. Your write up tells a lot about you.

Anonymous said...

See Kettle calling Pot black.Hey!the only daft write-up I see here is yours. Seems like you forgot your medicine. Now U know what it feels like to go about insulting people for their opinions which of course they are entitled to just as you are entitled to urs. Slow poke, u need to get urself some anger management lessons. Ur maturity begins when u learn to argue/ drive ur points constructively without insulting people. Grow up kiddo.

Emy said...

Hahaha! @Ali, i feel u bros. The thing some libers that understand here is that there is an undertone to why baba shared his opinion. I feel u my guy. As humans, we garner more experience as we grow old. The life we live go teach u lessons. But God Almighty knew the end from the beginning and gave us a manual to follow. If u no follow am, na u sabi.

Whether we agree with me or not sex is key. if not, no need to marry. Children are what we get when we have sex, make love or have intercourse. But there comes a time when ur spouse will feel he or she is no longer satisfying or appealing to u.Fear creeps in and trust disappears doubt comes into play with ur emotions. As a man or wife u gat to prove beyond reasonable doubt that u love ur spouse not matter the case.

Anonymous said...

you should know that they have noting to offer but sex before u think of marring such a person,stop writing nonsense.stupid and childish say

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