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Thursday, 18 May 2017

"Men want to be treated like babies, so women should help them control their anger" - actress Empress Njamah

Speaking about Domestic Violence, Nollywood actress, Empress Njamah is of the opinion that women should help their partners control their anger rather than behave headstrong at all times.

This she stated in a new interview with Broadway TV, saying some ladies actually traumatize their partners mentally, rather than care for them like the babies that they want to be treated as.

According to Njamah;
"I would say this, we are talking about domestic violence and this is very serious. A man hits a woman, it's domestic violence, a woman hits a man, what is it called? No seriously, I love the topic. We are always about domestic violence and then it's all about the woman. Do you know that there are men who are more beaten up mentally than the women who they beat physically? I am not saying it's advisable but the truth of the matter is sometimes some women are headstrong and they can actually traumatize their partner mentally. They can actually make them run mad and they probably do not where they probably just hit. A lot of things happen in marriages, it is not a bed of roses. I'm not saying it's good, but sometimes you need to work together to help the man. If the man is naturally a wife beater or woman beater, you can actually help the man out of it. Her probably must have experienced a lot of things growing up. He must have seen one or two things and inculcated it. But sometimes lets just not put in on the man alone. If a woman hits a man, what is it called? That's why  overseas you see women beat the guys but they can't do anything because they don't want to go to jail. There are women who beat men up.
"Women help the men as well, help them control their anger and also help them to do things, so that everything can actually fall in place. If your husband tells you, hey I think this thing you are doing is too much and you are headstrong, and sometimes their friends could actually advise them wrongly. A man would not just marry you if he's not in love with you, but when you get into marriage, it's a different ball game. Basically, it's a two way thing, Work together and ..it's not a big deal. Most times these woman push the women into doing things, most times the men are headstrong, stubborn, have experienced stuff, frustrated or it could be any of them. But that's why you are married for better for worse. Work together and then help the man if that's the kind of person he is. And if a woman is that kind of person, stop it. That's why sometimes you see men leave marriage(s) and go marry someone else because they don't want to hit the woman or divorce. So they get a second wife who will pet them. Men are babies. They want to be treated like babies. That's the truth."

62 comments:

Chi N said...

Kkooo

OSINANL said...

AND SHE COULDN'T TREAT TIMAYA LIKE A BABY

Alloy Chikezie said...

Warreva! Domestic violence is wrong.

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Onwa Okonkwo said...

May God bless this lady for this amazing write up. Perfect truth.

Anonymous said...

Madam you are on point I'll like to marry Ethiopian cos they are truly a wife material

GALORE said...

Is this lady alright?



Or I should open your "book"


Shay @Timaya no beat you like mad wen u were both dating? ...why u no stay with am?


If you want to trend on social media.... Please use your brain @Empress Opolo eye






@Galore

Anonymous said...

I can relate with what empress is saying, she's right even though there are still men out there who are naturally animals, if am a man I will go for empress she's really a wife material, now I see why timaya wanted to die for her matter.

Anonymous said...

I can relate with what empress is saying, she's right even though there are still men out there who are naturally animals, if am a man I will go for empress she's really a wife material, now I see why timaya wanted to die for her matter.

Anonymous said...

God bless you. Tell them.

Jenny Gbanite said...

lol mumu
is why timaya beat away her acting career

Anonymous said...

Clearly Empress you are one of the people that speak good English but don't understand it . Domestic violence is not interpreted as a man hits a woman . Domestic violence can be a woman beating up her child too . It's a general theme . Women too have killed their husbands due to domestic violence too . The point is stop domestic violence whether it's a man hits a woman or a woman hits a man or parent hitting their kids ,...

K BABA said...

That is a wise word for the women God will give you more wisdom.

Roman God said...

😏

Anonymous said...

Timaya come and carry your babe oo,she wants to calm you down now ooo

Anonymous said...

mtcheew....such uncoordinated write-up. madam you know all these naim you still never marry. keep treating them like babies. mgbada ochie di ka gi!!! mtcheeeeee

Vivian Reginalds said...

yeye
-D great anonymous now as Vivian Reginalds

Anonymous said...

Gbammest!!!! Great one empress ...that is the only way DV can reduce to it's barest minimum...but I know alot of evil women will come here to attack her...

Anonymous said...

Someone just hit d nail on d head...thank u njamah. d truth is alwaz bitter.

Mr. Long said...

Why I condemn the domestic violence, and have being reading series of reactions to this issue, I believe this woman is d only person I have seeing making real and unbiased statement. One, it takes two to tango. No man will sincerely tell a woman he loves her, went to the extent of paying her dowry to make her his wife and suddenly turned her to a punching bag. Something must have gone wrong somewhere. And like she has said, let find how what went wrong, first from the woman, perhaps, this will help other women and put stop to this popular infamous domestic violence.

abena golden said...

I agree with Empress. In as much as I'm against domestic violence against women, some women also do not have control with their mouth. I know a couple who the woman speaks to the man distespectively. The wife in question nags about every little thing. Although in all her bad behaviour, the man never raised his hand against her. That is what love conquers, tolerance and patience. You can't love a woman and raise your hand against her. But truth be told also, as some men are violent, so are some women. They can nag a man to hell. And what I don't understand is why people court before marriage and pretend not to notice each others weaknesses. Women, marriage is not to endure but to enjoy. The essence of courtship is to study the parties behaviour, if you choose to close your eyes against any bad behaviours you end up breaking up after marriage.

dee boi said...

No wonder she and timaya dey craze for public... dee

Anonymous said...

Second wife things loading for Empress. I see it coming soon, marriage adviser wey never marry before. When the time comes don't come to social media and cry

Anonymous said...

I don't understand what she is saying. But is she married?

Anonymous said...

Treat a man like a baby? Are you high on something? If a man is treated like a baby that means he will no longer be the head of the family. Nne just pray your man doesn't hit you. A man that beats a woman I call him horseback. I say No to domestic violence.

Vivian Emaduku said...

I saw how you treated Timaya like a baby. We will come back to this topic when you get married, as for now I rest my case.

It's me again said...

And that's why you are still single. The babies you are looking for are still in nursery school

Emi David said...

Mature and unbiased disposition.

Anonymous said...

I respect u for dis

Anonymous said...

Like the way you treated Timaya and keep him away from storming the church to retrieve his car from you? Men wants to be treated like babies my foot! Auntie, a pig remains a pig irrespective of where its placed! A violent person (Man or Woman) remains violent irrespective of how s/he is pampered. Do you hold a coal of fire in your hands and hope that by pampering it like an egg it won't burn you? #SayNoToDomesticViolence

Anonymous said...

You are absolutely correct. It will definitely lead to long lasting relationship. Thank you.

Anonymous said...

Mumu talk. soh annoying

Samuel Orisakwe said...

Did she beat Timaya or Timaya beat her? Fool. That Girl is well brought up with all what she said here pls, Naturally Woman beater if sees u on de road n starts to beat u n tell u he wants to marry will u marry him? That Girl has Father n Mother pls

Samuel Orisakwe said...

Amen my brother he is from Home pls

Temi Johnson said...

God will bless you nd give u a good man. Thnks for sayin d truth.....

Anonymous said...

She is very correct if ur against it simply go and drink raw and corrossive acid!

Samuel Orisakwe said...

Very alright she is from Home, that's de only way u will no person from pls n Home where Mama n Papa bring u up together no Ashawo children that ar talking rubbish here like ur Juliet Ibrahim from her name self u will no say na product of broken home may u too.

Samuel Orisakwe said...

Like u or Father? Naturally Animal so if sister bring Home animal as Husband will approve pls think b4 u open ur gutter

Ushie Blessing said...

K

Emi David said...

Y do u hide under d cloak of anonymity to celebrate your stupidity?

Kiama Ibe said...

Empress, lemme ask you a very simple question. How many men have you dated in your life?
You treat dem like babies before dem run dey leave you? You too folo dem dey run. See her mouth. See Empress Njamah, no make me vex talk waitin you no go like hear oooo

Anonymous said...

You that is not a product of a broken home clap for yourself. I thank God for you.

Anonymous said...

You that is not a product of a broken home clap for yourself. I thank God for you.

CHERYL (aka FROM GLORY to GLORY) said...

Stupid talk from someone who's not married, mychewww

Long live LIB

Anonymous said...

Treat a husband like a baby right? You must be out of your damn mind.

Anonymous said...

So do you beat your wife sir? And are you looking for justification cos there's none. Why do you think people who condemn violence aren't from a "home" and people applauding it are?.

Anonymous said...

Treat a husband like a baby right? You must be out of your damn mind.

Big Don said...

Empress I love u today, I wished u were still single I would have married u immediately with this kind of post is obvious you are a vetious woman that the bible talked about well done hope women will learn

Agbomen said...

Your comment is so on point and I couldn't hv made a better one. DV is abominable, but some women are the limit, and infact perpetuate the violence with their mouth. It's terrible!

Agbomen said...

Empress has made a point and a valid one, whether you choose to understand it the way she meant it, is a different story. I think bottom line, what she is trying to say is respect, honor and pamper your husband. And all should be well, even though there's still a few of men with their own demon's, and no matter how much you do, they will still perpetuate violent. Those ones you can't help, they just need therapy.

chioma umeh said...

Go to hell Empress abi na express road?.help them out how? Can u listen to urself? If u done divorce her officially , dont beat. Th

JJ said...

You are truly a big fool.

Anonymous said...

Empress Shane Shane shame on you..You think that all those married men you are following in Abuja love you cos they lie to you that thier wives don't pet them...keep petting useless men side chick and see if you would become a living wife someday...shame shame ...i hope you are this

Julie Jack said...

If she knows so much about relationship why is she still single. Mtchewwwwwww

Anonymous said...

Kai,old desperate women wld say anytin against dier folks jst to win admiration frm men n get hooked n sm mumu guys hre r fallin fr it

Anonymous said...

Mrs Solomon,O wise one...so ur such a relationship expert n ur single at almost 40...hw many men hv u breatfed n treatd like toddlers yet dey didnt marry u n still dumped ur ugly ass

Anonymous said...

Thank u my dear. Treat him like a baby??? Hell my mom nagged me to death when I was a baby. Empress pls use all this ur knowledge of how to hold a man to actually Catch and keep a man. Then Come back in 5yrs time.

Anonymous said...

Thank u. With this knowledge u should be married and keeping a man empress. U look on the outside and judge. If I need a baby I will have one. Not marry one

Anonymous said...

Thanks for this. Really she should have treated timaya like a baby. Idiot unmarried girl just opening her mouth to talk.

Anonymous said...

Kiama thank u. She sabi treat them well yet she no fit hook them.

Anonymous said...

Good question. Oya empress answer

Sam said...

Empress, although i see reason in what you said but it still doesnt justify a man to beat up his wife mercilessly. Men should also learn to control their temper by themselves & stop waiting for women to help them control their temper all the time. Women also love being pampered too. As u said, marraige is a two way thing. It is not supposed to be one sided. If the man wants to be pampered, he should also learn to pamper his wife too. It is a give and take affair not a take and take affair. Thanks

Anonymous said...

Dont mind Empress. She is supporting men because she is looking for husband

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