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Saturday, 13 May 2017

Lady who abandoned her fiancé at the altar in 2015, opens up about the reason behind her action

Bunmi has sparked a debate on twitter after opening up about why she abandoned her fiancé at the altar in November 2015, after all preparations had been made. According to her, she was pressurized by her family into accepting his marriage proposal and it all blew up in her face when she discovered she couldn't stop crying on her wedding day.

She said she was 30 years old and her family members pressured her into saying yes when he proposed. She liked the guy but not enough to marry him and asked her family to give her time but they refused.


Locking herself in the bathroom and eventually dividing the family as some supported her, while her own father was against it, Bunmi eventually informed her husband to be, through a phone call, that the marriage was cancelled while he was waiting for her at the altar. See more of her tweets and tell us what you think.

131 comments:

Taiwo Esther said...

She's not mentally stable of not when the two families agreed to pick a date she couldn't tell them she doesn't want it abi wait and see God will judge

Anonymous said...

Bunmi! Take heart, be of good courage. Those who make it their problem, to cause you problems, because you refuse to be unhappy, those who want to force unhappiness on you, to prove their point, will receive the fruits of their labour.

One thing they prove, is that your wellbeing never mattered to them in the first place. It takes time, but you will heal, and you will find peace and happiness, your conscience will be clear, because you did not live a lie, nor a life of deception.

You are brave, and you are an inspiration.

samuel Ezebuchi said...

You are possessed n married in d spirit world...Simple!

hrm paul said...

I don't suport u marry whom u don't love but for u to make d guy spend moni invite his friends den u disgrace him in front of his family his friends relatives colleagues haba ur mean and wicked u will get ur reward.y make him put in everything only for u to cancel last minute u would have told dis guy u are not interested dude spent moni buying u gown spent a lot during dis recession am sure u have been eating his moni he has been spending on u and ur family yet u gave him hope only to dash it na dis kind thing dey make guy commit suicide u cannt get empathy from us uinstead we will show d guy empathy he is d victim here.

kisbykay (Travelling Agency) said...

My dear, it's better you didn't go through with it, else it would have been miserable for you.

Anonymous said...

You did the right thing. Though hard and sad.

Anonymous said...

Madam,that's wickedness.u never thought about it till that day,y allowed the poor man go on with the preparations.. Imagine the disgrace and heartache..even the money he must have spent on you.u shouldn't have accepted the ring in the first place.no one forced you! I hope u had the heart to ask for forgiveness.

ikeoluwa said...

bunmi bum bum indeed....smh

Ammy Bee said...

It's her life. They won't help her live it. Please ignore them. When they are tired. They will free u.

RareSpecie Z said...

Bitch pls.

Asoge Atelier said...

bunmi u did well. no one will be miserable with you. they will only tell u they know how u feel of which they don't. self sincerity is the best gift anyone could give him/herself and humanity. Being sincere with your self, you've done that guy a greater good than he can imagine. He might be hurt for a time being but the truth of your self sincerity will come around with him forgiving and understanding why u acted that way

E-hug darling

obiora said...

So why are you telling us now? You want to trend again abi? Werey! Why didn't you run to an unknown destination during the wedding arrangements or better still tell the man you don't love him. You had to wait till the wedding day before locking yourself in the Bathroom. The thunder that will fire you will definitely come with doctor's prescription : one in the morning, two in the night.

Anonymous said...

So where are u now? Married or still single? Anyways, the earlier the better. But u shldnt hv waited till d wedding day to back off cos I dont think he just proposed 2day n fixed d wedding that same day or week or month...sogbo?

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Anonymous said...

What kind of mumu story is dis..he didnt do anything I jst didnt like him bla bla bla but u bought wedding gown n waited for d d day to tell him?Ode

Hammed Animashaun said...

Nonsense!!

Emy said...

Anyway your story na for the gods but the man sef no dey think? u wan to marry bunmi 'BUM BUM'?

Ijanyi Mitch said...

That's the best decision u ever made for urself

FredLaw said...

Ode ni yen. Poor guy. Why agree in the first place? You did the right thing by choosing your happiness but did u have to wreck someone else's life in the process? Did he propose at gunpoint? Doesn't make sense abeg. From the day u said 'yes' to the wedding eve, you didn't call it off, it's on d d-day u decided to receive sense.

Adeyinka Adeagbo said...

hmmm...































Jesusiscomingsoon. Beware!

here is how to get a big penis said...

okay. that is her own cup of tea.

Chukwu Cindy said...

Her choice though after all she has bum bum

Saphire Muna said...

Why, waiting till the wedding day? Not cool

Anonymous said...

You were wrong and ur family was wrong. You should have braced up before the wedding and walked away. My friend just told her mother to stop calling her cos the mother is forcing her on man. Don't make last minute decisions that affect others-Newyorker

Notedlifestyles Blog said...

Hmmm did you have to go that far huh? Wow it's kinda hard to say but you kinda did the right thing but in a wrong time it's difficult to say no when he proposed but people's opinion shouldn't count yours count and now u had to call it, all off at the key moment.

Anonymous said...

I feel sorry for u. At 30 people made u agree? Work on yourself gal. In the olden days ppl are arranged. We are just too sekfish. It is better to marry a man that adores u dn one u adore but is not reciprocal. I think you were selfish and self centred. Inability to love another human beign was your problem. God help u. Poor guy i feel his pain , but God usually compensates such ppl with the best, because his hands are clean

Notedlifestyles Blog said...

Hmmm did you have to go that far huh? Wow it's kinda hard to say but you kinda did the right thing but in a wrong time it's difficult to say no when he proposed but people's opinion shouldn't count yours count and now u had to call it, all off at the key moment.

O-Ice said...

Well, she thought about it, but family pressure cancelled her thoughts. Sad that she finally found the courage at the last minute but good for her. Better late than never. The guy is clearly the losing victim here, I really feel for him. That said, I don't think the lady did this out of wickedness. Sometimes, sh*t just happens.

VICTOR OLISEH ONATOLA said...

God will let this kind of thing happen to ur brother too, then you will know whether what she did was good. Ewu

GellyB said...

Nonsense

O-Ice said...

Na lie, thunder won't fire her anytime, anywhere. Leave her alone jare. Babe found courage at the last minute. Sad, but fine. That's how society will be forcing people into lives of misery. I feel for the guy, but it's better to be jilted at the altar than to be saddled with a sad, disgruntled wife. Trust me, it would have been a marriage of mutual unhappiness. Before you know it, the wife will start nagging, the husband will start beating. Abeg you people should leave Bunni alone o. She did the right thing, even though at the wrong time. But it's better late than never.

Anonymous said...

Bunmi i really commend your courage to stand by words and ur feelings. Nobody could have understood u better in this situation. Only the few that has undergone such experience could tell. Your situation would have been worse if you'd acted otherwise. it's good to stay firm on what makes you happy now than going into a marriage that can render you sad for the rest of your life.

Femi Okewole said...

Lol @ the thunder that will strike u...

O-Ice said...

She said she was being pressurized by her family. Please read the full story before dragging her to the cross.

Toy baby said...

Why!!!! It shouldn't be dat day now. It is a right decision at a wrong time.

Anonymous said...

If its a guy that did this the story will be different. She has every reason to say no but her timing is malicious and wicked to say the least. Go ask God and the guys family for forgiveness cos if they curse you it will stick

jim kerry said...

Dear bunmi, if you had used the same effort and courage you used in stopping the marriage to stop the fixing of the date you'd av escaped my insult. Stupid idiot.

O-Ice said...

According to her story, she agreed due to family pressure. Now, nobody is talking about that - how family and society will be pushing young people into choices they will later regret. I feel for the guy o, but how come he wasn't perceptive enough to notice she was unhappy in the relationship? Is it possible he was just busy spending money on the girl's family? If you really love her, shouldn't you have cared about her happiness. Abeg let's stop villifying the poor babe jare. She's been through a lot already. May God heal and help both the guy and the lady.

O-Ice said...

Yeah, not cool. But the answer to your question is there in her story.

Highly-Favoured said...

She did the right thing. My mother pressurized me into a marriage that ended 3 months later. I just couldn't cope. I wish i had walked away b4 the wedding.

muoka jossy said...

Yes u wanted to be happy and all, i understand. If only u called this guy and spoke to him abt how u feel abt the whole tin earlier b4 u went that far am sure he will understand but u went on to act nollywood now u think God will forgive u...this is d point i lost respect for u. Foolish human being thats y they insult ladies and call 'em brainless sometimes (no disrespect to the ladies)

Joyous babe, Linda Ikeji FIrst Cousin said...

Some parents thou, why force an adult into smthing she does not want, no worry u be fine.

Vivian Reginalds said...

hmm
-D great anonymous now as Vivian Reginalds

Anonymous said...

Now are you happy? You are only but foolish and insensitive.

kas Igies said...

Why did she wait till the very day of the wedding?

Anonymous said...

God bless you. You took right out of my mouth. Bunch God bless you for being brave. Was in that situation, but wasn't brave enough to say no and now am not happy.

Anonymous said...

I felt the same way on my own wedding day about 5 years ago. If not for my younger sister who kept encouraging me and pointing out the positive sides of my husband and why the cost to me and my husband, I would have absconded. I doubted if any man that hears this will want to marry me. It depicts an unstable mind. so I went ahead.

But today, I am the luckiest woman alive to have married my husband. Michelle Obama isn't even close to being as lucky as I am. I just thank God that I said yes on that beautiful day.

Unlike Bunmi, I considered the aftermath of absconding, the shame it would have brought to both families and the cost of putting up that wedding and my sister's encouragement to go ahead with it.

Cold feet happens but rationality is important. Why come that far till the wedding day just to ruin it all?

Anonymous said...

BETTER LATE THAN NEVER -THE TRUTH IS A BITTER PILL TO SWALLOW, BUT THIS IS YOUR LIFE, I REPEAT YOUR LIFE, THOUGH IT CAME A BIT LATE, HAD YOU PAID ATTENTION TO ALL THE SIGNS, BUT YOU HAVE DONE THAT GROOM TO BE A HUGE FAVOR AND YOURSELF FIRST MOST IMPORTANTLY. IN THIS DAY AND AGE, THESE PEOPLE THAT ARE HATING YOU WILL LEAVE YOU OUT COLD WHEN THE GOING GETS ROUGH, SO PLEASE LIVE YOUR LIFE FORWARD. AT LEAST NOW YOU KNOW YOUR REAL LOVERS OF YOU, FROM THE SELFISH SELF-CENTERED ONES.

Anonymous said...

BETTER LATE THAN NEVER -THE TRUTH IS A BITTER PILL TO SWALLOW, BUT THIS IS YOUR LIFE, I REPEAT YOUR LIFE, THOUGH IT CAME A BIT LATE, HAD YOU PAID ATTENTION TO ALL THE SIGNS, BUT YOU HAVE DONE THAT GROOM TO BE A HUGE FAVOR AND YOURSELF FIRST MOST IMPORTANTLY. IN THIS DAY AND AGE, THESE PEOPLE THAT ARE HATING YOU WILL LEAVE YOU OUT COLD WHEN THE GOING GETS ROUGH, SO PLEASE LIVE YOUR LIFE FORWARD. AT LEAST NOW YOU KNOW YOUR REAL LOVERS OF YOU, FROM THE SELFISH SELF-CENTERED ONES.

tsalz said...

Who b dis o ice abeg

tsalz said...

Glad u re trending again abi. I pray d man u love does dis to u on ur wedding day. Pussy head

Anonymous said...

O-ice you've been commenting on everything here, seems you're the Bunmi person.
Though she was correct in deciding not to go through with it, the timing is wicked. So she suddenly got all the confidence to refuse after all preparations and money had been spent? She embarrassed the unfortunate groom.
And by the way, if it has reached the alter level means she has done traditional wedding and maybe registry, if that's the case she is already married to the man and her action was purely malicious and mean spirited.

Anonymous said...

I married who i loved
I married a dick head
I married a wicked man
I married man who leaves me lonely
I married a man who doesnt care how i feel
I married a man who wont make love to me
I married a man who is not moved by my tears
I married a man who finds pleasure in dirty girls out there
He married a good girl just for making babies
Life is unfair
#Rant#iamtired

Samson Asekomhe said...

some people that are married today, so wished they were bold enough to back down. I love your courage. God bless you joor.

Richard Okeze said...

Bunmi,if the decision you took was what you really want, then stand by it,cos you ve just given ur self ur live back.Bravo

Anonymous said...

Pressure, and with how she's been treated, you can see why. Sometimes people need to stop trying to push people, into situations they themselves wouldn't want for themselves.

That simple. She did what she had to do, marriage isn't the beginning and end of the world.

Linda, do more to help women like this.

james samuel said...

you are goat...... did he propse at gun point abi u both never had time to talk abt you relationship... After dsigracing him and his family on th wedding n u expect to find a good man to marry when ur ready... the man doesnt nid to curse u, d law of karma wud naturally folllow u...

hrm paul said...

Victor God bless u joor for every idiot that supports dis girl same thing will be done to your brother ur uncle ur cousin and ur son last minute d girl will cancel and lets see if it's sweet or not

Anonymous said...

O-ice ,don't be foolish...to think she got sized up to sow her wedding gown,she had her own bridal train ,Aso ebi and stuff...trust me this are plans of atleast 6months prior to the weddinG. ..this bride is indeed wicked and there's a reason she had no lover of her own till 30yrs old...bow she's 32...IJN she will be single till 40 and end.....rubbish girls of this generation tho.

Anonymous said...

O ice this will happen to ur brothers and u will feel only small of such humiliation...and to even think she's talking about it again after 2yrs the shamed man moved on....if he has another babe right now,this wereey is rubbing salt on d wound af.....

Anonymous said...

I got married under very similar circumstances seven yesrs ago. Family pressure no be here o! I didnt have the courage to back out. Now every one else is living their lives. Seven years later im still not yet in love with him. They said love would come.... A broken engagement is waaaaay better than divorce!

Anonymous said...

This o ice must be a sadist. .u must have a terrible relationship story and happy to find a partner in crime now...d way ur celebrating this stupid lady is on another level..... I'm sure there's nothing positive bout urself

Anonymous said...

Best comment so far....imagine ..Bunmi bum bum ?? Tht one na wife material ?

hrm paul said...

O ice thunder fire u and d girl.may this kind of thing happen to you, happen to your brothers your uncles ur friends and ur son.last minute d girls will cancel and lets see if it's sweet.wen d girl dey chop d guy moni she no run hide under toilet wen she collect moni buy asoebi do trad she no hide wen she collect moni buy gown she no hide for toilet wen she dey wack d boy moni she no hide abi last minute she run the thunder way go fire dis girl still dey sambisa dey com.now I know y some boys murder som girls imagine d ridicule d shame and disgrace she put this boy thru in d presence of his parents families colleagues relations and well wisher thunder fire dis girl

Anonymous said...

Bunmi bum bum ...tht one na wife material ? God real saved d man .... some of us forced ourselves to marry women we deeply loved even after lots of signs from heaven...today we r regretting it...I think this Bunmi here would have been bad luck to d man....her actions then and now speaks volume of her type of woman .... na suevgbe she be

Emeka Izuogu said...

O-Ice so na you be Bunmi Bum Bum...

What you did was very daft and wicked,I won't be surprised if by 45 your still not married..

So,Bitch Please fuck outta here

hrm paul said...

Ur mother did not pressure u stop lying it was ur marine husband dat wrecked ur marriage olodo

Anonymous said...

This generation is quite d opposite ...I think it's better for a man to marry a woman who adores him,otherwise he will spend d rest of his life trying to please the foolish women of this generation and social media will never let her see satisfaction.....men should marry women who adore them and make them feel like a real man..trust me d woman will be equally worshipped especially behind her back by d man forever

hrm paul said...

Real stupid idiot sje com here dey talk thrash who she elp see as she just give dis young man mega disgrace thunder fire d girl at 30 dem dey force u to marry way u go talk say na. Ur marine husband scatter d marriage she goat

grande master said...

Sometimes when we see stupid, we should just call it stupid, no justification at all.. right decision wrong time, very wrong time, I guess it was stupid of Bunmi bum bum. Thank God for the guy, Godforbid but it happens to me.. I will go on my knees and thank God, all this kind wife may end up cheating on husband, God has just saved him from the unknown, stupid gyal, husband go hard you find.

godwin peter said...

I was expecting u to tell us the story with another guy that is taking u to altar. I believed you're still single and searching. You're 32 now, don't worry, when you're 40yrs that's when you'll start having feeling for that innocent guy. *Unam ikot*

Light Watch said...

why wait till the wedding day to say no?

Afrocandy caught on camera giving blow job to 90 year old man

Daughters of Jezebel.

Fisayo Popoola said...

Poor guy. The timing wasn't right. It should've come earlier. Not when the world is waiting for the deal to happen. The guy will certainly be scared of walking down the isle again. Bunmi, just keep being a runaway bride. That might be your talent.

puke Tosin said...

This really cracked me up.

miss chika Duchess said...

Lol...u guys r so very funny​..d truth is dis...she still had right even till d vry last minute at d altar...d covenant of marriage is a very strong tin...is deeper Dan anything u can tink of...lemme put dis way...is nt for fun when d priest ask u in d altar even after all d series Marriage counseling ....will u so so....he is still giving u a chance to back out if u wan...bt u all feel is for fun...is nt ..is Dat serious...she nt guilty guys tho bitter bt d truth is dis a broken rship is better Dan a broken Marriage anytime anyday...bumi...u did d right tin..I pray ur missing rib locate u soon... nothing like karma...u no it when u see him...I wish u d vry best love...huggs

puke Tosin said...

That day was just wrong to say you no longer interested. At 30 she said dey dragged her into it? Me I'm even happy that d sweet and nice guy didn't end up with a confused lady like her. My only wish is that her next fiancee should just decide to have a rethink when his about to put the ring on her finger so she can feel what he felt then apologize 2months later and marry her

Agbomen said...

What she did was terrible. Yes! it's her life, but it's also someone else's too. I know pple will say better late than never, but it culd hv been a bit earlier. Not the D day. The time was wrong, even a day before, would hv been better. The courage she finally found that day, why didn't she find it earlier. No amount of pressure shd make you do this to another human being. She has traumatized that guy for life. He'll get over it, but it will leave a scar for life. She hurt someone in the most terrible way possible. That guy may need therapy to move on. She Humiliated, embarrassed, hurt his emotions and damaged his self esteem. It's selfishness to think, it's just about you, no it's not!!! Had she broken off 48hr b4 wedding day, she may hv had my sympathy.

puke Tosin said...

Did you just say young @ 30?

puke Tosin said...

That day was just wrong to say you no longer interested. At 30 she said dey dragged her into it? Me I'm even happy that d sweet and nice guy didn't end up with a confused lady like her. My only wish is that her next fiancee should just decide to have a rethink when his about to put the ring on her finger so she can feel what he felt then apologize 2months later and marry her

Anonymous said...

This is Nigeria and I believe that most if not all Nigerian weddings come after traditional marriages. Some churches wldnt even wed u without getting a confirmation that a bride price had been paid so is it that Madam Bunmi and her ex just got up and decided to wed in church without having done the trad and if they actually did, her not going on with the wedding doesn't mean there was no marriage. Except what was done traditionally was nullified, those two are still legally married.

Anonymous said...

maybe she wants to be a lesbian..that's how they behave!

Anonymous said...

No worry...u will finally end up with a boxer...that's if u dont end up single for the rest of your life...u will end up regretting how stupid u were

Anonymous said...

Bunmi I admire your courage! Folks the deed has been done and I know she does not send you all.... go face your own perfect life.... mscheeew

Holawalay Walex said...

30years old pressurised??? Even 18 yrs old ladies re more mature to know what they want and not,not even pressure, this lady didn't say what the issue really re,she is one of those that goes after married men,the family saw and wanted her to settle down , that was why they pressured her,she wanted to but one last married man came her way and she needed to finish the deal hence cancelled wedding that has been on plan for months.. Stupid girl,you think u re smart with ur cock and bull stories? I'm sure your bumbum is no more making u the money and calls from those married men..

kismet kiddies ENTZ said...

Hmmmmmmm @bunmi bumm bum,thank God u did it,and for those of you criticizn her here,may u trade your happiness for something else,sometimz w need to make a critical decision to put future in motion, how I wish I was bold enough to make such decision back then,mayb I w not end u this way,step in her shoe,then u think twice b4 u talk,shalom

9ja news said...

U should have stood on your ground instead of allowing that poor boy to spend money... U are too old to be given out just like that

Scontituz said...

I am surprised that some people are in support of what she did, saying that her happiness is more important and so on without considering the pain and trauma she has caused the man. This is wickedness in the highest degree, why did she wait until the wedding day? If she had the guts of have turned it down on the wedding day she ought to have had that same guts to have done it earlier. The life we live in today is all about sowing and reaping, if so, she will definitely reap what she has sown, that why it is always advisable to sow good seeds so that reaping will be pleasurable and not regrettable.

Anna said...

O-Ice are you related to bunmi bum bum???
Why are you all over,replying comments???

Olayinka Akinniku said...

I felt for you oooo,please be careful,happy mother's day

UG said...

You would have informed the groom to be & his family before the wedding day. At most ,you leave your father's house. Arranged marriage & Love marriage.

Anonymous said...

So many people wish they had done this. And even if she doesn't get married till after 40, what's the big deal? Bunch of myopic people.

ogbonna nwabueze said...

U said u were 30 years of age as at that time, so u are matured enough to make ur own decision. why Waite untill the eleventh hour to brake the young man's heart since you know from beginning that u don't love him enough to be ur husband.

Akingbade Solomon said...

NO WONDER AT 30 YOU NEVER SEE WHO YOU LOVE .OPONU...GOD WILL JUDGE YOU 100TIMES.. SINGLE YOU WILL REMAIN FOREVER BCUZ YUR GROOMS WILL ALWAYS RUN AWAY ON D WEDDING DAY WHENEVER YOU CHOOSE TO MARRY. APA..

O-Ice said...

Oga hrm Paul, a 30 year old lady is more likely to bow to family pressure than a 25 year old. There are two sides to this matter. One is from the perspective that the guy has been hurt, disgraced and embarrassed. Valid point, may God console, heal, and compensate him with someone even better. The second side is from a perspective that the lady was extremely unhappy to have made such an extreme decision. She would been more unhappy after the wedding and would have made that man very unhappy too. Or are we saying it would have been better if she had gone on with the wedding, then divorce the man few months later?

O-Ice said...

The most sensible point so far in criticism of the lady. But we don't know for sure if she tried to talk things out with the guy or not, do we?

Anonymous said...

Bunmi you're a strong woman! Wish I had your courage. I wanted to call off my wedding 19 years ago, but I couldn't because everything was set. Still Regret it. Its the biggest regret of my life. I put the happiness of my parents above mine. Well we're all regretting.

O-Ice said...

Maybe healing from that experience is more important to her than marrying for marrying sake. Don't you think she must have been hurt and broken by her decision also? You think she was very excited about what she did? In any case, if she was a marriage freak she would have married that guy anyway regardless of her feelings. So stop mocking her for still being single.

O-Ice said...

Hahahaha! So you think a lady that could harness the courage to do this will sit docile in a marriage where she is a boxer's punching bag? Abeg, let's be rational na, biko. And why do we often make it sound as if a lady being single above 35 is the worst thing that can ever happen? Isn't this part of the reason some men think they are doing the lady a favour when they propose or marry her?

O-Ice said...

The pressure at 30 is more intense and hard to resist than the pressure at 18. At least in this our Naija society.

Anonymous said...

I wish I can give u a rope right now so that u can hang and be forgotten.
U wicked soul Bunmi.

dj butterfly said...

If at 30 you still allow family decide for you then there is a serious problem. Am happy for the guy th it hurt him, he's gotten over you and moved on. Thank you fro saving him from future divorce. You should live your life and move on and stop dragging your arranged ex backwards. He night read your write up and remember the pains and shame he passed thru. Live your life and let him be pls

Esther Norah said...

I think at 30yrs above, u shod be able to stand ur ground. Buh if ur family is much stronger, having a heart to heart discussion with the man shod have been ur next plan abi u were not allowed to talk with him? The man wud hav been in d best position to stop d preparation and there is notin ur family wud hav done. Yes, it is better late dan never buh this is nig where money is a big deal. That guy n his family wud hav spent so much and even if d money wasn't an issue biko wit abt d embarrassment. So in conclusion, madam ur still to b blamed. Imagine this happening to ur son or brother, na u go curse d lady die. A at above 30, u still dey choose upandan. Since ur fam dint giv u time, u and d guy for elope and be wit urselves for a while to know weda it will work or not. Well gud luck to u and expect this in return. Period

Anonymous said...

Ahhhhhh. Why nah? Never wish your fellow humanbeing death

Anonymous said...

Me too. Wish I had the courage to walk away. Now I'm not happy in my marriage, the man is Gay. For years no sex. I'm getting ready for my exit.

Anonymous said...

Everyone is entitled to their own opinions o,some of you commenting have done worse,am not saying what she did was right,I myself feel for the jilted groom but come on!its her life,leave her alone

Anonymous said...

Hrm Paul u don't know what some married women are going through.
I am unhappy.
I married a cheat
A gay
Night crawler.
A wife beater
Trouble maker.
Don't ask me if I did date him he pocketed and hide it very well.

Wished I followed my instinct and had the courage to walk away too

Anonymous said...

The man should do thanksgiving to GOD for saving him from this wicked woman.
It is very easy for a wickedwoman to poison the husband men should becareful many have gone just like that!!! ..........anike

Adeyemi lanre said...

Oloshi lomo yi sha.. Funke! Funke!


If nobody slapped you on that day, they Fuck up. You really deserved one big dirty slap.

Anonymous said...

in my opinion,i would say u should av given it a chance since u waited till ur d wedding day..u might grow to love him with time considering ur age too but if it still dosent work,u can alwys divorce than just dosgracing him & urself infront of evryone...

Anonymous said...

Aunty Bunmi.... I pray the Lord leads you down the path you truly deserve. Just remember karma is a bitch with alligator teeth and she never forgets.

Anonymous said...

May the Almighty give you a barrel of sense

evy claret said...

'Senseless sense'
I doubt she has found happiness ever since, hence her coming out to rant now


Eva Da Diva...

Mr 47 said...

Seems like someone isn't attracted to opposite sex

evy claret said...

O-Ice (Bunmi), why are you trying so hard to defend what you did?

I thought you would be very happy that you are free


Eva Da Diva...

Anonymous said...

She dy craze better craze, when evil spirit don enter them na so them go dy misbehave, what rubbish do u know how much the guy had spent on drinks,food,cake,IV even renting n beatifying the wedding hall n u are talking of happiness... The thunder dat will fire ur life is still sleep n it is not also happy with u

APPLE said...

Madam, you are very wicked. Ladies/gentlemen, you don't wait till your bride or groom is in church before you call off your wedding! You do it months before!

APPLE said...

She will never find happiness NEVER. I am sure she had another guy but he dumped her ass.

Anonymous said...

hateful comments can lead people to take their own lives. Don't be the reason someone took his or her life. If it doesn't edify, then shut it and face your own life.*Be wise*

Anonymous said...

All of you saying she should have ended it before the wedding day, bla, bla. You don't know what pressure is. You weren't the ones in her shoes, very easy to through stones at her. Until u go through same or even worse situations you will then understand. Sit behind ur phone or keyboard and be talking rubbish.

Anonymous said...

Its better.. I have an uncle who was hooker up to a lady... My uncle was complaining about some kind attitude the girl has but my family members told him to manage, dat they've fixed a date already... My uncle spent eh, came from USA to nigeria for d wedding, d girl said she wanted after wedding party, xo my uncle now said it cant hold. Dat he has spent alot already. After d wedding party,one of my wealthy uncle den decided to host a after party for d couples and other family members,at that same hotel that everybody lodged that night, everybody was outside, but d new bride was angry... My uncle went to call her, dat d whole family is outside, dat she should join the party. She refused oo.. Saying the party wasnt for her, and she is tired. Another person went and called her, she said de same.. Up to 5 different pipo went to call her and she said the same. Dix new bride never joined us and we partied from 8pm to 3am.... In the morning, my uncle told her the marriage is over. Dat she should pls give him his ring, or keep it if she wants.. She thought my uncle was joking. My uncle leta went back to USA and that was the end of d marriage.

Shoooo said...

The truth is who again allow their son, uncle,nephew, cousin,brother to engage this lady again going by what she earlier did to that poor guy.

JAO said...

Right decision made at the wrong time, for a good course I believe cos the marriage might have collapsed or won't be enjoyed.

O-Ice said...

People are talking about the hurt, embarrassment, humiliation the guy must have felt, you are here suggesting that the money spent on hall, cake, food and drinks, should have been more important than her happiness. Is that how you used to do?

Anonymous said...

SINCE YOU WAITED TILL THAT LAST MINUTE, I THINK IT WOULD HAVE BEEN WISE FOR YOU TO ENTER THE MARRIAGE AND GIVE LOVE (AND HAPPINESS) A TRY, HE NEVER HIT U NOR TREATS YOU BAD (GOT A GOOD JOB TOO), AS YOU SAID. AND YES, LOOK AT YOUR AGE AND U HAD THE GUT TO DITCH UR FIANCE ON THE ALTAR FOR GOODNESS SAKE! THIS IS NOT HOLLYWOOD NOR NOLLYWOOD, EVEN NOLLYWOOD WON'T ACT THIS KIND MOVIE COS NIGERIANS DONT BEHAVE LIKE THIS, ITS VERY RARE. YOU DISGRACED YOUR FAMILY AND FIANCE'S EVEN ALL THE WELL WISHERS. LADY, YOU HAVE GUTS! I HOPE BY NOW (AFTER 1YR,6MTHS), THAT YOU ARE HAPPY TO BE FREE AND MOVED ON.

KINDLY ACCEPT YOUR FAULT AND PRAY HARDER TO GOD TO SEE YOU THROUGH IN LIFE AND I CAN ONLY WISH YOU ALL THE BEST IN THE FUTURE, EXPECIALLY COMING ACROSS WHO "YOU WILL LIKE THAT MUCH" BEFORE CHOOSING A DATE OF MARRIAGE.

ONLY WHEN YOU TRULY REALIZED ALL THAT YOUR ACTION REALLY BROUGHT TO YOU AND YOUR FINANCE, AND ACCEPT TO MAKE CORRECTIONS, THEN CAN YOU TRULY BE FREE. ACT NOW!!!

Anonymous said...

....I can relate with bunmi. A frnd of mine had same problem. She went on with d plans n all...hoping dt d feeling will eventually come cos she liked him tho not enuf to marry him....fast-forward to 3months later...it's one week to d wedding...and she realized she couldn't go tru with it. Her pastor and marriage counselor convinced her to stay, her family will not even hear of it,d guy was well aware she was having cold feet towards d wedding but he kept encouraging her not to give up on him...fast-forward to wedding day...I remember vividly dat she was weeping in d toilet n didn't want to go on but everyone around her cursed n terrorized her until she walked down dat Isle n got married. One year later she became a divorcee. D man beats her almost everyday. Every opportunity he has, he beats d living daylight out of her. She finally left wen he beat her to miscarriage.
Now all dos who cursed her n literally encouraged her to proceed with d wedding wishes deh let her walk away dat Faithfull day.
Thanks to d society we live in dat has a way of making ppl do wat is expected....my frnd is now a divorcee at 28.

MacBonus said...

BUM BUM BUM! I wanted to avoid commenting on your daft story& taste for attention on social media but I can't b'cos there's lots of young girls out there [LIB & NGR] that might wanna try out this stupid/foolish act of your @ 30.
My comment is similar to others but with lots of questions that needs answers;

1. I guess your now 32yrs, still not married? Waiting for Mr. Charming while you go by names like "BUM BUM"? No doubt the right "DIC DIC" will soon find you. Type that will annihilate your happiness like you did to the young man's "In this recession period" Chai! Mtcheew!

2. You were forced against your wish? Ok. Where you also a prisoner? that you couldn't hide [being unreachable] days/or weeks prior to D'day to avoid embarrassing your family,groom's & others?

3. @30, No doubt your Dad asked the right question if there's someone else? But None b'cos you think your young; seeking attention in social media answering names like "BUMMI BUM BUM" Lol. Girl gat a life and be productive to help your self & family via bearing your parents grand kids as ie. African style & joy of parenthood.

4. Linda Ikeji; Thanks for the story but Please when next "POST SUCH STORY WITH THE INDIVIDUAL FACE", To help people avoid such confused individual like BUMMI. cc: single guys take note

5. Please BUMMI kindly seek help from prayer houses aka "Uka white or Uno ekele" for perfect cleansing, maka ihe name gi agbaghi aka.
Girl Yo suck bigtyme!

MacBonus said...

BUM BUM BUM! I wanted to avoid commenting on your daft story& taste for attention on social media but I can't b'cos there's lots of young girls out there [LIB & NGR] that might wanna try out this stupid/foolish act of your @ 30.
My comment is similar to others but with lots of questions that needs answers;

1. I guess your now 32yrs, still not married? Waiting for Mr. Charming while you go by names like "BUM BUM"? No doubt the right "DIC DIC" will soon find you. Type that will annihilate your happiness like you did to the young man's "In this recession period" Chai! Mtcheew!

2. You were forced against your wish? Ok. Where you also a prisoner? that you couldn't hide [being unreachable] days/or weeks prior to D'day to avoid embarrassing your family,groom's & others?

3. @30, No doubt your Dad asked the right question if there's someone else? But None b'cos you think your young; seeking attention in social media answering names like "BUMMI BUM BUM" Lol. Girl gat a life and be productive to help your self & family via bearing your parents grand kids as ie. African style & joy of parenthood.

4. Linda Ikeji; Thanks for the story but Please when next "POST SUCH STORY WITH THE INDIVIDUAL FACE", To help people avoid such confused individual like BUMMI. cc: single guys take note

5. Please BUMMI kindly seek help from prayer houses aka "Uka white or Uno ekele" for perfect cleansing, maka ihe name gi agbaghi aka.
Girl Yo suck bigtyme!

ECHO NAMS said...

Wonda hu gave u Jamaica weed

Anonymous said...

hope the guy tasted your cunt before the wedding day sha?

JOYCHY said...

YOU DID THE RIGHT THING AT THE WRONG TIME. WHY WAIT FOR THIS LONG!!! WRONG TIMING!!! IF YOU BROKE OFF NOW, YOU COULD HV BROKEN UP THEN. SAD DOUGH!!!
THE NEXT MAN MIGHT BE SCARED YOU MIGHT DO SAME TO HIM.

Anonymous said...

Dumb advice Africans use to ruin a woman's life ^^^^

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