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Thursday, 18 May 2017

"It wasn't my decision to get married at 19, My parents forced me into it" Patience Ozokwo reveals

Veteran actress, Patience Ozokwor has opened up on her marriage to her late husband. 
Speaking to RTV, Patience Ozokwor revealed that she was forced into marraige by her parents at age 19, and wasn't giving any choice as she couldn't disobey them because she wasn't brought up in that manner.
"It was not my decision. And if it’s not my decision then I was forced into it. I did not see any reason my parents were forcing me as I was still young. And even at that age I had so many suitors and they just wanted me to get married. You know when you come from a polygamous family and your mother is struggling for her own daughters to get married and this other one is also struggling for her own daughters to get married and when this one came around and I said no I should make a choice. but I was not allowed to make that choice. They didn't give me that choice and at the end, I had to obey my parents. I was not brought up to disobey them at all."
When asked if she enjoyed the marriage, she replied saying
 "Sincerely speaking as a Christian I did not."
 Adding that he was once married to girl who was arranged for him but the marriage didn't work out.
"The girl was sent to London to meet him but she got there and found out she didn't like him so she decided to move on with her life. So they didn't leave together as husband and wife. He waited till after he came back after the war to come and marry me and there was no reason for that."
Speaking further on her marriage, she revealed that it wasn't easy at all for her as a young girl 
"The marriage was not easy at all for me as a young girl, it was not easy but when you have two children and it is also not in the culture of my parents for you to jump from one man to another. I lost it sometimes and I had make due with the children God gave me that is why I am very close to my parents. 
When asked her view on marriage she said;
 " It is an ordained thing by God and it should be honoured. When a man and woman are declared man and wife that is final, your plate of food is out of your parents' house.
She further said that there are only two reasons a person should leave their spouse according to the bible, life and infidelity.
 "If life is involved, God did not say don't separate. God has standards and christians must adhere to the standards of God concerning marriage because there are one or two things that a husband and wife divorce otherwise it is not coming from God. So it didn't come. I didn't catch my husband cheating on me and he didn't catch me so we had to stay together until death parted us. When he died, I became free, people started coming for my hand in marriage but I said no, it's already late"
Patience Ozokwor also said she couldn't remarry because of the foundation she had, the kind of home training and because of her stand in christianity.

21 comments:

El Fidel said...

Good woman. I love you mama

Jenny Gbanite said...

peperoni peperoro nwanyi ngwo
I love you

Vivian Reginalds said...

HMM
-D great anonymous now as Vivian Reginalds

Alloy Chikezie said...

Most of our parents got married that way. But even though women in the old were forced into marriage, their marriages lasted longer than the marriages of today whom were allowed to make choices.

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Pretty woman friend said...

Good woman. Good upbringing

samuel Ezebuchi said...

I see

Ushie Blessing said...

Good mama

Cosmos Olakunle said...

A woman with policy..

Oghenetega said...

Mama G herself..

Anonymous said...

Chikezie. I agree with you completely.

Anonymous said...

It's lasted.long because they didn't have a choice. They were not educated as girls were, they couldn't fend for themselves.

Agbomen said...

Lovely woman. God bless you ma.

prince samuel said...

Good one mama g

Anonymous said...

Horrible. Some women suffered in silence and had post partum psychosis. Plus untreated STDs their husband gave them damaged their organs.
I know if a woman who said lovemaking was rape everytime. He's ready and them zam, he is inside of you and then walks away afterwards as if you are the worst thing he has ever seen. And then the cycle continues. Marriage is not for everybody.

ken christy said...

Such is life

uchendu ozokwo said...

No comment,But I love you mama but daddy was a good man aswell.You guys had a decent life together against all odds.love loads mama.xx

uchendu ozokwo said...

No comment,But I love you mama but daddy was a good man aswell.You guys had a decent life together against all odds.love loads mama.xx

felix mana said...

Well approved, nice speech, always loving u,wishing u d best

Pascal said...

It is so painful when you have to stay in a marraige that you dont enjoy just to please your parents. Thank God parents now allow us to make our choices in this modern times

Sandra said...

I love Patience Ozokwor

Anonymous said...

Well! Ladies tolerate it or get the hell out!

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