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Thursday, 13 October 2016

Lady whose fiance asked her to return N20m wedding gift and Range Rover given to her by her ex needs your help

This WhatsApp conversation was sent in by a female LIB reader who is currently in a dilemma about what to do with her fiance who asked her to return a Range Rover Sport and N20m that was given to her by her ex for her wedding. She wants to know if she should leave her fiance or stay with him? Please read the conversation below for the full story and give your advice:




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Vivian Reginalds said...

Hmmmmm
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Eddy Ogbunambala said...

I don't know what to tell you too, just put it in prayer God will direct you

Anonymous said...

That your fiance is very insecure better wear ur running shoe cos u will end up fighting everyday.

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CEEMS GROUP said...

Hmmmmm seriously I think the guy has issues trusting her completely. I can tell more troubles on the way for her after the wedding becos the hubby will never stop believing she is still seeing her ex.

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Anonymous said...

My dear give up all those stuffs, i guess you dont understand the santity of marriage,your married man friend will soon buy your wedding ring for you.am sure you know that 20m is nothing to what d destiny of your hubby to be unless you dont believe.

Unknown said...

The truth is.... This relationship will not last.the bankers insecurity is gradually playing out and the young lady will forever blame him if she forfeits all her good life just to answer Mrs.

Eugenia Ekeji said...

Men are very cunning. Don't mind him biko.

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Anonymous said...

It is very evident that this lady is not ready or willing to give up her lifestyle. I really don't think her boyfriend is being unreasonable. How many men will allow their wives drive a car they know fully well her ex lover purchased for her. I have a feeling that even if she marries this guy, she will likely continue seeing the FWB particularly if times get hard. Coming from lekki, driving range and flying to Hawaii for holiday to living in Lere with a man earning 250k will certainly lead to culture shock. Combined with the usual difficulties that new couples go through when they start living together, I would say the first few months of their marriage is going to be tough. Madam, you alone know what to do. Search yourself well. If you know in your heart of hearts that you cannot give up this lifestyle and not resent your fiancé for making you do so, let the man go. There's no point trying to settle for what you know will only cause you sorrow. But know that you may never find someone as accepting as he is. If you want to stay with him, do as he has asked. Holding on to the range is holding on to a past he is not comfortable with and will rather you let go off. Sell the range and buy another car. The cash gift (don't know why you told him about that given his stance on the range) if you can't return it cash it and use it on your own. Sha tell him you gave it back. And pls stop accepting gifts from your ex. Should the roles be reversed you wouldn't like it.

Bimposhvilla oluwaseun said...

Hmmmmmmm this is serious but if I were to be in her shoes, I wnt return d car nor d money cos it is a gift..i advice u to invest the money cos such opportunity might never come ur way again..if ur bf want to leave let him leave..

Debbie Chelsea said...

Lol @ I'm charity myself* but she should give up everything for her fiancé, all those things are mere material things, your fiancé earn good amount of money that can buy u a car in future...he might even have a plan of getting you a car ,he just wants to surprise you... Pls dnt exchange material things for the man that loves you dearly n u also love him too...

Anonymous said...

Babe, as a guy i do understand how that guy feels, but here is the honest truth, let the guy go. He has an inferiority complex and if you let all those things go, he is going to later hold it against you for having nothing.

If he cant live with the fact that you have more. Big Deal. Tell him you don't want his car and if insists, tell him to buy you your own.

Soup wey sweet na money kill am. He liked what he saw, that is why he came your way and now he is asking you to let go of what made you appealing to him. (jealousy).

If you do all he wants, you lose your FMB and your fiance. simple as that.

Anonymous said...

My dear this is the man you intend to spend your life with. My advice is sell the range and buy a smaller car, return the 20million it will only be a reoccurring issue in your martiag trust me and pls pls cut all ties with your ex or else it will only make your future feel as if he is not capable of taking care of you

annabel ada said...

Leaving ur fiance is unwise by me, but returning 20m (gift) is even unacceptable, babe apply wisdom here biko, recession is not ending anytime soon

nkiru iohnson said...

If I were in your position , I'd keep the car and the 20m. If he's not ok with it we go our separate ways.invest with the money and get returns. If he really loves you he'll understand and come back to you. This economy is way too hard to be ignoring 20m just like that

vinna saviour said...

Sorry to say, u are such a fool,Abraham even had to lie that Sarah isn't his wife buh sister to save his life. There somethings u don't tell ur husband let alone fiance, u shouldn't have told him about the cheque..by the way how am I sure it's 20m he gave u in this buharific period lol

MissLee said...

its a normal reaction, he's a guy. every time he sees that range, he sees what he cant provide for you and you and the married guy. anyway, sell the range and buy another car, the money that remains from that and the N20m, invest in ur business, buy shares. after all y'all starting a future, times are hard as a woman going to start a family, you got to make smart decisions. Make him feel like a King but you are really pulling the strings. All the best.

livingstone chibuike said...

Return fire

Anonymous said...

This is super story. Akukor ifo

Anonymous said...

Get married to this guy and settle down. Opportunity knocks but once. If you follow riches, when you're finally ready or advanced for marriage and the right guy doesn't show up, you'll be desperately willing to settle for less. Then, you'll remember this day and opportunity. Number one no no is that, it's a sin to date a married man. Would you be happy if another chic dates your husband? What shall it profit a man to gain the whole world and loose his soul?

I.K said...

My advice is this, if you start compromising at the early stage of your relationship, I wonder what you must have to deal with in marriage. The truth is there will always be guys wheather you or single or married. And more gift will come. Its your obligation to make ur oga understand. If he loves you enough, he will also find space to makw u happy. In other words do lay a foundation of compromise else your ready to leave I it and compromise more in latter days

mayer 22 said...

I would advice u put it In prayer,talk with him n let him see reason wit what u need to do with the money,pls do not be in a hurry to take a decision.snice he dose not want the money because he is scared of u communicating wit ur Ex u can use it to support ur family in terms of giving them for business n dey give u returns monthly .But first talk with ur spouse with patience.

chemmywalata walata said...

Mmmh 20m can change life oh but then "CHIC" how on earth can u cope with dis 2 men, u better ditch ur pwb man friend n marry ur fiance or rather ditch ur fiance n then marry ur pwb man friend n be his 2nd WIFE bcos this thing will take u no where as long ur pwb man friend is richer than ur husband to be, it will backfire one day and cause a big problem u cannot handle in the future thanks I am done with the advise.

Anonymous said...

Poster you are not ready to settle down at all. How do you expect your fiance to be okay with all the gifts your sugar daddy/sponsor gave you. Adding insult to injury he fave you 20mil. And you presented it to your fiance as what now? Gift from your father? My advice sell the range buy another car, if you collect that type of money from your sponsor keep it to yourself. Most men I know can never tolerate it and it has absolutely nothing to do with insecurity. Reverse the roles if your fiance had a sugar mummy funding his lifestyle and even still brought money sef for 2 of u to use for ur wedding. U for leave am pick race. It's either you face reality or wait for dangotes son to come and marry you

Tochukwu Uchendu said...

Madness! You committing sin by dating a married man. Now, God sent a nice man to rescue you and you are thinking twice. A scripture says and I quote:" what shall it profit a man to gain the whole world and loses his soul". Mind you that if you are destined for greatness, no man can pull you down. So follow up the ladder to the top. Don't jump, it could be risky!

okolomba amaechina said...

A good woman is hard to find,and worth far more than diamonds.Her husband trusts her without reserve,and never has reason to regret it.Never spiteful, she treats him generouslyall her life long.She shops aroundfor the best yarns and cottons,and enjoys knitting and sewing.She’s like a trading ship thatsails to faraway placesand brings back exotic surprises.She’s up before dawn, preparing breakfastfor her family and organizing her day.She looks over a field and buys it,then, with money she’s put aside, plants a garden.First thing in themorning, she dresses for work,rolls up her sleeves, eager to get started.She senses the worth of her work,is in no hurry to call it quits for the day.She’s skilled in the crafts of home and hearth,diligent in homemaking.She’s quick to assist anyone in need,reaches out to help the poor.She doesn’t worry about her family when it snows;their winter clothes are all mended and ready to wear.She makes her own clothing,and dresses in colorful linens and silks.Her husband is greatly respectedwhen he deliberates with the city fathers.She designs gowns and sells them,brings the sweaters she knits to the dress shops.Her clothes are well-made and elegant,and she always faces tomorrow with a smile.When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say,and she always says it kindly.She keeps an eyeon everyone in her household,and keeps them all busy and productive.Her children respect and blessher;her husband joinsin with words of praise:“Many women have done wonderful things,but you’ve outclassed them all!”Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades.The woman to be admired and praisedis the woman wholives in the Fear-of-God.Give her everything she deserves!Festoon her life with praises! All this are VANITY

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Julicious Juliee said...

Why not sit down and talk to him and hear what he has to say...give him reason why u should invest the money in your business...anyway if na me I won't return it o

Anonymous said...

Some of you people are mad! Which fiancé will be okay with his woman collecting money from her friends with benefit to use for his wedding??? You want to poison your marriage with sleazy money? As for the Range Rover, she had it before she met her fiancé so it's okay to keep it.

RAPHAEL MR RAG AYUBA said...

My friend go and invest that money and if your man is not comfortable with that, then he should look somewhere else......from what I read your ex has no hidden agenda..... So.....

Anonymous said...

y will u always tel ur fiance everytin?are u a learner?if u leave d 20m for ur acct quietly wetin go do am?

Anonymous said...

BABE flee from him with immediate effect... In this dispensation wey money no dey na em one idiat go wan spoil your shine???
Maka why now

Anonymous said...

my dear Rule 1 its not everything you spill out to a man just because he promised you marriage. They will forever judge you and never trust you when they eventually marry you. Even a simple phone call from your sibblings can mean you are talking to a man.

My dear let him go the river you will drink from will not flow past you. Most bank boys live on borrowed life o. Thats why wgen they sack them the gbese on their head is lip sealed. Even the wedding he wants to do for you na borrow he go borrow.

Anonymous said...

For me I wuld say she shuld give the range to her dad (family)it's is within ur reach n for the money charity could be via mother,siblings ur shop sef na charity and don't forget ur tithe ooooo (the most important charity of all)

Akintomide Tosin said...

Use wisdom...ask yourself some questions like what do I really want car,20m,my ex or my husband.close your eye what you don't want and move on with what you want.the truth of the matter is we all know what we want you can't love two things equally. you know what you love please go for it.

Damler said...

For me I wuld say she shuld give the range to her dad (family)it's is within ur reach n for the money charity could be via mother,siblings ur shop sef na charity and don't forget ur tithe ooooo (the most important charity of all)

Anonymous said...

If your fiance salary is 250k dat means he be making like 3m 4a yr, my girl abeg hold the 20m tight and invest it well and live well, u have already lived a lavished life with ur ex so going back to simple life will b hard 4u. But if u 2 like ur fiance dash out for range and hide from 20m and invest it later bcos u Don know Wat do future hold

lam lad said...

Annabel,nice talk....

Anonymous said...

Firstly, the guy should be happy enuf the girl was honest enough to let him know he's the side venture and he should accept her for who she is or free her as the saying goes when a rich man wants you you will be deployed.if he really wants to be with her he should go with the flow and know the relationship will always be a triangle, or free her cause ppl never change.Secondly the girl clearly has her. Day ruled by extravagant lifestyle and if she truly respects the fiancé she should cut him lose cuz that's not what she's about.

Anonymous said...

Good advise those who have ear let them hear o

Naj said...

Why are we ignoring the fact that she is actually sleeping with another woman's husband and has the guts to ask what should she do? you are wrecking your fellow woman's home and you intend to get married abi? where have our morals gone goddammit! you would never have a peaceful marriage ashawo! you should be ashamed of your self range rover is your problem, range rover that linda Ikeji a girl like you bought by working hard. give the car 3 years and it would be old school. that is what you are trading your destiny for. What is 20 mill is it big money considering dollar rate? you are soo dumb i cant comprehend. please for her fiance why would you want to wife a hoe in the first place? you are as dumb as she is. You dont know tomorrow one cancer can finish you that both range rover and 20 million would be gone in a heart beat. gosh i am so mad at what we ladies have turned to in this generation and that is modern day prostitutes. because of peanuts!!! see her mouth like Hawaii,SLUT.

Anonymous said...

All these desperado commentators talking about keeping 20m need help. If you are that linked to your ex to still carry over all the things he bought for you into a marriage then i suggest you get married to your ex instead or be a concubine. Giving a hardworking man high bp.solution is straight forward to me

Eliana said...

This is just d best advise ever.. Kudos to ya.

Anonymous said...

Young Lady, the truth is we can't eat our cake and have it. To have one thing, you have to let the other go. If you let go of the Range and the 20 mil, you have to make sure you won't grumble about it openly especially when you have conflicts with your fiance. But if you know it isn't possible and you want to maintain your lifestyle, please let go of your man. And pray to God you will find someone else as patient and understanding as him. But will letting go mean going back to the FWB? At the same time, remember that if the tables were turned, you probably would have walked out a long time ago. We as humans have to tell ourselves the truth. Don't get married because you want to be known as a married woman. Marriage is more than that. I pray that you get wisdom.

Anonymous said...

So my advise she cashes the cheque give the guy 7million and keep 13million.and everyone should stay friends.its a win win for the three parties..by the way I'm a guy giving this advise.

Anonymous said...

Ur man will never trust you,so pls let him go his not d only guy out there..

omang demian said...

Diz is my religious conscience, i advice u shuld return d car & money respectively 2 him. He's offerin all diz exchange of sex & don't 4get he's married. Obviously d lady is nt willing 2 leave him wit diz phrase. "am charity". Diz reguest is puzzle 4 girls of nowadays 2 gladly concur wit u,i don't see diz marriage workin out [vision].

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Ade Prince said...

You r not a man

Judith.M said...

You get sense, nice response.

Anonymous said...

My dear, i know what it means being with a guy who is insecure. Yout fiance has an inferiority complex. This is not going to be the end of it. More issues will come up. Do not return either of car or cash gift. My only advice is that you stop seeing your FWB, wether you marry this guy or not. You have to concentrate on building your own family. As for your fiance, this is where you evaluate if you really want to be with a guy who has trust issues cos that's all i see her. But know that whatever descision you take, you have to live with it.

Anonymous said...

Lol... Girl, you are so not ready to give up the expensive lifestyle. Let the guy go or your marriage won't be sweet,#NotACurse. Thing is, it's either "God" provides you with a "Dangote" as a husband (because it seems that's the only person that can give you a happy home if this good and accepting guy can't) or forever be a side b*tch. Your paths have been set, choose your destiny.. #InaVeryThickVoice..

tjd said...

Just leave then guy abeg. Even if u obey him, this same issue will cause problems for your marriage later on. So pls run now when u can...

Bonita Bislam said...

Exactly
If he wants you to return it, then he should replace same to you

mike said...

Well said...

patrick eva said...

I had similar issue, i gave up everything for his sake n was good a church rat but the dude still left n was stilling refering those things even kept accusing me for what i never did. Be wise be careful

Eliana said...

Best reply ever... Kudos to you.

Posh FD said...

Sell the range and deposit the cash realised with your 20million into a fixed deposit that you cant touch for 5 years. Or convert it to dollars and open a dollar account with it. Tell your fiance tou have taken care of it and watch events unfold. Since you do business, you can incorporate it into your business 5 years later. My dear money is hard to come by now.

Opeyemi Temitope said...

This matter is very simple. After a very careful thought ,I would advice that you rent out the flat, (in not sure you will still be there after you are married will you?) sell the range ,cash the cheque ,put all the money together in cash,go to your fiancee and cry to him . Beg him to please invest the money for both of you (if he really loves you and he is not insecure he will take it ) then now promise him with all sincerity that you will NEVER sleep with your ex again no matter what and please mean it. You will be amazed at what the out come will be.let me tell you something dear,I'm a man and i understand your man so well . All he wants is his woman for himself and himself alone.with true love comes true jealousy.I can see you truly love him too.he really really loves you and wants to do anything to make you happy.please never equate true love with material things. Also know that marriage is full of Ups and downs.you will face challenges but surely God will always make you overcome them.Also you need to ask God for forgiveness .sleeping with a married man is very bad.let's not deceive ourselves,but God never condemn anyone. Be wise my dear don't mortgage your future.

Anonymous said...

Well you can't blame the banker for being uncomfortable with all the things she is getting from her FWB...he feels intimated, I think she should sell the range and get a simple car instead and about the 20m use it to buy a land, invest the money, u can't tell what would happen in the future.

tony mike said...

For me the guy is insecure but should also understand that she had friends and even boyfriends before she met him. If the FWB is giving out the money with collateral then I don't see the reason to return the money but the girl needs to find out the motive for such huge amount. But my advice is keep the money then sit with your fiance and talk things over if he is reasonable he will understand. I don't think you have to be enemies with you ex or your Ex FWB. So my advice is to keep the money if he gave it to you willingly and if he gives you option of him or the money. Then know that marriage is not right for you because marriage is all about understanding and if he still thinks that you are still sleeping with FWB that shows lack of trust and it's not good for a relationship. But pray first and talk to him then when you can change his mind, then know that you have to quit the relationship cos such difficult moments will come up in marriages and a bit of understanding and trust do help and if he is not doing that in this situation then who knows when you guys are officially together. That's my own advice, but listen to other people I might be wrong but I see a bit of insecurity and jealousy from your man.

Anonymous said...

True talk

Samuel Adekanye said...

well... first and foremost, i would love to know what kind of business would she have been doing for the married man that would earn her a range rover and 20m gift for her wedding if not having fun with the married man. such act is sinful and unacceptable for a Godly and healthy marriage life. My dear, have you heard about restitution? i think that has to come to play here and it has to do with reconciling your sinful past by giving up those things you earn in a sinful manner for a glorious tomorrow.
secondly ..... u r getting such amount of money and gifts from this married man....... av u bothered to know where he gets the money from? what does he do for a living? does he spend this money same way on his family and relatives at home to make their lives better? has he contributed significantly to the future of his wife and children? if he has not, that will be an opportunity for you to step in, end the so called relationship and advise him on what to do to make him a better and responsible man. Trust me, he will appreciate it forever.
Thirdly....i know its hard to let go of all these things but let restitution take its place and God will never put you to shame.
Half a word is enough for the wise. God bless!!!

faith gbagidi said...

Wonder when women will learn to keep some info to ourselves. The young dude saw her driving a range and he was attracted. Where did h thin she got the money to buy it? She also lives in Lekki. He clearly was attracted to her flambuoyant lifestyle and now hes saying she should give it all up. Lady, you have to apply wusdom here in order not to loose your man. You can sell the car and get a smaller one. KEEP THE CASH and dont tell him. It will come in handy someday. And please, learn to keep your mouth shut about certain things. Its not everything a man can handle. News about your FWB will def get to him. Im sure if the case was reversed, he wont return anything. Wisdom is profitable to direct.

Anonymous said...

You have spoken well.

Anonymous said...

You're the only one that has made sense here,i really hope she gets to see your comment.

tony mike said...

You can sell the range and buy a smaller car but giving it out just because it's from FWB I don't see the reason why that should happen. We all had Exes the why mine be different just because he got money to spend and he gave me money for our wedding. If he doesn't want the money for wedding the you hold on to it invest it in another thing. But for you not to use the money for your well being is a bit senseless. Forgive me for my words but I don't see the reason for giving the car and money out

Faith Ogaga's (SIM-MATES ACCESSORIES) said...

My exact thought!!
Enjoy go beta for u livingstone!!

Esther Ijeoma said...

First of all the Bible says confess your sins to the elders...not your fiance. Why on earth did u tell your fiance about the other man in ur life. Some ladies think marriage literally completes their world but it doesn't. Your fiance will never trust u whether u return the money and car or not. My advice is that u keep the money and car. What I've learnt about men is that the more a lady compromise for them, the lesser they love and value that lady.
The biggest mistake u can make as a woman is to remove jewels from your crown to make it easier for a man to carry... Halle Berry.

Tricia Ebere said...

Well done dear you just spoke my mind

Anonymous said...

Just dey laff dey read comments. Didn't know how gullible some ppl are. One. This story ain't true, it's a fabrication. Two. Linda stop forming stella. Keep to your own style. .

tony mike said...

Some are saying what the future holds. Maybe the money you are been told to give out maybe your gateway to good future then you are about throwing it out. He should be more reasonable and stop listening to the wrong advice from peers that maybe use it against him during friends talk cos I believe that's his problem. I'm a guy and sometimes we do make such jokes but we know if we had the opportunity ourselves we will do the opposite. He should man up a bit and stop being naive. He should act like he didn't know he was FWB and hold on to the money maybe for other thing not the wedding if he chooses not to.

Anonymous said...

I think he is just feeling insecure and intimidated,pls keep the money in a bank and lets him handle the wedding bails,the money will come in handy for the both of u in future but above all pray abt it provided u don't have anything with other man,God will surely give directions in what to do.
Pls I don't mind a little from that 20m as I am also planning for my wedding in 2 months time,aleast d money will also go into a wedding since that is what d money is for,help a sister in need.....I also have some one u can talk to abt it

Anonymous said...

I see a lot of stupid and insensitive comments here and a lot of deeply, well spirited ones as well. It is he who wears the shoe that knows where it pinches. Take this to God in prayer for we're mere mortals who seat in our vintage positions and judge without care, forgetting we also have our own mind wrecking issues to deal with. No relationship is without challenges, this is yours. My only advice is, after praying, think deeply and make a decision you wouldn't regret in future no matter how it turns. The rich guy could genuinely care for you both and wish you well but it's not the norm that such a magnanimous gift will be given without strings attached to it, whether now or later. To help you decide, flip the table and assume it was the other way around, is this something you are willing to take from your fiancé ? Such a magnanimous gift from someone he claims to no longer date? Let your answer guide your decision, Goodluck .

ary said...

If I knew that guy I would tell him to move on from this girl, as fictitious as this story seems, this girl is used to the high life ain't no way the 250k per month will give her that life. <Moreover the guy too needs to be easy man! Why not keep the money, keep the car after all it is a gift and it is not like he can afford either?

Anonymous said...

As a married woman,rule no 1, u don't tell Ur hubby every thing. I advice u to leave Ur fiance cos he will Neva hv trust for u. That marriage won't stand d test of time. As for Ur fwb, u shld also stop seeing him. U already HV a business, n living comfortably. God will give u a neutral man. Times are hard! Be wise!!!

Uju Phil said...

If i hear return eh...is he that jealous? All boils than to pride anyways!!! #CantDeal

MEG Andi said...

It is not a praying matter, it is a matter of having that understanding that the guy is not matured enough to even marry.
I want to assure you that you guys will still have issues even if you return every thing.
Let him go.

Anonymous said...

Even if u give up the car there are other things he will still say in future u won't like thereby making u regrate y u didn't give up wen there's time.if I were u,I will not live my money and my car.u made mistake by even telling him about d money.u should have asked him first.what if my fwb give us money so u hear from him first b4 disclosing such big money he has never seen in his entire life.

One woman soldier said...

Pls ur fiancee should come and be going biko. If u must marry him,u must give up on ur flamboyant lifestyle. women talk too much,telling ur fiancee about the money aint a necessity,pls invest on it moreover returning ur car is not de best option bcos ds is a life time opportunity,u better sell it and invest it as well. maybe after a while u can replace it with another good car only if ur complexed hubby will allow that.

Anonymous said...

People go about looking for advice in the wrongest places, maybe because you dont wish to hear the TRUTH. You come here looking for advice when you know there would be a division of opinions and you end up taking the side that favours you.
My Dear, 90% of the people giving bad advise to keep the car and money are SINGLE and dont know the Sanity of What Marriage Involves. This is something you tend to enter for the rest of you life. So trend carefully. If you are not willing to stoop low to your Fiances income and Lifestyle. Please dont go on with the marriage. If you are willing then cut all ties to your FWB dude, because it would just bring trouble at the long run, because when things get tough and trust me it would, Marriage isnt a bed of roses, You would end up going for a quick one with the FWB Dude.

They say Opportunity Comes But 1s. Both Are Opportunities

1. Being A Married Woman with a Family of Her Own Soon (Dont Know How Old You Are But Husband No Easy Oooo). Dont Look Down On Your Husband, He Can Still Make It Big and Do All Your FWB cld ever do. He Has A Job and thats a pivital point, How Many Bank MDs Started Rich, It Happens.
So Many Single Lagos Big Girls Out There Over 30 and soon to be 40. Last Last Na One Baba Olowo Go Marry Them As 4th Wife

2. Exit The Engagement and Keep On With The Luxury Life Style and Maybe One Day You See A Guy That can Accommodate The Life Style and Love You For You

You Cant Have Both.

Well, I could be wrong. My Best Advise, Go See A Credible Man Of God Who is in-depth with Marriage Counseling. They would tell you the TRUTH. You either take it or leave it

Anonymous said...

I wish there is a love button,love the way u think

Vera Okeke said...

Girl are u kidding me???? U say u love him several times buh u can't sacrifice, how can u allow ur sugar daddy,married ontop foot ur wedding, who does Dat bikonu???? The guy is doing d right tin here, no man wants his ego tampered with,u dunno buh the man is using his money to come btw u both,ur fiancee is even a nice person by accepting u after dating a married man and even asking u to give d money to charity...be like say I diro serious to marry, don't get me wrong, marriage is not everything buh u hav to face reality, d relationship wt d married man won't last. Nne be wise o!


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Anonymous said...

For me you don't sound happy about what he's telling you to do. If you really really loved him and was confident in the fact that he can give u the lifestyle you deserve you wouldnt think twice about returning those stuffs, Since its ur past.
So do yourself a favor ,invest ur money and live your life hoping to meet a man that won't be intimidated by you.

JEMBETE(KEY-POINT) said...

BABE U NO FIT EAT UR CAKE N GET IT BACK, IS EITHER U FORFIT D WEALTH N FOLLOW UR FIANCE OR 4GET D GUY.

BUT IF I WANT ADVICE U, OR IF NA ME,
I GO 4GET THE D GUY OR ANY OTHER GUY N FACE D MARRIED MAN N B A SINGLE MOTHER. TO B A SINGLE MOTHER NA EITHER TO TAKE IN FOR D MAN WITHOUT D MAN KNOWING OR FINE A GUY WEY FIT DO DAT.

Davido's driver said...

My guy if you can see this pls eat the money and dump this babe. Most girls are hoes

Anonymous said...

In all this my question is why didn't she marry this EX sef and why did she choose to be a side chick?????

Anonymous said...

Hmm. Did is rather serious. I have been in dis exact situation b4. I used to work in a bank B4 I got married, my wife had married guys she was dating. During our wedding preparation, she got gifts from dem. I spoke to friends abt dis and dey said I shd let go dat I should respect d fact dat she told me abt it. At some point, she insisted I bought an SUV b4 our 1st child was born. I told her I didn't have enough to get it dat I prefare to concentrate on my building project. She assisted with 200k to buy d vehicle which I paid back later. I later discovered dat she got d money from one of d married men. D tin is dat d men never stayed out of our lives. Dey keep calling and she keeps inviting dem to our events. I felt d fact dat she works would keep her busy and make her focused but I was wrong. At some point when I had issues in d bank, I had to resign from d bank and take up anoda job which was paying better but after a short while, dey started owing salaries. Dat was when trouble started. She started putting so much pressure on me little did I know dat dose men were back. She kept rubbing it in my face dat she had to borrow money from her aristo to assist me in getting d SUV but I kept emphasising d fact dat I paid back d money. Out of frustration, i sold d suv so i can rest but it didnt help much. So instead of buying anoda car, i used d money to sort out oda issues. D truth is dat she finally left me with my daughter bcos she felt it was over for me financially. I thank God dat I am gradually getting back on my feet. D truth is dat I advice dat guy to walk away from dat relationship now b4 it's too late. Marriage is way beyond class. D girl is classy cos of all d freebies she gets from her aristo and d guy fell 4 d classy girl he saw. She will leave if he can't meet up with her classy demands. D aristo will also never let her go totally. He would be her confidant. If d guy shits or pisses, d aristo will be d 1st to know. Such women end up being single mothers and in d long run cougars. D Guy shd bail while he still can b4 a woman destroys his life. Cos ppl would say dat he knew he wasnt capable yet he got married. I ain't saying it's wrong to marry a classy lady but only one dat made her money legitimately stays wit her husband. For he not to rent out d lekki apartment after d engagement and all shows dat she is already making backup plans to leave when d chips are down. Babe don't marry cos ur friends are getting married. Since ur not ready to quit ur aristo, stay with him or better still have a child for him cos from wat I see, ur marriage will fail as a result of him anyway. U can also pray to find ur dream billionaire man whom u will marry.

CHERYL (aka FROM GLORY to GLORY) said...

Do not return that money. Ur fiance has security issues. if he Dsnt trust that ur longer seeing this man, then I promise u that trust will be an issue when u both finally settle down. Dnt be a learner, tell him u have returned the money but open an acct somewhere and stash it, let it be accruing profit. A rainy day might com someday.


Long Live LIB

CHERYL (aka FROM GLORY to GLORY) said...

Story. If the man can't trust her she shouldn't even marry him in the first place. How many women tell their present bfs ant their past? The guy should go and sit down


Long Live LIB

Anonymous said...

Listin to urself ur fwb is married and what will happen to you if she gets to know collect everything then u will loose d car d cash and ur husband unless you don't want to get marry. Do you know what ur fwb do for a leaving. What if that car kill you next minutes after you reject marriage. Be wise cos linda ikeji did not collect jeep from anybody but today she can buy 100 of it. It will take time but it will for sure come.

Anonymous said...

He was ok with ur FWB wen it was just a reltionship, now that want to make u his wife he want u to live within ur means not depending on others to provide for u. If u continue receiving gifts from ur FWB that means u are not ready for marriage and no man wants to feel like he cannot provide for his family also those material things that u seriously want to hang on to are signs u are not ready to start a new life with him. Which man would be knowing his marriage was sponsored by his wifes FWB. The car is a constant reminder of ur FWB to him and the things he cannot provide u.

Okoye Micheal said...

You are not ready to settle down...and yu cant serv 2 master's thsame time.


Steven Adinoyi said...

Has anyone here read the the part where she said the fwb is married? She obviously doesnt have respect for married. I believe the fiance just wants all communications cut between her and the FWB its not weakness its common sense. And damn she's not ready to get married.

Juliet Iwuno said...

D story was made up. Linda take note!

Efe Barbara said...

That marriage will not last because even after the wedding the guy will still feels she is still seeing her ex and if the girl business is growing successfully the Guy will still feels that she is still see her ex. That guy can get married to a career woman bcoz of insecurity.

Anonymous said...

Your kind are the ones that do not value marriage. Fear GOD.

precious chidiebube diamond. said...

My sister cruise ur range invest your money Oluwa don pick your call. He can take a hike if cant cope i mean your husband. Whats all these ... Abd Freeborn wept lol

Anonymous said...

Your right.

Ben Ileo said...

leave the guy joor, the guy is a very jealous guy. if u marry him more of this will come. he dose not trust you.

Anonymous said...

my dear keep all the gift ur ex gave u ,if ur fiance really love you and trust u he won't ask u to return the money and give the car out.men are not trustworthy ,even if u return the money ,he won't trust you anymore ,if there is no trust in a relationship the relationship won't last .pray about it or move on with your life

datuk said...

About the range giving it to ur dad wouldn't change the fact that he still sees it around. U can sell the range but it's only a fool that wud return 20mil. He shud love u the way u are. He is feeling intimidated.

Anonymous said...

my dearest! you better leave that insecure man! he will hang this thing over your head till thy kingdom come! its just human nature! you are screwed either ways, don't let his sweet mouth fool you. a marriage without finance is a terrible thing.

my advice, sell the range, add your 20M, open a secret account and chuck the cash there! buy a smaller car if you wish and stop telling him too much im sure he doesn't tell you everything. he only wants you where he can have absolute control over you. I mean at least you've stopped seeing the man he now wants you to give away your pension ha! mba nu! all the work wey u work nko? don't listen to him cos their type can put pepper in your eye. and in all your conversation you keep hammering how you love him. quick question does he love you right back in same way or just for mouth? in all be sure he truly loves you.

Anonymous said...

I just hope she has not been use for for rituals. So someone can still give out #20m in naija? U cant get away with the devil. Enjoy while it last. And for the guy in love pls just find yourself a good and God fearing lady to marry. Even if she do return all the stuffs either the man will not stop coming back nor she will stop seeing him. Wake up bro. And for all the ladys saying she should keep it. Shame on you. This is why some men aint faithful with you.

Anonymous said...

This Story Us hard to believe even dangite will not give an Ex 20m ESP in this period .if he gave 200k she go say na 20m .

Anonymous said...

Its beta u sell the range for a small car and for the 20m fixed deposit would be fyn.... Buh everything shld be hiding from him......

Lube-section said...

This guy in question needs a real woman to marry not a plastic woman. Se has been programmed by the sugar daddy to seek for easier life. This guy will not cope with that.

Anonymous said...

No be only 20m ..What of 20billion?...only Range Rover why not pj....Taaaa gbafuo osiso.....People can lie o..when you are not a Supreme Court Judge

MARTIN ONAIYEKAN said...

This one doesn't concern God o! He didn't ask you to go dating a married man. You're on your own.

Anonymous said...

Fake story sha if she is really chatting with her friend why would she have go to into details abt where her fiance' works n what drives? So her friend doesn't know yet. Alll na wash abeg. But they tried in forming the story

stephen emenike said...

All this internet decievers saying he's fiance is insecured will lead you to destruction.to see how lust there souls have become they don't even care to point out that this ex is not ex, you have no moral justification to call a married man your ex!! Sell the car buy another one, don't ever start up the root of your wedding with that 20million is a trap!!! Any married man that can sleep around and even fly you out on holidays? can certainly do worst. Just ask yourself what if your fiance is the one in your shoes now? All this money brain dead trolls with tell you to dump him that men are dogs!! THINK!!!!

Nseabasi Ekpo said...

i advised she prays and commit her ways to the Lord and will lead her right

Yaya Abatan said...

(*Singing*)... Let him go... let him go... Lols! My dear, release that stupid partner of yours and let him go immediately. The is pre-wedding, if he doesn't want your success and progress at this stage, you can then imagine what will happen in the marriage. I am impressed by the fact that you could drop some things for him which means you don't have any intention of continuing in your sin/old way when you finally get married, but if your partner is not ready to meet your half-way with the sacrifices you have made for his sake then damn it! Let him go his way. You will definitely find someone else that will. I wish you all the best!

optimisticlady said...

Women are indeed chatter boxes.
Must you tell the fiance everything?
But why date a married man?
Your karma came early....
And its still gonna follow you into your home.
As for your question,no honest answer from me.

Anonymous said...

Nne i will advice you to run. you are not married to him yet and he's like this> what happens when you are married to him? he is so insecure and has inferiority complex. but if you say you love him, take the car back to your ex who bought it for you,then beg him to help you sell it. without your fiancé knowing about it. use the money for business . DO NOT START WHAT YOU CAN NOT FINISH .

suleiman mansur said...

If you can't give up all this worldly things,if that married man truly loves you,let him introduce you to his family,most expecially his wife,so that he can marry you as second wife and I beleive you will enjoy him that's if truly u love each other let it end there,cus even if you give all this things away and you eventually get married to your fiancee beleive me that married man will keep coming back and will always want to be sleeping with you and it's jst a matter of time before you agree again and ur husband must find out some day,and that's a broken marriage for you,so it's better u dnt start what u cant finish my dear,I am a married man and beliv me I knw what am saying,its not worth it a man that will give u cash of 20m will keep coming back,cus u will need that kind of money again and it's himm u wil always run to.

Victor Daji said...

first and foremost, it takes the grace of God to find an understanding man. Secondly how are we so sure you have quite that FWB cos we dont know what ur fiance saw that makes him feel that way. another thing is the fact that things could go either negative or positive,meaning your fiance could later castigate you over the fwb when he knows he is now finally incharge, he could use it against you and find it difficult to trust you when you finally give up everything for him. The thing is speaking from a man's perspective, we the men have pride but let it down most times by doing things to favour both we and our wife, inview of these he should be able to reason with you over the money and car. That car you guys can have an agreement to sell off that car and add his money to the sold amount in other to get you another car so he would know his cash is in the new car you drive as for the 20m you guys can both use that cash to buy a house in your names as husband and wife or invest together in that cash so you wont quote its urs tomorrow cos that makes a man feel like his wife is richer than he is and ego and manly pride would set in, later on the later would also have pride too. Make him know his bank job wont last forever but a self made investment would. thats all i have to say, Please together you guys should not give up the cash but sell the car and let him add his money to get you another.

chinnybaby said...

Fake story

Walexzico said...

Look here my dear this is the simple truth of the matter, this guy will never trust you if you like return the range, the 20m cash gift and even ur flat he'll still be suspecting you, you shouldn't have let him know all that fact, next time keep ur mouth shut and be careful about it,luv is all about trusting each other but when the trust is not there theirs bound to be conflict all the time, so think before you enters into it deeper, economic recession is still ongoing o, na money dem take dey do something o abeg, hen? 20m, range sport, he feels you are higher than him so he'll likes to bring you down to his levels, don't forfeit pls! If he's truly loves you he waste time.

Anonymous said...


My dear, you have already made the mistake by dating a married man, now you are about to get into marriage , how would you feel if your husband dates a younger woman and spends so much on her? Bear it in mind that you have caused so much pain to the man's wife and children. Having said that, our God is a forgiving father. Once you have made up your mind not to go back to that lifestyle, he will forgive.
However, based on your current dilemma, a man who spends so much on a woman he's not married to is a very wealthy man. But the question you should ponder on is this, why is he spending so much on you? I hope you know that there is something you are trading in for that gift without knowing it? Or Unless otherwise you are using something on him?Only the future will tell.
I commend your courage for being sincere with your fiancé but it would always be a weapon in his hands against you. No progress you make would be devoid of 'the rich man's influence in his eyes. Anything you get, whether from your own sweat or not, your husband will always think it's a gift from your old boyfriend.
My opinion is that whether you return the gift or not, your husband will never trust you. He will always react over every little provocation. A bad attitude or behavior is like a scar in the heart of a person who it would affect.
Ironically my advice is you should not give back the gifts you have received, for it is with it, that you must make a fresh start. Your sacrifice may be to leave your fiancé and also the man for it's a story that will hunt you continuously if you stay.
Conclusively, it's your choice to make. Goodluck to you my dear

Anonymous said...

Keep the N20m, invest it for the future, your fiance doesn't have to know now but it will come handy during rainy days and he will appreciate it then. Sell the Range and buy a smaller car, it will help your fiance's ego. Be true to yourself and your marriage, stop seeing the big man completely.

Anonymous said...

Be careful who you collect gifts from. A gift is not a gift. There's something hidden behind it. How can a man gives you 20 million Naira as a gift for your wedding ??? Your man no de work ? en no fit organize his own wedding ? hmmm. That man wey give you 20 million indirectly still own you. If your man is stupid enough to accept it. I sorry for ham. Women and long throat. Be contented with what your man have or earn if you truly want to be with him. It's bad for one to learn from his/her mistake. Learn from example. Return everything you got from your so called married lover, earn your respect back and move into your marriage with dignity. Else you'll be the one to lose in the end. It sure will not end when you're married. The real drama will come after. Perhaps the married man, will suddenly feels you owe him something, which is of course your Vagigi. Which you now share with your husband. Which will be his puss*. Your married lover, might have planned it all. Be careful, the kind of gifts you collect from people. Respect yourself and respect what you have. Your man is still growing and you will grow together.. The truth is always in front of us, but greed will not let us open our eyes to see. If you still want to maintain your life style, it's easy, keep having fun with your married lover and don't ruin, that young man's life. Let him go. Carry on with your married lover. E simple like that. Again, women and long throat. He who has ears, let them hear!

Anonymous said...

Invest the money in a fixed deposit account,then buy a small car give the range rover to your Dad.but make sure that you are not sleeping with your ex.Your man is feeling insecure which can lead to serious problem in future.May sure you discuss & iron out this issue before you get married.he may accuse you of infidelity in marriage

Anonymous said...

Lol babe don't worry. The only person with a fault here is your man. He knows he's with a cooperate runs girl (you), so he shouldn't expect you to give all these things up. Coz truth is, even after you are married with kids and this so called FWB asks to pay your children school fees, you will still agree. It's like taking away sweet from a child. It's who you are, don't sweat it. Just let your fiancé go so you can focus on being who you are and enjoy all the good and bad that comes with it. Truthfully, you already know you won't make that kind of sacrifice. And why are you asking your friends (birds of same feather for advice) they are like you, so they ll tell you what you want to hear. The reasonable thing would be to listen to family coz when you can't get all these anymore, family will be all that would be left. Be wise. But that's also an option

el 0x0n3 says xo said...

IF U R NOT OLOJUKOKORO SELF WTF R U STILL DOING WITH YOUR EX NOT TO TALK OF HIM GIVING U RANGE ND 20 MILL C'MON WHY WILL A TIGER BE NURTURING A GOAT? ABEG STOP SAYING THAT THE GUY IS FEELING INSECURE OR JEALOUS JOR NA D FUCKING RIGHT THING TO DO BE DAT #HateMyCommentOrLoveIt but it is the bitter truth

Deborah Chuks said...

Comment on point
#saidmymind

Anonymous said...

Babe if u are reading this, listen to dis person's advice.....it's d best so far.Kudos!

Deborah Chuks said...

Until u get 20m and range, then you will be in a position to define vanity

JIRO said...

I bet you would be more confused digesting all the advice you would get on this. My dear, your married friend knows exactly what he was doing, giving you and your fiance 20m for your wedding. He really does not want to let you go. I am so sure he knew you would be in this dilemma, having known you for 4 years and what typically tickles your fancy. he knows you are materialistic (your choice and I am not judging)and he is using it against you.

Have you truly stopped seeing your married friend? Tell yourself the truth.

Now, you can call it insecurity or whatever, but your fiance's reaction is all human, natural and manly/womanly. Turn the tables around and you would get same result.

20m is a lot of money my dear, but marriage is a lifetime of sacrifice. Marital commitment requires letting go of the 'I' for the 'US'.

If you so love your fiance and truly and really wants to marry him, return the money. It's that simple. If you were my fiancee, I would ask you to do the same. If you were my sister, I would ask you to do the same. If you were my friend, and your fiance is already aware of the money (as is the case), I would ask you to do the same.

You are still under the hold of your married lover....LET GO!

YOU JUST CANNOT KEEP THE MONEY AND MARRY YOUR FIANCE.

You have lived well without the 20m, you can live even more well without it. I am sure your fiance is hustling hard to ensure a beautiful wedding for you two.

DO NOT EVER LET YOUR HUSBAND FEEL HE IS IN A COMPETITIVE WITH A 3RD PARTY TO IMPRESS YOU.

Let your heart lead you and let God guide you. I wish you well.

Meanwhile, it is absolutely wrong to date a married man, no matter the appeal. And for 4 years you have done that??????? Please fear God and repent. You are causing so much pain to so many others. Karma remains a b*tch.

Finally, ensure to report your married friend to EFCC. He must be part of our problem in Nigeria. Imagine 20m.....and he has not slept with you in a year and does not plan to?

THE 20M KEEPS YOU UNDER HIS SPELL. REFUSE!

onyinye Gloria said...

Ladies talk too much all in d name of love. Evry damn guy will feel insecure afta hearing stuffs like dis and will always use it to Attack u weneva u hv d slightest misunderstanding. U hv made a very great mistake by telling him in d ist place. That marriage can neva work. Beg ur guy, tell him he's hurting u emotionally, tell him to giv u a lil time, go back to ur lekki home and dnt call him for somtime. If he truly loves u, he'd com lookn for u and u guys will settle tinz amicably. Shikena. NB: Babes abeg me sef be CHARITY ooo, infact dats my baptismal name incase u wan really dump dat 20m true true. Help a sister. I need am pass need itself. Thanks for ur anticipated corporation. Gpd bless u in advance.

Anonymous said...

I had a friend her married lover bought her a Bora way back, them Bora was a big car for an undergraduate , d fiance told her to give it, she gave out that car to her Dad, today she is a mother of 4 beautiful kids and lives in her husband's duplex in Magodo... U shdnt have told him about d money, but u can still lie and save it, the range can b sold and used for 2 cars , one for ur patents and one for u. Case closed. If u been get better husband, u for go date slere man b4? That's to say husband no dey

Anonymous said...

Pls u can let ur fiance,ur ex nd even d range go,but pls for God's sake,hold on very tight wit d money,neva let it go o.dat ur hubby to be ll neva give u anything,na so so story nd promises u go dey hear everyday.im talking frm experience,nt even my fiance,we re married wit kids.told me to leave my banking job so I can take care of our babies,promised to open my own shop for me after delivery as I was pregnant wit second baby den,till now no show,its allowances ve been getting frm him,though higher Dan wot I used to earn as a banker,but I'm not contended cos I need to be dependent on my own,now I'm saving some money from my monthly allowance to start up something.my dear,as a banker it's only few of dem dat have savings(something to fall back on).dont be deceived o or be blinded wit one yeye love.dat money is very important.bank job wey no get security,u fit reach office ND discover up password is blocked,dat is d end.money,money,money

Anonymous said...

Ditch your boyfriend and keep your range, house and 20M. He already knows too much, learn to keep such information to yourself, next time. Look for another boyfriend and this time around don't let the new boyfriend know you have 20M in your account, it's not his business, or how you got your range and apartment, simple! Live your life to the fullest and don't let any insecure man dictate to you please.

Anonymous said...

Exactly!!! God bless this poster! Something has touched the brain of people.

Grace Iye Umoche said...

Why on earth did she even tell the guy about the cheque in the first place.

Thatgurl said...

If I hear...!! Return fire!!

The babe sef no try. How on earth do you expect your fiancé to trust you when you tell him your ex is a married man? Shoo...!!! Dem give you chop?!

When you gave him all the unnecessary information he was holding it to use against you at a time like this. You got a range from your ex and went on an exotic holiday with him, how e take consine your fiancé? Women, we never seem to learn!

To make matters worse he moved you from your luxurious flat in Lekki to surulere to live with him and you agreed to prove you are submissive abi? Lmao.... why are you even living with him when you are not his wife?

He saw a hot babe driving a Range Rover and was attracted to her. Him like better thing but him money no reach so he has to use the information you foolishly gave him to subjugate you. Kai..!!

As for the 20m, you need better flogging for even opening your mouth to tell him. As far as he's concerned, you are still dating your married guy because he won't believe that the money is without strings attached.

My dear, my name is Charity o. Feel free to send the money to my account. Nonsense.

When will women ever learn? If the tables were turned do you think he'll tell you it's some sugar mummy that bought him the range he used to come and toast you? Abi he will also come and tell you where he got the money for wedding from too if he had that kind of relationship?

Me, I'll personally tell you to just leave him jejely and take it as a lesson learned because in your heart of hearts you know that you really can't switch lifestyle now. If not you for don rent the Lekki house na... you know that this guy isn't THE ONE that's why you are keeping your options open. Babe, free the guy. Your own still dey road.

ADUBI MOBOLAJI said...

She Should just return it abeg, how will your ex gift you a car and collect it, and u think the wedding is secured,

Anonymous said...

It is not an easy thing but the interesting thing is that she want to get married but forgetting the luxury of the past now become the nightmare. Just made up your mind and move on becos most people who follow riches neither get married.

uche christopher said...

I agree with you 100% not everything u will let your soon to be hus know or even your hus. cos they will use it against you in future. Your past shud remain in the past. Don't bring your past relationship to present.if am to be her I will sell the range get another car and wouldn't have told him abt the cheque period.

chidinma jack said...

Why do you open up so much,are you that desperate to get married?my dear calm down and make a good decision.

okafor richard said...

I just don't believe this story....ok he said u shud return the range rover...fine sell it then...the 20million naira ring shoo sell it and put the money in ya business...I understand ur fiance he fnks dt since the man is stil giving ya gift dt u guys might stil hav something...sell the whole damn thing and use the money for somthin else..and believe me u really need to stop talkin with with dt ya sugar daddy..u hav really fucked upfucking another woman's husband...from wah am seeing u will really find it difficult to let go of dt ya ATM sugar daddy...

okafor richard said...

Am very sure u were fucking ur ex even wen he got married...

Anonymous said...

Anon you spoke my mind,exactly what I was thinking.

Anonymous said...

Plz ehn dont return that money.. open another account he doesnt know of and save it there, give the car to your parents if that's what will make him happy or sell it.. what he doesnt know cant hurt him, he is insecure but imagine the wedding not happening and having nothing to fall back to. Protect yourself.. A woman's heart is full of secrets it's natural and make sure not to slip about it... it's better when you have a partner than having an FWB for life atleast he assisted you when you needed it. kapish?

Anonymous said...

This is a tough decision. My advice for you is this, if you really love your fiancé and you know he loves you very much. Please return the 20m , sell the range and buy another car. Invest what's left from the sales of the range. Think about it properly . YST.

Eya Ayambem said...

Leave both your fiancee and the married man. Keep the money and car and start afresh. If you start depending completely on your fiance, there will be problems, if you keep the goodies and continue with him, there will be problem, if you leave him and continue with the married man, you may end up lonely in old age.

Start afresh.

Eya Ayambem said...

Leave both your fiancee and the married man. Keep the money and car and start afresh. If you start depending completely on your fiance, there will be problems, if you keep the goodies and continue with him, there will be problem, if you leave him and continue with the married man, you may end up lonely in old age.

Start afresh. He hasn't married you yet.

Anonymous said...

my advice is for the guy...guy! this babe/olosho is NOT ur wife. She has not single atom of love or respect for u or the marriage. I bet u guyz won't last six months to be generous. There are so many virtuous women out there that are ready to give there all to build their homes. Think about the disgrace this grl will bring to u and ur family. To hell with her n her FWB aka sugar bastard and and marry a nice lady from a good family. EXCEPT say u self na badt guy unto player on one side. If na so chairman na 1-1. Game over

Daniel Hope said...

Hmmmmmmm. This is a very hard situation for both of you. But i believe any man who at the first instance accept to love you after you told him the truth about your FWB relationship should have it in mind that you must have gotten a lot of fortune from that man. This inferiority complex shouldn't come to play in his thought. He needs to be a man and believe that he has a work to do for the love no matter what will come up as influence of the lavished life you have experience. Trust can work everything out for you guys. But i wont advice that your husband to be to miss this opportunity he has to stop being a servant to bank. he needs to think twice. God can bless you in a simple way and you miss it trying to be over protective and self centered. Babe just go and invest the cash into good business and use part to acquire a landed property. But you really need to pray to God for forgiveness and Please if you end up getting married to him never you in any way use this as insult or bring up any talk about this your FWB OR THE GIFT HE GIVES YOU IN UR HUSBAND PRESENT OR HIS BACK TILL YOU DIE. God will help you guys.

Please if you miss that guy remember me oh, if you just give me small self i go use am well. LOL

Asoge Atelier said...

Nice response

Asoge Atelier said...

Kisses for your comments

Asoge Atelier said...

Thumbs up

Asoge Atelier said...

Nice one

daniel ubong said...

They are all materials things,u shouldn't waste ur destiny because of all this,i mean this is what u can easily accomplished at the best way and time,run for ur life and return all those stuffs if u really want to get to ur marriage destination.

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Anonymous said...

Babe, are you high? You are deceiving yourself in this matter. You love the life style so please stop stringing you fiance along. He can't afford you and sooner or later money will become such an issue that the relationship will collapse. Your fiance is emotionally insecure just like most guys or should we say trying to be the dominant male when he is not. The choice is simple. Forego all the luxury and start afresh. Or simple stay where you are. You ain't gonna get the two unless yur fiance wins Baba Ijebu and decides to lavish it on you but you can't even be sure that will happen. Your FWB is generous by nature. That's what the evidence shows.

Anonymous said...

This makes sense. Veryvwell thought that's the best advice u can get. Use the 20m and invest incur bizness and family future..

evy claret said...

Thank God he even said that you should give the car to your own dad, not to someone else or to sell it. You can give the money to your family as well

Eva Da Diva...

Anonymous said...

I love your comment. Makes a lot of sense.

Malcolm Oshoty said...

If it was your BF ,and he told you a woman offered those to him, will you allow him keep it?

Anonymous said...

You telling him about the 20million was a mistake but be it as it may... Me I cannot return any of the two. Plan with your married man. Return it and later take it back from him just between you two. You can sell the car.

me said...

nice,smart n mature advice...kudos

Anonymous said...

I have read all (or at least most) of your comments and have come back here to write...

ARE YOU ALL F*CKING STUPID?????? Everyone is either saying keep your fiance or don't return the car, etc...

NOBODY IS POINTING OUT THE F*UCKING OBVIOUS!!! - Which is... What about the FWB (Friends with Benefits - for the semi illiterates like Freeborn on this blog)???

WHICH GUY WILL KNOW HIS EX IS GETTING MARRIED AND STILL GIVE HER 20 MILLION EFFING NAIRA???? I don't care if that Nigga's a Trillion aire or even a Gazzillionaire, NOBODY, AND I MEAN NOBODY, IS THAT F*CKING GENEROUS!!!

As a person of tremendous means myself, I'll tell you for free the reason for the FWB giving the 20M.... Wait for it... HE WANTS TO KEEP F*CKING THE SHITTA OUT OF HER!!! He knows she is about to get married and this is his LAST opportunity for a chance at Power Play!

I understand the mindset, Trust me. Men of means will NEVER like do these two things...

1) Loose their hold or influence over any Asset (Or Ass in this case 😁) in which they still desire to reap future benefits from

2) Never want to waste or misinvest a single dime of their wealth!

Put 2 and 2 together Buttheads! The only reason for the 20Million is because Mr FWB still wants to dip his thick, fat meat stick deep into the juicy honeypot for years to come. He isn't ready to let go and doesn't give a Flying F*ck if she's married to the little 250k/month banker guy!!!

It's unbelievable that most of you Morons think he's giving her a 20M parting gift in good faith. 20 MILLION???

ANOTHER thing we men of means love? The absolute feeling of POWER that money can get us or allow us whatever the F*CK we want. We blur the f*cking boundaries. I personally don't, but lots of my friends get off, even much more, by the power feeling of bending over some little unfortunate schmuck's wife and ringing out her fat juicy ass.

Moral of my sermon??? If you choose the money, Know EXACTLY what you're getting into. More romantic trips to Hawaii while your little oga is sweating with account opening forms at his branch.

Okay, I enjoyed my first ever comment on this blog. Story piqued my interest cos I can relate.

Back to work.

Donna Brnes said...

20million for just a wedding? You be good luck Jonathan pikin? All these are lies. She just wan hype herself, no be only sugar daddy, Na sugar fire

$eyi boss said...

#1. That your fiance is apparently very insecure, find a way to help him or just walk away.
#2. Maybe you should sell the car- you can get maybe 10m from which you can use to get another and have cash left for other things.
#3. You for no tell am about that N20m sha'a but since have, I think you should return it in honor to him.. Besides, that kain money from someone who probably doesn't want to lose you yet may have 'something' attached to it.
#4. Its apparent you love the expensive lifestyle, so if you want to maintain it and not find new FWBs after the wedding, you will need to double(or triple) your hustle.

Ikechukwu Dominic Onuoha said...

Hmmmmm so there are no marriageable girls this days cos from the comments I hv red here na only runs girls nd probably fags full here, madam pls do me a favour since u are not tired of misbehaving yet leave the poor boy alone 4 the girls that knws his wot don't spoil his future with cursed material things pls nd pls carry ur range, 20million nd ur bad luck try front, I pray that God will send u that kind of gold digger jigolo that will not hv a problem wit whatever u do with ur numerous married magas, God bless u as u do this, just know that with gud men u can't eat urcake nd hv it.

odi said...

lol. u messed up. why tell ur fiance all dese at all@

Anonymous said...

I believe your fiancee wants your past life to remain in the past and not for you to bring it to your present life with him or future rather. I will advice you do away with all he asked so as to erase all memories with your FEB. ...as for the 20 million in this recession....sister abeeg do hold it tight and make your fiancee believe you have return it to avoid problems and live in peace.

Elizabeth King said...

Keep the money and your range..

ayodele ogunsanya said...

Well, in actual truth I don't think she loves him, maybe she is just ready to settle down and that's affecting her subconscious. She'll be better off being single with her FWB or marrying him(FWB) and everyone talking about insecurity should ask themselves if they would accept such from their spouse or fiance, I know I wouldn't.
Besides, that FWB is smart, that's the typical move. It'll end up breaking the marriage and his "benefits" status would be retained.
It all boils down to which is more important to the lady; the money and her FWB or her marriage to the guy she claims she loves

Anonymous said...

*lol* @ both ladies.

Girl, here's what you need to do: LET BOTH MEN GO. In truth and in all honesty. Let them both go!

Personally, I don't think you've stopped having sex with your FWB. N20 million is not small change. On top a 2015 Range.

For him to give those things to you, I highly doubt you've stopped seeing him. But that's just my opinion. I could be wrong.

Let go of the fiance because he'll always have it against YOU that he's unable to offer you the same things as the FWB.




***Lush

Anonymous said...

truth be told. why not turn the situation around and ask yourself, if you are the one will you allow him keep the money and car? such gifts have a way of making your ex remain in your marriage. it has a way of making you and your Hubby remember the ex. it is not good. it is flashy but not good. you don't even know if it is blood money, well just saying. If you love your guy, return the gift. show him some respect. it is painful but that will make him trust you and love you more. if you disobey him he will conclude you love those kind of things more than him and will one day if not soon go back to your ex. he will never trust you ever. do you want that in your marriage? but if you like the gift and don't want to give it back then brake your relationship and stay on your own. wait for another man to come. my humble advice. I no mind if you give me some shaa, inside this present country economic situation. be generous biko. laugh! make i give you my a/c no?

Anonymous said...

Here's another good point: your fiance can't deal with the fact you're bringing more into the relationship than you are. Some men can't deal with their wife earning more money.

In this case, you're not EARNING more (actually you have - on your back over the last 4yrs, but that's your business, not mine).

That brings up another point someone else made above. You should not have told Fiance that FWB gifted you a check of N20 million.




***Lush

Anonymous said...

You will not last in marriage because you are not ready. Your downfall will be the lack of respect for yourself and your fiancé, as well as his lack of respect for himself. How can any man just nod and say its alright when his fiancé tells him she is being paid for s#x by a sugar pappy? Why must you marry? That young man too is deranged. His mother should be ashamed of him. Why would he settle for less? Tomorrow now, I will read about your scuffle around paternity of your children. Please, just continue your prostitution hustle until you really feel ready to become straight. Your brain will tell you when. Nobody else will. When your brain notifies you, you wont need advise from friends on whatsapp.

Anonymous said...

If really,you love that guy and wants to married do what he asked you to do.remember you both can make cool cash tomorrow,nothing is impossible for God....GOD'S SENT

chinedu egbe said...

The lady is a gold digger. She wants to eat her cake and have it. The guy should just leave the lady and find another lady to settle down with.

Anonymous said...

Sell it and get a 2014 Camry or Toyota or another move car. If you give it to your dad, will ur fiancé get you a nice new car? Abeg sell the car, see free money!

chukwudi olibe said...

No be small issue o

Anonymous said...

Return fire. you just have to be careful of what you shared with your fiance for now. you can sell the car and buy another car but that 20 million should be kept in another account for now. but try and avoid that your ex abeg oooooo. you need to marry and raise children.#landlady

Anonymous said...

My dear, I just read this your story very well. your guy seem to know too much already about your past. that is not good. even your family fa. na wa o. i will sincerely advise you to leave him. look for someone else or wait for someone else who do not know this your old man and please stay away from him. he has paid you off by giving you all that. you dont know if it is blood money. you have to pray for God to restore your destiny b/c many of these rich people use their Babes destiny and pure the riches on them and the Babes will be feeling cool. that is by the way. Let me tell you, this matter will never end whether you return the money or not. Your guy will keep remembering your past life style and all that rubbish. go for a new person, chikinah. He is not ok self, why will he let you keep seeing the old married man after knowing the truth from you? He will cheat on you soon if not already doing that. both of you should give your lives to Christ.

charles Barrah said...

You can't understand the way the mind of a man works . This is a typical case of insecurity . He wouldn't stand that u drive a range as opposed to him driving a Honda . It's a gift which was given to you before you met him . In the long run the issue is going to come up and you would regret giving up everything. You don't have to give up everything. You can convert them to cash and stash somewhere. No one has to know . Keep your mouth shut and work on your relationship. By the way the signs of insecurity is not a good thing , you have to work on that unless more trouble awaits you. Good luck

Anonymous said...

Your husband to be is not insecure but just a real man. No man is ever comfortable knowing that he is being taken care of by his woman's man. My lady, the best is for you to give back the money to ur ex and maybe sell off the car. All this are just material stuffs that can easily ruin a bright future. Ur husband to be may not have so much today but if u truly love him like say both of u can achieve greatness together (even more than ur ex). If u have given up a few things for this marriage to come to life, then don't let this be very difficult.
Manage watever he has and move on without regrets. Cut off ur ex though may be very hard.

If u leave ur current guy, is there any assurance that u will meet someone better (If not someone that will deceive u)..... Ur man is just REAL.

Olaaliu said...

Just yesterday she gave u 20million😮😮,, really😮😮😮,,, meaning both of u still see each other😕😕😕🙍🙍🙍,,,well its not my business🙍🙍🙍🙍🙍🙍

Anonymous said...

All your comments are just funny. 'He is insecured' 'she should let him go' what? How many of you here are married?
Ladies, let's switch this story around real quick, if it was the guy receiving gifts from a married woman, what will this girl be
saying or doing right now? Let's all learn to put ourselves in the shoes of whoever is about to be judged before judging them.
With what I have said, I think it should be a little bit easier to judge now.

Anonymous said...

Wonder who propose to a girl that sleeps with married men.she's bad news

Anonymous said...

My own advice is to sell d range and cash d #20 million open a current account and keep d money there u never can tell wat will happen tomorrow but tell him u returned everything back to ur ex.

Anonymous said...

U are a fool ! Is it everything u must tell ur fiancé ??? How can u tell another guy that ur married lover /aristo has been sponsoring ur life style ! Forming big gal ! U must return everything that's the price u have to pay for ur big mouth !

Anonymous said...

Do not return it no matter what let ur man understand d economy is not OK u see a helper dat favor u he want u to return it babe mi KO le work abeg keep it n invest wisely.trust matter in every relationship

emerald iceangel said...

If u love ur fiancee then u let go of d m man,gv out d car and for d 20m u can actually save it,bt d big question now is can u adjust to d new lifestyle ur hubby is giving u?his salary his car and every if u can then u knw wat to do

Chijioke Okafor said...

That his ex self is a devil...doesn't he know where to assist the charity himself...shey all those crobic sick people on AIT that needs some small millions for surgery he doesn't know their address?that married man is d devil in this ladies life...he is investing something negative in her

Chijioke Okafor said...

Sister bring that 20m ma sell u correct land for festac...hubby GATS no know...in the future u might need that investment... 20m..choice ur married bf wicked...I know u will still fuck him...its normal...lol

Anonymous said...

God bless you for your comment. there are some pretty rich girls in my office and if you're told what they did to get the money you would be surprised but today they still have the money but they don't even have a boyfriend of their own. We should never allow ourselves to be caged by material things as it only helps to destroy our lives. I'm not saying money is not good but what I'm saying is if you don't make that sacrifice of letting go you would forever be caged. Just imagine yourself not marring him and he ends up being a dangote tomorrow you would never forgive yourself. My dad's elder sister told my something and mind you she's sixty. She said b4 she got married to her husband her friends then wete telling not to because the man wasn't up to their status but those same people of her age don't even have kids of their own not to even talk of a husband. Pls just sell the car and return the 20million. For him to have told u to do away with d car means he has challenged himself to do more and obviously he would. Moreso this shows he's a man to d core and I respect him .

Teemah Salau said...

If you are not desperate to get married.. Leave him, he can never trust you!

Anonymous said...

Ask yourself what will you do if the table is the turned around?

NANNA 115 said...

Ask yourself what you will do if the table is turned around

Anonymous said...

This is from my mum. She says keep ur money, leave ur man . Cos he will never trust u, he may end up being a jakass. And ur fwb may b using u for mone rituals, mst esp if u cant vouch for hes source of income . So keep ur 20m and ur range, seek spiritual guidance and look up to God for a better man.

sweesara said...

And who told you Linda has not been posting chronicles,ever all these while,just that she doesn't do it frequently,u guys should stop all these ur nonsense comparism and get some sense please.

Anonymous said...

My advice young Girl, stay away from this suggar Daddy and marry your fierce. You will not see the Range Rover nor the 20m at your old age. These are baits from this worthless suggar Daddy that ordinarily will not be able to give 20k to his sibblings that are in need. You have your future set before you. Decide today. If you are wise, choose your fiance and forget the 20m and the Range Rover. These are things money can buy at anytime. But your marriage is more Precious. Stick to your fiance

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