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Thursday, 6 October 2016

'Did the Bible truly say one should stay in an abusive marriage riddled with adultery?' - Victoria Inyama asks

As former actress Victoria Inyama asked via social media today. Read below.
So today on d train I get to talk with this nice lady. She's been through so much in her bad marriage. Somehow d police gets involved and she's removed from that unsafe environment especially as children are involved. D issue now is one of d many Pastors whom she used to run to for help and prayers now tell her That If she decides to end d abusive marry, D Bible says she is not allowed to remarry.
Ok so if that's what d bible says then she suggests that what she would have done was after he beats her, she would have waited for him to sleep then she should have tied him up and beaten him up too or done worse to him.

So I ask Did D Bible truly say one should stay In an Abusive marriage riddled with lies, cheating and adultery??? Did d bible or d People that wrote d bible not get a revelation on that? Is it fair??? If that's d case then I would probably agree on an eye for an eye. Since its not biblically? Religiously or Christianly to leave? Then when d man hits, wait and endure till he kills you then he will be forgiven or wait till he's probably asleep then strike. Abi??????? #live #love #learn

67 comments:

livingstone chibuike said...

My bible didn't say such

Anonymous said...

Yes, the Bible also warns to be careful in choosing a spouse

livingstone chibuike said...

She shuld move on nd remarry..david is a friend of God but married more dan one wife..moses dat God spoke to face2face married more dan one wife..solomon is a friend of God but married multitude..she shuld dissolved dat marriage and move on.

Chizzy Liz said...

*************************Akuko ndi eriri eri *******biko me sef wan follow knw d part of the bible dat stated that************ dey are jux generalizing d "For better For worse part"********** stay in a marriage ebe ejim akuru okpo ********na akum ife tinka kuru pan*********** Egedege !!!!!!!!!!! Akuko ndi mmiri na eri ************anyway tell dat to oll dox pepper sellers in d market not me

Chizzy Liz said...

*************************Akuko ndi eriri eri *******biko me sef wan follow knw d part of the bible dat stated that************ dey are jux generalizing d "For better For worse part"********** stay in a marriage ebe ejim akuru okpo ********na akum ife tinka kuru pan*********** Egedege !!!!!!!!!!! Akuko ndi mmiri na eri ************anyway tell dat to oll dox pepper sellers in d market not me

Eddy Ogbunambala said...

Nope if he hits you leave his sorry ass period

Ruthiesruthless said...

Issoraite! But why does always make her face asif she see shit?

Odibe Blessing said...

My dear I dn't know bcus it's in bible dat once u divorce u'r not permitted to marry,like if u marry u'r commiting adultery...but bible did not say we shld stay in abusive marriage sha...anyway dat verse still dey confuse me sha.dat's why we shld allow God lead us to who to marry n leave out our mind in divorce

vinna saviour said...

Doesn't she have her own bible to open n read? By the way, am not in support of abusive marriage

Anonymous said...

An Oath was taken "For Better or Worse" And we all know what the Bible says about taking oaths...she either prays or separate without remarrying(We all get what we deserve)...and please who ever you are..don't question the wisdom of the bible..its has more wisdom than your entire family and friends with their next generation - Bane

Jamila Shaibu said...

Na.wa ooooo




Post my comment

Anonymous said...

Oh also..attacking back isn't Christian-like and also puts you knee deeper in shit with Christ and your husband😀 - Bane

freeborn bamislam suani ahmad bamislam said...

Ask the religious clowns.
Even the pastors that tell them to stay can not tolerate it if happen to them.
How can u stay in abusive marriage an u tell me bible say this bible say that and ur dying hmm
MY DEAR RUN FOR UR LIFE AN STOP BEING STUPID EVEN THE WHITE THAT BROUGHT THIS RELIGION are wiser THan US.
Abusive relationship is worst than apc scam government so i will advice any one that find her self in it to leave it or die in the name of bible say.
The cause of abusive relationship is adultery so bible is against it so better run for ur life or die with ur life.















#sad indeed

Ama Adoma said...

Some men are also being abused by their wives

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Bee K. Ali said...

dis is a serious matter,DAT really needs 2 be looked into

Uju Phil said...

Pastors pls answer...i simply cant! #IronyavLife

Anonymous said...

The bible is fiction, fairytale , inconsistent, contradictory and King James was gay # Fact.

You do not need a book to know right from wrong. Its as simple as that.

Religion sucks

Genevieve Okoroigbo said...

That's why is good to learn before jumping in to. marriage is not like courtship. the way he behaves when u guys ate dating is not how he will behave when u too finally settled down. so be wise and choose rightfully. 95% of them that indulge in abusive marriage are young men who doesn't even understand or better still value their spouse. a matured man can't do that.





says, Genevieve.

Rukky Abdullahi said...

Marriage is not a do or die affairs if is not working out then work out of it before you kill person ooo..

chinelo okafor said...

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!! Will be back...

Juliet Iwuno said...

Biko move over mbok! Linda take note!

onyinye Gloria said...

D bible said u can leave if u notice adultery. #Read ur bible deep#!

Anonymous said...

Its funny how i just heard a message about this yesterday and the way it was explained was that... The rule about not remarrying as long as your husband is alive was when we were bound under the 'Law", the mosaic LAW..however we are not bound by the LAW anymore we are under 'GRACE' and so certain things that used to be do or die under the 'Law" are no more. Thats why we dont kill lamb, or sheep, or Cow as sacrifice anymore or need to go to a certain priest to make atonement and supplications for us. These were all under the 'LAW' thank God for his new dispensation of GRACE where you can pray to GOD without killing a RAM as sacrifice.So my dear if he is abusive and not willing to change..let go and remarry under the GRACE of GOD. Ofcourse that is not to say you can carry out sin and claim to be under GRACE. We need to stop reading the WORD of GOD like a story book and let the spirit minister and reveal the word as it should be understood. God bless us all

uju joseph said...

Pls you have a bible at home make use of it and see what the Bible really teach about it. Read malachi 2:15 nd 16. Then Read Matt 19:8 nd 9.

Anonymous said...

The English is too poor. What's with "she would have"?
If she's prayerful, God will heal her marriage. God cannot tell you to do what he can't save you from. If God says "don't divorce" he sure will mend your marriage, though it may not happen immediately. But this generation is so impatient and are lazy to pray, so they jump out so fast and the social media will be applauding them and calling them "strong women". No matter how anyone twists it, there's no situation God can't handle, but we just are lazy to pray that's all. Some problems in marriages can be your own period of trial, Jesus was tried and he fasted for forty days and nights, but he did not jump out of it and say "I can't handle it anymore" though he was almost doing that, but he kept on, until he triumphed.

uju joseph said...

The bible actually said that God divorcing but only on the ground of adultery can you divorce. Matt 19:8-9

Peter Clever said...

Matthew 5:31-32 “It was also said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.

uju joseph said...

God hate divorce but only on the ground o adultery can you divorce. Matt 19:8-9.

Anonymous said...

The bible hates divorce. The bible allows time to heal and creates room for settlement and forgiveness that's why the bible says you can leave or seperate from an abusive and violent husband but you cannot re-marry except the man dies. This is so because you made a vow and covenant before God when you said "till death do us part".

CHERYL (aka FROM GLORY to GLORY) said...

Everyone should read Deuteronomy 24:1-2. Before u tell me anything about it being in the old testament, tell me why we pay tithes cos it's also old testament. Kapish?

Long Live LIB

Anonymous said...

Even if she has her bible to open, she needs explanation in some parts that she doesnt understand. Dont you have your text book to open and read while in school? Why do you still need a teacher or lecturer to teach you? Why do you still need pastors to preach to you and explain the bible to you? Receive sense and stop commenting stupidly. Stmcheew

dee boi said...

No just walk out of such marriage,make u run comot for the marriage co heaven sef go reject u wen the man beat u enter grave... dee

Anonymous said...

The Bible did not say u should now leave but if u leave remain unmarried.then u can ask God to heal ur marriage, that is why u have look very well before u enter. Mama fifty

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Chiamaka L said...

Deuteronomy 24
[1]“Suppose a man marries a woman but she does not please him. Having discovered something wrong with her, he writes a document of divorce, hands it to her, and sends her away from his house.

Anonymous said...

The Bible is not hand written by God. It is the work of man, who put their trust in man is bound to shed tears.

chioma Evoh-johnson said...

Hummmmmmmm......say No to Domestic violence. Perhaps this lady decides the to stay faithful in that marriage, while her filandring husband continues to cheat.one day one of these two things for sure will happen. She either catches one of the most dreadful sexually transmitted disease which will surely lead to death if not managed,or she gets beaten to death. Then the story changes. In death do we part. Then it become official, he becomes a widow,free to start window shopping for women.For sure ,he will catch his next prey. Be smart ladies, don't let anyone subject you to domestic violence, that's not what marriage is all about.

niyi adetoye said...

Forget dat marriage n move on with ur life

joshua said...

He had punishment he paid for bcos of his polygamous family(david)...she can divorce bh she shouldn't remarry..until he's dead..Solomon also paid he's on price..it took him faround away from. GOD so please..everything we do out of ignorance has a price tag attached to it..d question is can you pay the price?

joshua said...

Actually she can leave the house bh she shouldn't divorce bcos they used d bible to say until death do us part..beta for worse...nd d rest...she should just leave

Anonymous said...

NNE, I was a victim of domestic abuse. It was horrible because I was not only physical abuse but oral and emotional abuse. It gets to the point where my ex wanted to stab my neck with a fork after kicking me on the floor mercilessly. Even my colleagues at work knew I was going thru hell cos of the bruises I came to work with all the time. I couldn't take it anymore....the fact that he said he will kill me one day and run away and no one will find him makes me rethink to the point my family couldn't take it anymore....I made the decision to either stay in that Union and die or live to be alive. So I left. Here I am starting a new life afresh and God has been faithful. Now I can sleep in peace without having a man choking me on my throat or the loud knocking on my bedrrom door or the neighbours trying to break the front door down to save my life cos of my screams of help. Domestic abuse is not something to joke with. U married someone who promise to protect u and he turns out to be the one who wants to kill you? No bible can tell me I have to die in marriage to go to heaven....hell no! Let the person come and marry my ex and then after one month, she can tell me the good testimony. Say no to domestic abuse....it kills....ur life is too precious for u and ur siblings...don't allow a man to the it away from u....u can only be alive to love! God bless u.

Kaam Noel said...

Even d popular for better for worst, u ever see am for Bible b4? Shine ur eyes girl. Stay in d marriage n die or leave and move on for good.

chosengospel said...

Even in that condition of infidelity, you're allowed to divorce, but not to remarry PERIOD. The bible made it clear, Don't REMARRY!

St. John said...

@livingstone chibuike all the names you just mentioned are in the old testament of the bible. Jesus came to abolish some laws in the old testament and adjust it in the new testament. That is why the new testament encourages only one wife because Jesus saw that having more than one wife in the old testament caused a lot of problems. The new testament also discourages divorce because God honours vows. You made a vow before God saying "till death do you part" and "for better for worse". Also, bible did not say you cannot leave an abusive marraige. The bible said even if you leave the marraige, you cannot re-marry until your spouse dies because of the vow you made during your wedding.

Anonymous said...

David, Moses and Solomon that married more than one wife were all in the old testament. Jesus ajusted the laws of the old testament in the new testament. This is why we have the old testament and the new testament of the bible. The new testament says you should have only one wife. If you look at the lives of those that married many wives in the old testament, they were full of problems. It is either the wives will be jealous of each other or the children will fight against each other or some wives will bring in idols to the house etc. This was what Jesus came to abolished in the new testament to avoid wahala in homes. This was one of the reasons why God sent Jesus to earth to save us and to help us.

Anonymous said...

@CHERYL yes paying tithes is in the old testament but Jesus did not come to abolish the old testament completely. He only came to adjust it. He created the new testament in order to adjust some laws in the old testament like marrying many wives. Most laws in the old testament still stands. It is only a few that Jesus adjusted in the new testament. So laws like tithes still stands but laws of marrying many wives were adjusted to marrying only one wife to avoid jealousy and trouble in the home.

Anonymous said...

Yes you can leave in the case of adultery but you cannot re-marry until your spouse dies because the oath you took when you said "till death do you part"

Anonymous said...

You are lost. Please discover yourself and seek God for help.

Anonymous said...

The bible says you can only divorce on the grounds of adultery but you cannot re-marry until your spouse dies because of the oath you made. In the case of domestic violence or abuse, you can seperate but you cannot divorce and you cannot re-marry until the person dies. So thats why you should be careful of who you choose to marry. And be careful of the vows and oath you take when saying "till death do you part" because a covenant is formed in heaven after the oath and God honours oath. For God to tell you not to re-marry, He is probably trying to see if you can learn forgiveness and come back to each other. He gives you time to heal and settle because God Himself is a forgiving God that is why he hates divorce.

adannaya said...

Anonymous 12:53 u nailed it

Anonymous said...

Why are so local?I'm not saying spealing is local.You sound way too raz.

Anonymous said...

Go and read ur bible and stop talking what is not in d bibleu.

Anonymous said...

Very funny no one is talking about this comment on this thread "Deuteronomy 24
[1]“Suppose a man marries a woman but she does not please him. Having discovered something wrong with her, he writes a document of divorce, hands it to her, and sends her away from his house".
People will close their blind eye to the above and spill all sorts of rubbish to justify an abusive marriage.. So the Bible allows a man to write a divorce letter if the woman does not please him bit the same Bible says women should stay is a useless marriage? Very funny indeed!! Women I suggest to you if you are in an abusive marriage plus with and adulterous bastard.. LEAVE THAT MARRIAGE Now!Life goes on and you will find love again..

Anonymous said...

If your spouse commits adultery it releases you from the marriage oath and you the innocent party is free to remarry if you wish but the guilty party cannot remarry while the innocent party is still alive. Matt 19:9, Matt 5:32

Anonymous said...

There's no where in the new testament where the early christians paid tithe. The new testament is our guide for christian worship because it was here that christianity started. Tithing is a jewish practice and a part of judaism based on the law God gave the isrealites. The 10% tithe was for the upkeep of the levites who according to the law where not permitted to engage in secular work outside of their priestly duties and thus relied on the tithe from the other tribes of israel for their upkeep. We are no longer under the law of Moses or practising Judaism so paying of tithe has no place in christian worship.

Anonymous said...

You can remarry if you are the innocent party but the guilty party cannot while the innocent party is still alive. If the guilty party remarries it is considered by God that he is commiting adultery with the person he is remarried to.Matt 19:9

Anonymous said...

She should separate from him and fulfil her own dreams. If he truly changes, she can go back..but no divorce.

anuli okafor said...

God hates divorce (Mal. 2:16) and only allows for it in the case of unfaithfulness by one or the other spouse (Matt. 19:9). Even in the case of unfaithfulness, God does not require or desire divorce but merely permits it (Matt 19:7-8). When there has been unfaithfulness or other sins that have torn apart the relationship, it is God’s desire that both partners would repent, forgive one another, and reconcile (Luke 17:3-4, 1 Corinth 7:10-11). Forgiveness is always required, and the failure to forgive is sin (Matt.6:15). It may be difficult to forgive, and it may take a long time, but God always wants us to forgive others. In some marriages, it may be the case that on-going unfaithfulness or abuse prevents reconciliation in the marriage. It is not possible, at least not for the foreseeable future, it is neither wise nor safe for the couple to try to get back together.

In the case of a stubborn, unrepentant attitude on the part of at least one spouse, the other spouse who desires to reconcile is not bound to force their unrepentant partner to stay married to them (1 Corinth. 7:15). God desires forgiveness and reconciliation, such that He would will that two people who have gotten divorced would eventually reconcile and re-unite with their former partner in marriage once again. This would be the ideal outcome for a couple who has divorced. But what if it looks like reconciliation will never happen and one (or both) of the partners wants to get remarried to somebody else? Jesus says:

“Everyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and he who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery.” (Luke 16:18 ESV)
That means that God does not approve of a divorced person getting remarried. As long as there remains the possibility of reconciliation and re-unification in marriage, a new marriage to a different person is not permissible. It is sin. The Bible says:

Anonymous said...

She can separate from him, so that she doesn't lose her life, but she can only remarry after the death of the husband, that is what the scripture says.

Anonymous said...

@Anonymous 5:58AM please dont kill me with laugh. I can imagin how irritated you are. Unfortunately na local people full this blog with their senseless comments. Lmao

Anonymous said...

@Anonymous 8:27AM so where do you think they get money to build churches?, where do you think they get money to buy the chairs that you sit on in church? Do you think that the chairs fell from the sky? Where do you think they get money from to buy tracks and publication to use for envagelism to win souls for God? All those reverend fathers, Priests, Nuns, Pastors and Popes that devote their full time to the service of God, where do you think they get money to take care of them? It is from tithes and offerings. Receive some sense please!

Anonymous said...

The reason why God hates divorce is because God sees all of us as his children. If two of your children fight and stop talking to each other, wont you try to settle them? This is thesame way God sees us all. In the eyes of God, we are all from one father which is God. We are the ones seperating ourselves by religious, tribal and parental conflicts. This is why God said you can divorce but dont remarry so that he can find a way to fix the problem but only if you seek him.

Anonymous said...

It's as simple as this, just kill the bastard and remarry.

Anonymous said...

The Bible can hate divorce, it's not the one being beaten black and blue, by the person who vowed to love and protect it.

Anonymous said...

Victoria God says vengeance is mine. Leave revenge to God. Dont revenge by yourself as a christian. God will deal with your spouse in His own way and trust me, God's revenge is always the sweetest and the best.

Anonymous said...

She looks like Actress Linda Ejiofor in this picture

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