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Wednesday, 12 October 2016

Dear LIB: My girl told her friend the only reason she's marrying me is because of my surname

Sent in by a male LIB reader. Please read below and tell him what he should do.
"I read a conversation on my fiancee's Whataspp chat. She told her best friend that the only reason she wants to marry me is because of my surname. My surname is Anthony. She said she wants an English surname and I am the only one out of all her suitors that has one and that's why she chose to marry me. I have never heard of anything more stupid and callous and I am very upset. Who chooses a life partner because of their surname? I feel like calling off the engagement but should I talk to her first?

80 comments:

livingstone chibuike said...

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livingstone chibuike said...

talk to her first. She's not getin married to u out of love so u better copy dat

vinna saviour said...

Bros find out from her if she truly loves u if not call off the engagement..a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage

Saphire Muna said...

Dude go and sitdon for gutter biko.. Isi-ezi
















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Akintomide Tosin said...

Yes call it off.For reason you too call off the engagement,because after she get what she want she will call you off

Ifetayo Enitan said...

Since u saw this conversation urself and not an hearsay, my brother just change ur name already as in add ur native name to it to make it compound e.g seun-anthony, Chigozie-anthony and let her choke on that. That's the most selfish and callous reason I've ever heard.

Anonymous said...

Wow! That is surely stupid, I won't say call off the engagement but you need to really really talk to her. But on the bright side, if she is willing to go this extra extra length just for a surname, then I believe she truly wants to be with you or at least she is a very determined person.

excel said...

This sound stupid but am not sure she meant it, why not have a one on one talk with her and let her know you snoop and this was what you saw. Don't call off the engagement.

Victor Kachi said...

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APPLELIPX said...

Call it off
Thats silliest reason for wanting to settle
Such a union cant last
U r lucky enough to get such a discovery. Am sure someone somewhere is praying for u

christie benjamin said...

Who chooses a life partner for their surname?? Are you friggin' kidding me? People get married for all kinds of reasons. It's quite unfortunate u gat to know this from ha friend not from ha....if you truly lv ha den I'll advice you to try and talk to ha and knw if its true or ha friend made that up to separate u two....some girls are quite jealous of demselves u know? But if it's true, then she's not the right partner for u.

I-cee Rachel said...

Girls have funny relationships with each other, there might be some kinda pissing contest between her and her friend and she might just be trying to make her jealous. And next time don't read messages btw ur girl and her girlfriends, you will definitely get pissed.

kayode odusanya said...

Hmm! Some of these kind of stories some times sound too absurd to believe. But then again, truth can some times be stranger than fiction.


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Iphie Abraham said...

Hahahahahahha,what nonsense? Abeg sit her down and find out what she means









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freeborn bamislam suani ahmad bamislam said...

Imbecilic surname?Please how much did ur surname worth huh? Did governo,minister or president know ur surname huh? I WILL ONLY TELL U TO CALL IT OFF IF ONLY UR SURNAME IS STRONG LIKE FREEBORN'S SURNAME BUT IF ITS NOT CALL HER AN HEAR FROM HER DIRECTly BECAUSE I DONT SEE ANY THING WRONG in IT PLEASE.
You,didn't u want to marry her because of her beauty huh? Is it different from a guy who marry a bitch because of beauty,curve or wrath huh? DUDE BACK OFF,EVERY ONE HAS A REASON OF MARRYING SOME ONE SO THERE IS NOTING EVIL IN IT UNLESS SHE IS CHEATING ON U.


















#sad indeed

freeborn bamislam suani ahmad bamislam said...

Imbecilic surname?Please how much did ur surname worth huh? Did governo,minister or president know ur surname huh? I WILL ONLY TELL U TO CALL IT OFF IF ONLY UR SURNAME IS STRONG LIKE FREEBORN'S SURNAME BUT IF ITS NOT CALL HER AN HEAR FROM HER DIRECTly BECAUSE I DONT SEE ANY THING WRONG in IT PLEASE.
You,didn't u want to marry her because of her beauty huh? Is it different from a guy who marry a bitch because of beauty,curve or wrath huh? DUDE BACK OFF,EVERY ONE HAS A REASON OF MARRYING SOME ONE SO THERE IS NOTING EVIL IN IT UNLESS SHE IS CHEATING ON U.


















#sad indeed

Anonymous said...

I think you should call her and have a heart to heart chat with her and find out her reason for such decision. listen to her explanations first. Then you decide from there. #landlady

Alloy Chikezie said...

Everybody have got what they're looking for in a life partner, that's hers, just like you've got yours so, I really can't tell you what to do, maybe you should talk to her, communication is the key 🔑

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Anonymous said...

She is a child. Run now or forever deal with more bullshit

Ayo Akinnawo said...

Lol... i've also never heard somthing as stupidly horrendous as that too bruh. (btw, how old is she?) Lol






























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Adaobi Joy said...

Eeeemmm, if she is the praying type, it might be that it was revealed to her that the one out of all her suitors that she is to marry is the one with the English surname. So it might be that you saway only the part abt the surname. My dear don't allow anger to be doing you strange strange things oo.always ask questions, you never know ok.

daniel ubong said...

English surname, Hmmmm unbelievable,please don't marry that girl just free her she may love another English surname anytime soon,so release her to go her way for good,some girls are just moving around without knowing what they want, I don talk my own.

Inabeto said...

If he calls off the wedding now people will be quick to shout men are wicked, Yoruba demon etc... Just see this

Loveth Best said...

This is serious

Anonymous said...

Choi!!! This one na serious matter o!

Anonymous said...


Don't let that bother you, cos girls most times don't like to tell their friend they have falling had over heels in love, they still want to act that they are in control.

Judith.M said...

Talk to her
Its obvious she is lost in life. One Marrys cause of surname? Nothing wey we no go hear for this world

Vivian Reginalds said...

LOL
-D great anonymous now as Vivian Reginalds

ONYX linda ikeji first son GODWIN said...

Do what you want. Nobody here knows your love story.

Livv Steam's Blog said...

Bro continue fucking with her,she is not a wife material

Juliet Iwuno said...

Dat can't be the only reason, its just girls talk. Linda take note!

Anonymous said...

Hhmm??? Guy please ask yourself whether both of you can reason together to take important decisions together during the many years that both of you would be married

Obed Nwafor said...

Start running already bro that marriage will not last Quote me anytime.

Arsenal said...

My girl?? You still have the nerve to refer her as your girl?
Oga Anthony, she is not your girl. You can never make the right decision until you understand that she is not your girl.

Anonymous said...

talk to her first. she might have lied to her friend. women are usually not honest to their fellow women when it comes to their relationship

The Punisher said...

PLEASE CALL IT OFF WITHOUT FURTHER HESITATION AS SHE IS NOT YOUR WIFE. KICK HER OUT NOW OR FACE DIVORCE FEW YEARS DOWN THE LINE.

Binta Adejoh said...

Good morning. I think you should speak with her first before you take any decision. Ladies can be unbelievable most times. Communication is always the way out.

Ada bekee said...

Confront her. When people marry for the wrong reasons problems are inevitable. Or stylishly tell her you want to Change your surname to a native one. Her reaction would tell you if this woman loves you or not.

Eddy Ogbunambala said...

Call off the engagement

OSINANL said...

IMAGINE?

Anonymous said...

na wa for her o. she does not even love you. too bad

Anonymous said...

It might sound shallow but when I was younger,there were men I refused to marry because of their surnames, couldn't imagine going the rest of my life with such names or worse still my children bearing those surnames. The truth is that anyone who you marry or marries you will do so for one reason or another. Some will be for looks, others for sexual prowess and some for money, Mr Anthony abeg don't sweat the small things!

Falade Elizabeth said...

Ask yourself what you want in your marital life, do u want a woman who will marry u bcos of ur name or a woman that will love u regardless of ur name. what do u really want?

Nawti. said...

Ans 2 d Q, hu doz dat?
Your wife to be dear.

And yes yu shud talk 2 her about it, u won't c d sincerity sincerity sincerity eyes. Cheers!

Amazinfaith said...

Yes talk to her first, she might have a better explanation also read through her actions and words to know if she truly love you.

Anonymous said...

what for? what else does he want to find out from her. guy walk. infact ja!!

Cax77 said...

U must be as equally dumb to be going to her phone.

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chinelo okafor said...

Mtcheeeeeeeeeeewwwwwwwwww!! So u PreFare she Marries u Because of Akpa amu gii eh kwaa?? And yes, talk to her she could be lying to her friend, and what we're u doing with her Phone? Obe akwaaa

Unknown said...

Call the shit off pls,that means she didn't love u,she's just with b'cos of the name

Okezie Okezie said...

a woman can choose a man for any reason, such as name, profession, religion, place of birth, etc. i know of a lady that only date guys whose name can be abbreviated romantically e.g. David - Dave; Emeka - Emmy etc. so if your name does not fit; just forget it with her. why do you think Kim don't date white guys? there is a reason for that. so be happy that you are the chosen one and forget about the reason why you are the chosen one

evy claret said...

Talk to her first

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ogheneovo okru said...

I think you have no choice than to call off the relationship because its glaring that she doesn't love you.. be that as it may, If you decide to continue there's a probability that the marriage won't just last because its not built on the the pedestal of love. you know a broken relationship is far better than a broken home! You're fortunate that you got to know about this early enough So you can make a U turn and find someone that truly loves you for who you are and not what you you have

ogheneovo okru said...

I think you have no choice than to call off the relationship because its glaring that she doesn't love you.. be that as it may, If you decide to continue there's a probability that the marriage won't just last because its not built on the the pedestal of love. you know a broken relationship is far better than a broken home! You're fortunate that you got to know about this early enough So you can make a U turn and find someone that truly loves you not for what you have but for whom you're

Anonymous said...

Wtf....really dump shit. She choose u bro. So beat it.

nekkymighty said...

Wow,pls talk to her first,if her explanation is not satisfactory,pls take any decision that suits u!

Anonymous said...

discuss it with her first and watch her closely to observe her reaction and how explanatory she can be to help issues. its just some girls talk. and you were wrong reading her messages.

APPLE said...

Walk away from her. She is evil.

Joyous Babe Lindaikeji First Cousin said...

pray about thing.

Joyous Babe Lindaikeji First Cousin said...

pray about thing.

Anonymous said...

ofcourse talk to her. Find out if she even have any little true love for you.
Above all, ask yourself if you love her more? When there is true love despite all the findings, you can still make it through. But if none, please a broken relationship is far better than a divorce. But her idea of the name is not that terrible though. I did same when checking out guys then. And I liked my Husband's surname alot. aside the name, I loved and still love the him so much. The Man's surname matters alot to so many women, trust me. But don't mistake that to love. It is also very possible that she love you along with liking your surname. just bone and enjoy. Marriage is swt.

Anonymous said...

ofcourse talk to her. Find out if she even have any little true love for you.
Above all, ask yourself if you love her more? When there is true love despite all the findings, you can still make it through. But if none, please a broken relationship is far better than a divorce. But her idea of the name is not that terrible though. I did same when checking out guys then. And I liked my Husband's surname alot. aside the name, I loved and still love the him so much. The Man's surname matters alot to so many women, trust me. But don't mistake that to love. It is also very possible that she love you along with liking your surname. just bone and enjoy. Marriage is swt. All the best my guy.

Katia said...

I believe you should have a chat with this girlfriend of yours.Make her know that marriage can not happen between two people for such a flimsy reason. What if in future you decide to change your surname to something very local what will happen to the marriage then? This simply means that she is only in love with your name which is very very risky.

Anonymous said...

Call of the wedding

Anonymous said...

Call of the wedding

philips chidinma said...

Nawah ooo cuz of surename not even that something is attatched to the surename ,I have never heard of such before ,just call ur girl sit her down and talk to her ,ask her what she really wants and all ,be polite ,so u can get words from her
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Ade said...

I think you should talk to her first. You may be reading the message out of context plus i am guessing you both must have known yourselves for quite some time and attained a certain level of intimacy, can you say all that was based solely on your surname?

I was a bit disappointed when i read the name was Anthony, "just because it sounds english"! you should wonder what others whose surnames are Otedola, Dangote, Dan Tata and Adenuga are going through. lol

Note that you need to confirm your babes thinking process, just to be sure. lol and visit this awesome law blog that educates Nigerians on their legal rights legalnaija.com

ogechi isiguzoro said...

D gal is an idiot. Don't even waste ur time talking to her. Just call it off already

Anonymous said...

Ain't Nothing to talk about , dump her! dump her fast !!

Simeon Ogbadu said...

" ... I feel like calling off the engagement but should I talk to her first?... " your choice.

obanistanley said...

bro no one can advise you better than yourself. Listen inwardly you will hear what you should do.

Anonymous said...

bro no one can advise you better than yourself. Listen inwardly you will hear what you should do.

Uju Phil said...

Pls ask Google...,inukwa!#WhoUEpp

Tochiba said...

So you still Sidon there dey ask question abi? E be like say two of you Na d same calibre of persons. Olodo mmuo. Correct answer by @Saphire Muna. Isi monkey

Bree said...

From surname na..she will graduate to loving u..abeg park well jooorrr

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Dolphin said...

Unhappy people giving unhappy advice here. Bros you sef carry your silly post and gerarahere mehn

Anonymous said...

She must be an igbo girl. Thats one of the reason they like to marry yoruba guys.
Them no dey get original English surname except fake one. First name of their father that they will ow be faking as surname. Eg rita dominic. Her real surname is waturuocha (how razz) but becos of love for english surname, she used her father"s first name.silly stupid girls

Onyeka Okeke said...

TALK TO HER FIRST. DONT ASK HER ABOUT WHAT SHE SAID TO HER FRIEND. USE STYLE TO ASK HER ABOUT SURNAMES AND ALL. I DONT KNOW HOW TO START PUTTING ALL THESE IDEAS DOWN. BUT JUST USE STYLE...

Anonymous said...

Anyways some girls are that stupid

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