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Sunday, 30 October 2016

"Avoid people who are emotionally immature" - Alibaba advices

As veteran comedian/motivational speaker, Alibaba wrote on IG. Read below.
"You will be suffering from their immaturity and not know it. Sometime ago, a guy sent me a message, "Ali you have forgotten your friends. No calls. Na only television I dey see you. God dey sha". I am supposed to now feel very sorry and begin to call him daily Abi? Very often you come across these emotional blackmail and it doesn't hit you like its blackmail.
"I thought we were friends, you didn't invite me for your party". "You don't love me anymore". "If you love me you will buy me...". "You forgot my birthday, after you will say you are my friend". "You claim to be my friend and you did not Support me". "I always knew you were biased, if not you will... ". "You are the only friend I can ask for this loan". "If everyone believed, you are the last person I expected to join them". "If I mean anything to you, you will come and visit me". "So your sister, brother, boss, work, friend... is more important than me?" "So you think I am not GOOD enough for you?"... the thing with emotional blackmail is that it hinges the relationship on a single issue. Issues that usually cannot weigh on the same scale as everything thing else you have between you. You rent a house for a babe and furnish it. Then one day, because of busy schedules or some other things, you couldn't call to wish her happy birthday, she flings the blackmail, "So I am not important again Abi?" Some people set themselves up. What if the guy was working to make you more important? Anyway, people who use this blackmail technique, have probably done it over a long period of time and have come to see that it's a very effective tool. So they bank on its efficacy in all relationships. Little do they know that they are just exhibiting emotional immaturity. What is not coming to pay you a visit, got to do with the love she has shown you for over a year? Because she didn't return your call, she doesn't love you anymore. So returning a call has more weight in the equation of your relationship when stacked against sleeping with you? C'mon naaaa!!! The way I see these things may be different. But trust me, when I smell emotional blackmail, something inside me switches off.

29 comments:

livingstone chibuike said...

Well said

daniel ubong said...

Nna u get ur mouth, keep blabbing rubbish.

Debbie Chelsea said...

Kk

Mimi said...

Hmm...well, the truth is whats important is important. Dont ignore what needs to be done just because u think u have done enough

Chizzy Liz said...

**************************"when i smell emotional blackmail.... Something in me switches off"***********dax me exactly.......

Juliet Iwuno said...

Well said! Linda take note!

Anonymous said...

Thanks alot Ali baba, I get alot of emotional blackmail all the time. People are quick to forget that you have alot to worry Abt, awesome write up............VIVIAN

Ohiren's Zone said...

Avoid people who are emotionally immature?....this is to tell you that he is selfish,self-centered and a bigoted fellow.
Let's take an instance into consideration,when our dear Linda Ikeji marked her birthday and asked everyone to pray for her,that she really needed our prayers,was that an emotional blackmail?,or been "emotionally immature"?.

Abosede Ojuade said...

we don hear you.

christie benjamin said...

Whatever man.

Eddy Ogbunambala said...

Eziokwu

okechukwu nnoduechi said...

VERY TRUE







AUNTY LINDA 👩

Iphie Abraham said...

Ok o








Lib addict#just passing#

Goliano said...

Emotional Immaturity: Another reason not to vote for Trump.

Vivian Reginalds said...

like u na oga
-D great anonymous now as Vivian Reginalds

BUCHI said...

Linda, Please tell your staff to always check their spelling before publishing. ADVISES NOT ADVICES!!

Uju Phil said...

Yes "chetcher", we hear you!

Eleojo Blessing said...

Is he talking from experience????

vinna saviour said...

I Yaf hear u sir

Osa said...

You are very correct Ali Baba. I have a friend that told me that God told her to ask me for money and if i dont give her money, i will lose my job or something bad will happen to me. She said that another friend of hers that refused to give her money, later knelt down and begged her which was a lie. That was when i switched off from this girl. This is a girl that her husband works oh yet she will be harrassing me for money and blackmailing me. She is so ungrateful. She forgot all the things i did for her in the past. I just stylishly cut off from her abeg. I hate emotional blackmail

Anonymous said...

My former boss was like that. He was so nice to us that we became (not only me) vulnerable and shared our deepest fears and anticipations for the future. Whenever i made the decision to move on to greater heights in my career, he used emotional blackmail to keep me back or make me feel ungrateful. A lot of people remained stagnated because of that, and now i hear he is now treating same people like trash.i moved on, but remember telling him directly that he had issues before resigning and leaving.

I now suspect he is insecure or in a cult where they treat you real nice and then turn to suck blood from your life. Anyone who worked in Rivers state knows who i am talking about. I won't mention names because i believe people can repent and change as long as there is still life. His story is a pathetic one be cos he never rises past a certain level because of his practices. He who has ears let him hear. Anyone who tries to pull you down is already down and looking for who to join him. Never feel guilty about being blessed by God (Righteous Blessing o, not gains from sinful living - I say this becos some people call every increase blessing, not so)

Anonymous said...

There's this girl that had insecurity issues with her husband. She told me when she dreams it comes to pass. That anyone who looks at the husband wrongly, and she goes to bed and says some prayers, that person will kpai. I was just laughing. I knew her insecurities and prayed with her purely because i realised she was scared her hubby liked me, I just pitied her instead of taking offence. Love is always the best answer to disarm the devil from building a fence of bitterness and offence especially if you have a pure heart and you look amazing effortlessly....
Happy Sunday y'all.
Meanwhile i dey avoid her like crazy, but she dey look for me all the time.
I have fled as i can't help her insecurity. No be my fault to fine like this.pheww I tire!!!!
Tope

RareSpecie Z said...

Sum thutz

Anonymous said...

God bless you for this response.

Jesseballs said...

Ali na baba! I feel it's contextual tho

Philips choice said...

Oga you made some good points. But i dont like some of the points you made toward the end. Nobody want to be snubed or be treated like a feddle. She cant take your calls anymore because shes in love abi? She has being answering other people calls because she doesnt love them abi? That is what I don't agree with. If she can answer other calls, and she cant answer your own, is it a sign of love? Maybe I need to reexamine love. She can't do without seeing you or speaking with you, then suddenly she doesn't want to see you and can't answer your calls anymore, and yet you call it love. Well done sir.

Anonymous said...

Drink sewer.... ezi

Ben said...

@Ohiren's Zone You are a fool. Did Linda force you to pray for her? She simply asked and she did not use force or blackmail. She did not say you will die if you dont pray for her. She did not say people will not pray for you too if you dont pray for her. Linda did not threaten you or blackmail you emotionally. She simply asked for a favour. Take it or leave it. She never forced you. I hate emotional blackmail

Anonymous said...

I have similar experience too. My friend is always insecure around me. She believes guys always like me because i am pretty. She passes a lot of emotional immature comments all the time. I now started avoiding her like a plague before i totally used style to cut off from her completely abeg

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