"What help do they require. Because you could be helping someone who doesn't need your assistance. You may find a lady attractive and make her your best friend. But Tactically failing to mention your intention. You will be a best man before you know it.
There is a popular story that speaks of a man that went to borrow a royal robe to wear for a special occasion, when he got there, he met the family feasting. He was invited and he joined in. Then another man came. He too was invited, but he told the head of the home that what brought him was more important. The head of the family excused himself and had a private chat with him. It was after the man had collected the royal robe that he now joined the feast. It was at that point that the first person woke up to his need. In that light, is the benefactor supposed to know the needs of the person who needed help? Maybe the story of the Good Samaritan has messed up our rational processing of the need/help dynamics. So if You need help, I must have a reason to help. Could be because OGB others who you can help after you are helped, or because I was helped like you, or I see potentials in you, or someone referred you,... Wetin I know SEF? Shebi I be comedian?