Thursday, February 25, 2016

Steve Harvey dragged over advice he gave to a woman who said her BF had sex with her while she was sleeping



The letter ...
Good Morning Shirley & Steve!
I’m a 23-year-old working woman who is madly in love with her 27-year-old working man with whom I’ve been with for over three years.
One day, I went out with my friends and I drunk more alcohol than I was suppose to. Once I came home, I started to get sick and passed out. In the middle of the night, my boyfriend woke me up and told me to clean myself up. Confused, I asked him why. He says because we just had sex. Of course, I had no knowledge of it because I passed out because of the late night drinking.
The next morning, I asked what happened the night before. He says that he came home, saw me in bed and wanted to have sex. He said I didn’t move or talk but just thought I was really tired. (Even though there was a tall trashcan right beside the bed and apparently my head was halfway in it). Would you consider this a sexual assault? How can I tell him without hurting him, or scaring him to think that I’m labeling him as a “rapist."
Steve's advice:
"This is kinda a tough one for a man to answer because we've all done this. Tried it anyway. All of us. I done actually tried to Army climb from up from under the bed trying to get to it...We've all tried it. It's called the sneak-attack...
Y'all live together. He told you what he did. He woke you up to make sure you got cleaned up. He told you what he did. A person who did something that they think is really wrong is usually in denial about it. Did he rape you in my estimation - NO. Because you all have had [sex]."

67 comments:

AbokiDaWarriBoy said...

Their cup of brukutu.

NaijaDeltaBabe said...

Hian!


... Merited happiness

micheal effiom said...

Is see notin wrong in his advice wat was his fanz expectin

VIVACIOUS TRACY said...

I didn't c anytin wrong wit d comment

dj banti said...

Ok

STERN said...

Make una allow this Steve rest abeg

Joan Odibendi said...

He spoke the truth to me. N do far as d dude is her bf y is she complaining?

Juliet Iwuno said...

Speechless! Linda take note!

Valentine N Egbuna said...

Now this answer is dope. How on earth is dat supposed to be tagged as rape. This is your partner for crying out loud and u weren't duressed to do it. Madam pls chill

I'm out ***CATCH ME IF U CAN***

Ndubisi Tochukwu said...

Mr adviser well done, miss sex reporter u try, mr fornicator u be idiot

#LibBadbBoy

Thelma Black said...

I don't think there's anything wrong with what he said,

don martins said...

To me he didn't say anything bad, let any guy that comes forth to say he hasn't slept with a drunk girl before will recieve hot slap from me.
And for the ladies too, pls try to control what you drink coz you girls become horny after a heavy load of alcohol and try to initiate sex btw you & the nearest guy to you, without even minding. What I'm saying in essence is girls pls don't get drunk around someone you don't trust coz it takes a lot of descipline to resist you guys.

Don Martins said it ! *GBAM***

Amaka.u.l said...

Ok o

lovina said...

There is nothing wrong with what dd guy did to his girl friend and Stave Harvey,s answer there is nothing wrong either

Michael Oyiji said...

There is nothing wrong in his advise jere

Anonymous said...

Nothin wrong wit wah he said, dats just d truth, u wuldnt call dat rape, it's beta he did it wit u dan doin it with another girl

chioma jacinta said...

* it's well*

daniela desmond said...

Had that experience once...I woke up asking "what happened last night"...Harvey is right

Jamila Shaibu said...

Not ma.bizzz

Pearlie said...

Don't really know what to say sha..

CHERYL (aka FROM GLORY to GLORY) said...

But its true now. Why the outrage? He made love to you while u slept not that he forced you or drugged you, or u wouldn't have consented if u were awake so you now want label it as rape?

tollyjems said...

There's nothing wrong with what he said joor. People just starts their drama when they want too

Eric Nesty aka LIB'S FINEST said...

Okay...


#FINEST

Anonymous said...

And if he had gone out 2 do it with another lady, then u'll sue 4 cheating wit a teenager. Biko go and rest #AdaNwa#

uwaifo peter osaa said...

Gals and their wahala sha... It's a normal thing in relationships to slide into ur boo while she's asleep Naa. The normal thing is for her to wake up and enjoy the grand event..

Adenike Bamigboye said...

That's not rape

Oluwasegun Akinbamowo said...

That's rape, point blank.

christie benjamin said...

Steve is just being Steve fuckin' Harvey but he's so wrong on this..its a sexual assault and it's left for the girl to move on or do something about it.....

Anonymous said...

Very funny

Anonymous said...

Sorry girl u have a rapist as a boyfriend. Love making with no consent is a pure rape

ProudlyDeltan15 said...

Hmmmm. ..ProudlyDeltan

BonaParte NN said...

Mixed reaction: if she doesn't like what happened, and feels repulsed, used and angry, then it's assault and she has the right to complain. It's her body.

But if she (from her tone) feels jus a lil disturbed but not angry, even understanding; then it's ok.

Just that the dude shouldn't make it a habit of sleeping with comatose women, unless; Bill Cosby loading...

Anonymous said...

To black people nothing is wrong with this, but the white folks the story will always be different something is wrong with this according to white man bible. I love my black culture soo damn much

lummy said...

Of course its normal,my Bf does DAT,nt wen am drunk,buh maybe tiredly asleep DAT I can't even move,buh I mite wakeup wen its Juicy or mite nt even wake!

Vivian Reginalds said...

Lol steve sef
-D great anonymous now as Vivian Reginalds

Adaobi said...

A sex that was not consensual is not nice! period. Boyfriend or not it unfair to the other party. @DON MARTIN just negodu shit Ina ako hia! ibu ezigbo Bingo

Anonymous said...

Silly you talking of consent from someone passed out?
The only kind of consent would have been when awake to discuss with agreement that either partner can "have" d other when passed out but how then can you ever trust what they'll "do" to you esp. with men who tend to take advantage of women in sex matters.
Always thinking all a woman is, is Just4Sex.

Black Belle said...

She is his girlfriend..!!!!!

Black Belle said...

Thought he is her bf and they are sex partners

Chiamaka Mary-ann said...

I don't see anything wrong with his advice. A rapist will deny doing such. But he told you, I personal also experience such being drunk on the process my Bf had sex with me. He told you to clean up but mine the clean me up himself.
So dear do what your heart tells you

Adaobi said...

A sex that was not consensual is not nice! period. Boyfriend or not its unfair to the other party. @DON MARTIN just negodu shit Ina ako hia! ibu ezigbo Bingo

opeyemi joshua said...

Na dem sabi

elizabeth nwankwo said...

Most ppl affirming what Steve said are capable of drugging a woman to sleep with them#fucktards#disgusting#selfish#rapist#this is sooooooo wrong!

DADA DAVID said...

What is wrong then?...anyway is Noted

obi williams said...

Welll 4 me ntn wrong wit it mehn I hv done it servally time wit mygf ......fuck oyibos

One Nigeria said...

If she thinks it is rape, then let her report to the police.

Anonymous said...

Sex without her consent is rape. This is how the guy can kill her when she is asleep. This is an unhealthy relationship. Log on to www.wigradio.com this Saturday by 4pm as we talk about unhealthy relationships.

Anonymous said...

U guys ca try that in Africa. Try this in a civilised world and you get done. wife, girlfriend, flatmate it don't matter. The law is clear 'Inability to give consent means no consent' buyer beware

chommy said...

Na dem sabi. Linda observe!

Luciana Chinda said...

Alright.

Posh Queen said...

Kinda in a crossroad here

Anonymous said...

Rapist. FYI not all guys are like You! Take note...

Anonymous said...

I am not surprised that people see nothing wrong in his comments. It's just so appalling to say the least. Taking advantage of anyone is not a good thing to do. Just because you consented once does not make it ok when the person is drunk and unaware of the situation. SMH

Charles Okafor said...

Notin wrong frm ma perspective sha.











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Anonymous said...

Na u knw pass. Keep shut. He had sex wit his babe, babe dat he has bin sleeping with since. Abegy mk u go lick soap.

Anonymous said...

Shut up

Edem victor said...

Well..


OKORO UPGRADED

golda awosika said...

I kno ryt, i see ntn wrong, yal lv tgeda, so wat, he even told her, abeg




#*karlishah*

chyyy said...

Nothing is wrong with his statEment.

ALLY BERRY said...

@Cheryl Gbam!!! well said

Jude Akinwole said...

Douche! Can he Guv same advice to his daughter?

Anonymous said...

Are u serious? So free that you wont feel?

adoye emmanuel said...

Stevie is damn right d fans shud die now

chinelo okafor said...

@DON MARTIN Ijikwe anya gi ka iselu nsii kporonku?

bimi said...

nothing wrong with his advice.pple shud just chill abeg biko

I.T enterprises said...

hmmm well their r some cases like dat u have every right to call it rape u also can choose to call it practical theory blac blac blac!!!! it entirely ur choice his advice is his opinion u are not force to go with it NB his only human

αʀօma said...

Shut up

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