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Monday, February 1, 2016

LIB reader got this letter from her ex..and wants y'all to help her with words to reply him

If that headline makes sense to you then please read this letter a LIB reader's ex sent to her. She's looking for the right words to reply him...if you can help...
"Letting go wouldn't have been so hard if I don't have real feelings for you. I wish you were ugly tho but I've seen pretty faces. It's been 3yrs since I made that decision that almost maimed my life's journey. I should have listened to your warning. How could I not know shit wasn't real? I thought being close to you would bring an end to all the drama, I was willing to give all, even more than I can.
Tho the distance was reduced, the gap got even bigger. Who am I, was just a young boy going thru a lot. I didn't even know a thing about relationships I've only had the betrayal experience of love.
Do you remember the writeup about broken pieces? Do you remember when I ask if you'd wait for me? 
Now I understand what your answers mean. I never forget a damn thing about us, from the first day I talk to you till the very last day. If it didn't mean a thing to me, it wouldn't be so fresh in my memory. I don't blame you for any part of it, I could have played better.
When you said you had to go, reality hits me hard between my eyes like a rock and knock me down to the ground. It was when I needed you most, maybe today it would of been a different story but..
Today I thank GOD for the life I have, the lessons I learnt and for the future HE give me the privilege to embrace.
This year I make peace with my past and I ask GOD to forgive me for all the wrong things that I've done. I'm ready to take full responsibility for my actions and words henceforth so I'm using this grace to find peace with people who have had an impact in my life good or bad, say sorry to those I might have offended and forgive those who I've been angry with for I want HIS favor and blessings in my life! That as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD!
About the last message, I knew the right thing to say. When you said "if" that uncertainty took me back to and thru everything as much as I'm willing to forget, it was hard for me to think you had no feelings for me at all and its not just after the breakup.
Apparently, I don't want any of those left, it should all be gone for a new, real and genuine one to develop and grow. I'm willing to start from winning your trust, but are you willing to give me that chance? I'm not gonna keep doing that to myself the old way. I don't deserve it, my heart don't, but because I love you, whether it's wrong or right, I go that extra mile.
As a man, I need a woman I could love this way. The King that I am needs a Queen, but the lion in me won't take another rock hitting me hard in the face. If I'm not made for you, then why does my heart tells me that I am..
I don't even know you well enough then, and with the gap in between from now, there is a lot to find out.
I put before you an offer to move forward with me, forget about all that has happened and get to know the Man I have become or you may choose to remain in my past, as you wish. I may suffer now, but I'm preparing for a better tomorrow.
It is your choice, I'm more prepared than ever.
If you have found the perfect guy, I hope he truly loves you and treats you right. Do not hesitate to be honest again.
Whatever your choice is okay for me.
I will wait for your reply.
Warm greetings and a Happy New Year!

He gave me a choice. Apparently he loves me so much, but I don't anymore. I need the best words to reply him.

216 comments:

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ONYX linda ikeji first son GODWIN said...

And why does she need to reply him? She obviously ain't even over him,read it and couldn't understand anything.. Sigh.

chioma jacinta said...

She should follow her heart ni'. * it's well*

Davido's driver said...

Just ignore your ex












2M on my mind

Anonymous said...

Hmmmm dont know wat to say folashade70@gmail.com

Juliet Iwuno said...

Abeg na dem sabi biko. Linda take note!

JAYZSBOSS said...

Funny stories this Monday tho

Elixir Ray said...

Me: Move on honey!

peter abayomi said...

Enter your comment...na u sabi

Anonymous said...

eeyah....


send him a blank reply and address it with a kiss from your lipstick




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Anonymous said...

eeyah....


send him a blank reply and address it with a kiss from your lipstick




meenah_wakil on instagram


Edevo said...

Ignore the letter and move on.

Anonymous said...

There's no vacancy, love don't live here anymore...

acid man(linda's husband) said...

If she knw wia she bath,make she go carry her wrapper dia...wen dey wia straffing and enjoying did dey seek for our opinion...mtcheeewwwwwwwwww..nxt plzzz..

Adejoke fasasi said...

Since you dont love him anymore tell him and wish him the very best.



#Hajia Mufliat

Anonymous said...

God bless you. I wish you well.

ROYAL PRIESTHOOD said...

Hiss!

Best words as in???
Biko she should go and sit her soul some where and stop nursing after lost glory.

STERN said...

LOL

wizzy Moore said...

Y not tell him d truth,dat U hv no feelings for him, I believe he should understand, so simple

Anonymous said...

Na waa o!, this guy just dey shell up n down..issorait

shuga diva said...

U didn't ask us for the right word to use wen u broke up wit him.buh anyway I hope his letter to you is really how he feels.buh since u dont love him anymore well u should tell him that.

Di Mateo Xavie said...

This one pass my degree o. Dnt even knw wat to type..d guy is confused, u no knw who d at fault

Adaoma Anna said...

i dnt really hve much to say bt rather d popular piece of advice which is follow ur heart that leads to ur happiness...

Anonymous said...

Lmao. This happy new year message long o. Anyway as someone who's not new to unrequited love, id say try your best not to lead him on ordate him out of pity. Trust me, it's annoyinG when someone doesn't really love you and leads you on. Don't feel guilty. If one leaves, another one will come. for this reason, I try to stay away from exes, so that my judgement is not clouded and my time is not wasted when the other right person comes along. It will hurt like hell but with time he willmove on and forget you. the less contact you have with him. That is, no birthday, or holiday greetings whatsoever. I too am trying to move on, but my ex who broke up with me over this distance thing keeps rearing his head in and out occasionally with some unnecessary messages. I Think it's unfair to me, since he probably has someone and I don't. It's hindering my progress of moving on. Forget guilt and making yourself feel better. If you dumped someone for a reason, don't keep popping in and out of their life. Let them move on with someone else in peace. Dont be selfish.

Ama Adoma said...

No idea on what to say

Elektra Ray said...

dont sugarcoat it so he doesnt get the wrong impression, just tell him straight up that you dont love him anymore, thats if you are very sure you dont

Peace Alfred said...

Mtcheww..ignore him joor

NewsEveryHour Blog said...

The letter is full of lyrics from popular blues songs. He is a desperate player

Ibnn Batutah said...

Thank you for thinking if me this way. I can only say that a long while has since passed and we should just let it be. Perhaps it's all for good that we've both learned what we've learned being apart from eachother.
Best of luck

lola said...

There must be something fundamentally wrong with me because all I see are the grammatical errors in his love note.

God abeg help your daughter.(me)

Babe, nobody can help you. Be true to your self. Never forget that in this world, you are the most important thing to your self.
Be true to who you are.


Smiling Judge said...

Go deep down within you and be truthful to yourself. Everyone deserves a second chance

Efa Lebo said...

It is kind of complicated here. His words are quite touching but in it, I see the words quoted from great philosophers.... I don't think he really means all that he's said. But, after 3yrz, I believe he has struggled hard but could not get a woman like you that's why he makes this hard resolutions. If you do not love him anymore, pls reply him in simple words....I hope in the end, fate will decide better. #Efa

Pretty face said...

Love wahala

Ukay said...

The guy is even arrogant

Iphie Abraham said...

Babes,if u are already in a relationship,and d guy loves u nd u love him too,nd he's serious,den dnt go bck to him. Bt if u are not in any,plz go bck to him. He's learnt,he regrets nd he loves u. U onced loved him,u will still love him











LIB ADDICT#just passing#

Luciana Chinda said...

The message is too long eh!

BONARIO NNAGS said...

Singing One Republic's "Too late to apologize"

. ~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA LUMIA

Uju Phil said...

Nice lyrics,oh yeah, someone else's lyrics! You can't eat your cake and have it. But it's your choice,deal with it in your best possible way.Good luck to ya.

Esther amaka said...

Awww! Say yes! Say yes! It takes courage and true repentance for an ex to do this! Ohhh! I just dey imagine his sorry face.

Mimi said...

My dear am in ur shoe...I will b marrying a man I dnt luv bt he cn kill on my behalf. My mother said marry d man DAT loves u, don't marry d man u love. So just follow ur hrt dear

JayBoss said...

Simple, if you don't love him anymore, tell him so, in as few lines as possible. You can just take his cue and tell him you both had your chances but you would prefer to leave the past as past; you elect to remain in his past and that you wish him well in his future. (But I hope this is what you truly want??). Anyways, truth is always better...

Anonymous said...

It will be more painful if you give him any sliver of hope when your feelings for him have changed.noone wants to be dated out of pity. The best thing to do is to be scarce in hiss life. You say someone is your ex and you still talk to the point that you're wishing yourselves happy new year. For what, biko? So that what will happen. Yall are deceiving yourselves and someone is bound to expect more to happen and will end up getting hurt in the process. You should not even have each other's contact details talk less of saying happy birthday. What's next? Happy Valentine's day? He needs to move on and salvage his dignity. And move on with grace. Now that you've moved on and are over his boyish antics, and the girls he was cheating on you with have left him, he's now ready to be serious. Biko if you Accept you'll have yourself to blame

Anonymous said...

I believe both of you are bored and looking for excitement. I wont be surprised to know that guy is 18 and same is for u too. Get a life.

Efa Lebo said...

It is kind of complicated here! His words are quite touching, but in it I see the words quoted from great philosophers.... I don't think he really means all that he's said so far...he's kinda lost here. After 3yrz, I believe he has struggled so hard to find happiness but could not get a woman like you that's why he made this hard resolutions. If you do not love him anymore, pls reply him in simple words. It is true that we never know what we've got until we lose it but then I hope in the end, fate will decide better.

JayBoss said...

Simple, if you don't love him anymore, tell him so, in as few lines as possible. You can just take his cue and tell him you both had your chances but you would prefer to leave the past as past; you elect to remain in his past and that you wish him well in his future. (But I hope this is what you truly want??). Anyways, truth is always better...

igwe Adaobi said...

Mtcheewww
Was expecting something different sef.
You have the answer already.

JayBoss said...

Simple, if you don't love him anymore, tell him so, in as few lines as possible. You can just take his cue and tell him you both had your chances but you would prefer to leave the past as past; you elect to remain in his past and that you wish him well in his future. (But I hope this is what you truly want??). Anyways, truth is always better...

Beecubed said...

Hello dearie, I can imagine how you feel cos I've been there (not loving someone who loves u real bad). But here's my advice, be honest with him, tell him exactly how you feel too. Not in a harsh way though. However, u guys can still be friends and if peradventure you are meant to be, your feelings will change cos d only constant thing in life is change!

Randy Pee said...

If he is known to be a writer or a poet, don't fall for him, it's a trap!! But, if he is a regular guy that barely writes, then consider him and give him time... Things may turn out fine. After all, what he's asking for is just an opportunity for you both to get to know the new you and probably fall in love again.

Y.F.C. Omrex said...

Noticed.

LADY B said...

Orishirishi!!!

alan blessing said...

Hmmm

Nseabasi Ekpo said...

FOR ME, THIS LETTER OR NOTE ISNT ENOUGH FOR ME TO MAKE A SOUND DECISION ON WHAT TO TELL OR ADVICE THIS LADY EXCEPT IF I CAN KNOW D DETAILS OF THEIR PAST AND WHAT LEAD TO THEIR BREAKAGE; HOWEVER, FROM THE SUMMARY OR LASTLINE, I WILL ADVICE THAT SHE SHOULDN'T GIVE HIM A CHANCE SINCE SHE IS NO MORE IN LOVE WITH THE GUY; OBVIOUSLY SHE HAS MOVED ON, SO LET THE GUY DO THE SAME; GOD WILL THEY MIGHT FIND THEIR HAPPINESS ALONG THE WAY, SHE SHOULD WISH HIM GOOD LUCK AND FINAL GOODBYE FOR GOOD.LOVE OR MARRIAGE IS BUILD ON EQUAL AFFECTION/MUTUAL AMONG THE COUPLE AND WITHOUT IT, CANT LAST THE TEST OF TIME; SHE SHOULDN'T MAKE THE MISTAKE OF ACCEPTING HIM ON GROUND OF SYMPATHY OR SENTIMENTS AS HE EXPRESSES.

Nseabasi Ekpo said...

FOR ME, THIS LETTER OR NOTE ISNT ENOUGH FOR ME TO MAKE A SOUND DECISION ON WHAT TO TELL OR ADVICE THIS LADY EXCEPT IF I CAN KNOW D DETAILS OF THEIR PAST AND WHAT LEAD TO THEIR BREAKAGE; HOWEVER, FROM THE SUMMARY OR LASTLINE, I WILL ADVICE THAT SHE SHOULDN'T GIVE HIM A CHANCE SINCE SHE IS NO MORE IN LOVE WITH THE GUY; OBVIOUSLY SHE HAS MOVED ON, SO LET THE GUY DO THE SAME; GOD WILL THEY MIGHT FIND THEIR HAPPINESS ALONG THE WAY, SHE SHOULD WISH HIM GOOD LUCK AND FINAL GOODBYE FOR GOOD.LOVE OR MARRIAGE IS BUILD ON EQUAL AFFECTION/MUTUAL AMONG THE COUPLE AND WITHOUT IT, CANT LAST THE TEST OF TIME; SHE SHOULDN'T MAKE THE MISTAKE OF ACCEPTING HIM ON GROUND OF SYMPATHY OR SENTIMENTS AS HE EXPRESSES.

I.K said...

Honestly.. you have said it all. Love must be mutual so it can grow. The best words to reply only you can discern. As it flows in your heart so you write.

Chomsy said...

Advicers ngwanu

Anonymous said...

I am married but i still love my ex, i have known him for more than 10 years but i have never forgotten anything about him, wish i could turn back the hands of time and wait for him and marry him, he is stuck in my memory, i have stopped communicating with him from the day i said i do, but i cant stop missing him, may GOD help me cos i am married to a good man.

Anonymous said...

Shitt head he love you but you dont love him again and you need a right word
to tell him?when he find another woman that will love him you will
start to having feelings for him and if you married a wronge man in future .
simple call him with one min call,(thanks for loving me but i dont love u or
have any feelings for you again,i want to move on and you can do the same,bye)
you are just decieving ur very self by giving him a fake hopes,,shitt head

Anonymous said...

Shitt head he love you but you dont love him again and you need a right word
to tell him?when he find another woman that will love him you will
start to having feelings for him and if you married a wronge man in future .
simple call him with one min call,(thanks for loving me but i dont love u or
have any feelings for you again,i want to move on and you can do the same,bye)
you are just decieving ur very self by giving him a fake hopes,,shitt head

Anonymous said...

Linda long story...I am tired of reading oh...nuel

Native Doctor said...

This so sounds like me reaching out to Angie.
The hurt I feel, the depth of the emptiness she created is too deep for me to fill up.
But I'm just so scared of her telling me that she's found the perfect guy.

phewwww.... I have no words for the sender. I'm right in the shoes of the guy.



Sincerely speaking the mind of Amadioha

Ebere Nwabueze said...

Before you decide what to anwser him plz answer these questions first...have you found someone else yet? Is the new guy better than your x I mean character-wise? If not I think you need to get back wit this guy cus a guy that love God and wit a conscience will love his wife

Jennifer Disi said...

Hmmmmmmmm..... What an emotional story. But you have answered the question with the last paragraph. Good luck Dear.

NaijaDeltaBabe said...

Babe pls move on, I bet he has nothing new to offer


... Merited happiness

Ichebi Christian said...

You know what?
I think you two should come back together..
Coz if what I just read was from a sincere heart that guy will break grounds..
Imagine declining him and next two years or so you see him as a celebrity??
Just negodu and forgive him*winks

Anonymous said...

Kai I love a guy like this oo but he doesn't love me! I truly understand that line" if am not made for

Joseph Okoyo said...

If u don't luv him anymore y are u seeking advice from lib readers? abi make we force d luv put 4 ur head again

Anonymous said...

Must everything be brought to media?this is very personal.

Moses Iwux said...

His words... 'do not hesitate to be honest again'
So, in doing that just tell him what your heart is telling you, using the words from your heart

Good luck!



The gods are watching

Idi said...

Why bring it here??? The guy is obviously gon read his letter here and feel bad..
Just tell him You're not interested, must you write a letter? Na wa!

danex said...

private lives now on social networks SMH.

Raymond Bernard said...

Tell him that in 4 days time it will be Friday again and that he should go out and find another u or a better u like I did lol, the fear of moving on kills most of us, like I usually say too that the fear of the dark kept most of us alive till this day, for u my lady what hurts the most is always the fact that we think we are so close to each other, for u me lady he was right to say that u never loved him, the big mistake most of us make in love is that there is always a reason why we love, but the moment we get to understand that there shouldn't be a reason to love someone then u are truly in love, with a reason when that reason fades or is no longer there or valid that love dies, like u did with him that reason for loving him died inside of u so u stopped loving him and it also means u never loved him which makes him right, see he keeps loving u because he cant find one why to love and why not to love u even after feeling betrayed.

ed DREAMZ said...

a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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I dont want to fall in love abeg.....
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

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modupe oshinaike said...

BEST WORDS TO REPLY IS "AM SORRY FOR THE PAST AND NOW AS WELL"
i feel him cos am in same shoe, being in love with one man that has move on but yet i find it hard to let someone else in my life even after nine years

Lover Girl click on this said...

Wetin be our business with you nah. When the love was sweet we no dey.


Habiba Ummi Sambo said...

Tell him to gerrarahia! Bye. Lmao

Linda NwaGod said...

Gerarahere.....
Who wil giv u dat best words u re lookin 4
U re asking ur maids 4 an advise?
U re very stupid 4 not providing us with what transpired btw de 2 of & u re sicking 4 de right words wen u hv made up ur mind dt u dnt want anymore
Mtcheeeeewww
Am temporary out of service
Pls try again later
Linda dont take note!

Anonymous said...

my advice is to the dude and other guys like you... dudes listen women will never come back to you out of pity, focus on becoming successful and better looking than before and you will have her coming back. Wish you luck...

T N. L said...

Thank you for the heart felt warm letter. Most importantly thank you for your love. I will be very honest with you. I have moved on i hope you find someone to love you as much as you loved me. May God give you the grace and I wish you good luck in all your future undertakings. Remain blessed.

agoz eleks said...

awwww..he sounded like me soem years back,before ifinally said i do,sadly not to same girl but another lovely woman.guy move on.u could found love aain.babe,if u havnt seen another guy,get him back.love is just sooooo confusing and killing when it goes wrong.i feeel ur pains.

Anonymous said...

The best word is , sorry bro ,I have moved on . Take care of you .

You ever consider this dude ,I swear he will deal with you .make no mistake .

Wise son. said...

Honestly, it really hurts lovn som1 who can't lov u back. I sincerely feel d guy's pain cos i find mysef in same situation presently. Dis is jst one of d realistic experiences of most guys & ladies evryday.

Well in my case, i had to giv her some space jst to allow her reflect on how much love i feel for her, & also to enable me avoid sliding into depression & to appreciate myself better. It has not been easy for me staying away from her these few days but i just taught it wise. The feelings really hurt bcos this is one girl i could take a bullet for.

But then, she has to make her own decision to love back & thats a fact, otherwise, any constant fronting of d guy could be termed obsession & assault.

Someone ones said, "love somtims can be measured by ur ability to let go when u've done all u could possibly do" & i think there is some wisdom in that statement.

All said, here's my advise; for d guy, get ursef involved with other things & people that could help keep ur mind & heart at peace & happiness!

To d lady, here is all i can say, love does not fall from the sky in most times, it is built sometimes! Stop waiting for some strange feelings b4 loving back. Most couples started this way & never imagined they could enjoy d love they share today. So if u're a lady in this situation & u genuinely know that u are not in any relationship with any other guy, then give the one before u a chance! Atleast, giv it d benefit of doubt!

Most times, it is d fear of trusting d other, that makes us hold back! But in dis case, there is sure love abeg, this guy is in love with u for real!

Give him a chance if u're still single & searching.

Anonymous said...

just reply him happy new year

anita gold said...

I no do again ooooooooooooooo

Should be the best answer

Paul Ocheke said...

Tell him F**k off ni**a... Double your hustle

anita gold said...

I no do again ooooooooooooooo

Should be the best answer

Onuchukwu Kingsley said...

You need a reply that will suit him why you have concluded in your heart that 'u don't love or feel him anymore' what else do you want from people???? Or you mean the right INSULT to shower on him???


#justfollowyourheart

#Dakinzz

Anonymous said...

Valz day is around the corner

Butch you know what to do

Anonymous said...

Why do I hv this feeling I know the guy in question?

#thathappysister

Bridget Abanum said...

Then there should be a better reason for the story !!! But to me its not an easy thing to do, just need to let go !!! never you force love dear. I died a millions times but for the Grace of God i pulled through!!!
% Linda Your Greatest Fan %

Nutty J. said...

I couldn't even make heads or tail out of the letter.

If you don't feel the same way just say 'NO..thank you'

Which one is you need the best words to reply. Just say "I appreciate your love/feelings, thank you, but No I don't feel the same way, I've moved on'

Life is simply, no need for drama.

My 2 cents.

Anonymous said...

TOO LONG AND UNINTERESTING JARE!!!

Tobe Halim said...

I would keep it brief and concise:
Let him know in no uncertain terms that you've moved on; that you just don't feel the same way anymore. That in the same way he has grown, you have moved to point in your life that you are more than happy with. That you will always have good memories of him, but that the break up was for the best and has resulted in two improved people. And that you would understand if he doesn't want it, but the only the you would take from him right now is friendship.
Just make sure he understands loud and clear that this is happening again. If ypu feel the need to lie about moving on, then that would probably help

Anonymous said...

The guy is a writer though! I don't believe a damn word from his stories...he's probably looking forward to another/many wasted year(s) again. #dogsinhumanflesh

kunta said...

Reply him in ur own words, follow ur heart and keep it real with him

kunta said...

Reply him in ur own words, follow ur heart and keep it real with him

jOnathan eddy said...

Tell him off easily.... The better for the both of u, cause he would stop @ nothing to get bck with u and u might end up going bck to him outta pity which the relationship would hit the rocks again..so just let hime go....but to be honest the fact that u re even considering or bringing diz to the public means u still have the slightest of feelings for him....what do u really feel??? #pikkasso

micheal effiom said...

D decision is urz to make use ur head nt ur hearth

Lets Be Real... said...

Why do you need advice from anybody to answer him? No answer from a third party will ever be sufficient because we don't know the full story neither were details of your last breakup with him, made public. SO just deal with him the way you did the last time. He seems to understand that so he'll get it again. He's just trying to put things to bed. Help him do that in as humane a way as possible. Just my take though.You've said you don't love him. So, let him know with firm, final words.

Anonymous said...

Ain't nobody got time for this shit

Ruth O said...

Why not tell him he deserves someone better than you. A heart like his realy needs a Queen. But first search yourself and be sure there's no feeling left that could be nutured. It's better to marry a man that loves u and u dnt love than a man u love but does love u.

Anonymous said...

my advice is to the dude and other guys like you... dudes listen women will never come back to you out of pity, focus on becoming successful and better looking than before and you will have her coming back. Wish you luck...

Trusting Okechukwu said...

If you are single, maybe you should give him a chance. You never know... He may be for real this time! Every second that comes is an opportunity for someone to "change"...not "APC", lol. I personally believe "love" grows. You may have lost your feelings for him, but maybe you should try him one more time. But..., be much more smarter, don't love too much yet and be much more wiser this time...
My honest opinion

vinna saviour said...

Hahahahahaha the guy get time to write all dese, he has come back to play it well....babe it's ur decision to make.

Anonymous said...

Honestly, I don't really know wat to say cos right now am also in a situation like dis and don't really knw wat to do.

My advice, if u r nt engaged or married, u can give him a chance and if things work out, thks to God.

Unknown said...

Pray sister...

adeseeke margaret said...

My dear,search your heart very well,, I guess you still love him.if not you won't bother to show us the letter.

ukwumaka theophilus said...

He is willing to take Yes/No. Give him an answer and don't waste his time.









Busy Fingers.

cephas tobi said...

Pray sister...

Anonymous said...

You still loved him that is why you are asking for a reply here otherwise you will just ignore think deep down in ur heart..

Anonymous said...

You won dey feel like a star cos your Bobo write you one love/pity for me letter baa? come! when una start we dey there?? if i slap your brain now, you go run forgive am and tell am say you no dey do again cos your last comment don answer your question! Please! If you no longer feel any love for him, do not pity or go contrary to what you feel about him now.. kindly walk away. #Gbam

Raymond Bernard said...

Me lady truth be told if he truly does love u like he claims and I believe, it only means that he has set a standard in ur life that the new man or the men passing bye will have to beat or pretty soon u will or u are going to miss him, u are going to want him back, u are going to wish this day hasn't gone bye so fast this is a good time to turn things around for twenty yes is not even long enough to start feeling guilty or wishing he could or u can have him back, growing up is tough but u will never know until u have fully grown, the moment u learn that the beginning of every relationship is so sweet and sweeter than ur imaginations, that u want to think that nothing could ever go wrong is a big lie, then it means u are not yet all grown up, a real man or woman can cook up a fight just to know how the other would react, to see if he barks and cools down almost immediately or he or she just keeps raising hell, to see each others level of forgiveness, to see if I'm sorry matters, to see if u can quarrel and make up almost immediately, to see if he or she is accommodating, to get the right level of understanding, see how much of a broken promises u both are and to still be able to live with it, to see if u can manage ur execcess, to love and be loved, to keep mute in the heat of the argument, to leave for little moment like when she burns the cake and the whole house is full of smoke and she thinks u will scream the house down but instead u giggled and try not to let her see u laugh, like when she drove ur truck into a wall and u talk about it like it was nothing, that is when u are all grown up and ready for love me lady. That I bet u even when u are 90 he will still open ur car door, and even at 80 u will still be brush is hair just to make sure he looks good.

portable said...

Enter your comment...jst let him knw ur mind nw for him not to be kipin false hope no mata ow hard it is, it is dis same mouth u will use to tell him,jst sit him down nd talk a heart to heart talk wit him nd I'm sure he will undastd

Psalmuelle aka Samstone. said...

Hmmmmmmm. This one is strong o. Dunno what to say, give him a try. Probably u can get to love him again.

#LIB ADDICT#

Anonymous said...

Yeah, my guy is truly in love with you, but more than anything he needs closure. He needs to know if he let the love of his life walk away without a fight. It's eating him up inside, and he won't be able to move on till he gets that closure. So, please, biko, since you know you don't love him, do not be disingenuous and lead him on. Let him know in clear terms that you're not in love with him and cannot be with him. Do not tear him down in the process, as I'm sure he's already grappling with why he wasn't good enough for you.
Sure, your rejection might sting him hard, but he seems prepared for that possibility, and he'll recover eventually. Indeed, time heals all, but he cannot start healing if he has no closure. Give him the closure he needs.

El Fidel said...

no be small tin

Vivian Reginalds said...

Abegi I shall return with a glass of chapman to read comments
-D great anonymous now as Vivian Reginalds

Prisca Chijioke said...

Be kind with ur words and reply him in a way dat won't trouble him. My opinion tho

POPULAR LIB READER!


Stella Miller said...

Take heart

Goldmine said...

Dear Ex...
Reading your piece really moved me to tears. It made me wish I had seen the future and tolerated all the shenanigans you threw at me, knowing you'd change. I see the maturity and penitence you sincerely exhibit and it does not sound fake. I'm indeed sympathetic with you.
However, I need you to understand that my heart now belongs to another. I am a woman, propelled by emotions. The incidents of the past with you killed my affections for you and you'll agree with me that "The first cut is the deepest". If I come back to you now, it would be out of pity, and that would not last. I have moved on and I urge you to do the same as we cannot turn back the hand of the clock.

My respect for you has been rekindled, but my love is gone. I wish you the best as you move on in life and I hope you find someone who deserves the new you.

Good bye my friend...and I hope you'd see me as one.

Amarachi Onwuka said...

You can't be too fast to say u don't love him anymore...I'll advice u pray about this and let God lead u my sister.🙏

Alade Temitope said...

You will learn to Love him, pray about it.

Anonymous said...

If you don't love him again let him know except you still care about him,you can go on with relationship and be more careful this time cos you don't know what he has for you.

Anonymous said...

If you don't love him again let him know except you still care about him,you can go on with relationship and be more careful this time cos you don't know what he has for you.

Olatunbosun Janet said...

Reply him based on your feelings towards Him...

Eric Nesty aka LIB'S FINEST said...

Jst hit the nail straight into the head,nd tell him u dnt luv him anymore.

#FINEST

Happiness Obioma said...

Tell he d truth n let ur heart speak for u.

olubukola daniels said...

wetin concern agbero with twitter handle? is not my business o in olamide's voice...

PrincePrinceHabibi said...

tell him "ko jor'!

Oshios Baba said...

Watever

Dahenriez said...

The best word is already near thy lips...so say it or write.






Enter your comment...

Damolia De Best said...

What I cn say is Be Real with ur Reply :) Open up and let it all be Real Ones again !!!




Damolia.DEW

jojostical said...

Put it into prayer,then do as D spirit leads. But let it be holyspirit o,there is evilspirit remember.

Anonymous said...

Dis is perfect

Very beautiful write up

Anonymous said...

Just be honest with him!! Feelings do fade and get back if one is willing to let go of the past.


But out of experience think twice before YOU reply, go deep down in YOU. I was once in the same situation, 1year passed without us COMMUNICATING, till he sent me a letter, similar, admitting all his wrongdoing on me. I said to myself, not again, I don't love him anymore etc. But I thought twice, I wasn't easy too. End of the story, I gave us another chance, and suddenly I knew how deeply I loved him and he was a changed man. Fast forward we are now years married and happy. I don't want to generalize my experience but you should be honest with yourself.

Good luck


*Even though good luck*

Betty said...

@ Goldmine, nice one there.

Linda's daughter aka Nwa Linda said...

Awww u have the best words no one else can help

Sure Boss said...

U've said it all that you love him no more, so which other word r u looking for ?

keke driver said...

Isn't this someone's music? It doesn't sound like a letter to me.

kike bunmi said...

Wow goldmine u perfect!

Anonymous said...

O ti pe ti o ti ko love letter...perfect format for reply.

udeze obumneme said...

No words. Just say the truth in words

Vickyfabulous adeleyevictor17@gmail.com said...

Speechless

Karlsson said...

Must you pray about everything? The feeling is no more there. Everyone should move on pls

Ubanagum

Anonymous said...

Just do whatever ur mind tells u!

Anonymous said...

If we are guided by the thought of others what's the point of having ours.you once built lots of memories with him memories you can forget but can't and that's why his here eager again wants you back in his life.those words ain't just ordinary words they came from the heart of love.ask him out,try to remember the good part of your stay with him and try to feel a thing and you don't leave him..you alone can solve this not anyone around you because you spent three precious years of your life with him..j/west

Mz Blacky said...

hmmmm, and you think the ex is not an LIB fan,

Anonymous said...

MOVE ON , AND STOP DECEIVING YOURSELF OVER WHAT IS NOT YOURS ANYMORE, YOU SHOULD UNDERSTAND THAT THERE MIGHT BE SOME ELSE IN HER LIFE , SO , PLEASE DO NOT DISTURB HER ANYMORE.

Anonymous said...

Dammit!!! Who ever you are, you are good.
The investment your parents or whoever made in your education was well worth it.👍🏽

Tosin Bankz said...

My sister,I don't think you need our help in throwing another truth rock at him,just make sure it hits dead centre and he can truly move#sosaysBankz

Ethel Azuoma said...

If you are not married,pray and allow the will of God to prevail because the thought of God is different from that of a man. Shalom!

Eugos said...

Too apt!

Anonymous said...

Best write up I have seen. Good one keep it up..

Chinonso Elendu said...

I really respect d two of u,u both have grown in matured minds. My sincere advice is for d both of u to move on and forget pity,pray to God to give each of u d very best life has to offer relationship wise. Every experience in life is a learning point,u both are better fortified now,congratulations on Life Experience 101.

ifesinachi lovelyn said...

Chao! Love asuluoku

Men of God said...

Some ppl sabi write love letter sha. Na Virgin Mary?


Ekenekwa m unu!

Menofgod247@gmail.com

praise nelson said...

Goldmine just gave a fitting reply but you should really think and pray about it before you tell him anything...

ezekiel gomba said...

My dear, follow ur heart and write him

JENNY IKEJI said...

What ever rocks her boat

SHE said...

You have said it all, "he loves you, but you don't love him anymore. So sweety move on with your life. You can't marry nor love out of pity,no sentiment. Move on.peace

horochi chimezie said...

If that guy catches u again, he will wear on u the best coloured apparel with a bouquet full of rose flowers. He will gently and lovingly take you up on a clif, make the best kinda love you have never witnessed b4 and toss you off the cliff with both eyes closed as if tied by the darkest scarf. Nothing hurts a man than when a damsel he loves so dearly decides to break off without genuine reason. I swear he will exhibit his kingly nature. A king doesn't want to be the 1st to be struck. That love was genuine, you shouldn't have messed it up especially when that kind is scarce in todays world. My advice: stay off that tender kingly heart and politely make him understand otherwise you'll spend ur entire night with him with one eyes always closed while asleep. Good luck to you both.

Anonymous said...

A million likes for this write up..

ISAAC EPHRAIM said...

@linda Goldmine who commented earlier deserves a presidential handshake...he was so one put...dear LIB lady in need of my advice refer to Golmine's composed reply

ISAAC EPHRAIM said...

@linda Goldmine who commented earlier deserves a presidential handshake...he was so one put...dear LIB lady in need of my advice refer to Golmine's composed reply

chinelo okafor said...

Why don't u think about it properly? Like pray about it, Check and Balance ur current Relationship, then if ur carting that u don't love him anymore, only then u can reply Him,be Honest with him but be Careful with ur choice of Words, It will brake him down, cause for him to send in this later he most have thought about it properly, just take ur time and careful, wish u luck.

Teemah Salau said...

Seriously I don't understand too! We ave to knw the whole story to understand dis! Wa happened y did u guys brkkk up?

Uju Phil said...

Reply gini? Person lyrics. You can't eat your cake and have it. Goodbye to the exs, forward ever, backward never!

damba israel said...

Abeggi not my problem




My view not urs!!!!

Anonymous said...

Karl lol!! 100% support to your word. But let me say this she has not moved on. She still has feelings for him. I actually have pitty for the guy she's with right now. It's gonna be a ping pong game btw the ex's. She's very confused right now and she wants people to tell what she wants to hear(Go back to "HIM" In Ghost Voice). Lol!!

Chibuike Iwuoha said...

Why is she wasting our time. She has already made up her mind. As for me love does not exist. It is the pass time of idle brains. Have you seen a person in love with a mad man? Please spare me of this nonsense called love.

Kween Beverly said...

Dear ex,
Ko ni dafun iya anybody! Moving on ti take over!! Jor o!!!

Taye Adediran said...

Respond with the scripture:

Matt 16: 23 - "Get behind me, Satan! You are a stumbling block to me; you do not have in mind the concerns of God, but merely human concerns."

2 Corinthians 5:17 - old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.

THELMA BLACK said...

Never throw away anything that once made u happy. trials come to test you

daisy daphne said...

Dats a very long story ND waste of time. My dear ur letter should be GOOD BYE..
Don't initiate a conversation. Just a simple phrase like dat can get the message home.

Inspirations said...

No matter how beautiful a flower grows (just like my first love for you), once plugged can never stay beautiful, deeds can never be undone. I share in your plight of the memories you hold and more worried of the future untold, but time can never be repeated except on another day. In this case let's wait till another life.

My forgiveness you have without measure, my prayers of goodwill I give without a second thought. I celebrate the new man you've grown to become and respect you better for the sincerity in accepting the truth of your mistakes.

Above all i wish i could be the queen to the king you are, but this mended heart has already chosen a new path to follow, I urge you to do same as there's still a more deserving queen than myself, out there somewhere.

Please don't ask me reasons for my decision, because the sickness of a mad woman is best known to the mad woman.

Ogechi Onyebuobi said...

From a woman to another, Go for who you know loves you, if u're not in any relationship now sweetie give him another chance d guy sure loves you.. Thanks

Anonymous said...

Mature write up

Anonymous said...

Linda pls who is this tosisochukwu na! Always leaving too much space! Haba! If you want to learn handwriting 2D exercise book still dey sell ooo! I don't like reading comments again because of him and that obsessed one that is dying to meet you this year! #attentionseekers!

gab2shoes said...

Wat do u know about heterosexual love.....fag boi.....

To the matter, Bae this guy truly luvs u ad I know u luv em too.....the speech Na Romeo letter to Juliet. Abeg before one person drink poison ad Linda go say read the story here.....

Gv it a chance babe....I support this nigga luv to u.....Abeg gv em a chance....there is nuffin like real luv
The gods are wise
Gab2shoessaysso

kamustaka79 bluestone said...

Reply him with... Am doing just fine getting along without u in my life. wish u all the best. You don't need anything long like the epistle he sent u ooo.

pearl valerie said...

Onyx u so read my mind.hes jst blabbing.dem stil dy write letter these days.what happened to phone calls.n girl stop deceiving urself.u ain't over him.its damn ob

jude okungbowa said...

Nice one

lacreme said...

Reply what? You have moved on ba? Then leave d past in d past abeg.

Maureen Mordi said...

Abeg 4get abt ur Ex n move on

Omoarebu Atafo said...

I've always been a reader, never commented until now. Why? Cause I think the writer is a very unserious guy filled with ego and pride. He's bragging and not entirely toasting. I'm a guy and I believe this guy is looking for a wife material but not a wife. If he messed up before, he will do it again. Gbam

Ifechukwu Chioke said...

Just blabbing Away. More Instagram followers for you

Anonymous said...

Thanks, I needed to hear this

Anonymous said...

Mimi, if u ask me your mama no try o....because body go tell u later *justsaying*

Anonymous said...

My dear life don't go that way all the time, I got all(4) xes on my bbm we still say hello but they know their limit.

iyke cindy said...

Gurl...u so read my mind,..dear advice seeker pls do any of d above dats applicable..

Anonymous said...

My dear life don't go that way all the time, I got all(4) xes on my bbm we still say hello but they know their limit.

Flying Dutchman said...

FROM THE COMMENTS POSTED BY MOST PEOPLE, ITS VERY OBVIOUS THAT SO MANY PEOPLE DO NOT UNDERSTAND THE REAL MEANING OF LOVE. THEY ARE SO DAFT AND BLINDED BY THEIR IMPOVERISHED MIND THAT THEY ARE SUSPICIOUS OF ALMOST EVERYTHING. THEY ARE NEITHER ROMANTIC NOR, FORGIVING. CHARCOAL HEARTS!

missy gween said...

Nah..shez over him in d love aspect..its good she let him go so dey won't kip wasting dia time...it could even be she wants to weigh her chances.
Every lady wants true love,wen it comes,sum of us get scared and strt overtinking tins esPecially wen we've had histories of relationship gone bad...she might av over tot tins.
Sweetheart jst follow ur heart.jus tel him u appreciate all d love and ur sorry tins had to be d way it is buh u jst av to spare him d pain of bin a one sided relationship..
Honey,ever1 deserves to be happy

Anonymous said...

Please, if you are still in love with him, ask him to sign an agreement that he would stop whatever caused your separation and start a new love affair for three months just to see if it would work out. Be open with what you really want from the affair but if you have a better guy please ignore the fool and continue to move on. Three years is not a joke ooo!!! Three years to regret, really? F... Off!!!

Grace Romanus said...

I agree with you, I find it very annoying when someone breaks up with you and pops in and out of your life, pretending to be caring and leading you on. Please tell him how you feel (Follow your heart)

Anonymous said...

I agree with you, I find it very annoying when someone breaks up with you and pops in and out of your life, pretending to be caring and leading you on. Please tell him how you feel (Follow your heart)

Chidinma Chikata said...

Madam,since you don't love him anymore,simply tell him the truth.

Chidinma Chikata said...

Madam,since you don't love him anymore,simply tell him the truth.

Verena Chisom said...

Is even a resignation letter that don't need a reply.... U can only reply if u still want him back..

Jamila Shaibu said...

Hmmmmmmmm I don't have anything to say.

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