Friday, February 12, 2016

LIB Exclusive: Singing couple Tunde & Wunmi Obe share secrets of their 28 years old relationship, advise singles

Singing couple, Tunde & Wunmi Obe (T. W. O), who have been together for 28 years (dated 10years before getting married in 1998) have one of the entertainment industry’s most successful celebrity marriages. As St. Valentines Day draw closer, the couple who are blessed with three lovely children in this exclusive interview with LIB (granted on behalf of the couple by the husband Tunde), shares interesting secrets of their long lasting relationship, opinion about the challenges of running a successful relationship in this social media age and more. Excerpts after the cut...



It's the Valentine season again and I know you used to host a boat cruise at this time every year, are we expecting that this year?
We actually put that on hold about five years ago due to sponsorship challenges. We keep pumping our personal cash into it and the show keeps getting bigger every year and we always needed to spend more without sponsorship. However, we just decided to give back to a general audience who are our fans this February with a competition we've been running on social media titled "#ThingsThatTakeTwo". It's all about basically following us online and sharing with us what you think takes two, then try to get just 50 retweets and you will receive something really nice from us. I'm only on twitter @iamtundeobe, you can follow me to participate or follow Wunmi @wunmiobe on Twitter and instagram. The details are all there. The other day, a young man said it takes Garri and water to make Eba and we all bursted into laughter. We just want to give to as many people as possible this Valentine. As many people that want to play, we give them something. God has been good to us and we are grateful. We want to give back.

So, talking about things that take two, your marriage has been one of the reference points in Nigeria celebrity marriages that have stood the test of time, what's the secret?

Like Wunmi and I always say, 28years together is not beans. If you don't give it to God, then you are making a big mistake. We have to put God first because he has kept us together by his will. The second most important thing in a relationship is that the two parties want it to work. Because no matter what the case may be. If you really don't want the marriage or you really don't want it to work, it won't work. So the two of you have to really make up your mind that you will stick together no matter the challenges. So after deciding that you really want each other, all the other things can begin to follow like communication, respect for your spouse, and following some timeless marriage wisdom. Like the Yorubas do say, what the husband doesn't eat, the wife should not cook it and so many other little secrets and wisdom. But like I said, the most important I will tell anyone is to put God first and decide if they really, truly and genuinely want to be together. Marriage is even more difficult now in this Era of social media, only God can save the world.

Could you explain more on that social media thing?
I mean, It’s no longer a secret. There is even a Nigerian celebrity couple that got broken up recently because of this social media thing. There is going to be problem when you begin to communicate with other people in a way that is not appropriate and then your spouse finds out. And the challenge is that unlike in the past, social media has now made it easy to have access to all kinds of strangers. Anyone can now easily strike a conversation with a married woman or man. God helps you if there is a already loophole in your marriage and your partner is the very vulnerable type. You don't even know the intention of some of the people your husband or wife has been developing closeness with online. The way it used to be back in the days is that you sneak out to cheat, but now everything has been simplified. Everything is smart now. Smart phone, smart cheating! Everything happens in smart ways. Even most times you find a couple both sitting in the same room and both of them, their heads are buried inside their devices and they can stay together in the same room without saying a word to each other because each person is communicating with his or her “fans” in quote.

So how do you bridge the gap between relationship and technology , do you now jettison technology because you want your marriage to work?
No, of course not! But both of you must develop the habit of opening your mouth and talk. A closed mouth, they say is a closed destiny. I would say that a closed mouth is a closed marriage. Learn to talk. When your husband for instance is getting too engrossed with that device, nudge him, “ol’ boy, it is our time now. Please drop that thing.” let him or her know that you are being deprived because of that thing. The mistake most people make is that they don't speak out. Tell your husband what you want! Tell him how you are feeling it and ‘how it is doing you’. And the same goes for the man. You find a couple tightening up their face all the time in the house, they grumble up and down! If you feel like somebody is on their device for too long, tap him and let him or her know that “this is me and you time”. I won't say it has never happened with us, but anytime it does, “I'd say babe please put this thing down, I need to talk to you. ” And really, a wife that loves her husband, obedient to him and respect him will drop it instantly. She won't even say “let me finish what I'm doing”. Then you as the husband can now tell her “dear if there is something you are typing oh, please finish with it oh”, Just to show her that little respect. Thing is, whether it is work, social media or anything that distracts, just always make out time for that special person and make them know that they are special and that they come first in your life. Let them know you value them more than all those things.

What do you think about people saying that the reason they haven't gotten married is because they have not found their ‘spec’ of man or woman?
For me I think you shouldn't have a spec when it comes to marriage. Just like Wunmi was saying during a TV interview the other day. She said when she met me, I was much more handsome than this. Now imagine if she had come for me because I'm a spec, we probably won't still be together after all this Years. What you need to go for in a spouse is his or her heart. If you find a woman with a good heart, you have found everything. If you find someone with compassion, you are the luckiest of humans. How do you find a woman with a good heart, it starts with the way she treats everybody around her. Just watch her. Not just how she treats you in the rationship but how she relates with everybody, how she empathize with others. When you are with a woman and she is talking about other people like “see what they are going through, what can we do to assist them?” that's your wife! So I don't believe in spec, because a woman with a good heart will work hard to be all those things you want.

60 comments:

ify said...

Good for them

Uju Phil said...

This alika couple,mtew

judith hanrankis said...

Most beautiful gal on linda ikeji's blog


Most beautiful gal on linda ikeji's blog



Most beautiful gal on linda ikeji's blog

Not easy to even date for a year, but staying togeda in a union takes a long way, am happy for them.




Most beautiful gal on linda ikeji's blog

STERN said...

LOL. NOT A FAN. #TGIF

RAPHAEL AYUBA said...

Nice one....

#PEACEOUT

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Iphie Abraham said...

Keep growing in love







LIB ADDICT#just passing#

Juliet Iwuno said...

Hmmmm! Nice one, thanks for sharing. Linda take note!

Eddy Ogbunambala said...

Good

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Ngozi Ebere said...

Noted till when I get there

JOYOUS said...

CUTE COUPLE! LOVE CELEBS WHO STICK TO THEIR MARRIAGE BIKO.



LINDA HOPE ITS THIS YEAR O#CANT WAIT#

Kate Ubochi said...

There lib readers and linda pls I need a job , I leave in ph pls some body should help me am tired of going office to office and staying at home .thanks

Adaobilinda her sexcellency said...

Hmmmm heard

U-C-J said...

Good one, may God continue to bless and strengthen your marriage.
Linda mee k'anyi fu anya! @uchemacj

doc said...

True talk

I-man.com said...

Lovely couple

Nenyechi said...

True talk

otee elizabeth said...

Nice

Pearlie said...

That's good.

Ben Ik said...

nice one

evy claret said...

Very true especially in the social media(phone) aspect

Eva Da Diva...

OMIDAN ABBY said...

Lovely couple!
Nice interview and funny too..
Smart phone! Smart cheating! Lol
God help this generation cos that shit happens a lot.. y'all could b together in a room without saying jack to one another instead na fone pressing...

Eric Nesty aka LIB'S FINEST said...

Gud for dem


#FINEST

Jamila Shaibu said...

Ok seen...

Bibian Obunse said...

Beautiful couple...

CHERYL (aka FROM GLORY to GLORY) said...

Oh please, we know her fathers money also played a huge part of the success money....

Nweme Jonathan Eyo said...

One of the best and modern celebrity couple

Psalmuelle aka Samstone. said...

28 years no b beans o. Greater years 2geda for them.

#LIB ADDICT#

GALORE said...

Love @TWO

She really showed @Stella damasus Aboderin Nzeribe Ademinokan pepper... Lol

And I still dedicate that their Mogbomoya song to @Dokun brothers

@Galore

omotola ojuade said...

Hmmm love, relationship its well, but I like what he said, both most be willing not one sided stuff. Linda post o

omotola ojuade said...

Hmmm love, relationship its well, but I like what he said, both most be willing not one sided stuff. Linda post o

JOHN CHIBUIKEM UKAEGBU said...

good ur on point

Cabrini said...

Their cup of beans

Nne said...

Nice one Tunde and very real. God bless your marriage n home and thanks for d advise

Anonymous said...

A very Intelligent man! Congrats to T.W.O.

Anonymous said...

Seen

Onyima Judith Peter said...

Matured man speaking

daniela desmond said...

28 years with that hottie??? They must have endured alot

Anonymous said...

But you can't even discern correct English. It is 'dear' not 'there'. Go back to school first.

Chibuzo Joy said...

Tru talk, lov it

semiu ola said...

is good for spouse to love each other, this what TWO IS SHOWING US,GUYS I like you guys love spirit.

semiu ola said...

great job TWO

Pretty face said...

They look so much in love. Happy for them....

Ene said...

Nice...

Anonymous said...

Lol, Cheryl na wah for you oo. But you talk truth sha.

Anonymous said...

U need a job and can't spell dear.

Anonymous said...

We all know she is muscular,leave and she will beat wakanshege out of u!

Figure Eight said...

Is too long biko!!!

Mimi said...

biko. ur exclusive no make.

Mimi said...

biko. ur exclusive no make

christiana christiana said...

Love nwantinti....ife



#spritual

Peace nwadire said...

Nice one

BabiousBlog said...

good for them.

omoamaka said...

Cheryl why will you make such a statement even if wunnmi dad is rich and she doesn't love her husband they will break up even with the money so you try and keep your relationship till that time let see if it easy

omoamaka said...

CONGRATULATIONS to the OBEYS OMO ABI NI TO MO ENI IFE

Anonymous said...

Enter your comment...been a while in the race...so my plus to them

Anonymous said...

I really enjoyed this . Nice one TWO

Anonymous said...

Please why?

Ade Olasengbe said...

God first

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