Saturday, January 16, 2016

US author writes scathing article...gives 15 reasons why real men shouldn't date single mothers

An American author named Shawn James this week wrote a controversial essay titled 'Why Real Men Avoid Single Mothers' - detailing 15 reasons why men should not date single mothers. It's got people talking. Read below and tell us what you think...(If you're a single mother, you won't like this..:-))
1. Never Available. A single Mother’s schedule is never open. Single mothers are the kind of women to always cancel dates at the last minute. Something always gets in the way of a man spending time with her. It’s hard to have a relationship with her because she’s never there.
2. YOU are NOT a priority. Usually in a relationship the man winds up DEAD LAST. Behind, her kids, her job, the car, the kitchen sink, the stopped up toilet. Even the dog gets more attention and affection than a man involved with a single mother. Any man who gets involved with a single mother winds up a fifth stringer in a relationship. And he rarely ever gets called up to play.

3. Thinks the world revolves around HER and ONLY HER. A single mother is one of the biggest narcissists on the dating scene. She often thinks that a man has to drop everything in his life to be part of hers and her kids. They’re so selfish they don’t think a man has needs, wants or a life of his own. He’s just supposed to be there to give her everything she wants in life.

4. Emotionally Unavailable- Most Single mothers cannot form an intimate connection with a man because her feelings are invested in other people. Usually her primary focus is on her children.
In addition to dedicating herself to her children, most single mothers have given their hearts to someone else- their children’s father. And those feelings she still has for him will always prevent her from getting closer to you. There will always be some distance between a single mother and the new man in her life.

5. The ex/ Baby Daddy is ALWAYS THERE. A man just doesn’t deal with a single mother. He deals with her ex or her baby daddy as well. And this guy is always hovering around like a helicopter looking to c*ckblock you. Some of these guys still think they have a shot at getting back with her. Others just don’t want to see her happy. A lot of these dudes want to f!ght over her.
Seriously, it’s a game they’re playing with each other. And they’ll be playing that game with each other until their children turn 18 or 21. Head for the exit. It’s just not worth dealing with this fool and his insecure bullshyt.

6. The kids are working AGAINST YOU When dealing with a single mother you also deal with Kids. Kids who still in their little heart of hearts think that Dad will come back and love them.
Seriously, GET THE HELL OUT OF THERE.

7. Those kids will HATE YOU. They will act out to keep you from getting closer to mommy. They will make accusations against you to get you in trouble. Again, it’s just not worth dealing with the bullsh*t to get with a female. There are four billion women in the world. You can find a quality female who doesn’t carry all this baggage or give you this much grief.

8. Entitled attitude Single mothers think because she had a baby out of wedlock the world owes her EVERYTHING. And she thinks she’s the one who deserves the best. Even though she’s usually collecting welfare, food stamps, or child support, in eyes she’s still supposed to be treated like she’s a queen because she popped a kid out of her v*gina.
In their deluded distorted vision of the world Men are still supposed to take her out to the finest restaurants and buy them lots of expensive stuff. And he’s supposed to take care of her kids too, buying them whatever they want while taking a blind eye to their bad behavior.

9. Distorted self-image Single mothers still thinks she’s as sexy like she was before she had a baby. Only she doesn’t understand how her body has changed. In some cases for the worse.
Single mothers are the type to try to squeeze themselves into sexy outfits like low-rise jeans and cropped T-shirts to show off their belly button, not seeing the muffin top and stretch marks squeezing out over the top of their pants. They’re the type to stuff themselves into slinky spandex dresses, (not aware of that gut, and the cellulite on their asses) and head out to the club. She thinks men are supposed to run up on her offering to buy her drinks. And because a few thirsty simps step to her, she thinks she’s still got it. But the only people who wants what she has to offer are scavengers at the bottom of the social scene.

10. Always the victim. Single Mothers never take responsibility for their actions. The situation they’re in is always the fault of that “no good man”, “these damn kids” their mother or someone else. They never take any time to do any self-examination or make any efforts to change their lives. They’re still looking for some Rich Incredibly Handsome Man™ to put on a cape and play Captain Save-A-Hoe™, sweep her off her feet and take her out of the troubling situation she helped make.

11. Jekyll & Hyde Personality. A single mother will be the sweetest thing when a man first dates her, but a few months into a relationship she turns into a NUTJOB. A man will usually see glimpses of this when she chastises her kids when he first meets them. During that meeting she’ll yell at them and bully them to get them to act right while praising a man like he’s an angel.
It’s all an act. Heaven will turn into Hell around the six month mark.
Once a single mother gets a man settled into her life it’s not common for her to start verbally abusing him and mocking him as she projects all that pent-up rage from those previous failed relationships onto him. And it’s usually around this point that most men realize why this woman is single and why it’s time for him to hit the exit door.

12. Drama Queen. Because a single mother always sees herself as a victim of society, she’s always talking about her problems. And she always has a new trouble to bring everyone. There’s never a good day in the life of a single mother because there’s always some new crisis about to emerge in her life.
The reason single mothers need the drama is because it makes them feel important. It makes people pay attention to them. And when Captain-Save-A-Hoe™ is doting on them trying to solve their problems it makes them feel an artificial sense of value. They need that value to deflects people’s attention from how pathetic their lives actually are.
Manipulative In most cases, a single mother has no interest in a man she’s dating. In a lot of cases she’s just using a guy as a pawn.

13. In most cases she’s dating to make her Baby Baddy jealous. Deep down in her heart of hearts she believes that if she’s seen with someone else who sees her as valuable that he’ll see her as valuable and take her back.
In other cases when she’s not trying to get a rise out of Baby Daddy she’s playing the sympathy card™ using a guy to get gifts, free dinners and free drinks out of him. To a single mother, The men in her lives are just human ATM machines where she whispers a sweet nothing in his ear like a PIN number and money comes out of his wallet.
And because she’s a drama queen who loves to play the victim, the Single mother plays to men’s emotions to get them to react in the way she wants. It’s not common for a single mother to tell her man man about her baby daddy so he can go f!ght him. Or pit two baby daddies against each other. Many a man has wound up either dead or in prison because a single Mother played the victim card™.

14. Dishonest. A single mother is a LIAR. It’s how she gets what she wants. It’s how she manipulates people. It’s how she takes care of her kids. It’s how she survives in this world.
Single mothers lie. And they LIE ALL THE TIME. They lie to men about their age, their height, their weight, how many kids they have, the job they do.
On top of the lies they tell to others They lie to themselves. They lie about about how beautiful they are. They lie telling themselves they’re still a catch. They lie telling themselves they still have a chance with a good man. They lie telling themselves that their lives will be happily ever after one day.
The horrible truth is without those lies most of those single mothers would realize how pathetic their lives are. How they have no options in the dating scene. That they’re at the bottom of the barrel in the dating scene and the only men who want them are pathetic Manginas and thirsty Simps.

15. Carries Baggage, baggage and more baggage A single mother has more issues than Time and Newsweek combined. And when she’s looking for a man, she’s not looking for an equal caring partner. She’s looking for a Pullman Porter™ to take care of her kids, and clean up her messes with her childrens’ father. Brothers, don’t let yourself get sized up for the white jacket and the bow tie!
Anyway, dealing with a single mother is like walking through a minefield. After several months of being involved with her, it leaves a man anxious and tense because he doesn’t know where to step that won’t lead to an explosion that k!lls him.

That’s why Real Men avoid single mothers like disease.

Real men understand life is too short to put up with someone’s drama and their emotional baggage. We only have a limited time on God’s Earth and who wants to spend it being a Pullman Porter cleaning up someone else’s messes. As I stated before in a previous blog, let that woman take her run over Jimmy Choos and clean up her own mess. She made her bed, now let her lie in the wet spot.

Don’t date single mothers and don’t waste your time with them. There are four billion women in this world. If you’re patient, you’ll find a good one.

174 comments:

AbokiDaWarriBoy said...

***yawns***

JAYZSBOSS said...

That's your own opinion..u better keep it in your bra

freeborn zinalima said...

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#sad indeed

eunymz said...

Well written

MZ EUEU

ONYX linda ikeji first son GODWIN said...

Little truths here,but don't date them? Why? All i see is a misogynist hiding under the cloak of writing


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Tiwa Savage PA said...

Naa tru

goschi godwin said...

I agree. Full time. This author is a straightforward person

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Olaaliu said...

She is very correct.. I love this

freeborn zinalima said...

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#sad indeed

Bonita Bislam said...

This moron writes like he has no mother or sisters.Suffice it to see some single ladies exhibit some of what he writes, but I hate stereotypes & male chauvinists.Like we don't have single fathers too.
All single mothers can't be same & what did not work for Adam may work for Andy.As far as I'm concerned, this writeup is an epic bulshit

Nwariaku Munachi said...

Hahahaha. This writer may have had a nasty experience with a baby mama.

ebony said...

Big fat lie. Dis writer is dumb

Ndubisi Tochukwu said...

Who ever wants to get mad should get mad but this article is notin but the truth.

favour ezeh said...

Not all.!Abi linda!

Linda kindly resolve this problem that is asking me to prove if am a robot or not and even after proving it will still ask me the same question,kindly do something about it,I have also try to log in with another email but it was,t accepting it.

Anonymous said...

Chimooooooo . U must be a single father urself.

Teddy said...

One of the most stupid piece ever written..so because a woman was brave enough to have a child instead of abort and also walk out of an unhappy marriage or relationship means she don't have the right to love again or is not worthy of being loved again..very stupid piece from a very stupid point of view..since the author can write so well,why not write on how to be in a relationship with a single mother.what to expect and what not to expect.. or better still write about the things happening around the world and how to make living conditions better..

#my2cents

Anonymous said...

But it's better to be single than to be in an unhappy marriage or relationship.

Blessing said...

Bitter Truth..

Oh Lord please pick up my call

golda awosika said...

Ok im nt a single mother but this is stupid, im sure not all single mothers turn out ds way. D writer has some unhappy issues with past experience, deal with it, don't bash ds women




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Anonymous said...

Pathetic... The writer must be a sadist, the write up expressed a lot of bitterness. Single mothers wouldn't want a fuckard like you either. Dick head' I'm hoping you mother didn't single handedly raised you. If she did, then maybe all of this bitterness is as a result of the many men you were exposed to ás a kid.

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Chinazorm Jennifer said...

This is nt true,some single mothers r different # I want to be like linda when I grow up

jimsking said...

Gbamest! Very true I concur

anita gold said...

His palaver

anita gold said...

His palaver

Kay said...

Very true, I had this experience. Same applies to girls who dated some guy for like 6-10yrs and he left them. They always give drama and have issues. I run from them

Mz lzmena said...

Not all Single mothers, you oversabi pompous prick. I was married, had a baby but got divorced just After my son was 3 months bcuz my ex wanted something else that i couldnt give. Then i met my now husband, lets just say i have Never been happier. Single moms don't allow no stupid author who probably has been hurt b4 by a single mom make u feel undateable. You're special and any man would be Lucky to have not just you but another to Love.

HUSBAND MATERIAL said...

Dats oyibo single mum. Our 9ja single mum r always available cus dey nid moni to take care of d kid.

Adenike Bamigboye said...

What's he saying,are u saying single mother are useless, bcos she had a baby out of wedlock no one should marry her again,mtcheeew

Anonymous said...

After having dates cancelled at the last minutes i only have to agree with him

Anonymous said...

His opinion. I pray his sister never becomes a single mother. I was before I got married. Not my choice but circumstance. I am now happily married to the glory of God. I can only pity this man with so much hate in his heart. You can never tarr everyone with the same brush. What about the men who made those women single mothers? Should real women run from them too? Such a shame. Criminalization of women!

Nenyechi said...

Super story

Anonymous said...

Ma'ami Linda,are you a single mother eh?

Anonymous said...

Ma'ami Linda,are you a single mother eh?

Anonymous said...

Mumu. The first cardinal rule is not to generalize. What if his sister becomes a single mom? Mtcheeew

Garrett Coates said...

You just Nailed it,A man has to work,Husstle,Make his money,and marry a beautiful woman who has no child,thats the only way he can enjoy his marriage,for now,men if your searching for a woman,dont fall for single mothers,they re nothing but monsters,who one way or the other,left her ex,same way she gon leave you,bunch of dramas,dey re nothing but whores,looking for men to destory,go ahead work hard,and marry a good woman,and enjoy your life,because single mothers are nothing but evil!

Anonymous said...

Criminalization of women. So a woman should stay in an abusice relationship or marriage because she does not want to be a single mother? Linda you should know better than post articles like this. I guess that's why you are not a mother. I pray you never feel the hurt of single motherhood especially when you were promised marriage and got something else! Be wise about what you post. God is watching you.

Anonymous said...

Fs fa fa foul

Anonymous said...

Fs fa fa foul

Richmond Ichemati said...

I refused to concur with ur ideology.. some single mothers are even better and well experienced in managing relationship than the single young ladies!






#commonsense

Evans Zamarano said...

This is real talk mehn, especially number 2, 5 and 13. God knows am soo not datin a single mother

Anonymous said...

Then u shldnt av pre-marital sex and impregnate them either.....after all, God sed we shldnt av pre-marital sex bcz He knew all these ll happen.SUMMARY----obey God's word!

Itodo Augustine said...

I thing the writer is speaking from experience...there is anger in his writings...did anyone actually see what i'm talking about?

Nina Ezekwem said...

Hmmm.... I don't totally agree with you

Anonymous said...

It's hilarious how single mothers are quick to point out what a real man is/does but apparently they have no clue because if they did,they wouldn't be a single parent they'd be happily married

Graciejay said...

"single mothers are liars" guy you are just unlucky that's all! Stop painting all the single mothers black.

Obi tenten dim said...

He just them the last price.. True talk

Tochukwu Ikwuka said...

You are hundred percent right man. You are right on the points.

Marc Francis of Chelsea said...

He wrote it in 2012.

udeze obumneme said...

Well he is right to some extent. Not all single mothers tho. Some still want to love and be loved. The road may not be easy but

Graciejay said...

"single mothers are liars" guy you are just unlucky that's all! Stop painting all the single mothers black.

Anonymous said...

If you think this write up is a joke, then you are a joke, being with a single mother, I saw hell, wasted my time, my money, my emotions, every single point in this write is a fact back to back, if you are that girl am talking about and you are reading this, please change your ways, I live in east London, am less than 30, yoruba guy, cool and calm, gentle and caring, all this are clue for you to know your self

Anonymous said...

EVERYTHING HERE IS SO TRUE.

Anonymous said...

Linda God sees the heart and he knows why you posted this. Do not use God's blessing as a tool to get bitchy or cause hurt. You have merely posted this to get single mothers insulted for your personal reasons. Are you competing with a single mother?

admin said...

Well said! good pieces, intresting...

nsikan davies said...

I CANNOT HELP BUT BELIEVE THESE THINGS....SOUNDS TRUE....MAYBE NOT SO TRUE...BUT 70% TRUE SHA

Michael. said...

Got me laughing,actually much worse when she lies not having kid/s,ropes u in then drop,s the bomb(been there,seen that)not worth it at all,so much time wasted by then.

Oluwa Bukola said...

This author is wicked,,,. So what becomes of all single mums out there whose hubby has been snatched from them? Don't they deserve some companionship/comfort too? It's wrong to make ones assessment of few to judge so many others. #Linda'spal

Oluwa Bukola said...

This author is wicked,,,. So what becomes of single mums out there whose hubby has been snatched from them? Don't they deserve some companionship/comfort too? It's wrong to make ones assessment of few to judge so many others. #Linda'spal

Bello Sunday said...

Nice write up but truth is bitter

Bello Sunday said...

True talk,

Fatty alkali. said...

Cheiiii,diaris God oooo

Anonymous said...

It's obvious that the writer had a bad time with a baby mama and he is taking it all out on all the single mums in the world. It's sad for him to think that once a woman as a baby, that her life is over and she doesn't deserve to find love. It's sad that he thinks singles mothers have become a robot, an motionless women, as though he was born of a woman. He talks as though, bcos he is lucky enough to have his parent still together makes him think so low and in a senseless manner. I just feel nothing but sorry for this writer. Mkat

Chiisunshine(carolips) said...

Totoally agrre with him. But it alzo takes a good man to date n marry a single mum. And to be honest. Nigerian single mums re not like that. Their parents usually take the kid n catter for him or her, while the single mom is busy working while also looking for mr right. And After marriage, the single mom will leave the child at her parents house unless her husbant tells him to bring the child along.

Doris Ohagudo said...

He is entitled to his opinion. Hope his sister don't fall victims. Life is funny.Attention whore writer. I dont know what a single mum did to u in the past that rearranged your brain

Doris Ohagudo said...

He is entitled to his opinion. Hope his sister don't fall victims. Life is funny.Attention whore writer. I dont know what a single mum did to u in the past that rearranged your brain

Doris Ohagudo said...

He is entitled to his opinion. Hope his sister don't fall victims. Life is funny.Attention whore writer. I dont know what a single mum did to u in the past that rearranged your brain

Mayberry said...

Absolute nonsense,what abt a young woman dat lost her husband to d cold hands of death probably after one child,r u saying she shouldn't remarry?
Or a woman dat is almost dying of heart attack bcos of her husbands silly attitudes,not being able to control his manhood,living wit d fear dat d man might contact a deadly disease & infect her wit it r u saying she should nt pathways wit such a he goat & look for a better man?
If women r whom u say dey r,u men tot them to b so & d fact dat a God forsaken, demented, stupid,irritating,frustrated & useless man like u ve fallen victim of such a woman doesn't mean there r no gud single mothers out there,who ve also fallen victim of ungrateful men like u. Let dat sink into ur deep skull.

Edobabe#replinda#

I B M bolubantin said...

This guy is just mean

Adejoke fasasi said...

Premarital sex is a No
No marrying single fathers tooo
This life is too cuel to women,shud we now stay in an abusive marriage cx we dont want to be a single mother.
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Anonymous said...

I don't know why she does this but no one knows the future... Linda keep doing this ok? Let's see what fate has in store for you.

chioma jacinta said...

Long reading biko, don't hv that time linda! #it is well#

Michael. said...

From d comments been posted i see a divide,women feel he is mean,men see it as true talk,my exp has aligned 100% with d author esp when she hides her child,then after so much time invested,she drops the truth,all the while not realising the baby might have made the man stay if she had been honest.

Anonymous said...

To had up, I was a single mother who had a beautiful child for an idiot! But I later found love, women didn't choose to have kids for irresponsible men, they pretend to be a good man and only when a baby comes in that the truth about themselves comes out. But now, I'm one of the most luckiest woman on earth to have met this wonderful man I married and now I'm a proud mother of two (2). Singles mother out there, please don't pay attention to such low life wanna be writers to make you feel bad or make you feel that you don't deserve a second chance of happiness. Singles mothers out there, you are all beautiful and don't let any fool tell you otherwise, I love you all. Mkat

Juliet Iwuno said...

Geez! I can never comprehend the kind of school you went to. Linda take note!

Adenike Bamigboye said...

Confirm

Lassa Fever said...

There is some truth in his write up. The only errorenous part there is the title..not all single moms are that way..same way not all muslims are terrorist..

WAR ON ALL RATS

Chidinma Grace said...

I don't concur.

Anonymous said...

Ur blog will be more sadist than dis,mtcheew

Anonymous said...

Agbaiya see ur mouth

Ada Nwafor said...

Keep your opinion to yourself woman

Posh Queen said...

This guy must have had issues with a single mum.

Anonymous said...

U are an idiot,go and tell ur mother dat,if we look into ur family now,all ur sister's are back to ur fathers house with their children, fool

Jenny Duby said...

Story

VIVACIOUS TRACY said...

Na he opinion b dis

Anonymous said...

Hw abt d single fathers

Anonymous said...

I pray u don't experience dat,God punish u

Mr complete said...

Lol! Nice one. They are as loyal as a dog!

Anonymous said...

Yes, his anger is very evident, showing how biased his views are.

Anonymous said...

She will soon see,lets leave everything to God

Mr complete said...

Different stories and different personalities! Don't stereotype or rush to conclusions because of one awful experience!

Jojo said...

My thoughts exactly...

Anonymous said...

You met the wrong one mbok, its the character of the individual not the person's status as a single mom.

Anonymous said...

Thank God our God is a merciful God. He has blessed many single moms.

Anonymous said...

Half literate ni u knw?...

Anonymous said...

Those that refused to abort but chose to bear their cross are sheros in ma book, yo!

Anonymous said...

Wat of d one,who says d truth

Monemi said...

True talk

Anonymous said...

Mostly true. I once tried to date a single mother....even flew several hours to visit (even though I got no bedroom privileges on this visit). Somewhere down the line, during a discussion, and out of no where, she got mad and calls me "stupid". We are no longer on speaking terms.

Nkemy said...

Different strokes for different folks, he shouldn't generalize his reasons which i think sounds too personal.

Anonymous said...

This ia an example of what his talking about,bitter, always feeling like victims of the society and too much drama. What brought linda's childless situation into this...lol

Adaobi said...

Madam writer pls do you know that there are single ladies that are worse? if a single mom decides to find love then she will. there are imperfections every where. this same stigma held my mother's younger sister and my Uncle took the matter and chased so many suitors for her. Eventually a MAN came and we all use him to describe what deep love is all about. your definition of a man is ridiculous... I don't believe anything you just wrote, some single people has more issues than single mothers. Everyone has issues if you love the person then there is nothing stopping you.

Anonymous said...

True talk but Shawn James should also say the nice part of dating single mums like the fact that they are second best to their other women. Truth hurts!!! Single mum is always their to mob your tears when you long time lover dumps you. It really goes both ways as users... There to cook for a punk like you... Just saying!!!

MEREZE said...

No matter whose ox is gored, I agree with the author. I have dated single mums, and I faced herll. I was left out in the cold winter once. I wouldn't advice anyone to settle with a single mum, except you can withstand bullshit.

owakah (A.K.A. Innosometin) said...

ok

Anonymous said...

Well this is not true for all single mothers but the truth is a couple of things he wrote a very true for single mothers and the part I agree with the most is there are alot of good loving women out there, who are not perfect but have far less babbage and you wouldn't have to bring you future kids into a polygamous family where there is unnecessary competition and drama #firsttimecommentingafter2years. Just had to give my opinion

Anonymous said...

God help women in this world that tries everything to bring us down.

Anonymous said...

Well if you say I met the wrong one I won't dispute the fact with you, I will never try it again in my life and my advice to single young guys please avoid single mothers and your days will be long

segun said...

Although I admit that some of the things this writer said is true. But he just told the whole world how weak he is emotionally;cannot handle emotional stress for too long and also, his value has the vegetable type of roots. Everyone is entitled to their opinion because LIFE IS A CHOICE. WISDOM CAN HANDLE ANYTHING.

Anonymous said...

All that money will never take care of your loneliness. Keep putting others down!

Anonymous said...

@11.21am - Amen! God is truly merciful. All those who mock others will get what they deserve! Judge not so you are not judged!

Anonymous said...

My friend will you shut up! You see what the guy is talking about. You said they were 'brave' enough not to abort why we're they not 'brave ' enough to use protection or keep their legs closed. I dint support the article fully but your excuse is pointless. Imagine! They were 'brave' didn't they enjoy the act. Abeg pack well

kings4tary said...

95% truth safe for the kids, they will not naturally inclined to a man isnt their papa or wants to take their mother's attention more than them. All in all most of all he said are very true.

Tamia lixir said...

Same anon posting multiple times. *yawns*

Danita Lawson said...

First of all, this writer is a child....yes a single mother and even any mother will place her children first but if you are able to break into her she will make herself available..... Most single mothers are independent hence their no nonsense attitude to stupid men, they work hard to take care of their family Nd they understand the true meaning of commitment and true love because of their experience.... But saying that all single mothers are bad and should be avoided is just like saying all Muslims are terrorist...... We know your type.... You do no research and you assume based on your personal experience..... Linda we see what you are doing, certain articles shouldn't be posted....why don't you post a write up about women above 3o and not married and how they should be avoided...grow up please!

Anonymous said...

Lol, the women are insulting him while the men are agreeing with him.. I guess the actor has achieved his aim successfully, at least he has saved some men souls today.

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Not all



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Anonymous said...

Abeg you're just talking rubbish. , single mama are the most interesting to date my bother is dating one of them , which he confess that among all the women he has met the single mama is best . We are making plans for their wedding next month.

Jamila Shaibu said...

Hmmmmmmm ok seen!

Anonymous said...

This is a distasteful and ridiculously exaggerated article. The traits he has described CANNOT be attributed to single motherhood. A woman's attitude, determines the way she will treat a man. I am NOT a single mother- I am engaged to be married but this article reeks of bitterness.

I'm sorry if the author had bad experiences with one or two single mothers but don't you think it is silly to categorize ALL single mothers as the same??

What differentiates a single mother from a single woman who isn't a virgin? The fact that one got pregnant and had the child, while the other didn't.

Single mothers should be celebrated because a lot of them went into relationships with the belief that it would lead to marriage but ended up being disappointed!! A lot of women got married when they were already pregnant - that man who married you could have abandoned you too!!! Count yourself lucky that he didn't abandon you or run away. The fact he married you doesn't make you better than the single mother.

To all the single mothers out there, we celebrate you. You are heroes and God will give you the bone of your bone and flesh of your flesh.

To Linda Ikeji- don't be stupid. Why would you post this sort of article? What is your point? If you are not a coward, pls post my comment. Next time refrain from posting scathing articles like these. You are a very powerful social instrument so use it wisely!!!!!!

Ogbewe Godfrey said...

Single mothers in the house your attention is needed,

Osmond Adebayo said...

I disagree with this at some point

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True but they need some love so show them some
-D great anonymous now as Vivian Reginalds

olusamjide said...

there are few truth in what the writer said but that doe not warrant the conclusion that single mum should be avoided, that is stereotype. Not all single mothers are drama queen and not all of them going into relationship to get back their baby daddy. He/she is right about BABY DADDY ALWAYS HOVER AROUND either to get her back or don't want happiness for her. also the kids may be working against you in anticipation that their dad is coming back.

lilian chinomso said...

Not a good piece of thought nor writing. He has to have a rethink on this. Single mothers can still love again. He is supporting girls that mistakenly got pregnant to abort the baby?

okunade temitope said...

She's right. Majority of dem are like that

ebere gold said...

Tho not so true, but all d baby mamas or aspiring baby mamas shuld read this. #inlov with LIB.

Anonymous said...

Am married to a single mother and am happy with her, better than many single ladies.

Igbine Jane said...

This is one of the most uninformed pieces I've ever read, granted some single mothers are nothing to write home abt but common. This is crap, most very strong, hardworking and faithful people I know we're raised by single parents. It's bad to downgrade the hardworking and super human single mothers for the attitude of a few

Unknown said...

I must say with the whole of my mouth that u the author of this stupid write up is the must useless and stupid person have ever come across. I'm a single mother and all dis u put up is nothing but a fat big lie. If u ve issue with a single mother deal with it and don't ever generalize. I'm a single mother and I'm a proud one, I have a new guy in my life and I'm d most amazing lady in his life.

femobafem@gmail.com said...

I concur

Anonymous said...

I have to say that the write-up conveys some truth, however, I sense some misogynistic attitude from the writer. my general encounter (not dating) with single mothers, borders around point number 1-12. With such attitude from them, it is understandable by the writer is against dating them, however, we should not generalize, until you have reached point number 11. :-)

Oluwa Bukola said...

Is d writer a woman? #Linda'spal

Oluwa Bukola said...

So a single lady cannot call u' 'stupid'?

Chinelo Ezeagwuna said...

This guy is heartless. How can YOU expect the woman to drop everything for a man? Her kids and her job are some of the priorities of her life currently. She's only looking for a father figure for her kids/ new hubby. This article isn't even about why men shouldn't date single mothers. It's about why single mothers are not fit to date. I'm fourteen and all, but I'm a very opinionated 14 year old. Just saying. I hope this comment gets back to that guy that wrote the article. GIRL POWER!

Amie_287 said...

And how would you know? Many baby mamas have u dated to come to that conclusion? Fucking chauvinist!

paparazi said...

Marriage is a thing of the mind, people marry single mothers and they love it, others do marry and they regret it, u can marry someone who is not a single mother and regret it for the rest of your life. There are no rules in marriage. what works for you might not work for the other person. It's all about being compactible with who ever you are with irrespective of age, race, religion, and color.

David King said...

You are a lady who probably intends on being a baby mama, a hoe.... sorry!! No captain save a hoe for you today or maybe ever. You bitches should stop getting pregnant out of wedlock and focus on your career

Pesin Pikin said...

I kinda agree with her in some ways and disagree in some ways...however, it's her opinion

Anonymous said...

Olodo osi.block head

Anonymous said...

I think he has a point. At least 12 or 13 of his points are right.

Samuel Omolara said...

Like seriously dis guy is a sadist, in as much I kn nt all single mother will poses dis character he jst write up

rolawe lemmy said...

Extremely dope,not many men can cope,buh this is the truth unadulterated,if you do heed you would escape unscathed.

#NicePiece #SingleMotherNoBeAm #BeAware
#LeaveTrashForLawma #ILoveNumber15

#GeneralFortune

Asoge Olukemi said...

I no see the article nah that baby wey dey look him mama I see. So cute

zizi said...

Anonymous 12:02 you are very stupid. So if ur sister is being maltreated by her husband, you will advice her to stay in the marriage till she get killed abi? you better think with your head and not with your yansh. Foolish goat.

daniela desmond said...

There is truth in his write up tho...but he's a misogynist...so single mothers shouldn't have a life or a second chance at love??? If you love a woman u'd put up with anything. And besides some single mothers work, and look sexy too.

RareSpecie Z said...

Fuck off.

Esther Otobong said...

Certainly

lord mosi said...

True talk, but that doesn't mean there ain't any good ones out there

Anonymous said...

Enter your comment...wow! There is bigotry in almost every sentence of this write up! Though its mostly correct, but from an unobjective standpoint. I'm sure most baby mama's dnt really go out looking for this kind of situation, and, as a guy if I follow the advice pronto I'm likely going to NOT get involved with women AT ALL! Tell me which woman don't cat soap opera when she's having a bad day, and which one is perfect...my mum and sisters inclusive. But to beg the question who made her single mum..yeah you thought right, A MAN! So to now be the culprit, the jury and the judge isn't fair at all. Who doesn't want love, or better put who doesn't deserve to be loved and wanted. So IMO, d article is botherline narcistic, myopic and rude-and not entire a lie at the same time. So readers interprete with caution. Chandler

Anonymous said...

I'm married and I see most of those traits in my wife. It's a woman thing jor!

Anonymous said...

Definitely you are one of the single mothers the author is talking about. Why do you derive pleasure in something that does not belong to you .God punish you

temitope faizat said...

This is a bitter truth

Remi Abioye said...

Let Singer Brandy read and learn from this.

Anonymous said...

Yes bro! The niggaa is just paid


#thathappysister

Me! said...

Very immature post @Anon. ..so u can stay where u are and know why linda posted something in her blog! All the news she has been posting do you not read them? So because she sent uploaded something in her blog u think she has something in mind. Grow up! Petty brain

I refuse to fail said...

Anon you're a fool!! Did Linda write the article? It's ashewo people like you who have children outside wedlock that this person is referring to. Ode oshi.

Anonymous said...

@zizi I shake my head at the brains we have in Nigeria. What you typed how does it correlate with what I said? Omase o who mentioned marriage or maltreating. If you are angry take it somewhere else not me since you are not the stupid one. Smart ass!

Anonymous said...

Like see is ugly face

Swagmatic E said...

Lol go an read your books young lady, these are adult matters

Eddy Ogbunambala said...

Not applicable here

Soundhouse said...

This is 100% true Linda. The thing is it is exactly how american single mothers are. so any one outside the USA may find it hard to relate. This is trueeeeeeeeeee

Naive Newbie said...

@David king not all single mothers gave birth out of wedlock. Some got duly married to dead beat husbands who deserted his wife & kids. The single mothers i know are humble & appreciative of any little help u render. This write up is about American celebrity single moms & the writer is totally clueless; believe me.

Naive Newbie said...

How can he pick up your call when you have joined a single-mom haters club. Show love to others is the greatest commandment of the Lord; you can't even obey who Him but you are calling Him. please put the call on auto redial; as far as you dont have love....

Naive Newbie said...

Visit your blog to read more hate ? Oh thanks but i will pass

bsensen said...

Sad, sad writer with lots of issues. I bet he has reasons why a man should not date working girls, University girls, unemployed girls, girls that kive alone, girls without cars, girls with fine friends, businesswomen etc. Nothing can make a brother like this happy. Life itself is a problem to people like this

Anonymous said...

Nigerian ladies never like to listen to the truth. Because he agrees with the article. He's committed a crime. Fools

Anonymous said...

Yes, real women should run from them too, that's just the truth...

Anonymous said...

Is it Linda that wrote this post, for crying out loud why are these ladies so mean?

Anonymous said...

Fool, ur husband to be is in real trouble if you can attack Linda ikeji for posting an article she did not write.. Do you even know her views or opinion on this??

Anonymous said...

First of all, the writer just wrote what he thinks and is probably dealing with a baby mama or mamas. Or Probably his mother is a typical illustration of his write-up. That's that. On the other hand, why do I hear single mothers and no single fathers? Is it that the pregnancy jumps at the lady and there's no father to attach the blame to? This mentality has to stop wherever it is being mentioned. There's no baby mama without a baby papa. So back to the write-up, the idiot behind it should write the same article with the title having single fathers. At least, in your little filthy mind, you think single mothers are not entitled to be dated or married. The world is actually filled with some miserable people who intends to share their miseries. Dear Writer and his fellow followers who concurred, keep your silly opinions to yourselves and let reasonable people live and breath in peace.

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Ade Olasengbe said...

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