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Thursday, 28 January 2016

Dear LIB readers; should I stay or leave my husband?

From a female LIB reader
"I need some advice from readers. My husband and I have been married for 2 years now and we have a son. I first had a feeling that he was cheating on me because he locks his phone and he is always paranoid when I try to even touch his phone. I just got the proof I need that my husband has been cheating on me throughout marriage. He even spends money on gifts for this other lady, gifts that he never buys me. I need advice from your readers. Do I leave him because I need my happiness back"

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ossyd2 osamede said...

Pls be very sure if what u are saying before taking any step

Anonymous said...

Can't leave a country cos rain falls.... rain falls everywhere darl

AbokiDaWarriBoy said...

Leave the asshole, he doesn't love you anymore.

goody robert said...

Pray to God cos there's nothing prayer can't do, n u have to pamper him more than before.

Nathaniel Shok said...

Close ya eyes and make ya wish.... you and you alone knows the answer or perhaps solution to that. So do the needful already

Iphie Abraham said...

Eyah. Stay with him cos it's for better for worse. Bt I will advice u confront him,talk to his parents or ur pastor in church. He will def change












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Point And Kill said...

No don't leave him, pray for him.

Adaobilinda her sexcellency said...

Stay n fight for your marriage, put him in prayer always n do ur part as a wife. Always remember to be looking good. Don't let his attitude way u down.

Bae Bae said...

Confront him

dj banti said...

Enter your comment.I no know o anty linda answer am na..

Anonymous said...

STAY SO LONG "THE CHANGE" OF THIS DAYS NO LONGER HELPS MATTER, YOU CAN IMAGE HOW "APC" IS STRUGGLING TO MOVE NIGERIA AHEAD.

SO SAYS, "THE GR8- EBIRI-OKOMOKO"

Damolia De Best said...

LIBerS should take Over !!!








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osondu arinze said...

just here to read comments







that Imo boy

Anonymous said...

Ohww I feel so sorry for what's happening in your marriage.

Anonymous said...

File for a divorce if you are sure he has been unfaithful. Don't let anyone take your happiness, you will be lost without it.

OMIDAN ABBY said...

Ladies b looking for Wats not lost. Smh!
Don't u know to b happy in marriage, u need to mind your business? Let privacy b privacy for crying out loud!
Leave his damn fone alone and b happy. Do ur part as a wife that u re and stop seeking for evidences around the corner. And to think of the fact that he might not b cheating sef.
Secret to healthy marriage, let privacy b privacy and an example is each others phone...leave it alone!
Not married but abt to **in some couple of months**
That's y I can advice u..

Anonymous said...

Dnt leave ur husband or home dat will not solve d problem,leavin him will give oder lady more hands and let me tell u most men out dere also do d same I knw what am saying so just pray and do to home work to get ur man back to urself

Anonymous said...

Linda post my comment na...

Unique Treasure said...

Pray for ur husband.... leaving him is not reasonable at all.... he will only end up replacing u.

Adaobi Mmuo said...

Gosh it hurts so bad!!! But Don't leave him my darline,i can imagine d pain u going thru,marriage has its ups and down,how sure are u DAT d next guy u will ever get married is not going to be worst Dan yr hubby,u have to fight for yr man and try to win him back,its gonna be a bit hard but with prayers backed up too,God will help u,don't leave yr marriage,lady tigers will grab as soon as u walk out.love u

Anonymous said...

Don't stay, leave him! File for divorce and go remarry another ready made husband you kept somewhere.

Anonymous said...

Linda post my comment naa. ..

Ohww I feel so sorry for what's
happening in your marriage.

Uziezi Godwin said...

Yes leave him at the first sign of trouble.mumu.next pls

okiche vincent said...

My sister. Just do that which will make you happy. Your happiness is all that matters. And always pray and ask God for guidance

one of Linda's bridesmaids said...

Don't leave ur marriage because of a side-chick, use that woman power on him and he will change

oluwakemi abosede said...

Leave him jare! Nd go back to ur father's house!
Didn't u know from d unset! Didn't u pray! U would have seen signs na b4 marriage but uu went ahead! Abeg carry ur story dey go! U better stay there and pray nd keep talking to him, face ur work, one day God would touch is heart! Wen una no dey hear word! Rem to always go for blood test! No go carry wetinno bi ya own

Ugochukwu Nwakohu said...

Leave him, come and marry me.
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You have to fight for your destiny

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head of state(linda's foe) said...

Madam stay back amd fix ur home.nobody is goin to fix it for u.nigerian women shud jus stop ds whole divorce tin.if dere is an issue in ur marriage,u both shud address it instead of acting cowardly and resorting to divorce

Ugochukwu Nwakohu said...

Leave him, come and marry me.
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You have to fight for your destiny

Anonymous said...

i wld't advise you to leave your marriage cos ur horny husband is cheating on you.. i believe cheating comes with guys. talk to him and let him feel guilty about it... be the good wife u've always bn cos your marriage is really young... check yourself to see what your husband is looking outside for and work extra hard on it...


leaving that marriage is not advisable at all... you have a son involve remember?



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Anonymous said...

i wld't advise you to leave your marriage cos ur horny husband is cheating on you.. i believe cheating comes with guys. talk to him and let him feel guilty about it... be the good wife u've always bn cos your marriage is really young... check yourself to see what your husband is looking outside for and work extra hard on it...


leaving that marriage is not advisable at all... you have a son involve remember?



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OMIDAN ABBY said...

More 2 say.. U only 'feel', u not even sure. So? Y bother? The gifts tins u saying is only to mk ur point sweeter cos U're not even sure.
Don't forget that men are polygamous in nature and to live long and stay happy in marriage as a lady, stay off his personal biz. It's called MYOB!!!
*thank me later..

Temmiress said...

Gv him a confrontation.... Mk him know ur awear of it.. Den d attitude of its ntin ND let him die of guilt.. Be prayerful

Anonymous said...

You seem very naive to be mentioning gifts and money he buys the other lady as your major problem......Why don't you confront him with the evidence before even thinking of leaving

Anonymous said...

My dear,its only normal for men to cheat.its in their nature.i think u need a closet time wit God.change your approach.lay your complaint to the Holy spirit of God.pray for your husband.Ask d Holy spirit to save your marriage...then,daze your husband wit so much love dat cud blow his mind.never again nag or check his phone.its not going to be easy I tell u,but it's a sacrifice u must make for your little boy.start by giving your life to Christ if u haven't. Let God deal wit d rest....Goodluck!

Anonymous said...

Please leave so I can take over. I don't even hav one myself.

Anonymous said...

You never loved him at first, you just looking for an excuse.‪

Adeoye Solomon said...

Does leaving him realy bring back d hapines u want or wil rather make u frustrated on d long run? Think twice lady

ahabike daniel said...

Leave him nonsense u don't know how to fight for what is urs

Anonymous said...

my dear,if u decide to leave him, he will apologise and beg u to stay bt he will cheat. He didn't give u gifts cos u didn't ask. If u don't spend their money someone else will. Forget d cheating and demand for money and gift pamper urself to look younger and beautiful. It's ur decision sha

uche ekwulugo said...

If u leave am wetin be d guarantee say u go find true happiness. For the sake of your children keep praying for your husband. Don't be too nossy. And I promise him go come back to him senses.



AJ MAIN BOY...

fabian eze said...

your story is not in details...
Me need deatails before i give an answer.


#XENO-FABIAN

Ramson Jay said...

A good number of men cheat in marriage, what gives u assurance that u will easily get another man to marry considering the fact that u r 'after one ' and what makes u think the next man u will marry winter cheat on u? Just be a good wife and he will treat u well and learn not to snoop. Good luck!

flexfelix said...

You don't have to leave him for the sake of your son all you have to do is to put everything in God hand ,don't try to check His phone still give him that Respect as your Husband cook for him, do everything you are supposed to do as a wife your happiness in your Son don't let him know that you are that emotionaly down cause that will give him more winds to fly by the time he sees that you fill less concern about his way of life he will surely come back to his senses don't worry The Lord is your Strength..

Anonymous said...

That's not enough reason to leave ur husband,talk to him that's why you are one.

Anonymous said...

Sorry about that. But,has he been comlaining at anytime? Ask him prayerfully to know what promted it. Stay put,that's your home,your son needs a home to grow well. God will help you

linda Last Born(IPHY) said...

U a fool........its high Tym u knw marriage is 4 better 4 worse....

Now just bcuz u find out his cheating u want a divorce ok oooo go ahead den

Snow white said...

Be patient n prayers

Pesin Pikin said...

Leave

The kos said...

Please let him go before he gets you infected with some disease.. But the truth is that husbands are scarce,please manage because in the next 10 years half Nigerian men would be gays. We would be left with no choice but to share our husbands.

QueenVera Onogwu said...

My dear, leaving him won't solve the problem. Instead you both should talk things out as couples or better still, see a marriage Chancellor.

Anonymous said...

Look leave him if you want but it seems you were looking for a reason too, they say what you don't know won't kill you, you went in search for this and you'very gotten it now you are asking peeps lousy questions seems you prefer to be the one outside collecting the gifts since them never buy you gift for ur life

tosisochukwu said...

Hmmmmm! Don't leave cos u have nt caught him red handed... Like u are very jealous












































































































































































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Anonymous said...

Look leave him if you want but it seems you were looking for a reason too, they say what you don't know won't kill you, you went in search for this and you'very gotten it now you are asking peeps lousy questions seems you prefer to be the one outside collecting the gifts since them never buy you gift for ur life

Anonymous Personified said...

Leave him cos he's cheating? Mbanu!
Handle him & leave the lady cos the lady is not your problem. Your husband is.
Form cheating on him too & see him come back to his senses.

Olaaliu said...

What concern me

Anonymous said...

Only God knws wat is wrong wit our men,saw a used condom in d pocket of my hubby mondae night nd wen i asked him he gav me d beating of my life

Israel Chigekwu said...

Find something to keep yourself busy woman.

Better still get a dog, they are loyal and caring.

He won't stop cheating because you discovered....

Bruss said...

Men are so frustrating sometimes.. And you have a son with him..lol Being a mother is not to only care about children or look after them your husband is also among those to look after, Men are the head of the family, Ironically speaking women dose... So woman build yours okay!

dharmmy said...

You guys need marriage counselling, not a blog filled with unmarried people like me.... visit a non-religious marriage counsellor...

buduziri owhonda said...

You will not find any true hapiness by leaving your husband. What happens with your son if you leave, would he find hapiness without either of his parents?!

A soft word spoken in season can achieve unimaginable success and desired effect where might may not be able to.

Confront your husband. Remind him of how much you love him and how he has not recipricated it in his recent actions and inactions. Most of all, you should not stop doing your #Wifely or #Motherly duties. There are many desperate women around, if you leave your home, you'd only be given them a go-ahead to invade.

Also do not forget the place of your God even in your marital life and every other aspect of your life. "if you faint in the day of adversity, then your strength is small."
I pray that the good Lord would grant you your good heart desires.

Anonymous said...

Welcome to d club. Is he from delta? Bwahahahahahahaahahahahaa. If u have a job, face ur job n make urself happy n pray he uses a condom. Atleast he still fucks u.

Ohiren's Zone said...

Well,first and foremost,you should ask yourself if you are still in love with him?,secondly,are you willing to give up your son & your 2years of marriage?...if you still love him & you want to keep your home,then the only solution is 4 you to love him more,always put him in your prayers & commit your home into God's hands,play your own part & leave the rest 4 God 2 handle.Yes..there is that feeling of betrayal & anger,but keep calm,try and improve on yourself also,if there is any area you might be lacking in,try & improve.All is well,have a nice day.

KELVIN OBIECHIE said...

Yes..leave him and come to me..olodo..your husband bought the other woman gift that he hasn't gotten u and now u wanna leave him..question: did u catch him cheating on u?...and if yes is that enough reason for u to leave him,have u considered your son's happiness and future..confront him find out why he is cheating on u..see if there is something u no giving him that he is lacking..is it sex, is it u altitude..if there is anything negative thing u do in u marriage that's making him no close to u is what u should tell to leave not u..try and see what u are lacking that this so called other woman has...and pray pray and pray.....leaving ur husby won't give u happiness..











~Make I go drink one bottle of beer~

Anonymous said...

Don't leave him, just form that u av a guy by the corner, buy ursef a romantic gift, place it on the table or ur wardrobe for him to see, try n form busy wit ur fone like chat or calls.

RareSpecie Z said...

Y going thru his Phone?
Fuck off u nagging bitch.

Anonymous said...

If u want to leave ur business, didn't u go through counselling, before putting ur problem here for the whole world to advise. So if everyone gives u advise here. U will add all together and put into action. Please go to God in prayer and talk to him about it. Two years marriage. All these marriage of these days two years and u are already considering leaving. The bitter truth is everyone knows who they are getting married to unless u ignored these signs and got married cos u want to answe Mrs.

Anonymous said...

Foolish woman. All men cheat. They r dogs. Suck it up or leave.

okechukwu jessica said...

If we decide to lev "our husbands" each time we find out dey're cheating, i think der wud be a high rate of divorce. D truth is a large number of men out der aint any better.. Just continue to play ur role as a good wife and act like u don't knw what he's doing(even tho its difficult) buh sm1 has to play d 'Fool'and never forget to alway Pray 4 him. God is still in d business of changing d hearts of Men

leon Arnold said...

Why r u always trying to unlock n look @ his phone? And how do u know he always buys gifts he's never bought for u for dis other lady? Woman , i hv a feeling you're killing urslef oo..

Anonymous said...

My husband cheats too. I also cheat on him with my boss. We r square. Madam, cheat back n don't get caught.

The kos said...

Please let him go before he gets you infected with some disease.. But truth be said, men are scarce. So if you can, just manage.very soon almost half the men would be gays and we would all have to share our husbands, if we have to stay married... But is still your decision to make.

Anwuli Odinuwe said...

Divorce him please. His commiting adultery you have the right bibilicaly to leave such person. May God restore your Joy back.

KELVIN OBIECHIE said...

Yes..leave him and come to me..olodo..your husband bought the other woman gift that he hasn't gotten u and now u wanna leave him..question: did u catch him cheating on u?...and if yes. is that enough reason for u to leave him?,have u considered your son's happiness and future?..confront him and find out why he is cheating on u..see if there is something u are not giving him that he is lacking..is it sex? is it ur altitude?..if there is anything negative u do in ur marriage that's making him not to b close to u is what u should tell to leave u,not u leaving him..try and see what u are lacking that this so called other woman has...and pray pray and pray.....leaving ur husby won't give u happiness..











~Make I go drink one bottle of beer~

obani ifeanyichukwu said...

My dear show that man who is sexually active and has extra cash to spend after taking care of family yet he does not cheat. Show me that man who says he sincerely contented with one woman and I will ask u to leave your marriage. My dear, every man is a polygamist. Make your home, build your family, you will be better loved now that he has gone astray and u still love him enough to draw him nearer. You will be his idol. Trust me, try it.

Godloveabide said...

My thoughts............ Find a way to have a serious, meaningful and positive discussion with your cheating spouse. Also, learn to forgive him/her and endeavour to be a better person yourself...........

Anonymous said...

It's nothing new. Women are better with d cheating game now. Naive men be feeling like they are ontop of their game. Bull crap. My male colleague at work gives me head better than my hubby. he's cheating too so no hard feelings.

Godloveabide said...

My thoughts............ Find a way to have a serious, meaningful and positive discussion with your cheating spouse. Also, learn to forgive him/her and endeavour to be a better person yourself...........

Anonymous said...

This is not enough reason for u to end ur marriage.men do worst things than dis, who told u u will get a man dt dose not cheat? Its in their nature to cheat, if he's hiding it from u n dose not want u to know dt means he respect u. Some men will tell u to ur face not minding hw u will feel. Focus on how to put ur man on check, d ring is urs woman so relax and work on urself. The problem cul be from u u know.

Anonymous said...

Married women are upping their game linda. Never cheat on a working class woman or don't get busted else OYO is ur case.

ada abraham said...

Talk 2 God dear dnt solicit human advice on dis.... It is well wit u

Anonymous said...

My dear livin him is not d solution,first thing pray to God to bring ur hubby back home... Tell God to establish ur love in his heart,God is d only one dat can do it,men will always cheat not all,buh most..if u liv him now,do u know what d next man will do to u? And secondly pls pls,liv his phone if u want to av peace of mind in ur marriage, dnt given urself unnecessary wahala,play ur role as a gud wife and tell God ur heart desires always, if u liv d girl outside is coming in,so what will be ur gain.think twice,may d Lord guide u

omitogun julius said...

Is not always Easy and advisable to leave ur marriage. Just put it to God and let him guide u.. Don't push it ..play ur part as a good wife n a good mother n leave d rest to God its just a matter of tyme .... It is well wit u!!

LAURAAUJ KAHI said...

You have to be strong. Try, pray and work hard to get your man back for the sake of your children. I hope it works out for you.
I don't just know why some men can't be faithful.

alex Rednaxela said...

Don't leave him yet, I believe the other lady has been there even before your marriage to him. I'm not holding brief for your husband ( I don't even know the nigga), but since he married you instead of her, that's a clear sign that he loves you for a wife and the other for a mistress. Think about that before you consider leaving him. I would only advice you leave him if he abuses you physically, emotional Or mentally if not, don't leave him. Stick with him and work it out, except you don't love him and only looking for an excuse to scamper. Remember life is not always greener at the other side. I hope you make the right Choice for you and your boy

BeBe Carter said...

Y are u callin her a foolish woman,she is complainin of somethin ur callin her foolish aby are u d husband?

Solomon Oghweremu said...

Are you not an African woman ? If you live am sorry you will be jumping from one man to the other because men are the same

omabuzo said...

Don't leave ur marriage for any side chick.Commit everything into the hands of God and he will see you too.. Watch this movies "War Room 2015" and it will guide u.

MASLOW said...

don't leave your husband cos you never can tell what the next man will do to you.

God dey said...

U reason like a baby dear checking out will not bring back ur happiness cos u don't even kn what is outside. We are the era of touching a partner's private part is not a crime but touching a partner's Phone is d greatest crime on earth.so dear learn to look ur phone too.(not saying u should cheat oh) let home get jealous and confront u then u will voice out ur mind. No be fight matter oh. Jeje him sense go come back.

ehis said...

Madam pls marriage was never for children the day you accepted to marry dis guy in sickness and in health you knew what you whr doing, pls go to God in prayer. remember your first husband will remain your only husband till death. I pray God show you what to do but i know is just for a period of time he will come back to you and your baby.

Anonymous said...

Your head is there.

Anonymous said...

Congrats dearie. May God give you peace in your new home, Amen.

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Maureen D Ornguga said...

Don't say men will always cheat, not all men cheats

OMIDAN ABBY said...

So sorry @ anon 8:39. I think u shouldn't have asked immediately cos he's just coming from a cheat game outside and of course his blood will b hot and reflex will just b so ready to react. There are moments tins like that are been discussed with our men, not immediately ** my opinion**
God gave me wisdom on marital issues and anyone I advice or everyone I've advised do thank me later **that doesn't mean I don't have issues on it myself..but it's going to b great..

Anonymous said...

you should not leave him.friend the girl,bring her close to the family,give them room to be doing whatever they are doing.don't get angry then call him one day to ask him what the problem is in a calm way.he really loves u believe me.you might be the reason of all this..so when u ask him.you 'll no your problem

Nwosu Ebele said...

My dear God does not support divorce,do not leave your home for any reason or for anybody every roof leaks. Keep praying for your man and God will change him and bring him back to you. Do not make a decision very fast allow the spirit of God to minister to your soul.

chuka ochudo said...

Marriage is for Better for worse so bear

Anonymous said...

What an opinion..wow!!When you get married and such happens to you,hope you'd stick to your opinion by then...Careful what you say cos it's easier said than done.

Anonymous said...

Are you for real? Privacy between couples? Sorry cos you are being brainwashed and that thing you are getting into is not a marriage. Feel so sorry for you after 2yrs dis your body wen dey shake anyhow go come down den you go begin cry about. See "Desperation" at it's highest peak. I must answer 'MRS' by fire. Please receive sense biko

nekkisunshine said...

Do whatevee makes you happy. In my case i may have to leave before i catch std and sorry will be my name. Cheer up

Vivian Reginalds said...

My dear calm down and sit in Ur home better don't think twice bcs you'd have regrets so just be patient with him bcs I'm certain that deep down that man doesn't joke with u his wife and son. He respects u enough to hv not shown her to u, respects u enough to keep y away from knowing her and her knowing u, and what claims and proof do u have insinuating his cheating skills??? Pls think well o
-D great anonymous now as Vivian Reginalds

Vivian Reginalds said...

Nice comment
-D great anonymous now as Vivian Reginalds

Anonymous said...

Seriously??? That's unfair of you dear. What if you were the one that needed an advice and someone replies u like this?Hmmm..It is well.

ifesinachi lovelyn said...

Leave ur home for an intruder? Yekparikpa!! Stay nd figure out hw to kick out d side chick.
Pray thunder and fire as well

head of state(linda's foe) said...

Well-spoken

Esther Dangana said...

What if he changed after you left? Talk to him about your findings and continue praying for him. U must have seen some signs of such character before you married him, so please wait and pray there is nothing God can not do as long as he is not violent.

Wazobia said...

Don't go anywhere girl.does he treat you bad? If he doesn't just pretend you don't know Nada.case closed. Its hard for single ladies to get a husband not to talk of after1+divorcee.manage that marriage I tell you.almost all the men cheat.

haters-slayer o said...

Men sef!

head of state(linda's foe) said...

U and ur husband need deliverance.u shud do family liberation/cleansing..I recommend apostle johnson suleiman.

efere erere said...

Madam tk ur decisn ursef. Its ur marriage nt anybody else's. Bt psnally dts nt enof 2 leave ur husband hmmmm u sed u will b wt him evn in worse tyms abi(ur vow). WeLl... Welcme cos ds is d "worse tyms" . D oda lady wld GLADLY jump in as soon as u leave.

Ada Ada said...

COUNCILOR... THANK ME LATER

Uzoma Benjamin said...

all you guys have said it all.....but i had like to point out something ...a lot of factors makes a man to cheat ...one of them which the lady may be doing is nagging...my dear their could be something you are not doing right ..check yourself first. Romance is more psychological than physical...you need to be at peace with your spouse for you to be able to express it. most of the times you find the guy cheating with a girl with a lower class in everything compared to their wife... so you see its not about beauty, its about the attitude that goes with it.

okungade omotolu said...

Nice response.

Anonymous said...

Please shut up...can't u read? She said hez been cheating all through which one is "he doesn't love u anymore" Goat so she should leave her marriage, mumu most men cheat so she should stay der and bear it, didn't she see any trace before that her husband was a cheater before they got married? Abeg

daniela desmond said...

Confront him...if he decides to change, give him another chance, if he's not remorseful leave him, he doesn't deserve u. Afircan men cheat becos they know their women will always be there and that's not good. And stop going thru ur husband's stuff.

Goodnews Ezekwesiri said...

U HAV TO BE VERY SURE B4 MAKING SUCH DECISION ON UR MARRIAGE.
FROM
#ODOUGWU

RareSpecie Z said...

Holy shit.
Y r u sinning?
Remember, "It is appointed unto men to cheat only"

Anonymous said...

Pray for your marriage

Anonymous said...

Dear God is ur boast. please it will be a disaster to leave him ur child will suffer from such decision. Confront him, discuss it and let him see reasons and the beauty of faithfullness. Do try to chech inward and see what you are doing wrong in the whole episode and make corrections. God bless ur home.

Adebayo James said...

God hates putting away, so you need to go on your knee and pray that God should change the situation of your family. Also, seek godly counsel from TRUE man of God. Malachi 2:16.

Unconditional love is another obligation a husband must perform towards his wife. This kind of love will make the man give his entire being to his wife without expecting anything in return. The Bible says:
“Husbands,, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it” - Ephesians 5:25

Some men, unfortunately, do not know what it means to be married. Marriage could be regarded as giving of one’s self to one’s spouse.

Tina .O Teeblinz said...

my dear... stay and pray for ur marriage.. with God all things are possible.

Anonymous said...

Don't leave o, put in ur best. Remember you don't have any proof, so don't take any action u will end up regtettn.

Anonymous said...

Please don't leave your husband. Are you sure of what you are going to meet when you decide to re-marry? Most men are same. Please just put it in prayers and try spice up your marriage. May God see you through.

Anonymous said...

Don't leave o, put in ur best. Remember you don't have any proof, so don't take any action u will end up regtettn.

Anonymous said...

Don't leave your marriage , people need to learn that it's not how much millions you spend at your wedding but the marriage that matters , you already have a child, where do you want to go? You have to stay and make your marriage work, if you don't what makes you think the next guy or marriage you go into won't be worse! My dear our mums went through a lot in their marriage but they still stayed and looked after their children and they won the battle at the End!
Men are cheats , 80% of them are , keep praying , and make your marriage work.

Anonymous said...

Don't leave your marriage , people need to learn that it's not how much millions you spend at your wedding but the marriage that matters , you already have a child, where do you want to go? You have to stay and make your marriage work, if you don't what makes you think the next guy or marriage you go into won't be worse! My dear our mums went through a lot in their marriage but they still stayed and looked after their children and they won the battle at the End!
Men are cheats , 80% of them are , keep praying , and make your marriage work.

UchAngel said...

Perfect!

Frank Odigie said...

You can leave cos U clearly don't understand what marriage is all about yet!

UchAngel said...

Perfect!

Ohiren's Zone said...

It's not a marriage "Chancellor"but marriage Counsellor.

HARMLESS ANGEL said...

leave him joooor so dat d girl can come in fool woman

Annita said...

I'm really sorry to hear that, just try and fix ur marriage and if it didn't work, u can then decide to leave becus not all marriages can be fixed but first confront him and hear him out. Don't be misguided. I recommend u watch Mr and Mrs.

Anonymous said...

If you are a Christian,then there is no room to leave-since God hate divorce(Mal.2:16a).But,it can still be work out,if both of you are Christian.Just meet your Pastor or any Christian you know your husband respect.

eze wellington said...

Talk to him, make him understand the love u truly have for him. And also pray over it.

chuks said...

Who are you leaving your marriage for? Were will you go from there? How many men are even faithful in their marriage? I suggest you put him in prayer and talk it over with him calmly nothing is to big for God to answer

Anonymous said...

NOOOOO... LEAVE YOUR MARRIAGE NA AND YOU WILL END UP BEING A SIDE CHICK TO ANOTHER MARRIED MAN . BABE.. NA D**K FULL OUT THERE OOOO.. HUSBANDS NO DEY .. YOU DEY PARANOID WHERE FOR ANOTHER COUNTRY .. IT'S ONE MAN TO WIVES .. HOLD ON TO YOUR MAN VERY VERY WELL .. GIVE HIM THAT THING THAT MAKES HIM GOING OUT THERE.. RIDE AND BLOW HIM WELL .. COOK FOR HIM AND BE NEAT .. BE PRETTY AS ALWAYS .. DONT NAG .. DONT BE GREEDY .. TRUST ME .. YOUR MAN WILL CHILL.. LEAVE YOUR MARRIAGE AND TRUST ME .. YOU WILL END UP BEING A SIDE CHICK TO ANOTHER MAN..

Anonymous said...

Can you just imagine your self .. leaving your man because of side chick ? woman buckle your shoe and do whatever it takes to get back your man and your happiness . God bless

Anonymous said...

Just present the matter before God and you will see things will work out fine...He's a God of Miracle, there's nothing he cannot do. I have never seen a man who presents his problems before God and regretted it...Never.

Felicity Akonbudu said...

So true

Anonymous said...

Hmmmnnnh!!!

Anonymous said...

Easier said....thk God u wan enter am soonest...

Chop Chop said...

Program your android phone so your special calls and text messages are not viewable by anyone except you.

Anonymous said...

True talk. How can you guarantee that there is hapiness out there?

dharmmy said...

You guys need marriage counselling, not a blog filled with unmarried people like me.... visit a non-religious marriage counsellor...

Anonymous said...

Nope .not all men cheat - don't degrade yourself darl

OWOLABI ZIGGY said...

FOOLISH QUESTION, LEAVE NA ODE. YOU SIGNED FOR BETTER FOR WORST THATS THE WORST PART OF IT HANDLE IT AND SAVE YOUR MARRAIGE

Aboje Israel said...

I advice that you talk to the pastor in your to talk to him. After that, if he does not realize his mistake you let him be be praying. If he is urs he will definitely come back to you begging for forgiveness

Anonymous said...

do you have a brother? then ask your brother if he cheat..cos men will always cheat if they have the means or opportunity to. be guided

Anonymous said...

@anonymous 8:20:
Aren't you a darling! God bless you for that wise counsel.

Anonymous said...

my dear 2 years is too soon for your hubby to be cheating. i dont even know what to tell you cos my marriage is just 2 years too but my hubbys phone is always available to me. i have no cause to suspect him yet. just pray for him.

Anonymous said...

Seriously, i don't understand people giving unreasonable advice to ladies who are experiencing heartbreaks in their relationships. If u have been there, u will know how bad it hurts to be cheated on by somebody u have loved for years. My dear sister, follow your heart and don't let some pple give u advice that they can't even follow if they happen to be in your shoes. trust me 99.9% of people telling you to stay in that marriage can't handle half of what you are handling at the moment. just pray and follow your heart, the Lord is your strength sis.

Anonymous said...

I pity u.

Anonymous said...

Please don't leave ur marriage, u might meet d worst person out there. Just be strong and happy at least for ur son. I will advise u never to go to his phone again if u want to be happy and leave long. Most men do have skeleton in their cupboard especially wen it comes to phone. They do chart with online chicks and discuss all sorts of things with them wen they are bored, even when they have not met them in person. And there is no way what u didn't see will hurt u, just save urself the headache by not going to his phone. Dats just my candid advice. Ujay!

Anonymous said...

Lady tigers?who. Cares???

ernest osas said...

BE PATIENT DEARIE,MADE BE YOU NEED TO DO SOME UPGRADING.MAY BE YOU DONT JUST KNOW HIM TOO WELL.

Anonymous said...

A son so what?who be Obama father?

Anonymous said...

.......... I believe this is one sided, lets here the other (man's) side of the story.

I think i know where this is coming from........

chommy said...

Pls stay in ur marriage n pray for ur hubby, by God's grace he will change. Linda observe!

Anonymous said...

No it is not in the nature. Of men to cheat!not all men cheat.a lair and a cheat iis of the devil period.dump him and move on

Anonymous said...

.......... I believe this is one sided, lets here the other (man's) side of the story.

I think i know where this is coming from........

Aguji'egbe said...

Woman, do not destroy your home in the name of your Man's infidelity and do not give him reason to throw you out for his mistress, for that is a possibility. he may not be in his right senses at the moment. work out your marriage for your future and that of your children. Tell your God what you need in your home.

angela akadakpo said...

Dear sit him down and talk 2 him jare and he doesn't listen call his family members also den pray 2 Lord.abt it.

Eric Nesty aka LIB'S FINEST said...

Pray about it,nd ask God to change him nd make him a good husband, cos with God all things are possible!

#FINEST

igwe Adaobi said...

Don't leave o!
Fight for your marriage.

Anonymous said...

Kill him!Kill him! Kill him!
And inherit his properties.

Anonymous said...

Leave him

Chi Darlin said...

Nice one dearie.......

Anonymous said...

Madam, check yourself - your untoward character and attitude.

For all you know the man is just sick and tired of your make up. And that may have driven him into the hands of another woman.. He may even be happy to see you gone

You sought advice - truth can be bitter.

Issorai said...

@poster Just do what your heart tells you, but don't forget to take into consideration all consequences of any decisions you take and make adequate preparation. Make sure that you have something doing that is generating some income, no matter how small. You can stay, but be careful of STD's. Since he has excess money to spend on another woman, increase your demands and make sure that you hoard as much as you can for yourself and your son because your husband can wake up one day and decide that he doesn't want you again no matter what you say/do. Or you can leave, and use your hands to create proper chance for the mistress to now come and occupy which is what she would be praying for since. Even I, don't need to read the comments to know that 95% of advice you will be given here will be for you to do your part as a wife and get on your knees and pray for a miracle since 'men cheat'. There are even those who will rebuke you for daring to go to his phone. And bare in mind that if it were your husband writing this, the very same people telling you to pray will not hesitate to advise him to kick you out, rebuke you for daring to lock your phone and brand you an ashewo.
So madam, its your marriage and your choice. Be smart.

Anonymous said...

Sweetheart...I rather you stay in the marriage...leave everything to God..in the meantime you can talk with him but if it causes a quarrel each tune you bring it up you should try and handle things well...if every woman decides to leave her husband on the grounds of cheating 85% of Nigerian marriages would have been broken by now...we could only but pray things would get better...besides you have kids and trust me you don't want your child to grow up in a broken home...

Felim Opurum said...

The Devil you know is better than the Angel you don't know

OLAOPA ABIODUN said...

You are loaded with lot of wisdom. So many women have d mentality of all men cheat and they use this to harrass innocent men sometime. There are women that are ready to tear d roofs of their house because their husband speak with a female colleague. In a situation, where a woman is possessive to d point of searching for things that are not missing, that can even make d man lose interest in such woman. Evvery wher you go, u hear things like all men cheat. Says who? And this is mentality some women carry into marriage this days. Quite unfortunate.

Felim Opurum said...

Always pray and seek God's Advice

Mohammed Buhari said...

One side of the story..Waiting for your husband's side...

Eze Tony said...

Your happiness is in God.. get it right with God then take the fight to God in prayers...your husband is not the enemy...the devil is..but you can't pray for him right if you are not right with God who made him...aunty Pray..or better watch "war room"

BOND said...

You want to leave him right? good am waiting so that i will teach you what cheat is all about, what are finding in his phone? did you go through marriage counseling before you say i do? or you jump into him without knowing him well, rather stay out and be receiving those gift while the one your suspecting come's inn i believe you will stop complaining. Remember am still waiting for you to divorce him

AUSTIN OSAKWE said...

Pray over your marriage and allow God to come in.
Know that marriage is for better and for worse and check your self, if you are not the one being paranoid.

Pampared Pretty said...

*my dear..prayer is all that there is..#pearlyqueen

Anonymous said...

My dear, I believe when you said "I do", you accepted your husband with the flaws that came with him and you loved him. I will not specifically tell you to stay or go but I will ask you, "when you leave him, where will you go to?" "Will you remain unmarried?" The Bible says in I Corinthians 7:10-11:
"To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord), a wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife."(NIV)
CLICK HERE TO READ COMPLETE ARTICLE

Juliet Iwuno said...

Welcome to the club. Are you just knowing men and their antics??? Dey are all the same, just be wise. Linda take note!

tonwe laju said...

hello ma, i will recommend that you watch the movie WAR ROOM. That will be the solution to all your worries

Mr. True Talk said...

well if you feel leaving him is what will give u happiness fine by me. but if every woman should leave their marriage bcos their husband is locking his phone, then all the women in Nigeria would have left their marriage.fight for your marriage and dont be a coward.

Anonymous said...

That a good number of men cheat doesn't make it right. Make him regret his actions very well and also pray to God about it. People are there cautioning you about being stupid and calling u names but they don't know what u are going through emotionally. Emotional damage is the worst thing a woman should go through. Just keep your head up,pray,be very good looking and neat,if u don't have a job,get one ,this will make you focus on something else,of course confront him and make him suffer a bit about what he put u through,be patient with him too,and then ignore him,that does not mean u won't show him love but ignore his
attitude atimes,pray pray and I believe he will change. As long as he is not being physical.

NneGal aka Linda post my Comments hahahaa said...

True Word!!!!!

Anonymous said...

All these people sayign don't leave, all men cheat? do it for your child. what if he gets HIV and brings it home? why should she accept it? poster respect yourself and do what you feel is best but think about what i've said. I think have a conversation wth him let him know you know and since he can cheat then you too will do whatever you like because he has already broken the vows. Marriage is not by force and not all men cheat (yes even african men). So it's either you leave or he accepts that you too will cheat when you want because these same readers will be tell you how you should have left when he gives you HIV

Anonymous said...

When did marriage become a private affair please? People say don't touch your husband's phone,why won't a wife do that if she could see the only private part of the husband so what is phone. Yes if private parts can be seen then everything in a marriage should be seen too.If you believe marriage is a private affair then do not marry,remain in your private affair. After all marriage vow says "For better for worse" it also says "To be faithful" and everyone agrees "I do". If you as a man cannot be faithful when the priest pronounces it say "I will not be faithful"then your wife will decide whether to go ahead or not...smh

DidiSam said...

Does he know that you know he is cheating?
If he doesnt know, he will continue cheating and believing u dont know.
If he is aware, sit him and down discuss ur marriage
Then u need to know if he is sorry...
If he is sorry, u guys should communicate. Talk to him and pray to God as well
If he isn't sorry, still pray to God and try make herself happy. When he sees you happy, his cheating won't be sweet anymore especially when u r looking very good and not even thinking.
He will come to realize that he is messing up and come back. Still do ur wifely duties and all but most importantly, do things that makes u happy. U av ur son and its ur duty you make him not feel any tension at home.

Stay blessed

DidiSam said...

Does he know that you know he is cheating?
If he doesnt know, he will continue cheating and believing u dont know.
If he is aware, sit him and down discuss ur marriage
Then u need to know if he is sorry...
If he is sorry, u guys should communicate. Talk to him and pray to God as well
If he isn't sorry, still pray to God and try make herself happy. When he sees you happy, his cheating won't be sweet anymore especially when u r looking very good and not even thinking.
He will come to realize that he is messing up and come back. Still do ur wifely duties and all but most importantly, do things that makes u happy. U av ur son and its ur duty you make him not feel any tension at home.

Stay blessed

DidiSam said...

Does he know that you know he is cheating?
If he doesnt know, he will continue cheating and believing u dont know.
If he is aware, sit him and down discuss ur marriage
Then u need to know if he is sorry...
If he is sorry, u guys should communicate. Talk to him and pray to God as well
If he isn't sorry, still pray to God and try make herself happy. When he sees you happy, his cheating won't be sweet anymore especially when u r looking very good and not even thinking.
He will come to realize that he is messing up and come back. Still do ur wifely duties and all but most importantly, do things that makes u happy. U av ur son and its ur duty you make him not feel any tension at home.

Stay blessed

DidiSam said...

Does he know that you know he is cheating?
If he doesnt know, he will continue cheating and believing u dont know.
If he is aware, sit him and down discuss ur marriage
Then u need to know if he is sorry...
If he is sorry, u guys should communicate. Talk to him and pray to God as well
If he isn't sorry, still pray to God and try make herself happy. When he sees you happy, his cheating won't be sweet anymore especially when u r looking very good and not even thinking.
He will come to realize that he is messing up and come back. Still do ur wifely duties and all but most importantly, do things that makes u happy. U av ur son and its ur duty you make him not feel any tension at home.

Stay blessed

Anonymous said...

Truth is you will hardly get a man who does not cheat. They are polygamous in nature. If you leave,your next husband will cheat. Will you leave that one again?And if you don't remarry,you will be someone else's mistress to meet your sexual and emotional needs and be the secret source of another man cheating on his wife. Face your work and child.

Anonymous said...

i advice you to stay with your husband because is not easy to see husband pls and pray to God too to let your husband not cheat anymore dont leave him

udeh martha said...

Talk 2 God dear dnt solicit human advice on dis..

Anonymous said...

Most of my friends are very faithful in their marriages I can count the faithful ones but my husband is exactly like your story. To give me anything problem but he spends his little earnings on his girl for two years no feeding money no contribution at home. I earn more than him and still Carter for the kids and school fees. I shoulder all expenses. Every woman should be wise there is happiness out there. I have a plan laid out which I may not disclose here that plan will surprise my hubby for now am playing the fool but I will leave him soon. Come up with a plan dear God has blessed women with wisdom, pray for who? What will be the prayer point? Every time pray, you pray for change and he changes will you be able to forget the past and all the pains you went through? Think well there is always a way. A way is not dress well pamper him those are old stories, you didn't send your husband out it's not your fault he is cheating. I know these because mine started cheating three days after our wedding and he married me a virgin so are you telling me that within three days I have started nagging and dressing like mad woman. Please discover a path to deal with his sorry ass.

Eyinmosan Weyinmi said...

Nooooo! You don't have to leave him, for God sakes you are his wife, and that hasn't change. But you can leave his phone alone. You guys can always talk about it in a very decent and mature manner, without rancour and bitterness. Don't leave him ok.

Anonymous said...

Mumu, na blood test caused cheating, Aluu

Timeyin Amorighoye said...

Must u go tru his phone. Abaaaaa... u better stay and make it work

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