Dear LIB readers; My best friend is dating my ex-boyfriend | Welcome to Linda Ikeji's Blog

Amstel

Wednesday, 16 October 2013

Dear LIB readers; My best friend is dating my ex-boyfriend

From a female LIB reader
I am so confused about this situation and I want to know if I am over reacting or this is very normal? I have been friends with my close friend for 6 years (since 08)... when I got into my relationship with my Ex, I introduced them together. Everything I went through in my relationship, both good and bad, she knew about it.
To cut long story short, I was with My Ex boyfriend for 2.5 years and we broke up... But after our breakup, He still wanted me back and my so called friend knew about this ...She was one of those friends that said to me "Awwww, you two are so cute together, why don't you get back with him'
Well, I didn't take him back because I knew we were never going to work.(He is a big womanizer)
Even though we have been broken up for 1.5 years now, he only stopped making a move on me sometime in April 2013 after he surprised me at my  so called best friends house with a cake.(In-fact, she planned the surprise with him). I was flattered and happy but sometimes, somethings that are broken cannot be fixed.

Fast-forward one month after that, I met a new guy and so far our relationship has been a blessing to me.
Then I started hearing rumors that my home-girl is dating my ex... I didn't believe it seeing that we only officially ended things 6 months ago.
well, I walked in on them and dear Lord, You should have seen the look in her eyes.

And how she got busted was so funny...I went on a vacation in a different city with my current boyfriend and we went to a restaurant to eat one quiet morning...The waiter said to us that we have to wait 15 minutes and while we stood by the door waiting to be seated, Guess who walked in? My so called best-friend and my ex boyfrend?
She couldn't even look me in the eyes...she was so ashamed. And to add insult to the injury, she was wearing the dress I bought her 3 months ago on a date with my ex....

6 months and BOOM, Besty is dating my ex boyfriend. I am honestly very hurt by this and NO, Its not because I want my ex back but I feel she broke the code and she broke my heart...
Even when She eventually asked to meet with me, she didn't even feel sorry for her actions but rather, she justified what she did...she said to me "If you are happy in your relationship, why should you care"....

I know the right thing to do is forgive her but I feel so much anger towards her? do you think I am over reacting? please I want to know what your readers think about this situation.

Please post this Linda...I am never the type to send out something Like this but obviously I am hurt and I want to do the right thing.

392 comments:

1 – 200 of 392   Newer›   Newest»
Anonymous said...

Bla Bla bla.Big deal

Anonymous said...

Mydear anybest frnd or close friend who date my x or ther friend x ,is a wicked person .I swr evn a witch or wizard definety. thy myt hv bin discusing abt u n conderming u run away frm d frnd u wld get a bter luver its normal to b hurt but ignoRing nd. Avoiding dem is D best,nd let ur frnd knw dat u nt cool wit it.

Anonymous said...

Abi oh,wats d big deal,dats y I like d life style of the white lady.dey don't give a hoot

Anonymous said...

plssss dear, forget about them since you are happy with the present one. They are of the past

Anonymous said...

since u fully said"I dont want anything to do with my ex again" then why are u jealous seeing ur best friend sukin his D.. Pls Google ur name and get over it..

Anonymous said...

dont tell me u are jealous.. Stop been lame

Anonymous said...

God will see u thruu. I'm I d first? Ohohohohoho

Myk Ogwu said...

Its understandable,but I think u shud just move on wit ur new boyfrend and put d past behind u,focus on ur new relationship and make it as blissfull as possible and d most memorable one u've ever had and u'll be glad u left ur former relationship

Anonymous said...

You being upset is absolutely normal. For people who experience similar breakups and have shared some personal information with their girlfriends, feel very betrayed. My dear you need to let it go. Find peace where u ars. Your will get what she deserves. Be weary of such people. Envy manifests in different ways.

KayDiaries said...

Its very hurtfull but You have to forgive her for ur own self...

Anonymous said...

It really hurts bt u shld jst 4give her. They may b meant 4 eachoda.

Anonymous said...

My Dear, this is my own opinion though, I think you re over-reacting. As long you don't have any feeling whatsoever towards you "ex". Don't think your Best friend has done any harm. Buh in the Nigerian context, I think what your BFF did is not right. Forgive nd Forget. The Koko is you are happy with your present relationship.
***SURREY ANYUKOV***

Anonymous said...

Let me get this straight, you don't want the guy anymore but you are upset because your friend is happy with him? If the guy is her soulmate and makes her happy, she should not date him because he dated you before? Abeg park well jor. Is your name written on his forehead? Please face your own relationship and let them be happy.
P.S. Your friend has NOTHING to be sorry for. You on the other hand ought to be ashamed of yourself. Except of course they started dating while you and your ex where still on.

Anonymous said...

You being upset is absolutely normal. For people who experience similar breakups and have shared some personal information with their girlfriends, feel very betrayed. My dear you need to let it go. Find peace where u ars. Your will get what she deserves. Be weary of such people. Envy manifests in different ways.

Anonymous said...

Babe move on. You're happy with your new guy. Your best friend deserves to be happy too. Maybe God used you to bring them together. Forget all that bloody code. Shit don't work no more. If she's truly your best friend and you love her as much as you claim and you know you can't be with your ex ever again then just be happy for them. This life is too short to be sprung on one guy and be keeping another one from your friend.
Babes be happy for friend and be happy with your man. Life is too short! Y.O.L.O.

Anonymous said...

dont be selfish, there is really no code or anything like that. you are through with the guy and the guy has moved on with someone he is now inlove with. you did not accept the man back and ur friend thinks she can stick to this guy. infact most likely sef the will get married cos they must really be in love to have made such bold move.

fabulux said...

Its normal 4 u 2 b angry wit her nt ur ex.ur ex has d rite 2 move on like u did.bt ur galfrnd?..shez sometin else and means mayb she and ur ex has been flitin behind ur back and waitin 4 wen u'll move on.I dnt blame her either bt I tink its normal 4 u 2 b angry

Anonymous said...

Pls let her be, if u r happy in ur present relationship den let urr frd B pls

Anonymous said...

Since u r nw datin anoda person,lif dem 2 God

Anonymous said...

If I were d 1, I'll feel d same....ts hearth wrecking, ts lyk betrayal...imagne her telln ur ex tins u sd abou him wen u were still dating him, she holds a lot of ur secrets abou him, ts jst disgustin 2 see ur bff dating ur very own ex...well, I guess u cnt do anytn abou it, buh she's nt worth being a best friend, she cnt be trusted,,, who knws, she culd hve been trippn eva since,,,if she's a gud friend, she shuldve tld/xplaind 2 u b4 u hear it 4rm sme1 else...btw pls dnt pour her acid cos dats d reigning style 4 jealous girls nw..hehe

iy said...

oh girl, u bera liv the poor girl alone cos its not her fault @ all, if u wanted him bk u ad the chance, since u didnt tink u ad anytin to do with him again den u shudnt now. evry1 is lukn 4 happiness, uv found urs & she her's so focus on urs & let dem be

Anonymous said...

Sister face Ūя̲̅ relationship n liv her alone!!! Didn't Ūя̲̅ parents teach U̶̲̥̅̊ ♓ow to giv Ūя̲̅ frnds Ūя̲̅ used toys hmmmm,dnt create Τ̲̅ђe impression D̶̲̥̅̊α̲̅τ̲̅ U̶̲̥̅̊ are jealous xcept D̶̲̥̅̊α̲̅τ̲̅ U̶̲̥̅̊ are..

Oga Kingsley said...

Abeg is not a crime men are scarce! Please pass the love around, after all side friendship, your present man may hve been someones ex!

Choi! See Intercontinental Hotel 640K room per night.

Anonymous said...

Try nd put dem both in d past nd continue wit ur new found love.dat doesn't mak u guys enemies.

Anonymous said...

She broke the code, move on but you can't be her friend. She's not a good friend

Anonymous said...

Ok.first of all,u have to disconect from her,trust me dat relationship will not last,just forgive her n let them b.face ur man n try n make things work.she is not ir friend.

Anonymous said...

You need to move on girl. The relationship may not have worked for you, but may work for her. Whatever the conciquence that her cup of tea, aleast you are happy and fullfilled with your new man.

Anonymous said...

Truth is,she was never your friend,for her to jump into bed just six months after breakup clearly shows she's had an eye for him and probably sleeping with hm while you we're there,totally forget about her,don't bring her close to your current guy cos she would try to sleep with him and don't be angry with her cos someone would do the same to her very soon,enjoy your current relationship and be careful of those evil people out there that call themselves friends,

janelicious said...

Since he is ur ex y worry let them be maybe the two are meant for each oda. And u have a new guy now so enjoy what u got.

Anonymous said...

Its felt so bad, but try to move on. She won't go any far with him and he give her the bitter pill (disapointment)! So move on

★★PRINCE CHARMING™★★ said...

When it comes to dating a sister of a friend or the ex of a friend, there is only one solution to it;
"You must be ready to lose that friend for a relationship." So she has a choice, the complexities of emotion and all that would come between you, your friend and your ex can never be handled! She shouldn't even had considered dating the guy, The fastidiousness of some friends is appalling! They are just too hard to please!

Anonymous said...

Girl,something close to this has happened to me. It was so difficult,I liked d guy my bestie used to see. She had her bf and moved on,few months later I started dating this guy cos he made me happy,I bet u will do the same if u wee in ur friend's shoes. It hurts,but I dont think its forbidden,@least u don't need him again,so make ur bestie happy.

Anonymous said...

It is natural for u 2 feel hurt i.e y u r human bt dear I wil advice u forgive her n let it go bt make sure u r nt dat close 2 her like b4 cox she wil alwayz wnt 2 get wat u wnt n maybe ur ex jox want 2 get bk @ u tru her, Jox enjoy ur new relationship ( evry relatnship is nt a waste or regret dey is alwayz a lesson or reason 4 wat happend.

Anonymous said...

Well if you have truly moved on I don't see why you should be angry after all you told her all bout him and she sure knows he is a womanizer.....the good luck to her! You happy where you are! Njoy ur present relationship. After all if he doesn't date her he would be dating someone else too.....

Anonymous said...

"If you're happy in your relationship why should you care" now that's the new code babe.....move oooooooon

Anonymous said...

It is natural for u 2 feel hurt i.e y u r human bt dear I wil advice u forgive her n let it go bt make sure u r nt dat close 2 her like b4 cox she wil alwayz wnt 2 get wat u wnt n maybe ur ex jox want 2 get bk @ u tru her, Jox enjoy ur new relationship ( evry relatnship is nt a waste or regret dey is alwayz a lesson or reason 4 wat happend.

Anonymous said...

Sweetheart, you are over-reacting. I know it hurts but you have moved on. You said he is a male whore , well not only is she feeding on your vomit, she's one of the many ladies to him and best of all?...... You set the pace, she is so behind that the only way to catch up is by climbing the ladder you have abandoned. See it this way......you are her role model.... Don't sweat it.... Don't fight them. You have found love somewhere else....embrace it darling....xxx

Toscan... said...

U be Wale Adenuga Production?this na script for "Super Story"?I beg,move on!the guy made moves for a year and a half,and ur friend helped at each point,

So u no know say Ur friend's emotion will start growing towards him after seeing the plenty nice things he tried to get U back?

Free the girl o,if they are happy together and the can both bear the fact the u were at 1 point in the picture!

Bcoz of u,make the babe no come marry?at least the guy dint propose to u...u are just jealous and u obviously still like that guy,cozif u have really let go f him,we wunt be here talking about him.

janetfashionsandstyles said...

THIS LIFE MY DEAR YOU CAN EXPECT ANYTHING FROM PEOPLE,JUST MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE

BONARIO NNAGS said...

Duh! let them be,that he wasn't good to you doesn't mean he can't be good to another lady.
He was destined to be your ex and maybe your friends husband.
you're supposed to have moved on boo.

~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310

dot angels said...

well there is hardly anything u can do about it,let dem be but she is the fool nd ur nt,cause u had reasons to leave him,like u said he is a Casanova dats enough reason if in the midst of all these she is aware of nd she still went ahead to date him den she is foolish,he might leave her for another frnd of hers,what goes around comes around,u cant plant yam nd reap potatoes no,so just wish dem well nd stick to ur new boyfrnd be happy with him u gat nothing to loose,nd let nature take its course huh.

Anonymous said...

The best revenge is moving-on gal frnd! But Make your Ex regret losing you' n make your next want to thank him for letting you go.


#Chuks-Remap-king# Add on facebook

Anonymous said...

Just leave her alone abeg . as long as God has blessed u with a good man. Just leave am. U better shun that friendship. Someone like that is a freaking time bomb. Her reply proved that. Move on with your new guy

POLA said...

You're through with that relationship and you've moved on with someone else innit? Why bother about who's darling your ex? If your friend can manage his downside and she's happy, give her a breather and let them be....

Anonymous said...

Its not going to be easy buh the truth is if they are meant for each other u don't want to be the one stopping them. And rily, u are in a relationship pls let dem be. I won't rily advice u are best friend with d girl anymore for a while or friends at all, but do not wish her anything evil or talk about it too much cos u might end up loosing ur present relationship cos of something dats not worth it.

Anonymous said...

Seriously I personally don't see anything wrong. You have moved on so the guy should and he probably asked ur friend. Like u said, she advised u to give him anoda chance unlike some friends.

Anonymous said...

Get over heR

Anonymous said...

My dear, u r overreacting. If u weren't in a relationship I would have said "oh! No wonder" but u r happy in another. Although she would have discussed it wit u b4 taking the step but I tink she got d creeps. Anywayz 4give her and be happy 4 them b4 ur adorable boyfriend would think u haven't gotten over him...and enjoy yours. Moreover its not worth a strand of hair on ur hair fightin over a guy!

Anonymous said...

My dear, just let it go. There's really nuffin bad in it, at least u're happy with ur new boo...LYNEA

Kurata said...

It may be hard but you need to move on. He is your ex and your so called friend truly broke the code.
You don't need friends like that but no point being bitter. Life is for the living.

cutemumm said...

If your friend is happy with him, pls let her be and mind your business..she even tried to make you and your ex come back but you refused.so? Why are you bothered..do you want to keep two Bfs?? Leave her abeg...

Ayo said...

You are over-reacting. She at least chilled for you till you moved on. One man's meat is another man's poison. Be happy for them and hope for the best for them. I would have said forgive her, but there really is nothing to forgive. So just go get your best friend back.

Cheers.

Ayo.

Anonymous said...

bitchessssss

Anonymous said...

You are most certainly not overreacting. The both of them know it in their hearts too. That's a violation of the first code of friendship. I'd never trust her again or even consider her my friend anymore if I were in your shoes.

Crystal said...

Don't think thers anything wrong with dat though one man's meat is another's poison. Since u have a new boo, just let em be, pray dat it works out for them

Dove said...

Evry body is some one's ex. Abi u wan frend d guy ne? Pls let dem be. After all u said u dnt want again n its not lik dey ar cheatin on u or sumtin. dey hav both found sumtin gud. Y d beef?

Anonymous said...

Loool!! Be careful of such friends. That's all I can say

Anonymous said...

Y are u still angry wen u've moved on?do yhu kno weda dat guy is ur best friend feature husband?u have a date already so get over it

Anonymous said...

it wont make any difference, u are already angry and hurt...so keep it up.

Anonymous said...

Dts a hard one to swallow,she did break d girl code,u shld forgive her thou,but d friendship can't be as tight as b4,u hv to be careful with her cos her dating him myt mean dt she was eyeing him during ur relationship with him nd dt kind of friend can't be trusted,forgive her,still be her friend but give her space.

uchay said...

My dear, you better ex her too. Good riddance to bad rubbish

Nze walter said...

Hiaaaa see wahala, watin you want us to do. This is not just a topic for discussion. But if you badly need something to do,Nne go and date his friend ok, make the jealousy balance ok or better still mind your own business,

janesam samuele said...

Just #draw line# babes. She's done hers before f**king your Ex-boo. So move on

SkinnyD said...

Awww darling! Shit happens! We av all had our share of dis in life but u know what,whn shit happns ds way! Package it n Move on bsides u av nothn to worry abt since u av found anoda happiness bt ma advise is 4gv ur best frnd bt dnt go back to her agn! She's not ur Frnd so just move on n be happy mydear! *skinnyD

Anonymous said...

What sort of gel-code is dat??y dnt u jx let dem b since u'r hapi in urs

Anonymous said...

Hmmm,jst move on,ur friend is avin u left over

Anonymous said...

Its not wrong for u 2 feel d way u do. Its wrong 4 her 2 date ur ex, its against d BFF code as u rightly pointed out. U knw 2 wrngs can't make a right, forgive n move on wiv ur new bf.

Beejay Dreads said...

She did break the code, forgive her but never be close again she is the type of friend you don't introduce to your husband.

Anonymous said...

Hiss!

Anonymous said...

Babe, pls move on n enjoy ur nw love. 4get dat ur friend eva did dat bt bcareful. Some friends ar just beast.

Anonymous said...

Noting worry abt coz u r done with him,but ur friend u keep at arms lenght.cheer up n move on.

Anonymous said...

If u re over d boy,den let dem date. U should learn to give ur used toys to d less fortunate dear. *winks* Gold

natasha k said...

If u,re happy in ur present relationship then u let her be morova the guy wasn't created for u that's why u both couldn't be 2geda till nw.I. Know its vary pain but let it go pls just try

Anonymous said...

You are absolutely right with your feelings dear, you are allowed to feel hurt and that is understandable. But hey! Look on the bright side, you need to forgive her for your own sake and peace of mind. :)

Anonymous said...

Dat was wrong!!but ma dear u hv to let go dere is obviously noffin u kan do abt it!!!shit happens and who tld u d'relationship might eventually work out!!some gurls dou huh

Anonymous said...

I honestly feel the writers pain. I am also of the school of thots that blieve u do not date a friends ex. Esp when its still kind of fresh, memories are still fresh etc. That just means all the while one was in the relationship the friend never really wished it well as she wanted him (in my opinion). I just feel its just unfair.

Well, it is what it is so try to forgive her so she doesnt occupy a place in ur head rent free. However, i don't advice u keep her as your 'homegirl'. Got to let her go

Anonymous said...

U guys already broke up maybe ur bestie&ex are destined to be 2geda,if u are happywith ur new bf then u shouldn't care

Anonymous said...

Since you are cool with your current boyfriend it should not be too much of a problem. Although i know what it feels like to be betrayed just také a chill peel and move on.

WELCOME TO SUCCESS BLOG said...

You must be an idiot. you want ur happiness and yet you don't want your ex to be happy, after all u said both of them try their efforts so that u can stay with ur ex but u refused, if u are hurt then u must be an animal. Mumu

ijanosyke said...

You have a right to be hurt,I honestly don't know what I would do if I were in your shoes

curvy ZO said...

Move on gurl...it shudnt bother u but don't make friends with her cos she can sleep wit ur husband too.

Anonymous said...

Why's ur pain abeg move on aint he supposed to date another gal that ur new bf nobi someone's ex. Abeg make we learn to let go

efebernice said...

Yea t can hurt, ts normal to feel ds way, like some form of betrayal.but be the bigger gal nd walk away, you have nothing to lose, let them be, they 're ur past, concentrate on ur present rshp and be totally happy in it.don't lose ursef to ds Dia drama, ain't worth it.life s short forgive forget nd be happy.Dnt let them ruin ur joy.de say karma is a bitch, time wd reveal allthings.

Anonymous said...

Get over it

Anonymous said...

but seriously it hurts..buh try and forgive her...ooooh she was wearin a dress u bought...Lol

Anonymous said...

First off i believe 2 people not within 3 people....so the your first mistake is telling people the good, the bad and the ugly of your former relationship. Also he is now your ex so if your friend is dating him it shouldn't get to you as i can see it is now..Probably you still love him and just trying to hide it.....Anyways move on and be happy else you will loose this your new relationship too and mind you relationships are suppose to be between 2 people.

BelLaBomba said...

Dearest I know ow u feel exactly,I'd advice u to let it b between d 2 of dem,u have a right to b angry dou,she did break d code. You shld distance urself frm her,best frnds don't date dia frnds ex,expecially 4 ladies. Pray for ur relationship to grow more fruitfull also pray for dias 2,pray dias crumble like d wall of jerico,d stupid bitch.

zino said...

To b sincere,we r humans n u wil alwys feel bad eachtime u c dem,so I feel u stop seeing her til u hget ober it bt if u happen to meet her u cud greet her say hi ,chat a bit n free her bt try avoid seeing her cos wen u do see her u c betrayal..its human for u to feel dat way cos I wud also feel bad if in dis same situation weda I av a man already or noy,there's no point decievin ur sef darl

Anonymous said...

Eyaaa I knw hw u feel,but since u re with sm1 and happy wit him jst let dem bE and forgive her.

Anonymous said...

Forgive her and move on

Anonymous said...

My dear, not that I would I ever date my girl's sloppy ex but the truth is you now know her worth (which is cheap). And I know how annoying and painful is to see them together it is normal that you feel that way. But she is right, let them be since you are happy with your current boyfriend allow her enjoy your left over and forget the whole issue and your current boyfriend shouldn't see you getting mad over their relationship. Meanwhile, you guys (I mean you and your so called bestie) shouldn't be best friends anymore just casual friends will do. They are both not worth your stress. Always enjoy your boyfriend and your vacations.

OYINKAN said...

you are not over reacting my dear.had the same experience,the girl told me "that guy is too cute shei snatching is allowed atleast you don't want to take him back" I broke up with the guy because i thought he was single not knowing he already married with 2 kids and wasted 3 years of my life.His mum played along with him playing inlaw to my parent.anyway moving on please break every contact with that bitch u called friend because she can kill you.
Forgive if u can,i have not forgiven my own friend and will never forgive her.
free the ex and bitch friend for life.forget they exist.
very annoying people.

wish you luck in your new relationship.I pray God will compensate you in the new one like he compensated me.

Anonymous said...

No hunnay,u are not overreacting,some girls can be such back stabbers,sometyms I think its best 2 be alone wtout close friends sef.just 4give her and move on boo so u can have some closure but dis shud be a big lesson 2 u.

Floil Falcon said...

damn now I get y my friends say I'm mischievous. heheehe. so many "#revengeplots" running wild through ma head.
but I do think u should let dem date. and let her knw u can't trust her again.
I don't think il take ma advice if it wer me though. lol.

niyola said...

Very painful ish. Apnd 2 me too. Jst 4get dem jare.

capt pixie said...

Get ova it,girl.his a big womaniser so y u gettin getting mad or are u scared they make work out togeda, becos they sure will.u say his a womaniser ur friend says she loves him just the way he is.u throway ur thing person carry clean am,now u dey vex,y u dey vex.support ur fwend.did she make u leave him,?if no then ur just being jealous.don't let ur anger make u do d unthinkable becos it wud not make him come back to u.like u said ur in a relationship,so plz stay there.

Anonymous said...

Abeg blank the chick, she's always liked the guy. As for ur ex boyfriend;they both deserve each other. Cheater oshi!!

Ashim Onowu said...

U aint ovareactin.... Just let go...

Anonymous said...

Omoge since u Have a new boyfriend,,why are u vexing!!maybe ur friend saw what u did nt see in ur ex....let them be and forgive ur friend!!!!!!*lips sealed*.."Frizzz"

akudo nnaji said...

my dear he is your ex and you should be over him, if you are happy in your present relationship then you should let them be, don't go stirring up trouble because you might end up loosing your present boo. enough said.

Anonymous said...

Stop feeling bitter, n allow ur friend be wif whoever she wanna b wif...... Weda ur ex or any other..... It's a free world...(YOLO)

Anonymous said...

Things like dis n worse happen,it doesn't ur besty a bad person. If u r totally over d guy,u shld be hapi 4 her 4rm by view d only wrong tin she did was by not checking 2 no if u r okay wit it

O♍obα® said...

I don't think there's a code or rule stopping 1 from dating his/her friends ex. It feels awkward yeah, but since you've moved on it shouldn't bother you. We share same plight; I'm dating my ex's friend too for over a year now. Ex is happily married, and her friend is yet to inform her.

Anonymous said...

Betsy has no class Sista, Frankly she is not ur friend. Might just hit on ur BF if ur back is turned. Take the next train out of razzville baby. It shows an envious nature and u got to be careful. Forgive and Forget especially her as a friend. Takia dearie, Do ensure she never comes close to ur current BF.

Anonymous said...

Ma dear,jst move on.n keep dat so-calld friend of urs @ arms length.jst say hello n hi to her wen u c her nt u calling her ova d fone. Its d best way to end dis mata. Bin tru same n I movd on dearie

modupe said...

Dis is the 1st time i'll be commenting on any issue on this blog, i'd rather read the story and feed my eyes with numerous comments. But I just have to make my opinion known on this issue. My dear, u are in no way over reacting, ur so called best friend broke the code and u need to let her know that, and do urself a favour by stop being friends with her. Dis is an unspoken rule with us women, u don't date ur friend's ex simply becos u feel they no longer together, even if u want to, u shld discuss dis with ur friend, wat am I even saying, don't even do it, it's wrong. That friend of urs has always got her eyes on ur ex even before u broke up with him. She is not a friend and u need to stop being friends with her. My opinion

Anonymous said...

Hello girlfriend. It's normal to feel upset about this type of situation but ask yourself: 'why am i actually upset?... Is it because i know the 'new' girl he's going out with? Would i have felt this way if it was someone i didn't know? Do i wish we were still together even though i know it won't work out?' Your answers to these questions will confirm if you're really over him. Remember, you can deceive others but never lie to yourself, you won't get help that way. Besides, the fact that your relationship with him didn't work out doesn't mean theirs won't...That is one of the ironies of life!

Anonymous said...

I dunt see anytin wrong in dating ur ex if he actually makes her happy...d only tin she did wrong was not telling u first

patty said...

No doubt its a painful thing but since u ve gotten a good relationship now I dnt see why u shuld waste time tinkin abt wat ur frnd did,focus on ur man nd aim for better tins ahead @least she didn't steal him while u guys were still 2getda she's dating him after ur break up nd after u ve found someone else

Anonymous said...

He did t 2 get @u bt its d 21st century, get over it 'cs its soo normal!
~D great anonymous!

Anonymous said...

4get dem n move on wt ur life, as 4 ur so called girl friend,she's a dog D̶̲̥̅̊ãτ̲̅ eats left over mshww

Anonymous said...

You are not over-reacting. Your friend is stupid for breaking the code, and I guess she wanted him while both of you were still dating. All you need to have for them is PITY, PITY, PITY... And my advice, Keep your friend far away from you....

Anonymous said...

I feel you but if he is a womanizer, he will still cheat on her in future. Forgive her and enjoy your new bobo

Jumyk said...

O mo lo ni! Yφυ don't know Ђȍw † be his forever Απϑ d̶̲̥̅̊ person dα† knows, took over...... So yφυ don't need † be hurt. Look foя̩ another, Απϑ be wise!

Anonymous said...

Dis is an old wives tale.she is ur besty nd it seems u knew her way b4 ur ex.so ignore it nd 4give her nd don't let a man drive a wedge btw d both of u cos,its not worth it.

Anonymous said...

Hey gurl, the best revenge is silence..

And hey wish them well and if its so happen she get hurt or come asking your advise in later days never say a word.

FYI keep her at a distance and learn to handle your relationship affair only you not with friends..let it go and focus on your present relationship.better days ahead for people with Good heart.bye

Anonymous said...

I understand you hurt because she didn't tell you herself. Forget about girls code because honestly, the heart knows no boundaries. But look at it in a different view, what if they are might to be? Everybody deserves some sort of happiness. Sometimes we have to go through the wrong ones to finally recognize the right one when he arrives.
People react differently to situations maybe you would have done differently if you were to be in are place but my advice is to forgive and remain friends. What i think she did wrong was keeping her best friend in the dark.
Think about it if you were in same situation maybe you would have done same. Moreover you happy with your present boyfriend right?

Anonymous said...

Gurl your overeacting,what code? So if the gy makes her happy or he is the gy meant for her she should breakup with him just to make you happy,you are selfish giving the fact that she also wanted to bring you guys back,do you no how long she might have secretly loved him but kept it hidden so as not to be the reason your not happy? Your happy with your current boyfriend so stop being a kill joy and let her be happy with whosoever regardless of whoever the person "WAS" to you.
DARLYN LARA

Anonymous said...

She so broke the code...u have every right to be heartbroken girl
www.flayvour360.com

Anonymous said...

My dear such is life, I actually xperienced same nd I jst forgave her but tins has nt bin d same btwn both of us......there are no real friends in lyf again jst be urself's best friend

Anonymous said...

You are overreacting, what kinda stupid code are you taking about. You didn't want the guy anymore, and now yur friend has him, you are hurt?., you shouldn't be. You should be happy for me. El-Dunga

Joshua Oguego said...

u neva said if u did any tin to her, but her question to u was right(if ur hapi in ur relationship y do u care?) probably u are dating someones ex too, Sis just 4give her. one love

Anonymous said...

I tink u ar ova reactin,u ve ur own happinez nw,so let her ve hers,she did nt snatch him 4rm u so get off it,b happy 4 dem n Move on.

Anonymous said...

She was never your friend. Frenemy of the highest order. They are both loosers. Your friend wanted your relationship with your ex. She was only waiting for your breakup. Move on girl.

Anonymous said...

Hello babes, from my perspective I feel its normal for u to be angry or be hurt but the best way to go about it is to move on. Forgive who u ve to forgive and don't let any thing hinder the perfect relationship u ve now. Everything is in the past and they are lessons for u to ve a better frd and a better relationship. Stay strong dear u will get over this.

Anonymous said...

I have broken a lot of guy code which I regret...just forgive and let go!

Anonymous said...

I understand wat ur goin true @ d moment! Jst free ur heart of ny hate n see pass dem! Trust me dere re 2fins involved! It's either dey end up 2gtda n smhow in d future she wuld gt her payment or dey end up nt goin far in it! Njoy wat u hv cos a man dat 1s luvd u greatly wuldnt date ur bestfrend 3years l8r! His loss... Be tankful u left!

Anonymous said...

My dear believe mi I kw the feeling cus I hv been there once,these was even my step sis but it didn't last,so 4get them/her and focus on ur new man since he makes u happy and also 4give her and him to(cus he tried to cum b/w u and ur friend)he is no good 4 u ok.just wish them well with all ur heart and also thank God 4 lettiing such man out of ur life

no ke said...

There's nothing to forgive because he is ur ex! And she encouraged u to go back to him which u declined coz it was broken and couldn't be fixed. So move on with ur new happy bf(hope he is perfect) and allow ur gal be

Anonymous said...

Sweetie, just let it go ok, υ̲̣̥r̲̅ happy now and that's what matters. If υ̲̣̥r̲̅ friend is happy with him, all good! Who knows it might work out between them. Just forget about it and focus on υ̲̣̥r̲̅ new relationship ok! Everything happens for a reason. Forgive her and move on with your life. Act like u don't care. He's υ̲̣̥r̲̅ ex. So leave d leftovers for d dog! ;-) just be careful with her ds time! Don't tell υ̲̣̥r̲̅ friends υ̲̣̥r̲̅ man's qualities or everything that happens in your relationship. Keep em to urself.

Anonymous said...

dear writer, ur story is an unfair experience..to eer is human and 2 4give is define.

Anonymous said...

I tink u ar ova reactin,u ve ur own happinez nw,so let her ve hers,she did nt snatch him 4rm u so get off it,b happy 4 dem n Move on.I am kinda in a situation lik dat,wen my friend's ex cums to me dat I shuld plead wit dis ma friend dat Has moved on,al I wish is 4 mi 2 meet sum1 dat desperate 4 mi.tink same apend 2 ur friend.

Anonymous said...

I think u should leave her, afterall u hav ur own man, since he is ur ex nd not ur current, so 4give her

Anonymous said...

Leave dem lyf goes on

Anonymous said...

which code? Abeg relax. The only mistake she made was not telling you she was dating him beforehand.....ur too dramatic. Stop watching too many movies.

Anonymous said...

1st to comment. IMO I fink u still like ur ex instead u shouldn't be 2 bothered. Tins like dis happen, u shouldn't blame ur bestie unless she had something 2 do wif him b4 u guys were done. I couldn't date my friends ex cos I couldn't stand d fact dat I might be compared 2 d oda partner & d fact dat my friend got into d "holy grail" 1st made matters worse!

Anonymous said...

nigerian girls are like that. blessing boniface a friend to uche ogbodo knows what am talking about. never trust a female friend with you bf.

Eze Uche. Gina said...

Well it's normal to.feel.hurt by it.....she shouldn't have gone there and if she really cared about your feelings. ..she would have asked about your opinion. But since you're over and done with it...guess its time to move on. Forgiving isn't always easy..but with a conscious effort you will. Though this means you'll be a lot wiser now and know who you call "bestfriends"

Anonymous said...

The best thing to forgive her.it takes great strength to do that.and it will eat her up if u forgive her n even accept it and bear no grudges. Cos its really a betrayal from her.

Shes d one in danger now cos she will experience d same issuea u had wit him.if she decides to eat ur leftovers....allow her.

One more thing...choose ur friends wisely n avoid telling dem things dt go on with u n ur man.

sexyboocalher said...

I know of 2 besties like dat o! Hmmmm.....wonders dey say shal neva cease!!! Both undergraduates n very close 2 d extent dat dey visited d guy 2geda. 2 cut a long story short, she said her friend walked up 2 her after d brkup n asked if she cud continue frm where she stopd cos d guy has bin on her neck since dier brkup!!! Al she said was "do wot U̶̲̥̅̊ tink is right" and boom, d boyfriend snatcher(besty) is lik 7mnts pregnant 4 her besty's ex n dey v don dier intro sef.

baby oku said...

Forget dem n move on wit ur lyf. but i cant date my besties Ex.

Anonymous said...

U are just a fool!!! Why cry over spilled milk.. Just wish them gudluck after all u are in a better place now

Anonymous said...

abuja girls are the highest in dating friends ex cos of less men in abj. zara bee

Anonymous said...

Friends. Hmmmm. When I was in the university, two of my friends slept with my boyfriend. I was heart broken. One of them came to beg me later. I leant a big lesson, never ever discuss your boyfriend with friends. Especially if he spoils you silly. Some get close to you to know what goes on in your life. The less friend you have the better. She was never your friend.

Anonymous said...

whoz the best friend in dat pic, n is dat the real pic...lol. shaaa stuffs happen like dat maybe they wer likin each oda wen u two wer still datin. no one knws bt jst fsahy it, its painful, u hv 2 let go if u dnt lyk him any more.....but if u do persuade her to break up wit him

Anonymous said...

She so broke the code...
You have a right to be hurt girl
www.flayvour360.com

Anonymous said...

Abeg park well! Wetin be your own! She waited for you to start dating again before dating your ex. So what's the big deal? You talk about code, which nonsense code. You don't own him, so park well Abeg!!!.

vikkie said...

Dear I'll just advice you to cut off the relationship with ur so called home girl coz someone who is dating ur ex can as well snatch ur husband later in the future

jessyremmy said...

My dear I ll advise u jst let it go ok.it has happened n dts it...u re better of witout them..u re many steps ahead of dt ur frnd.

Damola Okubule said...

so? I thot u don't luv him anymore.

Anonymous said...

She was never your friend. Frenemy of the highest order. They are both loosers. Your friend wanted your relationship with your ex. She was only waiting for your breakup. Move on girl.

Anonymous said...

Its painful but my dear,move on and let them be.u dont want the man again remember?

ST. KIZITO BOUTIQUEZ said...

Me dear, you are over-reacting. You rightly called him your ex. Why then do you wanna care. If your current date learns about this situation, I will really feel sorry for you beause the way he will dump you will be bad. He will think you still have a thing for him. So my dear, let it go, shake it off!!.......#SKB

Anonymous said...

Forgive her. God has already blessed and set you free, if u don't forgive her u are under the shackles of unforgiveness and it would hurt you more.

Wish them well and move on.

Anonymous said...

what code did she break?! people meet one way or another. you telling us you don't want your ex back but u broke up with him 6months ago but somehow still managed to go on a date with him just 3 months ago (after already breaking up) & while at it bought your friend a dress? your story has holes biko..you obviously still love your ex as well as the new guy. just freaking choose already!

Anonymous said...

Ure overacting bbz. Hez ur exm if ur so called 'bestie' s nt remorse 'bout d situation. Jus leave er so she won't feel u still lyk d guy r ure jealous of her.

Anonymous said...

She broke the code and nothing justifies her actions. But at the same time you are happy in your relationship, so move on from this. Get past this. But when very important advice, DONOT trust her. Never!!!. But forgive her completely n move on. Tomie

Anonymous said...

I used to support the code but in this case, I will make an exception. This guy is a womanizer. Not someone that is worth much as you said in a relationship. If she wants to try out with him...so be it. You are with someone that makes you happy, then let her try her "luck". I wouldn't so the same to my friend but hey, this is the situation you find yourself in. Focus on your new man, this old man is not yours anymore. He isn't your ex-fiancee or ex-husband so I would not be too hurt. Watch what you tell her from this point on. Good luck to both of them.

gud 2 know said...

so pathetic a story. well, u didnt want to go back to 2.5-year old relationship cos your ex is "a big womaniser".how couldnt you ve figured that out within the first few months of the reletionship?
now you are terming your few-months old relationship with the new guy "a blessing to me".hope this wasnt the same statement you made in the first few months with your ex?
my dear,u ve to look b4 u leap. will dis your new relationship b able to stand the test of time?
as for the advice you ask for, i will advise you move on.give yourself some time.and dont label this new guy as a blessing to your life lest you will be disappointed;he might even be worst than your ex, it is only time that will tell.

Anonymous said...

Well u r not over reacting,I would hv done d same,bt jst let go since u r happy with ur present guy,let there conscience judge dem

Anonymous said...

My dear,ur nt over reacting..ur besty isn't ur besty afterall cos some1 like dt can kill u.pls run away from her.she's nufin bt a bitch

Anonymous said...

Lolz nigeria movie U̶̲̥̅̊ shudnt b angry Ω̴̩̩̩̥ą̸̸̨ eye opener 4 U̶̲̥̅̊ so next tym U̶̲̥̅̊ go shine ur eyes b4 U̶̲̥̅̊ make fwends and mind wat U̶̲̥̅̊ tell fwends cos D̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣̥ can be dangerous my candid advise still b a fwend it shows how matured U̶̲̥̅̊ are definitely D̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣̥ won't last be ur sef and njoy ur present relationship cheers

Anonymous said...

She's dating your ex, so what? You left the Guy before she started dating him and not the other way. So if she's happy then you should be happy for her. Afterwards, you are in another relationship.

zino said...

Pls post my comment linda,or do I need to pay pounds to get it posted? Nawa oooo, d posters are d ones who make ur blog kip goin,thr r oda bloggers who dnt av ppl commenting so do d needful darling

Anonymous said...

Seriously if u re happy with your present relationship why do u care. Buh first and foremost that friend of yours broken the rules of best friends. Anyway let her be cos what will be will be. FiNEWiNe.

Anonymous said...

She's a bitch nd u ain't over reactin. She broke d code nd its normal for u to b heartbroken even if d guy is ur ex its a natural feelin to feel d way u do. But move on girl

Ego said...

Wow that is so annoying, she should have @least told you about the relationship. Did u say she was your bestie? Well we cant help who we fall inlove with but it was very wrong for her to keep it from you.

Anonymous said...

Hmm..well I don't see what's wrong in it,its not like she was the cause of ur break-up,u said urself that she wanted you guys to be get back together..
Its alryt to feel hurt as human,but dear..let it go,maybe they are meant to be even if u were kinda like a link for them to meet...if u don't want to get back together with your ex,then let them be..except the reverse is the case..Tiz clear that he's moved on,so dear move on and focus on ur current date who u obviously adore.
You should be happy that they found love together even if in an awkward way..
*Nita Briggs*

huyii said...

Well well, *thinking cap on**
mehnnn, either ways u where not happy in the relationship nd not willing to go back!just let sleeping dogs lie,forget about them God must have used u so she meets her true love...hate isnt the way foward,try to be happy for them and concentrate on your new relationship (its hard tho) but God will make a way....xo

Anonymous said...

You are nt wrong in bin hurt by ur bestie's action!!! If it were a year, 2 years, den it's aii, bt nt barely 6mnths! Truth is let dem be bt distance urself 4rm ur so called "bestie" coz who knws if she talk ur current bf & nt wait 4 him 2 turn 2 an ex!!
TRACY

MENA said...

Sorry 2 say, she use 2 code 2 get ur X, My dear let go n 4give, face ur new relationship, Act like u dnt notice dem, Move on.

Anonymous said...

She broke the code....she should apologize.

Anonymous said...

You ar not over reacting,its the way u feel,buh u jst have to move on wit lyf and forget abt them.Gud luck

Anonymous said...

She broke the code!

Anonymous said...

U hv moved on, so has he.

Anonymous said...

You are not over reacting. She broke the code- Never date ur friend's ex.

Anonymous said...

Itz very painful bt she should gt ovr it, d fact is dat "best friend" of urz was nvr hppy fr u, she alwyz wntd d guy fr herslf, babe move on biko u r bttr thn dat

Anonymous said...

As far as I'm concerned, the only mistake she made was not telling u about it when it started and asking for ur opinion and/or blessing. That being said, as long as u don't still av feelings for him and she didn't start dating him when u guys were together (which techincally ended since and not in April as u would want to believe) I don't see any reason y u should hold it against her. If she knows all his flaws, as uve told her about em, and she still wants to date him, then let her go ahead. Ur friendship might be strained for a bit, but sooner or later u guys will be close again.

Anonymous said...

Why don't you leave her and let her be. Maybe that will be her husband who knows. Just let them be!

Anonymous said...

I think the mistake your friend made was not telling you. However, in all fairness, if this was really her one chance at happiness, would you begrudge her that? I think if you are happy in your relationship focus on that. But your friend does need a lesson in loyalty... even if she felt the need to take that step., she should have cleared it with you first

Taylor said...

bitch pls let it go,ur already in anoda relationship.so wat's ur deal sef??abeg take several seats.

Anonymous said...

Madam go take several seats. Selfish human being. Jealous human. No be person ex u dey date? Idiota! Dude abeg marry d friend make she mud.

Eskqiu said...

Sometimes in life u just let go of somethings. Bless dem if they feel comfortable together. She neva stole him from u. N she gave u a second chance which u neva used. So if she can handle ur ex- good 4 her. U only have to be happy u av someone else.

Anonymous said...

Let it go babe! One man's meat,another's poison! Maybe she can cope with the rubbish you had to put through and Couldt withstand.time will tell.forgiveness is for your own sake.no body deserves to make u unhappy.forgive em both.

Anonymous said...

it really hurts to c such happen..my honest advice would be that u move on and make the best out of this present relationship u r in..life is too short to care about pple who dont give a damn about u..jst move on..

Cute G said...

U don't even have the right to be angry wt her let aone asking if U shd forgive her.Shd didn't steal ur guy frm U.U hav a new date nd so is she.Unless u are still secretely harbourig feelings for him.

delson said...

Please for God's sake, keep your eyes on making the best out of your present relationship. Ignore this flash from your past. It's not that easy, but, please do and move on.

OHIO ERANKO said...

I THINK YOU ARE A FOOL, BECAUSE GOD HAS GIVEN YOU A BETTER GUY, THAT IS BETTER THAN YOUR EX, SO MAY I KNOW WHY YOU WANT TO KNOW IF, EVEN HE SLEEP WITH YOUR SISTER, OR BEST FRIEND OR YOUR AUNTY, WHOEVER HE SLEPT WITH SHOULD NOT BE YOUR BUSINESS ANYMORE, WHAT YOU SHOULD HAVE DONE WAS TO IGNORED THEM , AND BEHAVE AS IF THEY ARE DEAD, EVEN IF PEOPLE TALK ABOUT THEM , YOU DO NOT LISTEN, OR PUT YOUR MOUTH TO TALK ABOUT, IF YOU DO THIS , IT WILL HELP YOU TO MOVE FORWARD FOR WHAT GOD HAVE PREPARED FOR YOU. BUT IF YOU COUNTINUE TO RAISE YOUR NECK, YOU WILL BE A LOOSER, BECAUSE THEY WILL DESTROY YOUR NEW RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR NEW GUY. PLEASE KEEP AWAY FROM YOUR BEST FRIEND AND THOSE WHO KNOWS THEM , CREATE NEW FRIENDS.

Anonymous said...

The truth is u still have feelings for d guy. Ur friend tried her best to ensure that u guys come back but u refused cos u seeing someelse and she felt this guy is too good to let go. So she decided to grab d opportunity. U don't have to rant. Atleast u have got ur own man and u are happy with ur new relationship. So let them enjoy their life. If u still talk about it, then u still care.

Anonymous said...

This is preposterous.forgive her for what.....girls are mad.u stopped dating for long she even tried getting u guys back n u declined,yet u call her a back stabber.u have a brain touch.tell me u wount fall in love for pity with d guy if yur in her shoes.....u better face your damn life...amosu!

Anonymous said...

Its normal to feel dat way!gosh she broke d code indeed.she fuckd up as a bestie.buh just forgive her

Anonymous said...

Wish them well and move on. I understand how you feel but who knows, they could end up very happy together. Some girls don't mind dating their friend's ex but I can't do it.

Anonymous said...

Get over it girl, move on with your life...if you keep so much angeer in you, you will be hurting yourself while they are happy in their relationship....

Anonymous said...

Get lost jo..You re no longer with the guy and you have gotten another man,so whats your business with whom he is dating?Abeg pack well and face ur new boy friend.This is just campaign after election.

ONYX GODWIN said...

Lol!! "Wore d dress I gave her as a gift"hehehe,dat cracked me up! Babe!iv never blivd in dat code,dats y he's ur "ex",4gt bout dat,evrybdy has d rite 2 date anybdy,bestfrnds ex or not... Love is a very funny feelin.. She may even end up datin ur dad,its all *love*!jst move on!
And by d way,linda,dere is a PORN LINK on NIGERIA'S website ooo!www.nigeria.gov.ng!! Hw cum?did d wbsite manager put it dere or it was truly hacked??? *ONYX GODWIN*

Anonymous said...

Please take several seats. What are u crying wolf about? Lying liar pants on fire. U sent rukky sanda's script to LIB. We don watch the film before now, and yes u are over reacting, if u claim that movie is ur story. Good day ma'am

Anonymous said...

Babe, yes you are over-reacting. You are behaving like a child who's thrown away a toy and yet gets sour when she sees another child playing with it.
YOU broke up with this guy; so why can't he move on with his life? Your homegurl never cheated with him when you guys were together, so what's your grouse?? You are happy with your new boo, so please let them be happy too. Move on, please cos they have absolutely done you no wrong. Is your current boo not someone's ex too???
Let go of your anger; there's no reason for it.

ejike capable said...

So u want to eat ur cAke and have it,ur bestie deserves to be happy too so relax afterall u have moved on and in another relationship so honey chill abeg.let ur friend c what u have been seeingas she no dey carry ear hear.

delson said...

Please, set your eyes and mind on making the best out of your present relationship. Ignore this flash from your so-called past. Move on and I mean, MOVE ON.

Anonymous said...

There is nothing wrong with that as long as she is. Not the cause of ur break up with him,wish them luck if it didn't work out with u both it could for them.......besides u should be happy u are in a relationship.......

«Oldest ‹Older   1 – 200 of 392   Newer› Newest»

Recent Posts