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Question for the guys...

How long would you to date a lady before you expect sex from her?

1. A few days
2. A week
3. A month
4. Three months
5. Other (specify)

397 comments:

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Anonymous said...

Linda goan sleep..:p

Mary said...

Yawn yawn...... Linda these your sex starved questions and blog posts are getting old jare

sex sex sex , please there is more to life than sex. Sex is a beautiful thing but not all life is about .

You hardly post other enriching topics eg spiritual or family topics.....yawn

Anonymous said...

Depends on how we get along... if well from both sides.. A week is fine

Anonymous said...

Hmmm,
They won't say the truth
A nigerian man would even expect sex with you on a first date.
Okay oh, let's hear from the guys!!!!!!!!

Olumide said...

A few minutes... or forever lol

Goodday said...

2-3 days, Linda how long will it take you to give a guy sex?

Anonymous said...

MmmmmHhhhh Lili. Guys ok oooh, over to you.

Anonymous said...

1 year

xoxo said...

Where are de guys plssss....we need to hear u here?#tongue out

Anonymous said...

1 week, you shouldnt make him wait, you might end up being raped

Anonymous said...

It depends on her body signals. I've done a few girls I met same day, some fews weeks, months n all d@.

Ams

Anonymous said...

As long as she doesn't as me for money, I will wait till marriage, but if she doesn't, she deserves to be defied

Anonymous said...

A week

Cindy said...

I think most guys will say after the second date, let me say two weeks or two months or two days , it's all depend on the douchebag, if he is a gentle man or not. As for me, I make them suffer, it's not groundnut or kulikuli they can get from back of the market, I watch a guy and give him one year. The only one that was able to wait that long was my hubby and that is why he is my hubby! Girls beware God made guy mouth with honey, am sure their heart with charcoal! All your insults , right back at ya!

Anonymous said...

A few seconds...what the heck kinda question is that?

Truth speaker said...

The funny thing is dat when u respect a woman too much, she won't allow u have sex, she will give d sex easily to someone dat will give it to her the hard way, they like it rough, so a times, when u wait too long some see u as a weak person, I advise u start trying ur luck from first time she visits ur house

Chidy Evulobi said...

within a week

↭PRINCE JOBLESS↭ said...

Two days; if it's love at first sight.

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IVORY CHI said...

LOOOOOL

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Anonymous said...

Others: After proposal or engagement.
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Anonymous said...

Few Days..... #Gbam!

Anonymous said...

few days of for real, wen she no be learner.

Anonymous said...

We need to ave sex b4 I could cal it a date..

Anonymous said...

Same day....

Anonymous said...

Only small boys wait a week, I sleep with girls the same day... If i like the girl and i want to keep her i will wait a week

Damochedxb said...

Preferably the Next day.... At most 1 week. After one week, then it has turned into a long thing.. I am already chasing another one.

Anonymous said...

A week...lol

Anonymous said...

A few days

Nsikan Davies said...

I will wait for marriage. When the foundation is wrong, then everything goes wrong.

Anonymous said...

Linda, 10 minutes. I don't have the patience. Thanks.

Anonymous said...

#Excited!! I would really want to see the answers o... Guys, over to you!

Anonymous said...

Depends on the way the babe is. Within 2 weeks sha. That's if I don't really love her yrt

Anonymous said...

After dating this babe for a week, she was still forming no sex. The chemistry was obvious but she dey do one kind. So I gave her an ultimatum. Sex or let me go! We've now been married for 10yrs.

Onyii said...

One month.

Onyii said...

One month.

Anonymous said...

same day......

Anonymous said...

Few days are enough, only that pre marital sex is not for me.

Anonymous said...

Same day.

Anonymous said...

No.6. Immediately!

Thats my answer. Doing it now and then, no be the same thing? Wait for wetin again?
Ain't nobody got time for that!!!

Anonymous said...

B4 first date.

Anonymous said...

2days

Anonymous said...

No timetable; whenever.
The earlier the better.

Anonymous said...

few mins

Boss Man P said...

That same night. i mean whats all the forming for when it will happen eventually

Anonymous said...

omo,na after d first dinner ooh.When we dey chop d dinner,i go ask am"baby,okwa aku cha dinner,anyi aga a DINA KWA?......LOL.

mr diamond said...

A few days, I dnt give chance cus chances are ment for fools

Anonymous said...

5mins

soludo said...

A week,

Anonymous said...

A week is alright for the matured mind lolz...

Harrisonchima Banks said...

6months or a year depending.....

CHRISTOPHER FORTUNE said...

3 months,,,

Anonymous said...

she craze? 3months? na spider webs na hin go grow dia. Na dat dat day jor.

Anonymous said...

Not untill their wedding night

Anonymous said...

Me and my wife had sex d first day we met and we have been married. Kw for 9 yrs. Too much shakara can kill the spark has at first on you. What will be will be not how far but how well. He can still dump u if u waited after 1 year before sex with him.

isaiah bello said...

Lets jst say a month nhm

Anonymous said...

Immediately, or else I move on....

Anonymous said...

Answer from a woman. You are not her husband, therefore you have absolutely no right to expect sex from her at any time. If she chooses to share it with you then thats her choice not your expectation.

Anonymous said...

Hmm. A month so we can no each oda more bt it hard dis days cos d gals wil ask u wat re u waitn 4.

HRH KELVIN said...

If its d lady I want 2 marry i can wait 4 ever! But if its a girl I want just for fun... I make move @ d 1st date and can be patient 4 @ most a week or She F*** off! Datz all.com

Mike said...

a week

Papooze said...

Dat same day we shud start avin sex sef

Anonymous said...

Same day. Sex at first sight. Lust first, then true love after. The initial attraction is always physical-her shape,her boobs,her backside, her smile... Later, love will let me discover more about her personality. Also, it eliminates making sex an issue in the relationship. Sex in a relationship should be natural, and not a negotiating tactic or something for sale. Good sex between consenting adults is beautiful and healthy.
Bia, Linda, I'll do a hot babe like you in the first hour!

Anonymous said...

A month

Anonymous said...

Linda,that a man delays sex doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't expect it, most times it is just a strategy to win her trust and love. As a man looks he sees himself *inside* what/whom he admires....so he expects it...it is a core part of the admiration...forget when he finally gets it...all men wanted it like yestarday...all na strategy...and sometimes while playing their script(men) they eventually fall in love or get caught to move to no where else. BTW Linda, I'm having a crush on you

Anonymous said...

hmmm, dear linda.... if possible,, i would like to have sex with her, the very first day we started dating...

Anonymous said...

I had it with my last within 1 week. Mind blowing from my usual.

Anonymous said...

less than a month.

cayode said...

I ain't expecting sex from no date. My genes are too unique to be polluted by someone I might eventually not marry.

Anonymous said...

Few days naw are you a learner?

ÇĦÏÐÕ chidi said...

Me really I think sex should not be a priority in a relationship... Me,we have sex weneva we decide to,sex cum early in a relation wen u want to do away wit her.I see sex as a give away prize to do away wit her,but wen u reali love dis gal genuinely u won't to demand fo sex earlier...but gals rili have a say in this,cuz u cnt force her,she decides wen..!

Anonymous said...

Linda are you asking for yourself?

Anonymous said...

1 week......#GBAM + first to comment....hehehehe

Anonymous said...

A day nau

Anonymous said...

It depends on the gal in question, some gals lack in other aspects so much that you just keep thinking of sex. I waited for my current gal for more than a month, and we are always together and believe me, I wasn't even desperate...

Anonymous said...

A month will be fine

PRINCE PAUL said...

IT DEPENDS ON WEN SHE WANTS IT, COS ITS MUTUALITY @ WORK

BONARIO NNAGS said...

Till we walk down the aisle.
I can wait,av been waiting with d help of something.

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byolar said...

Depends on how I see her person and what I've known about her for a short period.but i can stay with her for a year if I see she's decent.we all want girls we can take to mama.

Abubakar Ibrahim said...

Hmm mm, that question is a tough call for guys but if i'll speak for the guys.......i guess it all depends on the moment, most times the dating game is just to get the mode going for a healthy relationship and if you ladies must be sincere some ladies want it the very night of the date but i guess the most appropriate time for sex should be one month....the waiting game and all the fantasies built up makes the sex thing even more exciting don't you all think?

Yetinde said...

Linda,God bless you for dis topic cos I dey dilemma right nw ontop dis matter.

Anonymous said...

Depends on the timing, but for me a few days...

Anonymous said...

After ur first date,frm dinner to the guys home.

Anonymous said...

Few days ke? A day or two joor!

Anonymous said...

Linda ebi like say u no dey naija again who dey talk of how many days? Am sorry to say this but our girls have lost it all, if u have money u can have her d very day u pick her.

Make-Up by Teju Tobun said...

*rolling my eyes*... He had better wait till the wedding night!

Anonymous said...

A month

Sidd said...

After our wedding (if we decide to get married) and not any time before then. That's the right way to do it and that's God's instruction.

oyakhilome said...

Funny though. I don't have an answer. I don't ask for sex. Somehow, it just happens. Dated one for 2 years before. Started off having sex the first day. I think I just ride with the tide.

Anonymous said...

Same day. it aLl depends on what u feel for each other,cos u can let it happen after five month and and the relationship will not last more than two months,cos that is not what makes relationship last longer. U can meet someone today and have sex with the person same day and the relationship last longer and even leads to marriage

Anonymous said...

It depend on d individual involved. Sm ppl met tda n d nxt day dey re hittin it out. Sm met bt sex isnt a priority. So it al depends.

Anonymous said...

Linda pls do proof read before u post . Check this post 4 a grammatical error. "How long would u to date a lady" # how long would u want to date a lady" u meant!

Sidd said...

In my opinion, I would ONLY expect sex from her after our wedding (if we decide to get married and finally do) and not any time before then. God created sex for married couples and not for 'dates' because sexual intercourse is not merely a physical sensual activity, it is more of a total bonding of spirit, soul, and body. That's what's acceptable to God and that's what I will do.

Anonymous said...

Hmmm idont really care HO̶̲̥̅̶̷̩̥̊͡ long we date its lovethat matters..¥̴̥̩̩̥̩̩̩̥ε̲̣̣̣̥§ Oo°˚˚˚°

The Traveller said...

I can be very disciplined when it comes to sex, its a mind thing really - as long as I can keep my mind off it, its easy. I can date a long time and have dated 6 months without sex. But it was the lady I was dating who eventually requested for it, else I'd have waited longer. The challenge comes when both parties start fanning the flames with long kisses and petting - I don't know how many people can wait until under such a circumstance as waiting will become pure torture. But if both parties will mutually agree and be disciplined I think I can wait much longer than 6 months.

Anonymous said...

How long will a lady date me b4 she expects SEX from me?

kunle james said...

A month ooo

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stanley said...

I used to have this crazy notion that I will keep the girl I love till marriage. Whosai! That has long gone with the winds after a girl taught me in an early age that in relationships, nkemjika (meaning that what I get now is better than what I expect in the future). So the earlier the better and anything that goes beyond 2 months is bad market.. dazall!

Anonymous said...

Linda as for me oh! That day,that day we gonna have sex cos how can she eat my moni n cant be grateful by havn sex wit me n returns..what if she leaves n neva comes bak?

Anonymous said...

I think its the same as how long it takes her to ask me for money.

Derek Edeh said...

Depending on d level of connection made, dts 4me buh it shuldnt exceed a week @d most.

Anonymous said...

A month maybe 2months if I really like her

Anonymous said...

How long would u 2 date a lady? Really, which kan English b dat?...

Anonymous said...

A week

Anonymous said...

I would go a few weeks

OLAPADE TOLULOPE said...

I THINK ITS WHEN THE URGE COMES FROM BOTH OF US

Anonymous said...

Few days n d sex has to b gud

Anonymous said...

Three months

Anonymous said...

1 week.

Anonymous said...

Speaking Canally i would say immediately if possible, otherwise it should be after marriage.

gistmode said...

3 Months is not too bad.

Revilo Michaels said...

Three months or even more. Anything less makes me kick her app once am done sleeping wit her @reviloonthebeat.twitter

Felix Achinivu said...

I do not think that there is a stipulated time for dating. You should date positively until you both know that you are both matured for what follows after.

MOTiON said...

Three months..

Anonymous said...

The truth is that we start expecting it from the first day..but it may not happen immediately.it depends on the pressure from the man and the lady.

ivan victor said...

Anytime i feel like

Anonymous said...

Three months

ArranCar said...

varies with each lady...

Anonymous said...

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DISCOVER THE SECRET OF LOSING WEIGHT AND BURNING FLAT TOMMY said...

hmmmmmmmm depends though ... different strokes for different people

QUEEN CHIOMA EZENWA said...

Funny Question

ArranCar said...

varies with each lady...

Anonymous said...

a week

Anonymous said...

Odikwa shap shap

Jehnypha said...

I really wonder why premarital sex has become a normal thing!

Anonymous said...

a week

Puffinnocent said...

I will expect sex from her as soon as she start expecting expenses from me,lol

Anonymous said...

a week

hangout-chillo.com 4 funniest jokes & vedios said...

one month.... after one month i expect sex from her.... except she is planning to only chop my money and run...

Abiodun Fatai said...

a week is always good for me...

Anonymous said...

a week

Anonymous said...

Linda please post comments...eagerly waiting 2 read....

Abiodun Fatai said...

a week is what i use to get sex from a lady

Anonymous said...

A week. First to comment

Anonymous said...

Can't wait for d comments, I just started seeing dis guy, 3weeks into it nuffin yet. Ion wanna b perceived in an abnormal form.

Eskor-brown said...

As the Spirit leads... hehehe

Anonymous said...

a week

Anonymous said...

i'd say like 2 weeks....enough time to make the lady feel secure with you. Anytime spent afterwards talking to each other is a waste. Guys need sex....like food.

Richpetal said...

Sex in relationship is a desire which cannot be determined by d no of days. it happns when d guys nuclear weapon and d lady's atomic bomb are willing to absolve each other. we can start rocking right from d first day




chris said...

Instantly

Anonymous said...

marriage

ejikebiggerdick said...

Personally, I'll go for few days...I hate it when i aven't had sex with a girl before i begin to find flaws in her....definitely, i can't ave sex with a girl full of flaws

rawlings on twitter @wisper2raw said...

Linda it depends on the two people involve.and also it depend on the chemistry flowing between them.two people crushing strongly on each other won't survive a day or two. And it depends too on who wants it most..if the urge is from the lady she might get it within the earlier said a day to two. But if the urge is from the guyand the lady knows her onion it could be upto a month. But most people now want sex is a relationship like a friend said that not untill he confirms a girl by having sex with her he won't be committed to the relationship. But naturally a month is okay. I like the wait, the anticipation. Most relationship that begins with early sex don't last long. And talking from experience. Linda the normal is one month but trust me these days it last a week max.

Anonymous said...

if i really want to be with the girl it could take close to a year or even more if not then probably days. me and my girlfriend of six years had sex when we were 3years into the relation maybe its cause i met her a virgin. but the bottom line is if i love her i could wait eternity.

Anonymous said...

A few days I go for .AGRO no dey wait guys at all even self if possible dat day.but a true one should take three month

Anonymous said...

When ever she is ready.

TOSCAN said...

Few hours sef if possible...execept I like her so much and have great plans for her,but even at that,lemme first of all enjoy the koko,the the lovi lovito fit follow!

Abi naa?

HOW TO MAKE A MAN HAPPY

1. Feed him
2. Sleep with him
3. Leave him in peace
4. Don't check his phone (Msgs)
5. Don't bother him with his movements

HOW TO MAKE A WOMAN HAPPY

It's really not too difficult but.... To make a
woman happy, a man only needs
to be:

1. a friend
2. a companion
3. a lover
4. a brother
5. a father
6. a master
7. a chef
8. an electrician
9. a plumber
10. a mechanic
11. a carpenter
12. a decorator
13. a stylist
14. a sexologist
15. a gynecologist
16. a psychologist
17. a pest exterminator
18. a psychiatrist
19. a healer
20. a good listener
21. an organizer
22. a good father
23. very clean
24. sympathetic
25. athletic
26. warm
27. attentive
28. gallant
29. intelligent
30. funny
31. creative
32. tender
33. strong
34. understanding
35. tolerant
36. prudent
37. ambitious
38. capable
39. courageous
40. determined
41. true
42. dependable
43. passionate

WITHOUT FORGETTING TO:
44. give her compliments
regularly
45. Go shopping with her
46. be honest
47. be very rich
48. not stress her out
49. not look at other girls
AND AT THE SAME TIME, YOU
MUST ALSO:
50. give her lots of attention
51. give her lots of time,
especially time for herself
52. give her lots of space, never
worrying about where she goes.

BUT MOST OF ALL IT IS VERY
IMPORTANT
53. never forget
*birthdays
*anniversaries
*valentine
*arrangements she makes.

Wale Shammah said...

For the very first time, i choose to be blunt. Every man will really wanna test his investment from the very first day but depending on the lady involved. I have dated a lady and few days after we had it and I have equally dated a lady that i never saw beneath her face. Love and Lust also have their influence on it.

Anonymous said...

As long as we can understand each other Linda

Anonymous said...

1 week

Anonymous said...

depends on the type of lady...lets say a few days....max,a week.

Anonymous said...

Ehhhh? after that meal ooooo. i no get time. and it doesnt mean i wont love her if shes stable or disrespect her. women shouldnt always form. ofcus i wont force her but trust me,i will make sure we talk dirty and make her horny,if it happen in the car infront of her house, the better. once again sex on the first date doesnt make her a whore. someone like me just needs a lady with a crazy sex drive.

Anonymous said...

it depend on de motive of de girl.it may be dat very day.but if de girl don have any nagative motive in her mind it will take one week.

Anonymous said...

AS FOR ME. A WEEK, AFTER MUCH SPENDING.

Anonymous said...

After marriage

Anonymous said...

as long as it takes,sex is not the ultimate when dating,when she agrees to it i think i am ready then we go all the way

Anonymous said...

Sometimes, it depends on the status of the girl and how calm the guy may b when it comes to sex issue. But I could stay a year sha o o . Na tru love matters

Anonymous said...

Three months z too much ooo lyk one week nah

nayz said...

Linda you're obviously going to get plenty "wtf right away"

capt nonis said...

Honestly i cant date a gal more one month witout asking for sex

Anonymous said...

hehehhehehehe,linda,u don come again oh,oya,lib guys,make we hear how long una fit keep una'banana inside shokoto''linda,nah ur place i won take chop afternoon food o,wetin u cook nah,but post my comment frst.

Anonymous said...

linda..not at all.. bcos as me i will hate her wit passion if i had sex wit her....i believe sex is meant for married people

Anonymous said...

hehehheheeheh,take banana till u go yo!linda,abeg open gate for me o,i don reach.frst to comment 'dancing azonto'

Anonymous said...

A month probably!It all depends.

Anonymous said...

una know say if banga soup don reach day 2 nai e take dey sweet pass,so linda,i pick two days,

Anonymous said...

A month probably,it also depends...

GALORE said...

habba LINDA...few days bawooo

Aabeg na after we don chop Dinner finish jooor......make we knack our akpaco.

Anonymous said...

No sex @all, men r dogs dey cnt do witout sex... Idoits

Anonymous said...

Smooching a guy should happen within a week after you identify him as a toaster that you like. Sex with a guy after identifying him as a toaster you like should not exceed two weeks abeg. Life is too short to be wasting time forming and delaying sex when u know say you de gel for the guy. Besides, the earlier you know his performance, the better biko.

Anonymous said...

As the spirit directs

Anonymous said...

Smooching a guy should happen within a week after you identify him as a toaster that you like. Sex with a guy after identifying him as a toaster you like should not exceed two weeks abeg. Life is too short to be wasting time forming and delaying sex when u know say you de gel for the guy. Besides, the earlier you know his performance, the better biko.

yinkus said...

it depends on the chic and how she potray herself.but as a sharper guy just two weeks. but for my real babe i allow her till wen she ready for it.

Anonymous said...

1-3 weeks. Anything after that puts a broda in the friendship zone.

Laolu said...

1 month , under normal conditions. if i'm really into her, then i'll give her more time. I might consider her loose if she gives in earlier.

The worst thing about being fat said...

i think one should wait to know the person like 3-6 months? it varies

Kenneth Ogwo said...

It depends on the girl na

lily damian said...

Some guys do it @ the first date. Even if they met the girl on a social network.

Anonymous said...

I date my wife for 6months without sex. Just to show her dat sex is nt love

Anonymous said...

Linda, am yet to understand what you are preaching or insinuating and am yet to understand when sex became affirmation for love.

NEVAEH said...

I'm a chick tho bt imma comment on dis as for me three months is cool.let em wait.

Anonymous said...

The longest relationship I have ever had in my life, was a girl I met and had sex with her the same day.
No need for fronting.

makinde said...

a week will be good by me... that's all.

Anonymous said...

Depending on how often she visit my house n what I think about her,cos if she's highly regarded I wud slow down to a week or more but surely less than a month!

Anonymous said...

A few days of course,to seal the relationship....

makinde said...

a week will be good by me... that's all.

Anonymous said...

before you start dating, you already have intentions of having sex, this implies on both parties, so it can happen anytime ( 1,2 day, months or years ) depending on the party involves.

But these days, ladies dont care. they can give it out on the first date and we are ready to accept at any given time

Eloka Chris said...

a week is enough.

Anonymous said...

Linda Lolo, you na kawain! No long things, i will shag a guy am cool with on a first date. The point here is that you can tell from the first date is this is a guy you will get down with anyway, wink! I have done this like thrice already and no regrets.

★★PRINCE CHARMING™★★ said...

It depends, emotional and sexual connection matters, and the goal of you guys coming together too, so it could be one day, a week, a month, but definitely not more than a couple of months if you guys are in the same city and its not a long distance relationship.

wise king solomon YSG said...

30minits LoooL, naughty me, that was a joke shaa. In a proper relationship till Honey Moon..... So i have vow.

Anonymous said...

ONE WEEK, I MET AN OLD FRIEND FRM MY UNIVERSITY DAYS, AFTER 1 WEEK OF TALKING, WE HAD SEX, I M ABOUT GETTING MARRIED TO HER, THIS MONTH N I CNT WAIT

Anonymous said...

Same day if possible. Ask and it shall be given to you. He who seeketh, findeth.

Anonymous said...

d answer is no5. Others specify. *wink* honeybell.

Anonymous said...

Depend on the lady.... if u loose guard, same day!

olayemi salami said...

Abeg as quickly as possible b4 she carry d tin run VGBG

Ismail said...

linda as for me its all depends.

Furious said...

Linda, no vex but is this question really necessary? Am not being sanctimonious here really but if you are even half a Christian you shouldn't promote or seem to suggest thoughts that promote premarital sex. Already as the role model you are do kindly encourage young persons to live right.
My take? Wait untill you have exchanged marital vows to knack.

Anonymous said...

Month

Anonymous said...

Lin Lin pls always go tru whateva u've writen b4 postin it oooo...u kuku ma no say we go yab u.

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